To encourage you to keep going.
To remind you to be strong.

Published on March 3, 2019 in Blog1, Picture Quotes, Revive
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When a strong woman feels unwanted, she won’t beg, she’ll just walk away.

 

So many women don’t recognize or understand what they’re truly worth. They place so much value on being in a relationship with a guy that they’re willing to allow themselves to be messed around endlessly.
It’s a heartbreakingly common scenario. A guy that treats his wife or girlfriend like sh*t, and the woman who puts up with it and allows herself to remain stuck in the same sorry place – no matter how much she might wish things were different.
Even women that aren’t in relationships can fall victim to this trap. Almost every straight woman has been through the experience of talking to and dating a guy they really like that seems to keeping them at a distance. One minute everything is great. Sparks are flying, there’s tension in the air, and you start to dream that this guy might actually be the one for you. The next, he’s blanking your texts, leaving calls unanswered, and doesn’t seem to want to meet up.
Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, if a guy is playing games with you, there’s only one thing that needs to happen. You need to realize just how valuable you are.
You need to know your worth. You need to have the self-respect to stop allowing people to treat you with anything less than love, respect, patience, kindness, and honesty. If a guy isn’t over the moon at even having the chance to talk to you, then walk away. Don’t settle for someone that isn’t willing to put as much effort into things as you are. They clearly don’t value you as much as you value them.
It’s normal to cry. It’s normal to beg. It’s normal to tell yourself that you’re done with him, only to find that you desperately want him back and your heart races every time you see a message from him.
Be the woman who loves herself. Be the person who won’t settle for someone so immature that they don’t recognize a great catch when they see one.
If he’s ignoring you, if he makes you his last priority, if you see him constantly disrespecting you, or taking you for granted, or using you, then don’t give him any more chances to change. Don’t let him fool you into thinking he really cares. If he cared, he’d have shown you from the start. Walk out the door and never look back.
So many guys will push their luck as far as they can. They’ll see how much they can bend you before you break. It’s only once you’ve had enough and finally tell them that you’re done with their immaturity and selfishness that will acknowledge they’ve been horrible to you. They will sense they’re about to lose you (or, at least, the things you do for them and the way you make them feel good about themselves) and will cry and beg and promise you that they’re sorry and that they will change.
If a man truly respects you, it’s obvious. It’s in every word he says. It’s in everything he does. He will consistently show you that he loves you, that he prioritizes you, and that you mean the world to him. He will be kind to you, he will be patient with you, and he will be honest and sincere and open.
Don’t keep getting your heart broken by someone who’s not even willing to really give their heart to you. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by some scumbag who’s only using you for their own gratification.
Know your worth. Find someone who truly loves you. Find someone who truly wants you. Someone who will treat you like the diamond you are and not a piece of trash.
Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

12 Comments

  1. LL March 3, 2019 Reply

    So Deep…..

  2. Petya March 4, 2019 Reply

    My neck vain is pulsing.

  3. Petya March 4, 2019 Reply

    I am not interested in intrigues,and there are people that live for the drama.I just don’t see things like that, i see them simple-time, effort, abilities.And i really think we complicate it more than necessary.I just don’t want to give attention to something so insignificant as being together physically or not.

  4. Natali March 5, 2019 Reply

    This is for Patya,

    Perhaps you should spend some time and read the article throughly again.

    The writer makes absolutely no attempt to ask readers such as you whether or not they give attention to physical involvement with someone, or if they feel intrigued, at all. The writer’s purpose is something that only certain individuals are able to grasp it.

    What lesson are you teaching any one in this world other than telling them your likes/dislikes?

    P.S. Go to Snapchat!

  5. Petya March 5, 2019 Reply

    I am flattered from all that attention.

  6. Andy March 6, 2019 Reply

    Is there such a man? Honestly Im feeling a little disbelieve.

  7. Lavanya March 8, 2019 Reply

    I am in same situation . I trying to walk away but my heart can’t accept it. Still i am waiting for a response. He doesn’t consider me , value me everything I know but my true love not leaving me to go.

  8. unfortunatecollectionofdisappointments March 11, 2019 Reply

    Thanks for this post. I truly agree with the author, I am also going through a phase which has been described. I met a guy on train, and it all started like in the movies, we kept seeing each other here and there, and turned out that we are working at the same place. Then, he asked me if I want to join him to see a museum. Anyways, I was so happy, I really attracted to this guy and we were ‘on a date’ ( I was thinking back then) in a contemporary art museum, it was like best-first-date ever, and we enjoy each other’s company a lot. He kept texting me, almost everyday and since we are taking the same train to go to work and come back, we used that time to know each other better (at least I did). But, something was off, since he never really initiated to ask me out for weeks although he would say let’s try this or have drinks etc. I realized I was the one trying to set up meetings. Months followed as we are constantly in contact, he would tell me about his family and his problems at work, or existential dilemmas etc., though never about relationships. Then, he initiated dinners, once he invited me a concert, so a few times we were out together. But, never got physical or him making any compliments to me, so they were like dates, we are drinking wine, looking at each others eyes, talking about life… Once I wrote it sounds very kitschy, however, I felt a really nice connection. He was sending me songs, or some articles that I might find interesting, or pictures of a view or a building he finds interesting and wanted to share with me. So, I was feeling cared. Then, time to time he left my messages unanswered for hours, so this is another sign that I am not the priority in his life. But, I tried to put up with all of the things that bothered me. I made up my mind to talk with him about his confusing behavior, before I said anything he just randomly said his ex-girlfriend has just moved back with him since a week, and they have no idea how things will go, either being a roommate or who will move etc. So, I asked him whether will they be back together, and the answer is just “no, I do not think so”. I was in shock, then really understood that all those time (like 4 months) he was just using me to get some attention, to feel comfortable to expose his fears, problems or etc. So, bottom line, I was feeling it from the beginning, but never had the courage to face it and take an action. For 4 months, I was in between, suffering because of his friendly, but also equally not friendly behavior. Just be aware of emotional use, if someone is showing you some attention, but not showing you a real attention, there are chances that person is using you emotionally.

  9. Natali March 14, 2019 Reply

    Dear unfortunatecollectionof disappointment,
    Do not waste a second of your life on boys who know that they have the charm, power, and intelligence and use all of those traits to exploit beautiful but equally volunarable women.
    You sound very beautiful and should keep your heart safe. “A woman’s heart is an ocean of secrets “. You should keep this a secret and wait until you stumble into your Prince Charming.

  10. Schurr Kobe March 20, 2019 Reply

    Hm, so deep love this one.

  11. Bec Villegas June 18, 2019 Reply

    It’s really easy to say but very difficult to do.I’ve tried it many times to let him go.but still my heart doesn’t listen to my mind.😔

  12. Shivam Trivedi June 19, 2019 Reply

    Sometime one guy may be wrong. In some cases two or three guys may be wrong. However, if one encounter this kind of treatment with many, then it’s really time for introspection what really is going wrong. Serious guys do not want to spoil relationship but fault lies on other side of fence too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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