To encourage you to keep going.
To remind you to be strong.

Published on April 30, 2014 in Picture Quotes, Quote of the Day

“It’s okay to be sad. You don’t owe anyone a performance of being okay when you feel like you’re falling apart. It isn’t your job to smile or hide your truth to make other people feel more comfortable. If it gets awkward, let it be awkward. If people try to silence your pain by telling you to get over it and cheer up because you’re no longer fun or you’re ruining the mood, you don’t have to push away your sadness. You have to honor your feelings and trust that you don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to feel what you feel. You don’t ever have to sacrifice your self care for the sake of people who only want you around when it’s easy and comfortable. Their discomfort isn’t about you — it’s about them and their own limitations, and no matter what they think or say, you deserve to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you feel. You’re allowed to show your feelings honestly. You’re allowed to talk about your pain and reach out for support. You’re allowed to scream and wail and cry. You’re allowed to be sad.”
—Daniell Koepke




  1. Claire April 30, 2014 Reply

    I really needed that today, thank you very much for sharing.

  2. cobi robert April 30, 2014 Reply


  3. Mary Behrendt steffens April 30, 2014 Reply

    How wonderful, this is somethig that I will have to learn.

  4. Johanna Kidd April 30, 2014 Reply

    I always believe that ‘to cry is to clean out your tear ducts’…that’s personal housekeeping!

  5. anonymous May 1, 2014 Reply

    This is something I would say to someone. I am not bothered nor uncomfortable about other people’s feelings. It would never be an excuse for me to cut short a visit or to draw back from a friendship. People need to talk about how they feel …good or bad.

  6. FITS CENTER ILIGAN July 21, 2014 Reply

    thank you.

  7. Saurabh Shah July 22, 2014 Reply

    It is not okay when you are sad and you don’t share your feelings with others. I mean your friend who is there with you and is a true friend will obviously feel bad if you are sad and will try to know the reason behind it. So please try to share it with your friends when ever you are sad or when ever you are feeling low

  8. Shubham Dwivedi October 28, 2014 Reply

    I loved that… thanks for sharing that!

  9. Juli December 28, 2014 Reply

    I have ALWAYS DEFENDED this! Life is not a Coca Cola commercial neither perfect.
    Sometimes the ones who have the problems are those who judge you for being transparent. They lack empathy or dont know how to deal with people’s true feelings!

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  11. Di April 16, 2015 Reply

    Daniell, Thank you so much. I am so tired of sacrificing my feelings for the comfort of others. They and theirs are always more important. I needed to read your writing.

  12. Jean May 4, 2016 Reply

    It doesn’t matter how people perceive me because I am comfortable with myself. I will not wear a mask to convince others that all is well when it is really not. Behind many bright and smiling faces there is a lot of pain and anger. When I hurt or am angry I let it go by expressing it facially; because after I have disposed of it there is still a joyful and content feeling left in me.

  13. ARLENE G. BANUELOS July 18, 2017 Reply

    I am who I am…I am not a Master of Lies hence, I do acknowledge the fact that I am happy or sad. I do not owe anybody an explanation why and what caused such sadness and misery.

    I know in due time, I will recover from such sadness and forget what caused it. I am courageous enough to stand what is ought to be fighting for. It is our freedom, normal people to acknowledge what ought to feel in a moment.

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