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Published on September 4, 2018 in Blog1, Picture Quotes

Five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love;

Those among us who have the greatest amount of love to give – the most potential to be everything their future partner has ever wanted – are often the ones who find it hardest to find the thing we all crave so much; real, genuine, lasting love.

But why?

The answer isn’t simple.

Here are five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love:

They need to find someone who is their equal

Part of being a strong, independent woman is not settling for anything less than a partner who is your equal. This can be hard to find – there are plenty of people out there who would rather not treat their significant other as their equal, and see them as inferior in some way. It can be harder to find love when you have good standards!


They won’t settle for less commitment than they’re prepared to give themselves

The most amazing women have so much love and commitment to give that they won’t settle for anything less from their partner than they’d give out themselves. This can make it hard to find love when you’re looking for someone who is able to give as much as you can – there’s just not as many people capable of providing this as we might wish there were.

They are honest and genuine and expect the same from others

Expecting your partner to be as honest with you as you are with them seems like a basic expectation from a relationship, but many people are or have been in relationships where this just isn’t the case. Lots of people out there are neither genuine nor honest, and have no interest in trying to become either one of these things. This can make it hard to find real love when you want to find a person who’ll treat you with basic human decency.

They are often very romantic

Plenty of us build things up in our heads sometimes, romanticising everything and fantasising about what could be. It’s part of being human. The best among us are often the biggest dreamers, the most romantic. This can make us prone to falling head over heels in love with the wrong people as we overlook their flaws and focus only on the aspects of them that we like.

They spend more time and effort on themselves than on others

Spending more time alone, working on yourself than out socialising or meeting others means that naturally you’re meeting less people. This could mean you’re potentially missing out on lots of great potential partners. However, there’s always a trade-off. If you spend more time trying to meet someone, you spend less time becoming the best possible version of yourself. It’s all about finding the right balance for you.

Don’t let these reasons for struggling to find love stop you from being the strong, amazing woman you are. The right person will come along when the time is right for you and them. Focus on yourself and the rest will come – never chase love at your own expense. The right person will be worth the wait.

Written by Maverick, Staff Writer for Lessons Learned In Life Inc.


  1. LL September 4, 2018 Reply


  2. Elizabeth Gordon-Dudu September 5, 2018 Reply

    This one resonates precisely with my exact experience this far. Sad truth how the control issue can break you down. That can never be genuine love. I thought it was but it scooped me off my feet and I started to serve a decline in the real me, I was becoming someone who is someone’s remote control. I thank God for helping me over come although in a painful way but nothing lasts forever. Only God reigns at the end. We all die but God is forever.

  3. Msggie September 5, 2018 Reply

    Thank you for this lesson learned. I was about to give up. Maybe giving up trying is the right thing to do. But so so want a loving relationship.

  4. Maggie September 5, 2018 Reply

    Just want to thank you for all the “lesson learned” articles. I have saved so many if them.

  5. JoAnn September 5, 2018 Reply

    So true. I am a living witness. I’ll never give up on finding true love.

  6. Amalia Karamerou September 5, 2018 Reply

    This article depicts me!
    It describes exactly how I feel, how I think and act, especially now that I feel frustrated, betrayed and so tired for once more…, as ten days ago, I ended my relationship, my affaire with someone I really loved. I had to… Leaving is not easy at all! It hurts even more..
    I’m so sad, but I had enough of his indifferent behaviour towards me.

    Trying to find the man I deserve and love, has always been more than difficult to me.
    I don’t know whether I ever find real love on someone I wish to have in my life, or not, but I wish all good women a good luck and the real love they deserve!

  7. SALAWUDEEN RASHEEDAT OMOWUMI September 6, 2018 Reply


  8. Deepak September 7, 2018 Reply

    Thank you . Very educative . My own experience of life and relationship though painful has made me stronger and face the challenges life has thrown at me .

  9. Usha September 10, 2018 Reply

    Every woman is a woman struggling to become the best woman at one or other time orthrogh out . She deserves best love and companionship.

  10. Andrew October 24, 2018 Reply

    Does this apply to males as well? Now I just work on myself 🌞

  11. Blake October 13, 2019 Reply

    I know this was written towards women. But as I read through it I found myself reading and feeling like the subject of the text. I thank you for showing me that women also feel this way at points in their lives and I’ve been single for a very long time now and not rushing into something that I don’t feel 100% safe in. Getting hurt with the last relationship made me find myself and love myself completely. Just hope there’s a matching or similar other half lady for me out there. Ladies not all men these days are heartbreakers and heartless men so keep positive maybe we’ll all one day meet the one of our dreams. ❤️❤️

  12. T April 22, 2020 Reply

    Wish i would have read this months and months ago

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