It hurts to let go.

It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t come back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head. – Henry Rollins 

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  1. Talk and spend all free time with a friend or sister or mom. Time really does make the pain hurt less. For me, I went out with my friends and was open to meeting someone new, it was a distraction that helped make the time pass and the hurt to be less painful. YES time will lessen the pain.

  2. I have been there for years. After finding this kind of love, nothing else compares. And even after so many years of them not being in my life, I still think about and miss them a hundred times a day. I wonder if I will ever find anything close to that love again…

  3. That what im goin thru right now..and is so hurtin when the person dont appreciate what i do for him and treat me like im non existent whereas he himself tell me he like me?

  4. OMG it hurts so bad…I cry myself to sleep at night…this website is helping me and the comments let’s me know I am not the only one experiencing hurt and disappointment….letting go is difficult and I am going to do my best to keep moving forward so that time will help heal my broken heart!

  5. It’s exactly what my friend feel towards me…I didn’t understand what he was going through…

  6. By reading all this, I try to fight my inner self to let go n move on but i just couldn’t let go m it’s been 3years…..been through depression n etc….how can I get it over n moves… is so meaningless…..I’m alone n I just need someone to listen, hug me tight n console me n I been yearn for the huge hug n cried it out bt there isn’t any….been crying too much day n night when I think of my life….I have no one ….at times the thought of suicude is the easiest way out….everyday when I close my eyes I juz hope when I woke up I will b a new person with a new life bt it just didn’t happen ….pls give me strength

  7. Things happen for a reason – writing a day after letting go of someone I loved – it’s ok t feel down n wallow but importantly it’s not that u have fallen down but how long u stay there and secondly how u will get back up slowly but surely and stronger that’s more important – love the message cause it helps to get back up

  8. I am there myself. I loved this man with ally heart and never once I thought he would hurt me this way. Letting go has been extremely hard for me. I find myself blocking my number just to hear his voice as if its one last time. I really do miss him. Just trying to let go……

  9. Did I ever told you to loose hope In me?Did I ever left you , knowing you search for me and ask me to be there?See , you can keep silence for the rest of time .
    For eternity.But your voice too will be appreciated .And love is based on compromises.By both.

  10. I have been going through this since July 5th. She lied to me , intentionally misled me and basically used me to gain confidence so she could love somebody other than me.
    I feel bad for thinking I could be the person who would treat her like a queen, for trying to help her know how awesome she is and help her get over her divorce. I should not feel like I did something wrong but I do. She rejected me and after a year of flirting with me and misleading me she did not have the common decency to tell me anything good about myself or to apologize for lying to me or misleading me. She actually told me yes when I asked her out; then took three weeks to tell me she had chosen someone else over me. I had walked away and not seen her for three months because she said she had not thought about dating yet, she then came to me and started her flirting. She could not even talk to me she was so tongue tied, red faced as could be; then I find out she already had a boyfriend. Did this for three weeks, attacks me when I come in the building but she did not actually want me; she wanted someone else; only wanted to play with me so she could feel good about herself.
    I am trying to let go. Missed three of my nephews games just so I did not have to see her, now hiding from her when I go to his games so I do not have to see her. It hurts to let go, I still think about her every minute of the day, she is the first thought I have when I wake up. It hurts to know I feel this way and she chose somebody else. I had almost got over her in the three months I did not see her, now four months after being rejected I can not get over her. I have even planned two years of being how to avoid her and not see her and when I will see her again and how I will react if she tries to talk to me. Want to curse her out but then I think of how much I like her and how cursing at her would make her opinion of me go down. Right now I think even though she used me and rejected me she still has a decent opinion of me. One day she will notice she has not seen me in months of hockey. I wonder if she will think it is her fault, will she wonder where I am?
    I hope I never see her again but at the same time I still wish she would come up to me and apologize and ask if I would still like to go out with her. Don’t know if I would or would not but I still have dreams and still have feelings for her.

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