Who sits in the front row of your life.

” Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse? Which ones always have drama or don’t really understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you…the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.

~Grant Brenner MD

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  1. Once one is on the conclusion that who is at the last row in my life , how to deal with that person when s/he is around u 24*7 & 365 days. When u know that u can’t avoide that person though that person is not imp. in life , but is imp in life who is imp in ur life. That indirect , unavoidable person is troubling a lot that too mentally……. Plz reply.

    1. Thank you for your thoughts and they are truly appreciated Hiral, however I do not give personal advise. I hope you do understand. These quotes are posted to provoke inner reflections and guidance but for you to draw your own conclusions. My best Regards, Brigitte

  2. I wonder what kind of people truly think on these lines. Life is not just rosy youth. Old age, various terminal or other forms of disease as well as incapacity and various other unforeseen incidents too like accidents. What do the other loved and close ones do since the happy picture will certainly change demanding more care and dependency. Does this mean these moments one should simply desert their dear ones as the relation does not serve it’s purpose ?

    This kind of self serving selfish attitude will only lead to more broken relations as all are willing to put up as long as happiness is there but no one is perfect and life changes too. If we are incapable of accepting the whole then we are misfits to be with anyone in the very first place. The society is surely facing enough broken family and relation issues and the children who suffer as a result of them.

    The author of this particular piece surely must face drastic crisis in order to contemplate the destruction of irresponsible selfish traits.

    1. Thank you for your thoughts re quote: Always take into serious consideration that some are in relationships/friendships that are destructive and that is what the quote is trying to convey. It reads: Not everyone is “healthy”, meaning the relationship/friendship is toxic. Who wants to be around someone who never appreciates you? Who is always negative? Always discourages you? You always feel worse when you leave them? Disrespect you? Disrespect is a open wide category. It can imply, verbal abuse, emotional abuse. The quote is simply telling you to take a personal inventory of your inner circle. Having healthy boundaries and making a healthy decision who you allow into your life is not a self serving selfish attitude. It’s called self care. I wish I had known this when I was younger and I had better self esteem. I would have been more selective on whom I chose as my friends and whom I chose to be in relationships with. But I learned to teach my children to place a higher price tag on themselves. No abuse, no bad friends, and choose a healthy kind loving mate. Thank you for allowing my thoughts to be heard, Brigitte

  3. I actually agree with this sentiment and Brigette’s thoughtful replies. Healthy boundaries are so important to self care and often we forget this. The quote does not say that we give up on the difficult ones in our lives. Loving someone from afar is often the kindest thing can do for both ourselves and others.

  4. Dear Briggit

    I can so relate to what you described. Have been there, have lived it, not too long ago as well and worse stuck in a web of deception that destroys all your convictions.

    But I learnt people change and change again and again. Sometimes for the better and sometimes, sadly for the worse. But they do change and putting them away with a judgement would not be fair on my part. Yes I know what happens has a purpose which we are unaware of and it’s definitely for the better.

    I believe self protection as a dear friend taught me recently is to protect oneself like the sun. Do and give to your hilt but never let it penetrate the outer shield of yours to affect you. That’s what I do , my inner circle is my own world where I hardly need anyone or bliss I can hardly ale anyone understand, surrounded by a protective ray like a sun, any one wants to harm hurt or cheat me jus self destructs on its own. I strongly reinforce this every moment now in every situation as I have to protect myself but at the same time giving enough to others as that’s my purpose in life.

    Best wishes to you and this lovely page. Keep up the great work 😀

  5. My higher power sits in the front row of my life. I give her/him the power. No one else is going to ever control who I am becoming. Love the post!

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