I just want an honest relationship. No lies.
No mind games. No cheating.
The concept of being faithful within a relationship is very important to the majority of people. There aren’t many people who want to be in a relationship with someone who is unfaithful to them. The thing is, people tend to have differing opinions on exactly what being unfaithful means. For some, the line is drawn at anything physical. Kissing, intimate touching, and sex all constitute cheating for them. For others, emotional cheating is just as bad – or even worse. That means being emotionally intimate with another person, flirting with them, talking about or actually having feelings for them, and so on.
In my opinion, the line between staying faithful and infidelity is pretty simple and doesn’t need to be complicated. To me, being unfaithful constitutes doing anything with another person that you wouldn’t do with your partner present. If you do something that you wouldn’t have done in full view of your partner, you’re being unfaithful to some extent.
Whether it’s a glance at another person that lingers too long, flirting, or kissing another person, the fact that you’re doing something you just wouldn’t do in front of your partner means you’re not being the honest version of yourself around them. You’re holding back, showing them one side of you while being capable of doing other things behind their back. That dishonesty of character, in my eyes, constitutes being unfaithful. Unfaithfulness to your partner, unfaithfulness to your relationship, and unfaithfulness to the trust and honesty that any relationship needs if it’s going to last.
I’d argue that this definition even applies to things in life that don’t constitute cheating. If you’re hiding part of yourself, part of your life, from your partner, and not telling them about it, you’re not being honest with them. You’re being unfaithful to the relationship. They don’t really know the real, full you like they think they do.
You’re someone else when you know they’re not watching.
Staying faithful to your partner isn’t just about not jumping into bed with another person. It’s about consistently holding yourself to the same standards of behaviour that you would if your partner was right there next to you. No one wants to be in a relationship with someone who changes when they’re not there. Being faithful means holding yourself accountable for your actions and behaviour.
You always have a choice as to how you behave. If your relationship means as much to you as a healthy relationship should, then control yourself and aim to always be the same, consistent version of yourself – regardless of whether or not there’s anyone watching.
Being faithful means that you choose your partner, every minute, every second of every day. It means being honest, being consistent, and being the same version of yourself no matter the circumstances.
When you have a relationship where this expectation is made clear by both parties, you have a strong, trusting bond as a foundation to build on. The confidence in your partner you feel when you know how much being totally faithful means to them will take you a long way in life, no matter how hard things get.
If you love someone, treat them with the respect they deserve.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer for Lessons Learned In Life Inc.