Self-care is not selfishness.

Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others. Self-care is not selfishness.
You cannot serve it from an empty vessel.

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  1. That’s something I’m working on but I don’t understand why the only thoughts are for you and nobody talks about the significant other or maybe the person is just plain selfish and screws the partner over? This tells me that it’s ok to destroy people in the name of self love?

  2. I am probably included if this is sentiment is stated by someone else. It has to be okay for health of ALL.

  3. Chris I think the end game is both partners need to be understanding that each soul needs to tend to itself in order to be whole. If your SO can’t/won’t support you in your attempt to be whole then you might in a bad spot.

  4. It’s like when you are on the airplane and they are explaininng safety procedures, you put your oxygen mask on first, then help others.

  5. Only you put your parents and children first you’ll never regret, but the rest it’s just a waste of time and energy.lesson learned after fifty years of my life.

  6. We can only be fulfilled by Jesus. Once we allow him to fill our vessels, it will overflow to others. Why do we make other people our Jesus? Or in the worldly view, “Why are we making that person our Jerry McGuire?”

    We need to loVe ourselves first before we can loVe others in their space, whether good or bad.

  7. From a caregiver’s standpoint, you can do and do and do for other(s) until you wear yourself out. At some point you have to take some time for yourself. “Me Time” Maybe as simple as time alone, long walks, shopping for yourself, or time out with a close friend. Confinement to care giving can create frustration, resentment and weariness. This is not from lack of love for the one(s) you care for. That Me time can be made to make you feel like you are being selfish but it is necessary so you don’t fall apart and fall into a depressed state.

  8. It’s just about a balance between your empathy in soul to humanity and self-compassion at heart. You just have to learn how to switch between the two accordingly. Only the narcissists run with excuses. Humanity is living for others along with looking after yourself.

  9. I honestly don’t understand when people tell me to look after yourself first? I shower I feed my body. I work hard. I take care of my family and my home. I can’t comprehend the meaning of take care of yourself first.

  10. I think taking care of yourself is more than showering, eating, working, sleeping. It’s taking care of your health; exercising, making yourself a priority. It’s also doing things you enjoy. That is what me time is. It means sometimes putting your wants & needs first. It’s taking time to do something that makes you happy. We all have things we have to do. Hopefully, we enjoy taking care of our family & our home. But, I also enjoy a spa day with my sisters.

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