How To Tell If A Man Really Wants You
Have you ever sat and stared out of the window while daydreaming about a guy that you like? Imagining the two of you finally embracing each other at last, imagining how it would feel to kiss him and know that he was yours? Do you wonder if he feels the same way about you? Do you wonder if he ever thinks about you, and whether or not he sees you as just a friend or someone he’d like to get to know even better?
Well, you’re not alone. There are millions of women out there who are in exactly that position. They all have the same question at the forefront of their minds: Does he really want me?
The difficulty in working out whether a man really wants you or not lies in how different men can be from one another. For some men, ‘getting the girl’ is all about the thrill of the chase and the adventure of the hunt. Their instincts and drives tell them to pursue women relentlessly. When it comes to these types of guys, it’s abundantly clear that they’re after you. They don’t hide it. They’ll stop at nothing to get you; no distance is too far, no obstacle is too high for them to climb.
Sometimes, this can be extremely flattering – particularly if you want them to want you. When it comes to guys that are too full on, though, too relentless, and unwilling to take ‘no’ for an answer, things can turn kind of stalker-y. An attitude to women that resembles a prey drive is all fun and games until it starts to become scary.
A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that all guys are like this, but it’s just not the case. They assume that a ‘real’ man is someone who knows what he wants and will do whatever it takes to get it. That’s as narrow minded as saying that a ‘real’ woman is submissive and always lets guys initiate things; it’s just not how the real world works. There’s plenty of confident women out there who wouldn’t hesitate to let guys know that they like them. They’re no less ‘real’ than a woman who likes to let guys take the lead.
The truth of the matter is that many guys are much more low-key, especially if they really like you. Yeah, they could run in with guns blazing and blatantly pursue you, but what if that scared you off? Not all guys will just go at it like a Neanderthal, grunting at you, badly flirting, and telling you what they want from you. In fact, guys that come on at you like this are much more likely to be after one thing, and one thing only (but not necessarily, of course).
A lot of guys are much more likely to play it cool, to think things through and take their time. If they really like you, they won’t want to mess things up. They won’t want you to think that they’re only after sex.
So, how can you tell if a guy really likes you, then? Well, the truth is that it varies from individual to individual, but there are a number of things that tend to happen when a guy is interested that can give away how he feels.
Keep an eye out for the way he interacts with other people, especially other women. If he talks to you significantly more or significantly less than he does other women, or in a different way, there’s probably a reason for it.
Does he look at you a lot? Do you ever catch him staring at you? If you find he’s often looking at you, it’s unlikely to be because of something totally unrelated – he’s looking at you because he wants you.
Does he ever look nervous when he’s talking to you? Or on the other hand, does he ever look extremely relaxed? This cuts both ways; if he’s nervous around you and he isn’t around other women, there’s a reason for it. You make him nervous because he’s self-conscious and he wants you to like him. Likewise, if he’s relatively cool around other women but especially relaxed and playful around you, then it’s probably because he feels comfortable in your presence. He gets on well with you and enjoys your company more than he does others, which is a good sign that he likes you.
Ultimately, telling if a guy really wants you comes down to your intuition. You have to go with your gut instinct. There’s no way to tell for sure what’s going on in someone’s head, so you have to just trust what your heart says.
This can be frustrating, but it’s simply part of the game of love and life. It’s exciting to be unsure, to be playing the game of ‘does he, or doesn’t he?’. If you can learn to look at things this way, you’ll open yourself up to a whole new world of romantic possibilities. Trust your gut; it’s the only way you’ll have a chance of working out how a guy really feels about you.
Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©