Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths: Seven ways to spot them (and then avoid them like the plague!)
Together, they make up approximately 11% of the world’s population. The majority of them can be incredibly toxic influences on your life due to their lack of empathy and remorse. They are people with narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic personality disorders.
They’re certain to pop up in your life from time to time. If you can identify them quickly, you can do your best to steer clear and avoid being caught up in their manipulative webs. Unfortunately, however, dealing with malignant people is part of life. Here are eight ways you can go about spotting them to make sure your guard is up when dealing with them. Beware, they can be difficult to spot.
They work hard to maintain their outward image
Part of the reason that narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths are so dangerous is that many of them go to extreme lengths to make sure they’re perceived a certain way by the people they know. They work hard to perpetuate an image of themselves as being polite, well liked, and capable. A particular circumstance that causes this image to fall into doubt can cause an extreme reaction in people with these antisocial personalities, as it threatens the integrity of the image they’ve worked to build for themselves.
They seem charming
A charming demeanor is the bread and butter of people attempting to put up a false front. They will go out of their way to flatter and ingratiate themselves with others, especially new acquaintances. Buying gifts, sweet-talk, and doing people favors seemingly out of nowhere are all part of their repertoire. Contrary to what they say, gifts and favors from these people are not free, and they will attempt to cash them in like a voucher at the supermarket when they have need of you.
They lie, often
Lying comes as second nature to people with anti-social behavior disorders. They feel no empathy, no remorse for the consequences of their selfish actions. They will lie through their teeth, even with clear evidence against them. They will lie and cheat by day and sleep soundly every night.
They will very rarely apologise
Due to their lack of a conscience, narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths almost never apologise for their actions or words. If they do, it’s usually only a partial or insincere apology, often as part of a wider plan to deceive in full by apologising in part. They might intentionally lose a battle to win the war, but it’s something that they find very difficult to do otherwise. They feel no guilt. They see no reason to make another person feel better with an apology.
By far the most commonly shared trait of narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths is manipulation. To them, everything and everyone is simply a means to an end, a tool to be used to help themselves. Every person they meet is another opportunity to play the game, to further their own selfish ambitions to control and dominate others.
They love to play the victim
A large part of manipulating people is the ability to play the victim. People out to control others like puppets on strings will not hesitate to assume the role of the injured party, even when they’re the ones responsible for the situation they’re claiming to be a victim of, and all the while continuing to lie through their teeth.
They have a superiority complex
People with these personality disorders have no thought for others beyond how they can use them. They think only of their own selfish desires, and as such, feel themselves to be the center of their own little universes. They are utterly superior in their own minds.
Although there’s no way to go through life totally avoiding toxic people like those with the personality disorders mentioned in this article, you can do your best to identify them and keep them at a distance once you have. If you have reason to suspect someone you know has one of these personalities, keep them at arm’s length and be wary of how much of yourself you expose to them. It doesn’t take much for them to dig their hooks in!
Written by Maverick, Staff writter,
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