I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke

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  1. …it feels owsome. …yes we do….we spent our time thinking on how to shrink…..yes we do ….we waste our energy trying to sink in to the mass….it aint easy….and even it aint right….we ahould be who we are….qe should be we…easy and right…..and perfect too….I love it…..

  2. This is me to the T. However , it seems I don’t attract people with being me. It hurts. I’ve tried so hard to make others happy. Maybe it’s bc I have a hard time being happy myself. There’s allot of maybe’s. I also suffer from anxiety and depression. 🙁

  3. …its to Patti
    …we should always try to make ourself better. …trying to fix ourself into a better person doesnt mean lossing ourself and try to shrink into others…..it just make creating the better We…the one better than we….

    ….I believe that anxiety comes from thincking that everything can be controled by ourself…..yes their r money things we can control in our life….yes their are many things we can change ….but it doesnt mean that we can make water flow in the reverse direction….

  4. I am almost 70 years old and for most of my life I felt weak, undeserving, hurt, and suffacated. I suffer from anxiety and depression and part of my disorder is a high sensitivity to both physical and emotional events.
    But you don’t need to suffer from any kind of mental illness to feel inferior to others. My ex-husband took advantage of my over-sensitivity and berated me often. My mother controlled me like I was her puppet.
    This message hit home- I am Me, and I will not apologize for that. I count; I am worthy and smart. And if you don’t like who I am, go…leave.

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