Love Her the Way She Deserves to be Loved,
or Let Her Go.
Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship where you felt under-appreciated? Where you loved your partner with all of your heart, but you knew deep down that the love you were given by them in return just wasn’t good enough?
You’re not alone. Plenty of women are or at some point have been trapped in the same situation. They feel like they’re not loved the way they deserve to be. Like they don’t get the same amount of effort out of the relationship as what they put in. They feel like their compassion, kindness, and love is met with disinterest and distraction. No one should have to feel this way. No one deserves to be made to feel like their relationship is just one disappointment after the next.
If you don’t treat her the way she deserves to be treated, then you don’t deserve her.
She deserves to be loved properly. She deserves to be made to feel valued, appreciated and understood. You should be doing the things for her that she is so ready and willing to do for you. You should be surprising her with flowers or turning up at her work with lunch. You should be cooking her dinner and leaving little notes around the house that tell her how much you love and appreciate her. You don’t have to spend loads of money on jewellery or expensive clothes, just take her on a date once in a while, and do little things for her often. Show her you mean it when you say ‘I love you.’ Love is all about showing that you think about and appreciate your partner.
Love isn’t always easy. No relationship is perfect. You can’t expect to not ever have disagreements or misunderstandings. Love isn’t about never arguing, or having a fairy tale relationship that’s all smiles and roses. It’s about being there through thick and thin. Through the bad times and the good. It’s about being selfless, about putting your partner first and always trying your best to consider their feelings. It’s about two people cooperating to build something beautiful something greater than the sum of its parts. It’s about using each other for mutual support, not trying to use your partner as a platform to stand on so you can get higher yourself while pushing them down.
If you won’t love her on her best days as well as on her worst, if you won’t always be there for her no matter how hard things get, and if you won’t do all the things she’d so readily do for you, you’re not loving her the way she deserves to be loved. If you can’t love her the way she deserves, you should let her go.
The truth is that there are many, many people out there who would jump at the chance to shower her with love and affection the way she does you. To be part of a mutually loving, caring relationship is one of life’s most beautiful experiences. If you have a chance at that, and you let it go because you can’t be bothered to put in the small amount of effort it takes to love her properly, more fool you.
Loving someone is about accepting them as they come and not trying to change them. It’s about showing them you appreciate them and everything they do, and showing them that you’d do anything for them. Loving the woman in your life involves practice and patience.
Loving her is a choice you have to make every day. You have to choose to be kind to her, to listen to her when she speaks. You have to choose to take the time to get to really know her – not just on the surface, but deep down. Spend the time and energy that are required loving and understanding your partner, the way she does for you.
If you won’t show her the love she deserves, and you won’t let her go, know that everyone has a limit. Everyone has a breaking point. You may well wake up one day to find it’s too late. That she’s waited long enough for you to make up your mind, so she’s made it up for you and left.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc.