I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniell Keopke.

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  1. It’s about time we stop looking for external validation. We have every right to validate ourselves. We don’t need approval & acceptance from others. We can do it for ourselves, that’s where our self-worth comes from. It’s okay to be who we are & we don’t need to apologize for it. Stay true to who you are!

  2. I would like to become a member to continue receiving your quotes before it’s stopped! Please keep me added to your list as Subscribed as I can’t find the link to subscribe to! If needed please send me an email telling me how to do this! Thanks for all your help! GOD BLESS!

    1. Hi Jason,
      The subscribe button is on every page. Its on the right hand side (half way down) Or go to the HOME page and find where it reads :”Latest Quotes”
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  3. This definitely describes me. Now I do CHOOSE ME!! I still love the ones who have chosen to remove me from their lives and to those who still love me for who I am be blessed and I love yall to the moon and back.

    Thanks to God the almighty for he loves unconditionally

  4. Heck yes it took years for me to stand up to people who bully me or put me down.They are the losers, I don’t need anyone like that in my life. My past few months is living proof— Shit on me I will return the favor twofold……oh yeah

  5. I’m am living my life this way. After so many years of people being bullies and trashing me, I learned to take care of me….If you shit on me your return is back at you twofold, shame on you–LOSER

  6. We are all perfectly ourselves & that is our legacy & gift from God. Wisdom is when we stop apologizing about this fact & realize this is also true about our neighbor!

  7. Hi!
    Thanks for sharing my quote! My name is actually spelled Daniell Koepke (Danielle without the E) :p

    1. Hi Daniell, It has been a true pleasure sharing your quotes and thank you so much being a huge part of this website. If you ever have any quotes that you would like to share here with Lessons Learned in life, please email me at [email protected]. It would be a great honor. Your quotes have had a tremendous impact on so many people in a proufound way. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. My apologies for the spelling of your name, Brigitte.

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