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Published on August 8, 2018 in Blog1, Picture Quotes
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Don’t beg: when to walk away from someone

Many people will go to great lengths and put up with a lot of hardship to keep their significant other around, or to try and keep the interest of a potential partner. If they’re not good enough for you, if they don’t value you like they should, or if they’re not interested – move on.

Too many people make the mistake of staying with a partner that isn’t good for them. Sometimes, this is because it’s too painful to let the relationship go after they’ve invested so much time and energy into it. Other times it’s because they genuinely think that their partner will be able to change for the better. It’s understandable – ending a relationship can be an extremely distressing experience, especially when you depend on your partner for emotional, financial or practical support, or you fear their reaction.

 

 

Life is too short

The hard-to-swallow truth is that life is far too short to waste spending time with the wrong person.Knowing if your partner is a good or bad presence in your life can be frustratingly hard to figure out, however – our brains can make it extremely hard to think clearly and rationally at times. We tend to focus more on the positives and less on the negatives, even if there’s more of them and even if they’re nothing short of awful to an outside observer. Love can be a powerful drug.

The same holds true for people dating or chasing a potential partner. If they’re not being consistent with you, if they’re on and off, or hot and cold – just walk away. Best case scenario, they like you and are playing mind games (something which just isn’t done by emotionally mature people), and worst case – they’re just not that into you. Regardless, if someone isn’t willing to be open and honest about their feelings, to talk about things in an adult and mature manner, then you’re almost certainly better off without them.

 

How to tell if your partner is right for you

If you can’t be yourself – your true self, around them. If they ever intentionally make you feel nervous or scared, or if they think little about you and your feelings before they make decisions that affect you. If they’re ever callous or cruel towards you, or disrespectful. If they don’t put equal effort and commitment in to the relationship – if it’s unbalanced. If any of these things are true about your relationship, the truth is that they’re probably just not right for you.

 

 

If they’re not? Walk away

Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t deserve you, or to chase someone who doesn’t see how special you are. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone learns from them. Don’t wait around for a change that may or may not ever come. Live your life for you. Don’t beg, don’t give in to the feeling that you can’t make it alone and that you need someone else in your life to be happy. Walk away.

 

Written by Maverick, Staff writter.

5 Comments

  1. Deepak August 8, 2018 Reply

    Thank you

  2. Rosemarie Martin August 9, 2018 Reply

    Great Article. Being 67, single, no family, or many support systems,I stayed i a toxic relationship for 6 yrs. Out if it 2 years. IT took up to now, to actually see that it was him, the silent treatment, the me,me, me, the bouts of anger, the inability to move outside his comfort area. He never took me on a Date, it was maybe a lunch.
    He was ironically the love of my life, as in, I never loved this hard before, so after I left, I became physically ill and suffered bad depressions. I am still lonely today, but now want nothing to do with him. So many people of my age are more vulnerable in a relationship as breaking up can mean loneliness. Especially if you did not socialise in anyway with others [thanks to him] during the relationship. He is arrogant and actually phoned a week ago to say he was depressed. He has not phoned since and I am going to try and block the phone or say ‘This has run it’s course, I am worth more’ let him think I still love him, who cares.

  3. Galiena Cokk August 9, 2018 Reply

    Amen. I wish I would’ve been able to walk away and let go months ago. What a breakthrough it is to finally have some peace..

  4. Angela October 20, 2018 Reply

    I was in a relationship for 8 years were he was constantly me me me. No matter what I did it was never good enough. He strung me along with false promises of marriage and happy ever after but was a coward all along as he had commitment issues. Tired of going round in circles with the same lies I put a stone on my heart and walked away. It’s been a year now and he carries on as if I never existed in his life. I know it’s the right decision I made as no one deserves to be strung along or treated like that but I still find it tough and find myself trying to look for answers as to why he was like that, was it my fault or could I have done things differently. I invested more into the relationship than him as I believed he was the love of my life and we were meant to be together so this could be why I still feel the pain even after a year.

  5. Gretchen October 29, 2018 Reply

    I’m 57, unemployable with no foreseeable means of self sustenance. My home is paid for but the taxes and monthly bills are far beyond me. So, how do I?

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