To encourage you to keep going.
To remind you to be strong.

Published on August 4, 2019 in Blog1, Picture Quotes, Revive

What Anxiety Actually Is.  It’s More Than Just Worrying.

Lots of people are under the misapprehension that anxiety is simply another term for worrying about something, and that people with anxiety are simply making a big deal out of nothing.

The truth, however, is far more terrifying.

Those of us who suffer from anxiety know just how debilitating it really is. We know how crippling it can be, how it can make whole days, weeks, months, and years of our lives slip past in a grey blur, our strongest memory being that sinking, gnawing feeling we get in our gut that leaves us unable to fully enjoy life or feel the full spectrum of emotion that other people do.

Anxiety is that feeling that something is badly, deeply wrong, and that if we don’t sort it out something awful is going to happen – we just can’t work out what it is that’s so wrong in the first place. 

Anxiety is feeling tired every waking moment of your life. It’s feeling exhausted by the tiniest obstacles, and totally worn down by the constant barrage of minor difficulties that life presents us with. 

Anxiety is obsessing over the details of the past and fretting over the things that haven’t yet happened. It’s wondering if people hate you, or if you were weird the other night when you saw your friends. It’s sitting there quietly, unable to speak because you’re afraid of what others might think about you. 

Anxiety is feeling pushed to tears overs unanswered texts or not being able to get a hold of the people you love.

It’s apologizing for everything, even when you’ve done nothing wrong. It’s noticing every slight change in someone’s tone, and then obsessively thinking about whether or not a shift in their voice means that they secretly dislike you.

It’s lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling, replaying the same thought loops over and over again in your head and feeling yourself falling deeper and deeper into that pit inside of you that makes you want to give up on life completely. 

Anxiety is the process of slowly imploding in on yourself. It’s mental self-destruction that a sufferer simply can’t help but perform. This is the paradox at the heart of anxiety; someone who’s drowning can’t help but try to fight and thrash themselves up towards the surface. In the exact same way, someone with anxiety desperately worries and obsesses over something as they try to keep themselves afloat. In the end, though, all this does is make their situation worse and strengthens their anxious habits. The more anxious they feel, the worse their anxiety becomes, until every day is torture and it’s all they can do to get out of bed.

Anxiety is the need for certainty, the need for control. It’s far, far more than nervousness or worrying; it’s a powerful, destructive medical condition, and it needs to be taken seriously. 

It’s thinking too much. Caring too much. Fearing too much. It is loving too much.

Anxiety is caring more than anything;  not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, not wanting to do anything wrong.  It’s wanting to be loved and accepted as who you are. Anxiety and all.

Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©


  1. Petya August 6, 2019 Reply

    Into the most dark parts of yourself, searching answers and cycling all over, to the point of exhaustment of no kind.It seems the force inside you drags you down to the grounds of your being and you just can’t get rid of yourself, of this terrifying grab.Everything is impossible.Thats why i like Audry Hepburn words “there is nothing impossible..the word itself says i am possible..” The only way to make research over your own nature is to get deep in it, to reveal it’s foundation.This is not a family tree or family thing anymore..This is you, only you now.One of a kind in the whole Universe.Your identity.

    • Natali August 6, 2019 Reply

      Have you ever heard of ‘
      ‘Psychiatry Doctors?

      You are fooling yourself into thinking that you will ever be happy with anyone or yourself, because you have a debilitating condition that no Man will be able to handle it.
      Only the one who is equally or worse than you are.

      Good luck!

      • Natali November 14, 2019 Reply

        Did you read what I wrote?
        Only a Man who is equally or worse than you are, will be able to handle you with your debilitating condition!!!

        Good luck to him!

  2. Debi Douglas August 7, 2019 Reply

    Anxiety is such a terrifying medical condition. As a therapist, I have so much empathy for my clients who have serious struggle with anxiety. As your article suggests it’s not just about worrying, it’s so much more, and then some. And not to mention the physical debilitating components that go along with feeling as if you are dying with absolutely no rational belief or situation to back up those symptoms. Anxiety must be treated one moment at a time. Anxiety must be taken and treated seriously. Life over anxiety matters tremendously.

  3. Beth August 10, 2019 Reply

    ThankYou .
    Any good suggestions on dealing with this?

  4. G August 11, 2019 Reply

    Got me let’s see how well u do on your own goodbye!!

    • Natali August 13, 2019 Reply

      Well aware of it!

    • Amanda October 21, 2019 Reply

      If more people understood this it would make such a difference!! I HATE when someone says “just calm down” or “don’t worry about it”. OH I NEVER EVEN THOUGHT OF THAT!! I’ll just stop thinking about it, duh… It’s like a slap in the face. Do they think i like being this way or it is just so much fun i can’t stop?? Does anyone else come across these people??

  5. Beth Warshaw August 11, 2019 Reply

    YES IT HAS . Thank You ✌🏼

  6. Jhalak Mittal August 19, 2019 Reply

    Very well written.. it is far away from just worrying. Kudos!

  7. K. O. August 20, 2019 Reply

    This absolutely helped me understand myself. I have suffered with anxiety since I was a very young child. I believe my anxiety disorder started with being molested before the age of 5 🙁
    I need help but my doctors treat me like it’s all in my head.

    • Holly October 7, 2019 Reply

      Get yourself a new doctor immediately!
      Life is too short. Get the help you need.

  8. Monk at 25 October 26, 2019 Reply

    Like what you are sharing with this article.

    As i’ve been in that same situation, and have that feeling of always tensed unnecessarily.

    There are fear of failures,futures expectation, lack of support (Inner and external)…all things result in the decreasing the Self confidence.

    All the need there, is a self believe and someone by your side who just enough to make you feel that:
    Everything will be fine soon.

    Writer of Monk at 25

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