I choose me.

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose me”
~Daniel Keopke.

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  1. this is so true. You say you need yourself and your space, your time for your truth. You will get everything you want from the one who loves you, he will not make you smaller, he will let you your place. You do not have to spent all your time with him, you do not even have to live with him or to marry him. He just wants a chance to be near, to touch you can´t you see this? May be this is already too much?

    1. So nice comment commenter someoneinlove..just a chance to be near…and touch…so simple sincere naive love…

      1. Thank you Arlene, simple sincere naive love? Hmmm, I would say deep love and just the wish to have a normal, soft start .

        1. Great commenter someoneinlove…deep love..sincere I suppose…as long as you have the access to start that normal love in a soft way- initiate the act…

          Create the opportunity…

  2. Hi Brigitte — Your emails are much fewer per week. Everything okay?

    Love and peace,

  3. I hope you are o.k. Brigitte? You do not have to show my comments. I did not want to personally attack you with my comment. These are my feelings, my heart which starts to break. Not because I do not get anything. I get a lot, more than I ever got in my life and am grateful for it. But my heart will not be content with it. It can not be put off forever.

  4. Hmmm commenters Petya and m, I choose you and me….

    because personally if I CHOOSE YOU- so sacrificing…..if I CHOOSE ME- so lonesome….being together makes it jollier, happier….

    1. that is certainly the best,Arlene you are right. I personally do not mind to sacrifice something in this case, because I get something which is important for me.

      1. Wow…nice to know from your comment commenter m…honest you are…and it feels good that something important to you makes you happy and self.fulfilled….

        Likewise with me…love so much the quote….

  5. How lovely I could please you. It is the way I want to see and live my love and I hope that I get the opportunity for it. Because it is only my wish.

    1. Hmmm commenter m, you seem to be into a feeling of wholesome love…nice…

      Create the opportunity then….you might miss the chance and miss the time…

      Exercise your freedom of expression….

  6. Nice to hear from you again Brigitte,Thank you for sharing!
    I’m doing fine although sometimes still missing somebody.Hell be always in my heart.
    Kind regards,

    1. Thank you ARLENE, thank you for your advice, I took the opportunity today and faild…: (…but I´m glad that I tried. And ermie, I´m sorry to hear this. I´m sure there is also somebody for you, who would fit perfectly. Or did you dicide to stay alone?

    2. Likewise commenter ermie…I am also missing somebody whose gonna be forever in my heart…

      How did you try commenter m? Hmmm…patience and keep on trying…..perseverance…

  7. what do you mean with perseverance? Well I went to her house and wanted to ask her for a walk, her brother opended and said she is not there, but I´m sure she was. Patience is a big word you know…it´s more than half a year now, and in my eyes we are not coming nearer we are farer away than ever ( beside the whole virtuel signs of love). I also suffer, because I hurt my family and I can only bear this, when I can really be with her. Otherwise there is no joy….yes I will be more patient and I will try to find some fun with friends, looking after my kids and try to go on living a normal life until she knows what she wants..otherwise I will turn mad…it is not only about giving, you have to give people what they want and what they need ( both sides)…and this is something you only can find out what it is in starting dating, beeing together….

  8. Ok commenter m…we will pray for the best for you and the family….

    Never stop trying to reach the best ….

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