Then you can choose what you really want.

If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.

— Don Miguel Ruiz

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  1. This is so true. My last boyfriend from many years ago treated me badly, withholding love, disrespectful, mean, insensitive, etc. but I stayed with him because I felt that there was no one else out there for me. He broke up with me two times, times when I really needed support in my life. I really didn’t see him that much when we were together as we always did things on his terms. Eventually, he left me and I had been distancing myself from him for awhile. I went on with my life. No relationship but was doing okay alone. He called me and said that he was getting married to a woman (someone he was probably seeing when he was with me, no doubt) and that she was just like me but made more money than him. Hearing that he was getting married really upset me because he said that he never wanted to and if he did I would be the only woman he would marry. I really felt for many months that life was unfair to give this selfish man happiness and yet deny me. As time went on (it’s been 3.5 years) I have come to see the great blessing that this individual gifted me with by leaving me. I was so miserable and suppressed with him as a girlfriend that I shutter to think how miserable and unhappy I would have been with him as a wife. I am so blessed to be free and I really wish him joy (when I think about him which is less and less each day) but I also believe we reap what we sow in life. I have been alone (not in a relationship) for these last three years and it is okay, I am doing very well in life. I know that when the right man comes along, I will be ready and will not have to suffer or sacrifice myself to be with him. I have learned to love and trust myself more since this experience so today’s quote was perfect for me and I am so grateful that it was sent to me.

  2. If someone is not treating you with love and respect, the greatest gift you can give yourself is to walk away yourself, on your terms.

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