I never wanted a perfect relationship. I just want someone to try as hard as I do.
Time and time again, it’s the same old story. People say that I expect too much, that I can’t reasonably expect to find perfection, that I have to learn to settle for someone who is just ‘good enough’.
But what those people don’t seem to understand is that it’s not about perfection. It never has been. I don’t need perfection. I don’t need someone to be perfect for them to be enough for me.
All I’m asking for – all I’ve ever asked for – is for someone who will love me as much as I love them. Someone who brings the same commitment, the same enthusiasm, the same energy to the relationship that I bring.
I don’t care about presents, candlelit dinners, or big grand gestures. I don’t need any of that. I’ve never cared about finding someone who will ‘tick’ all of the right boxes, or someone who will make a big show of things, or put me up on a pedestal, or worship me. That doesn’t appeal to me at all.
All I need is someone who I have a deep and genuine connection with. Someone who’s willing to put as much effort in to making things work as I am. Someone who will listen to me like I will listen to them, someone who cares as much about me as I do about them.
I want to be able to trust the person I’m with completely. I want to know that they have my back, and that they always will. I want them to trust me. I want someone whose arms I can fall asleep at night, safe and sound, knowing that they’ll be there in the morning, that they’ll love me just as much, that they’ll laugh at my terrible jokes and at the goofy faces I pull.
I want real love; I want a real, genuine bond. I want to be with someone for whom I’m their first choice, not second best. I want someone who loves me for me, who shows me they care.
I know that perfection isn’t possible. I know that every relationship gets rocky from time to time. That’s why I want someone who is as willing to make things work, as ready to go the distance as I am. I want someone who I can depend on, who knuckles down when things get tough, rather than running away. I want someone with whom I can talk honestly and maturely about the problems we face. I want someone who knows what it takes to make it work.
Because I don’t want a perfect relationship. I just want something real. I want someone who loves me as much as I love them.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©