Five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love;
Those among us who have the greatest amount of love to give – the most potential to be everything their future partner has ever wanted – are often the ones who find it hardest to find the thing we all crave so much; real, genuine, lasting love.
The answer isn’t simple.
Here are five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love:
They need to find someone who is their equal
Part of being a strong, independent woman is not settling for anything less than a partner who is your equal. This can be hard to find – there are plenty of people out there who would rather not treat their significant other as their equal, and see them as inferior in some way. It can be harder to find love when you have good standards!
They won’t settle for less commitment than they’re prepared to give themselves
The most amazing women have so much love and commitment to give that they won’t settle for anything less from their partner than they’d give out themselves. This can make it hard to find love when you’re looking for someone who is able to give as much as you can – there’s just not as many people capable of providing this as we might wish there were.
They are honest and genuine and expect the same from others
Expecting your partner to be as honest with you as you are with them seems like a basic expectation from a relationship, but many people are or have been in relationships where this just isn’t the case. Lots of people out there are neither genuine nor honest, and have no interest in trying to become either one of these things. This can make it hard to find real love when you want to find a person who’ll treat you with basic human decency.
They are often very romantic
Plenty of us build things up in our heads sometimes, romanticising everything and fantasising about what could be. It’s part of being human. The best among us are often the biggest dreamers, the most romantic. This can make us prone to falling head over heels in love with the wrong people as we overlook their flaws and focus only on the aspects of them that we like.
They spend more time and effort on themselves than on others
Spending more time alone, working on yourself than out socialising or meeting others means that naturally you’re meeting less people. This could mean you’re potentially missing out on lots of great potential partners. However, there’s always a trade-off. If you spend more time trying to meet someone, you spend less time becoming the best possible version of yourself. It’s all about finding the right balance for you.
Don’t let these reasons for struggling to find love stop you from being the strong, amazing woman you are. The right person will come along when the time is right for you and them. Focus on yourself and the rest will come – never chase love at your own expense. The right person will be worth the wait.
Written by Maverick, Staff Writer for Lessons Learned In Life Inc.