Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

“Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone. But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore. I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you? It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning. The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.”
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  1. Honestly, I do not care what others say. I’m too old for things likee this now. It always did not matter to me whether a girl was “hip” or not, I have always liked the people who were not the center of attention. And a man is a man, when the head is no longer in the puberty. Whether someone has sex or not is as interesting as if someone folds or crinkles toilet paper … it has nothing to say! Relationships do not have to make you happy and friendships can be much deeper. That’s right. Is a love “realer” if neither sex nor a date is desired …. may be, but this is only bearable for those who actually want to carry out their love only in the head. In my opinion, these are two different things. Two different kindd of loves.
    And the physical love and passion to feel the warmth of others and the actual presence. The liabilities to be physically there when needed. Taking care when the other one is ill, when the other needs help, just growing old honest and loving together, that’s one thing I never want to miss, because it is the most beautiful thing a life has to offer, when it’s the one right person.
    Such love must grow, the other love that you speak about is simply there, because souls want it.

  2. I have been in a 23 years relationship. I have been thinking if I will meet someone in the near future. A companion, after reading this inspiring message. My kids, siblings, friends are giving me all the love I need.

  3. Without genuine unconditional self acceptance, most of what passes for “love” is some form of compulsive striving to gain validation and affirmation from external sources. To love and accept another without conditions or limits is beautiful and rare because few of us turn that inward first.

  4. No you do not have to be in a relationship, but it sure makes survival alot easier when you have each other to depend on.All of those friends and non immediate family members have other responsibilities to take care of in thier own lives and often its immpossible for them to be there for you.It’s better to share your responsibilities with someone else.At least for me, I also prefer someone to cuddle with at night.

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