When she stops caring about your relationship,
she’s already moved on.
A woman that loves you will do anything to work things out with you. If she gets upset, if she’s picking fights, it’s because she cares! The thought of everything not being okay between the two of you is heart-breaking for her, and so she can sometimes get frustrated and worked up just thinking about it.
In her mind, you are everything. Remember that when you feel like she’s overreacting to something you’ve done. She wants to speak about any issues between the two of you because the relationship you have with her is one of the most important things in her life. If anything is wrong, she wants to talk about it. She wants to iron out any issues and have any fights that need to be had, because in the long run she knows it will help the two of you to be closer and stronger. She knows that if you understand each other more, you will have a better chance of lasting as a couple.
So, don’t ever resent her for showing you she wants to fight for your relationship! It means she cares!
This is something that many men seem to be slow to understand. When the woman in your life stops caring about you and the relationship the two of you have together, when she stops trying her to best to be close to you, it’s because she no longer sees you the way she once did. The dreams she had about the relationship the two of you could have had together have been replaced by the stark light of day that is reality. She’s woken up to the fact that you’re not the person she thought you might be, and she’s realized that you never will be that person.
She’s moved on, and she knows the two of you won’t work out the way she once thought you might have done. When she turns around one day and says it’s over, that she’s headed in a different path to you and that there’s nothing you can do to make things work, it’s because she made up her mind a long time ago. She’s decided she deserves better than the way you treat her, and she waited until the time was right to tell you. That’s why she might seem quick to move on; she did her grieving for the relationship you once had a long time ago. She’s already cried all of the tears she had to cry for you, and she’s mourned for the time she spent thinking you were right for her. She’s sad, but she knows what has to be done. She’s prepared to do what’s right for her, even if it’s not what you think is best for you.
She’s ready to live life on her own terms again.
And if you’re left wondering what you could have done differently, trying to work out where you went wrong, know that the signs were all there all along. They were there when she sighed and went quiet in the middle of a fight. They were there when you made her the butt of your joke in front of your friends and she just smiled sadly. They were there when she begged you to listen to her and you wrote her off, telling her that you already knew what she was going to say.
If she no longer seems to care when you hurt her, she’s already made her decision.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc.