I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke.

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  1. this is too self centred in many ways, it is the ‘other’ that compels that everyone respect one another and indeed ‘be’. for it by being their for others that we are indeed there for ourselves. take care, rejoice, sr c

    1. In the quote Sister Catherine, after she/he did years of shrinking, making he/herself smaller, quieter, less of a burden, sacrificed, suffered, and shrinking him/herself, I HOPE she/he choose HER/HIMSELF. Otherwise, this person would be lost forever with no self-worth, no identity, no dignity and no self love. This is not self-centered, it’s called survival.

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