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Published on November 10, 2018 in Quotes

6 Actionable Ways to Overcome Cycles of Negativity

It’s easy to get caught up in a cycle of negativity. When everything seems to be broken or life seems to be going against you. What do you do? How do you overcome? I recently received an email asking just that, maybe you can relate?
“How did you deal with your negative thoughts day to day? Like I am underpaid, looking for a new job but I keep finding jobs in places that are so expensive and the salary isn’t worth it. I feel stuck. It feels stressful but I try to stay positive. Some days are more difficult. How did you get through those days?”
So how do you get through those days? Aside from your physical circumstances which can or cannot be controlled; it’s your mindset that needs to be controlled and adjusted. Take a look at how you view your life. Is it through a negative lens? If so, it’s effecting you and most likely those closest to you.
Think of it this way, I recently wrote an article for a publication; I was writing a section on “self-talk” and how important it is to feed your mind with positive thoughts and how it’s only a matter of time before your reality matches your self-talk.
The last line I wrote was this:  Stop telling yourself you can’t do it. After editing it, here’s how I changed that line to be more positive:  Start telling yourself you can do it.
Now this doesn’t seem like a huge difference but that subtle change can mentally alter your drive to be proactive. Your level of motivation to fight through and see the positive develops. Here are some practical ways for you to start building healthy habits in order to overcome cycles of negativity and push to see the positive!
  1. Focus on the positive
For some, this may be a minute by minute struggle. It’s about recognizing the negative thoughts and replacing them with something positive. Everyone knows the old saying, “seeing the glass half full” gradually you will build the positive habit.
  1. Remind yourself how fortunate you are (no matter how small)
If you are reading this you can see. You are breathing. Do you have a family, a wife, a husband, or kids? Are you healthy? Do you have a roof over your head and food on the table?
  1. Realize there is a lesson in every struggle
No matter the circumstance, the best way to say it is “grow through what you go through.” The lesson may be internal (patience, self-control, discipline) or maybe it’s external (avoid this or that, whether someone is trustworthy) or most of the time, both.
  1. Continue to develop yourself and continue learning and growing
If you are continuously self-developing, you are empowering yourself with a wider range of options. Limited knowledge limits opportunities. The more you learn and grow, the better you can see and leverage multiple options and opportunities. It will help you to quickly adapt and overcome negative situations and not be stuck in a downward cycle.
  1. Put yourself on a time out. We all need a breather or a break in the daily “rat race.” Setting aside daily meditation or quiet time.
  1. Surround yourself with people who support you and desire to see you grow. If you are continuously around negative people then negativity will be your influence.  Find people that live positive habits.
Remember, all seasons have an ending. Humans can withstand pretty much anything knowing that the season will not last forever. Be patient with yourself. It’s not likely you will reprogram your mind in a day, week or even a month. What matters is your continued effort to redirect and reprogram your mind and healthy habits are being established.
Deinno O’Keefe, Traveler, Digital Influencer, Soldier, and Founder of, a movement out of San Diego, CA empowering people to live epic lives.
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Deinno is a San Diego-based entrepreneur and life coach, with an MBA
from Marywood University and is currently serving his second tour with the U.S. Army 
in Afghanistan.  He is the founder of One Life Epic, a movement designed to empower 
people to live mentally epic lives through concepts such as getting out of your comfort 
zone, being confident in your identity, overcoming fear and maintaining a healthy 
and fit lifestyle. 


  1. Tammy Morrison November 10, 2018 Reply

    I need help due to negativity as I’m going through so much crap n I went from negative to positive… But the job I do people have turned on me and I don’t no where to turn anymore 😢😢😢😕

  2. Gabriel November 11, 2018 Reply

    Thank you, that was God timing right there!!

  3. Ashley Brenneman November 11, 2018 Reply

    Great post Deinno! Needed that today! Thank you for all you do! 🙏🏼

  4. Cheryl January 5, 2019 Reply

    Yes ask for more positive in your life pray an do what you can to get it in small steps be realistic sometime change is what help it happen

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