
Never say mean words out of anger. Your anger will pass. But your mean words can scar a person for life. So use kind words or be silent.
Never say mean words out of anger. Your anger will pass. But your mean words can scar a person for life. So use kind words or be silent.
Or…some people want to blame one incident and one person for a series of unresolved issues they have experienced over years. So projecting. These people expect others to accomodate their plans, be be oservant and considerate to the needs and desires (and demands) their “friend” is going through. As if the only life that matters is just one, so not really a healthy friendship. When the pressure of extraneous events, a lack of sleep ,too much drinking, unmet expectations from totally unrelated things relating to that one person who was so “hurtful,” unlashes the underlying hidden angers that have built up. No amount of kindness, nothing, will bring out the source of the real issues at hand. One person is crying (like a child) and the other is like, “what is going on?” Doesn’t matter both are adults; one is used to whining and others accommodate and console this poor person. Projecting is a common ploy used by people who cannot commuicate effectively, harbor hidden feeligs (passive aggressiveness), and basically wants everything done just for themselves. Amazing they have a network of enablers who agree wthout hearing out the one who “wronged” this fragile person who seems to be back in high school. As in: run to others and start whining. This, when everything is changing for the better in a person’s life: perhaps they feel they don’t deserve a better life. And if they blame someone else for bringing them down at such a “happy” time, well, anything that goes awry must be from that really mean person. Meanwhile, the wronged person lives silently playig along that they won’t bother to be an adult seeking another adult relationship. So a kind of lie they are living. But then again, they are healig from one outlash (that they deserved 100%) for placing ridiculous demands on another.
I was angry at someone who hurt my mother by leaving her penniless during a national health crisis for another woman of all things. I said some very harsh words to that person and in front of my mom who still loves him.
I realize now the words hurt her too because she loved him for so many years. She didn’t need to hear how dispicable I thought he was. She probably knew it in her heart.
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