You’re allowed.

You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent. You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.
Daniell Koepke


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  1. Nice ideas for being good enough. Interesting to know how not to become victim. Truth always prevails, no matter what time it takes. Fear of failure should be overcome with hopes of turnaround.

  2. Ugh I wish I could say positive things, but I can’t. My daughter’s going through a crisis, and I have a past,…I’m trying to get my 2 boys out of DCF custody. My 18 yr old son is going through a crisis and can’t let go of the past. My partner of 21yrs is splitting up with me and I’m ready for a nervous breakdown. I don’t know what else to do.

    1. Dearest Kelly,
      You are strong, have a special place in this world and in the lives of your children, and are very loveable. The people /environment that currently shape your perception of reality may not make that and other positive things evident to you at the moment. It’s something like true content being on the inside of a shell that u need to find the proper way to open in order to access it. I would truly recommend shopping around for what you perceive as a good counselor to help you shore up your strength by giving u fresh perspectives and organizing your thoughts and being a trusted listener. I would also recommend volunteering that somehow helps people less fortunate and last but not least; however busy you are it is vital to achieving your aims that you; however temporarily, compartmentalize ALL that is causing u grief( it doesn’t mean your neglecting it) and SPOIL YOURSELF with something you enjoy. You are worth it!! You will get through this!! You must interject positive outside things into your life to have hope that your situation can work out one way or the other for the best. Best of luck 🙂

  3. a joyful day start with the heart setting because if you heart is not upright you will not make that day beautiful

  4. Pray that oneday I can feel this way regardless of how I feel and want my sons approval…

  5. Never lose hope. Have unshakable faith in Him. Do your best and leave the rest. This too shall pass. Best of luck.

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