I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke.

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  1. That’s not how I feel. I have always chosen “us” and never “me” because I was always “us” because from birth I was a “us” with my mother, my parents, my family and have been come more and more “us”. There are also “us” gone, because the “us” changes the whole life.
    That’s why I’m not less and feel not less. On the contrary, by giving love and receiving love, I feels more. That is the meaning of love. If you makes painful experiences, that love is not reciprocated f.e., that you may be betrayed or cheated, it may be that the feeling of being “small” comes. It is a terrible feeling and pain of this kind is almost unbearable. But there is no reason to think that you are better off without the love of others. Self-love does not satisfy, it is not even a consolation, but it clarifies only the more, how big the injury is. No, I will continue to choose “us”, whoever that is.

  2. I felt like you looked inside my heart when you wrote this. Thank you so much I’m going to read it daily & MAKE the changes that will BALANCE my life & 💓💌

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