I do not help my wife.

I do not help my wife.

A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”

He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”

I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.

I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.

I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.

I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.

I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.

I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.

I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you

But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!

Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?

Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.

Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.

The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! ”


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  1. I have dialled his number say 60 times today and still clueless if I need to talk to him directly or not. Not even sure if the number I remember is correct but I hope it is. Can someone help me ?

    I just expect one call from him and I wont disappoint him at all. He does have plenty of reasons and excuses to dial me ? No ? Anything , everything…

    I am worried. I badly want to talk to him, sorry for being so restless but I am not sure why I am so hurting. Is it a crime to talk to me ? Why he does not understand me at all ? I need and need to talk to him. Just 2 mins of his time, his effort.

    I am somehow so scared to call his number, what ifs running in my mind and …… Please someone help me….What should i do ?

    1. I think you should call him Rashi. The worst that can happen is he ignores you or doesn’t pick up. The important thing is that you tried your best to attempt to communicate with him. Otherwise, you will feel regret on your part for not trying. It’s better to call than to continuously feel worried and restless. Take a deep breath, everything will be okay 🙂

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