Not true at all, my x husband left me with 2 lil kids for another woman. My 2nd husband died suddenly loved me and we had so much planned to do so many plans and songs to sing so many grand kids to love places to go together and jokes to laugh at. I was dating in 4 monthes after. My 1st there will never be anyone that measures up to #2 my kids even loved him as a dad.way tougher if the lord takes them, the other is just self pride get over it.
I am a birth mother. I miss my boys every day. But I know they are where they need to be.
It wasn’t the best decision for me, but it was the best decision for THEM. And I believe that’s what being a parent is.. always making the best decisions we can for our children. Even if it cripples us in the process.
My sister lost her step children and I think she really believes it’s harder to deal with that than it is to deal with the living dead. It’s difficult to live a life full of grief that technically.. I chose. But life isn’t black and white. And neither was my life all those years ago. She comforts herself by saying “God is rocking them to sleep now”. I face the reality that my children are telling another woman “Goodnight mommy”. But I did it for them. I still do it for them.
I will always love you two.
As ridiculous as this may sound, I still mourn the loss of a friend I had for many years. I had to let her go when our relationship became toxic for me. I still miss her but needed boundaries.
I had to stop contact with an extremely abusive parent. It makes me sad but not as sad as when someone I loved has died. Maybe because I made the choice to cut ties I don’t find it as painful.
Don’t assume that the living person is an ex. Watching someone journey through diseases like Alzheimer’s or Huntington’s is a process of mourning them while they still live. They die a little bit everyday in small ways and larger ones until they succumb and finally die. A decade can go by before they are officially determined to be dead.
Yes it’s so true! At this time in my life my friend is fighting for his life. We’ve been friends since childhood. Asking prayers for him and his family plz
I grieve the closeness of my children as they grow up and live lives where I’m only secondary when I was their all. Not holding them close and seeing their faces every day ..happy for them but sad too …missing them but proud
If you lost one to addiction and think that is the worst that could happen in life, think of the life your heart would live if they were in a coma, or a total vegitive state,and you were there care taker. You would hate yourself for no matter how much love you have for them, you just can’t stand to see them alive like that. That is pain, sorrow and anger everyday. Life is unfair death is often to slow.
My dear mum died when she had a stroke that gave her dementia, i used to get glimpses of my mum but for five years i cared for a stranger until the physical person passed away, it broke my heart everý day xxx
It could be through addiction, breakup, or disease. I’ve also lost people to mental illness and abusive relationships. When people get into a bad relationship and aren’t ready to move on, they will drop out of your life. It’s also impossible to say what will be easier to deal with. At least with grieving the living, there can be hope they will return.
We all have so many different ways of relating to this…drugs, Alzheimer’s, etc. Your way is not the only way. Be a little more open and compassionate. This is a great meme. Tx, whomever wrote it.
My son is an alcoholic. WHEN he is drinking he is a monster. Fighting many demons!! Dwells on his past which is very painful for all of us. His biological father gave up all parental rights. Please pray for deliverance. His family loves him very much.
My daughter suddenly stopped communicating with me a few years ago. No explanation. My lover of one year suddenly stopped communicating with me. No explanation. It’s a cowardly way to end a relationship in both cases. No closure. Ultimately, I don’t want to be around people who are emotionally unable to communicate, but I do grieve the loss. Meanwhile, I have many relatives and friends with whom I do have a wonderful relationship. I am grateful.
wow! so powerful….it made things finally click!
true, its easier to grieve someone thats dead
This is what I know as adoption
Not true at all, my x husband left me with 2 lil kids for another woman. My 2nd husband died suddenly loved me and we had so much planned to do so many plans and songs to sing so many grand kids to love places to go together and jokes to laugh at. I was dating in 4 monthes after. My 1st there will never be anyone that measures up to #2 my kids even loved him as a dad.way tougher if the lord takes them, the other is just self pride get over it.
I have lost my youngest son to Herion, again. I am broken
I am so sorry . I pray God will put his around you and give you comfort.
Alzheimers… Silent plague!! ??
#Livingdead
Losing your child to addiction and life long consequences. No closure.
This is what I know to lose someone to addiction!
I am a birth mother. I miss my boys every day. But I know they are where they need to be.
It wasn’t the best decision for me, but it was the best decision for THEM. And I believe that’s what being a parent is.. always making the best decisions we can for our children. Even if it cripples us in the process.
My sister lost her step children and I think she really believes it’s harder to deal with that than it is to deal with the living dead. It’s difficult to live a life full of grief that technically.. I chose. But life isn’t black and white. And neither was my life all those years ago. She comforts herself by saying “God is rocking them to sleep now”. I face the reality that my children are telling another woman “Goodnight mommy”. But I did it for them. I still do it for them.
I will always love you two.
As ridiculous as this may sound, I still mourn the loss of a friend I had for many years. I had to let her go when our relationship became toxic for me. I still miss her but needed boundaries.
Good for you SueAnn. I can relate. You miss the good parts and the healthy aspects. Shows you are not co-dependent and that is healthy!
If you don’t think this is true then you are not actually grieving for the living lost.
I had to stop contact with an extremely abusive parent. It makes me sad but not as sad as when someone I loved has died. Maybe because I made the choice to cut ties I don’t find it as painful.
Yes, the man I loved and lost before I learned of my Asperger’s. Now I know what was different about me 🙁
Don’t assume that the living person is an ex. Watching someone journey through diseases like Alzheimer’s or Huntington’s is a process of mourning them while they still live. They die a little bit everyday in small ways and larger ones until they succumb and finally die. A decade can go by before they are officially determined to be dead.
Grieve for those who have dementia/alzheimers, for they are truly lost.
Yes it’s so true! At this time in my life my friend is fighting for his life. We’ve been friends since childhood. Asking prayers for him and his family plz
I grieve the closeness of my children as they grow up and live lives where I’m only secondary when I was their all. Not holding them close and seeing their faces every day ..happy for them but sad too …missing them but proud
If you lost one to addiction and think that is the worst that could happen in life, think of the life your heart would live if they were in a coma, or a total vegitive state,and you were there care taker. You would hate yourself for no matter how much love you have for them, you just can’t stand to see them alive like that. That is pain, sorrow and anger everyday. Life is unfair death is often to slow.
My dear mum died when she had a stroke that gave her dementia, i used to get glimpses of my mum but for five years i cared for a stranger until the physical person passed away, it broke my heart everý day xxx
It could be through addiction, breakup, or disease. I’ve also lost people to mental illness and abusive relationships. When people get into a bad relationship and aren’t ready to move on, they will drop out of your life. It’s also impossible to say what will be easier to deal with. At least with grieving the living, there can be hope they will return.
We all have so many different ways of relating to this…drugs, Alzheimer’s, etc. Your way is not the only way. Be a little more open and compassionate. This is a great meme. Tx, whomever wrote it.
My son is an alcoholic. WHEN he is drinking he is a monster. Fighting many demons!! Dwells on his past which is very painful for all of us. His biological father gave up all parental rights. Please pray for deliverance. His family loves him very much.
My daughter suddenly stopped communicating with me a few years ago. No explanation. My lover of one year suddenly stopped communicating with me. No explanation. It’s a cowardly way to end a relationship in both cases. No closure. Ultimately, I don’t want to be around people who are emotionally unable to communicate, but I do grieve the loss. Meanwhile, I have many relatives and friends with whom I do have a wonderful relationship. I am grateful.