I’d Rather Be Single Than Be In A Relationship That Makes Me Feel Alone.
While there are some who aren’t afraid of being single or alone, for many people, being single is a nightmare. They crave the company of other people, and feel vulnerable and directionless when alone. For people like this, a relationship is the ultimate goal. It means they never have to be alone. Every night, they can sleep next to someone. Whenever they’re bored, or lonely, they have someone to talk to and be with. This often means, however, that they get into relationships with the wrong people – they’re more likely to overlook their partners flaws in their desperation to avoid being alone.
Below are five reasons why it’s better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person.
The wrong person won’t let you be yourself
When you’re single, you’re the authentic you. When in a relationship with the wrong person, we feel the need to change our behaviour to conform to what is expected of us by out partner. Being with the wrong person often involves acting in a way that isn’t true to ourselves. It’s better to be single than to be with someone who doesn’t like it when you’re goofy, or when you sleep in on weekends, or when you want to watch a certain film or eat certain foods.
The wrong person won’t understand you
They won’t be able to have deep, meaningful conversations with you. You’ll feel frustrated by the lack of any attempt at trying to see things from your point of view. They might well belittle you and make you feel small for having your own opinions and way of doing things. None of this happens when you’re single – there’s no one there to judge you for what you think or say.
The wrong person isn’t good company
When you’re secure in yourself and happy with your own company, you don’t need someone there all the time. Your own company is good enough. Being alone isn’t a hard or unpleasant experience. When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, however, their company is often not the nicest. They might be irritable and unkind, or perhaps they don’t get your sense of humor and don’t make you laugh. That’s not a problem when you’re single.
The wrong person won’t love you for who you are
Being yourself is one of the most important things in life. It’s the root of happiness and fulfilment. If you’re with someone who is fundamentally wrong for you, they won’t love you for who you are. They won’t appreciate all the little unique things that make you you. When you’re single, you can love yourself as much as you want. You can appreciate your quirks, be happy and fulfilled and enough for yourself.
The wrong person will probably hurt you
A relationship with the wrong person is a relationship with an expiry date. Whether it takes ten months or ten years, it won’t last. When it ends, you’ll most likely end up getting hurt. When you’re single, this isn’t something you have to deal with.
Being single, with the right perspective and outlook, is brilliant. Being in a happy, fulfilling, and loving relationship with the right person is even better. Being with the wrong person, however, is far worse than being alone. Don’t make the common mistake of jumping into relationships with anyone just to avoid having to be by yourself for a while.
The right relationship will come one day. But now, it’s time to focus on the most important relationship. The one with yourself.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc.