“Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

“Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone. But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore. I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you? It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning. The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.”
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  1. An excellent post to ponder, thank you! For a few friends of mine, this post applies 100%. They definitely have no place for someone else at their side. They are enough for themselves, have fun to get dressed up and chase new sexpicks. You are completely right, the love of family and friends is completely underestimated, because it is definitely enough to be happy. Nevertheless, this does not apply to me. I do not need a flicker of heart, pain and love. And I do not need any activity from the world, that I am sexy, but that I am a great person, because I do great things. I would like to have a soul-mate at the side with whom I blindly understand myself, which gives me enough space so that I can make my projects, which is always by my side. I will definitely not be old alone!

  2. “I’d rather be nowhere on the list than last on list with (optional) in brackets,”she’s no one” instead of “its complicated”. Thank u but I’d rather not! ShaakieraS 13

  3. 🙂 i recently gather all my lost ,damaged through the years files.I remember small insights from the past,fills me up with positivity..absolutely astonishing

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