Sensitive people

“Sensitive people are the most genuine and honest people you will ever meet. There is nothing they won’t tell you about themselves if they trust your kindness. However, the moment you betray them, reject them or devalue them, they will end the friendship. They live with guilt and constant pain over unresolved situations and misunderstandings. They are tortured souls that are not able to live with hatred or being hated. This type of person needs the most love anyone can give them because their soul has been constantly bruised by others. However, despite the tragedy of what they have to go through in life, they remain the most compassionate people worth knowing and the ones that often become activists for the broken-hearted, forgotten and the misunderstood. They are angels with broken wings that only fly when loved.” ― Shannon L. Alder

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  1. I have sensitive feelings also. I feel everyone elses pains. I also know about the betrayals!!!!!!! TRUE FACTS

    1. I am very sensitive. I can almost feel what people are thinking. I also feel peoples pain, no matter what their story or grief. Because I am sensitive, have a soft southern accent,& non-confrontational manner it seems people can pick up on this & make me an easy mark for their comments & rudeness.Especially other women.It seems I have been betrayed by so many because I never see it coming. I trust too much. My charity is the homeless & those in need & grieving.I usually feel invisible & forgotten easily by others. I am adjusting to loneliness as I lost my son suddenly and unexpectedly.Some of my”friends” whom I had know for years,have not had contact with me since he died. I refuse to chase people whom I believe have walked away when I needed them the most.I have lived with constant pain & guilt in wondering what I could do differently. This writing is exactly about me.

      1. This is a beautiful piece of writing and so very true. I feel being sensitive also seems to make me an easy target to be walked over, and then I am left feeling bad for letting others treat me in that way, but I don’t like conflict, so I close my mouth and say nothing.

  2. I am sensitive persone, everyting in this article is talking about me, im so glad that someone out ther knows about these kind of people,i didnt knw or understand wat kind of a person i am bt i cud jc tell how i feel. I also hv an eye on spoting on other peoples behaviour when i spend time with them but i dont say anyting i jc look at them and keep to myself wat i tink i understand about them. Its so interesting.

  3. This brought tears to my eyes and heart because I was always criticized for being so sensitive, even as a child. As I read this I realized that God made me this way and it is not a negative trait but a positive one as this article says we are the most honest and genuine of people, the most compassionate people worth knowing. We become the activists for the broken-hearted,misunderstood and forgotten ones.

  4. Yeah,This I felt all true about myself. By going through this article I feel good that I am not alone with this programming made by god.

  5. True i m same sensitive person.but we all must change as we loose our close friends n relatives.i feel by stop talking is not the right way.we must make feeel guilt to opp person by treating him In gud way.he must feel i hv done bad thing to best person

  6. I am a very sensitive person and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I just wish I could speak up in difficult situations instead of being silent and crying later.

    1. It’s never easy to accept yourself as we are, highly sensitive people.

      Next step: what to do with such masive advantage towards “standard” people. And, also important: how do we take shelter from their venom?

      My conclusion so far is:

      Rule of simplicty
      Rule of atraction
      Rule of creation

      If you understand and apply these 3 basic rules you will move to the next level.

      What is different in this new level?

      That you will learn to let time go while you can watch it go through you but not with you.

      We should always be grateful for such immense capacity we do have for compassion, emphaty, understanding of complex emotional environmrnts and some of us do feel the facts to come and the rare syncronicity of events, at times.

      Our difficults are our blessing to keep us with a challenge while here on Earth.

      Let’s all pull for the good vibes and accept the solitude which guarantees our safety.


  7. This article explains exactly my nature A-Z. It’s all what i go through and suffer internally especially this period… 🙂

  8. I like this article,it tells exactly about me,being a sensitive person,and I would like to share it with my friends.

  9. This hit right into my core. So true. Betrayal is a huge thing with me especially in the last few years, my tolerance of it is below zero and I have ended friendships and relationships with family. Genuinely, I’ve had enough of being thumped in the heart.

    I’m so tired of this forgive and love unconditionally crap, why ??!! I can’t DO IT anymore and I don’t want to waste anymore of my precious time and energy having to be around that have HURT me over and over!!! I am done.

