I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away.
I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke.

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  1. you described me to a tee. for years, i thought there was something wrong with me. thank you.

  2. Good for you. Yes you do matter.am sure u are loved by many.. people by being yourself. And because you put this message I now like you for being so honest. Lot of people go through life with a mask so all their friends like them. And they are cheating themselves by not being Honest ,truthful, the list goes on I myself wore a mask growing up it was a very mean mask to feel that I could control other people because I could not be myself due to the awful abuse from my Dad. Keep being who you are

  3. Been there, and done that, and in the end I choose me and I lose some of my closest friend 🙂

  4. I should say HUGE THANK YOU to who ever took the privilege to jot these words down that I HAD BEEN experiencing for many years. Its true…and I’m surprised that someone else on anothr part of this big world felt the same. God is with us. God bless us all.

  5. David, this is awesome. true..real..deep.. its calming.. wish schools, colleges, teachers, parents, elders would teach and drill this fact of life with as much gusto.. this thought provoking thought if ingrained in ones persona, the result would be a lashing outflow of creativity in society..

  6. This quote is what I have evolved into after 62 years on this earth. Life has taught me many lessons. Although far from perfect, I like who I am, know I have a kind heart & intelligent mind. I refuse to be undervalued anymore, and sometimes get on the wrong side of a person by speaking up when I feel it happening. That’s okay. I know my worth. I no longer tolerate people who take me for granted, and cherish those who respect the capable, experienced and compassionate person that I am.

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