Never again will I waste my time.
Because although I have before, I will not settle.
We all crave love and affection, and when these things are combined with and the emotional support and affirmation that can come from a relationship it can be all too easy to make finding a permanent partner your main priority and goal in life.
This can cause many people to settle for a romantic partner that doesn’t quite complement their own personality and life, and isn’t quite up to scratch. The fear of being alone and the desire to find someone pushes lots of people towards being in relationships that aren’t really right for them.
There’s plenty more fish in the sea
This old saying contains a great deal of truth – there are plenty of people out there that would be great for you. Life is bigger than any one person, so don’t let it get you down if the person you’re into turns out to not be so good for you. Just move on, and keep looking for someone that’s right for you.
Settling for someone that you don’t really totally click with just because you’re afraid you won’t find anyone who’s a better match for you is just selling yourself and your future happiness short. You can and you will find someone else, and if you wait long enough you can and will find someone who is much more suited to building a life with you.
Someone out there will love you like you deserve to be loved
You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. You deserve to have someone who loves you for who you are, someone who will listen carefully when you speak and give you their honest and thoughtful advice. You deserve to have someone by your side that you enjoy spending time with, someone who you feel calm and peaceful and happy around. Relationships need chemistry. They need a spark, a real romance where both people feel crazy about each other.
Everybody deserves to be loved. You shouldn’t settle for a relationship where you feel undervalued and unappreciated. If you do that, you’re selling yourself short. If you sell yourself short in your relationship and accept being with someone who doesn’t love you properly, you’ll regret it forever. You’ll always want to know what could have been if you’d been with someone really special, someone who makes you feel incredible.
Life is too short to be unhappy
Live is short. It’s far too short to be anything other than happy. Not just content, but fulfilled and satisfied in all aspects of your life. One of the most important parts of your life is your relationship. If you’re unfulfilled within it because you decided to settle for someone that doesn’t satisfy you in the way you desire, you’ll find it extremely difficult to really be happy. You’ll be left wanting more, because you chose a comfortable position over really chasing the person of your dreams.
You deserve to live an amazing life, one where you’re living your dreams and experiencing true happiness and enjoyment. No one is perfect, and everyone has their flaws, but you know deep down when you’re settling for someone and when someone is an extremely good match for you. If you settle in your relationship, you’re giving up your control over your happiness and your life fulfilment. Don’t let yourself live a life that isn’t your best because of the fear of being alone.
Love comes naturally – you can’t force it to work
A healthy relationship needs respect, honesty, trust, and effort. These things are fundamental values and principles that a person either does or doesn’t have – and if they don’t, you can’t force them to have them. Learning the lessons required to become a person who values these things takes a long time. If the love in your relationship is having a hard time blossoming because your partner doesn’t value these things, you’re not going to be able to change them into someone else or fix them.
Making a relationship work is difficult for anyone, but when the love won’t come naturally between the two of you because you share similar values and principles, you need to take a step back and assess things. A long-term relationship should be with someone that is your best friend, lover, and life partner. If you’re not with that person, you’re settling, and you’ll regret it forever.
Being with the wrong person can be far worse than being alone. If you refuse to settle for a poor-quality relationship, you’ll be far happier, fulfilled, and in control of your life. The right person will come along eventually – and if not, so be it. It’s better to be in control of your life and your happiness than it is to be with someone who takes it away from you.
So be a person who loves with passion and with fullness. Don’t waste time loving someone who doesn’t love you wholly in return. And don’t settle for anything less than extraordinary love.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️