    1. Sally you forgive them for you so you can move on if you never get an apology from anyone that has done you wrong be ok with it …in the bible there is a scripture that reads an I am paraphrasing…shake the dust off your feet an move to the next town..So Forgive them an move on with your life God Loves you an so do I Blessing ❤

  10. Although most who have commented here are female, I am a man who is very sensitive. Ever since childhood I had the ability to feel other’s feelings, sense their pain, and empathize with their problems. I had a natural understanding of others. Like most HSP’s (highly sensitive people), I have been the target of users, manipulators, and narcissists. My heart has been broken more times than I can count. I feel as if I have a need to be understood, but others rarely do. I have always felt the need to fit in, but for some reason it has been like a square peg in a round hole. Relationships never seem to work out. It is a lonely existence, but somehow we trudge on.

    1. Dear Sensitive One, I could feel the pain in your writing.You also described my life.I knew from childhood. I have more trouble with women than with men. Men seem to appreciate my sensitivity, but women attack it. I have always been a target,even from family. I have no female friends although I did join 2 woman’s groups, after my son died, but I could feel the jealousy & they were unkind, to say the least.I never spoke an unkind word nor did I criticize anyone’s remarks.I left both groups. I could almost “feel” their thoughts. I was brought up “old School” when it was unacceptable to be rude, outspoken or aggressive & ill manners were not tolerated. Today, that along w/HSP is a disaster for me. My heart has been broken by both men and women. Yes, it is a very lonely existence. If I stay away,no one can hurt me. I have always wondered what was wrong w/me. My husband says nothing is..& then I found this writing by Shannon, “just in the nick of time”,(VERY hurt) as I was giving up. Don’t give up S. One. It is a high mountain to climb, but God is still holding your hand every step of the way. Peace is yours, Di

  11. Shannon, Thank you very much for writing Sensitive People. You saved me during a very hurtful time. I now have a sense of peace knowing I am not alone with my personality and knowing a bit more about about who I am and why. This is very meaningful, beautiful and well written.

  12. Di you are not alone with that personality. I feel same as you feel…. To be sensitive mind is much better than having rude one. Many times we got hurt coz of it …. It feels so lonely when no one is there to hold your hand …But still I’m learning to stand for myself.Guys I’m going to make group for people’s like us to share stories, thoughts,feelings, etc…

    pm me /contact me on [email protected]
    Thank you for your comments. ^^

  13. Thanks awesome people to know am not alone am a sensitive person n i accept n love myself just the way i am i have gotten disrespected in the past but not anymore. Add me the group

  14. We have been given a heavy load it’s true but we are here to learn and how can we learn without effort and pain.
    It’s nice to see kindred spirits here, Lew said it as I think it – I am grateful to be a sensitive soul because we are moving upwards, not backwards.

  15. I have a very sensitive soul. I love hard and feel hurt often because I give too much of myself. Growing up, I was very shy and alone, but very friendly if you took the time to get to know me. If I invite you in my life as a friend or mate it’s because I studied you and felt a connection with you. Loyalty and devotion were always sacred to me – if betrayed, I will lose trust in you and separate myself from you. If you tell me a secret, you can rest assured that your secret is safe with me. However, if I trust you enough to tell you a secret, which is very, very rare, you are a very special person in my life.

  16. I am glad I am purposely made sensitive. Glad to find out it is not weakness or emotional trait. I am not alone. There are many people like me out there.

  17. This article really helped me understand myself better. I was of the opinion that I was an “over sensitive” person. I took/take everything personally, and this has caused me a great amount of pain. I have felt quite alone most of my life even, with people. Toxic work environment was my undoing because it hurt so much via shallow co workers.

    I have now changed my life and while my circle is much smaller now, I still am very sensitive to everything. This of course affects any relationships I have or am trying to nurture.

    But thanks again, I have a better understanding now, and can accept myself as being somewhat more sensitive than the average person. This does make them, bad and me good, or visa versa, just the way I am put together is all.

  18. I am very grateful to see the article. It suits me,it is me,and I am constantly searching for remedies to correct the on-hand situations. Lots of disappointments though. Never was easy ,never will be. Being extremely extroverted but have to compromise and live introverted, that is not fair.

  19. Thank you for sharing . I know we all must learn that we are all gifts and special and one of a kind. We all must be responsible for our words and actions. Those of us that haven’t learnt this cause so much pain. Thank you for teaching this and I send my gratitude for your words. I will carry this teaching in my spirit and pray that I never hurt others spirit’s.

  20. Thank you for sharing . I realized how important to be kind to sensitive people. I thought it was their way of getting attention only.

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