To encourage you to keep going.
To remind you to be strong.

Published on January 25, 2020 in Blog1, Picture Quotes, Revive
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Dear Ex, Thank You For Making Me Realize I Deserve Better.

 

There’s a lot of things that I regret about the time that we spent together. I regret all of the times that you made me feel worthless, like no one could ever love me. I regret giving you so much of my love, effort, commitment, and some of the best years of my life, when you gave me so little in return. I regret the way I let you manipulate me, driving a wedge between me and my family and friends and convincing me that I was the problem and that you were perfect. 
You were bullying, controlling, and narcissistic. I was naïve, afraid, and desperate for love and affection. When we met, I was happy, optimistic, and full of excitement at what the future could hold. I felt like I could do anything, like the world was my oyster. When I left you, I was broken, confused, and depressed; being with you wore me down into a shadow of my former self. 
But even after all of that, after all I’ve suffered, I still don’t completely regret our relationship. In fact, in a way I’m grateful for it. It might have been one of the worst experiences of my life, but it made me who I am today. The strongest metals have to be forged in the hottest fires, and god knows how much stronger I am now. 
Now, I’m on the right path. I know myself, and I’ll never let anyone treat me anything like the way you did ever again. I might have been nearly swallowed up by darkness, but now I’ve been reborn. I pushed my way through all of the conflict, the manipulation, the gaslighting and the putdowns and I’ve come out on the other side a better person; not just happier, but more compassionate, more empathetic, and more loving. 
Because you didn’t break me – although you tried your best. You wore me down and bent me out of shape, but you never quite managed to snap me. Now, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and it’s all because of the lessons I learned from being with you. 
So, thank you for the memories. They might not be pretty ones, but they’ve taught me a lot. That’s why I don’t regret being with you – because you showed me how much more I deserve.

Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©


11 Comments

  1. Petya January 26, 2020 Reply

    It is so irrelevant, nothing to do with us.We are lovable , gentle creatures.But we have issues like everyone else.Nobody is perfect! No am I, but i try to give you my all, despite what i am loosing in the process…sometimes my heart, sometimes my mind.It’s not easy for me either i just don’t give up…that’s how strong i feel with you.

  2. Petya January 26, 2020 Reply

    My comment doesn’t show up on the page?just one thing more-it is good that you learned and i know you did, i see the result and i would never believe you are able to love if i didn’t see it!

  3. Anna January 26, 2020 Reply

    I can totally relate. Well said.

  4. Beth February 1, 2020 Reply

    I almost thought I wrote this! I have said these words over the last 3 years!

  5. Natali February 1, 2020 Reply

    I would say, ‘Dear ex, thank you for leaving me. It only opened up my eyes to see things that I never saw before you left,’

  6. zar ordona February 2, 2020 Reply

    its a pity that persons who feel they were manipulated or used actually are the ones guilty of what had happened to their relationship because they expect so much in return. a true love if your really in love does not expect something in return rather they give more because their love has no bounderies or limits.

    • Natali February 8, 2020 Reply

      It’s a pity to see that person who claim they can give more than they receive, are indeed dying of getting more but they rather mask their desperate need for getting more by way of giving.
      It’s pretty bizarre !
      Real love is never about giving and getting..

  7. Natali February 5, 2020 Reply

    Also, it is a blessing from the skies that I am finally awakened. So I would say,’ dear ex, thank you for abandoning me . It allowed me to become the most resilient, yet tender woman. ‘

  8. Natali February 23, 2020 Reply

    ‘ dear ex, Thank you for being the coward that you have been towards me. May you spend every second of your dependent life being haunted for all the heartache you put me through.’

  9. Natali February 29, 2020 Reply

    I have already put the name of this Psychopath down as ‘Scoundrel ‘.

    Sometimes the best names given to us are the names given by others, not necessarily the name given by his sperm and egg donors. A total ghetto from hell!

  10. Mz.K March 5, 2020 Reply

    Wwwwow. I recently went through a relationship with a man who had a narcissistic personality disorder. The sentiments in this letter expressed my thoughts exactly. Reading uplifting and encouraging things like this, influenced me to gave up revenge for forgiveness. After many years, I’m back at that peaceful, happy place in my life called self confidence and perseverance. I will never settle or be gased into love again! This experience was exactly what I needed to mature and grow into the beautiful, loving woman I’ve become. I learned to love the unlovable and withstand a force that was out to destroy me mentally, emotionally, financially, socially and spiritually! God’s Grace and Mercy saved me! GOD equipped me with the strength and endurance to come out victorious! Life goes on and I still believe in Love! Thank you ex for the valuable lesson that allowed me to pass another test in life.

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