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Archive for January, 2020

  • January 25, 2020
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    Dear Ex, Thank You For Making Me Realize I Deserve Better.

     

    There’s a lot of things that I regret about the time that we spent together. I regret all of the times that you made me feel worthless, like no one could ever love me. I regret giving you so much of my love, effort, commitment, and some of the best years of my life, when you gave me so little in return. I regret the way I let you manipulate me, driving a wedge between me and my family and friends and convincing me that I was the problem and that you were perfect. 
    You were bullying, controlling, and narcissistic. I was naïve, afraid, and desperate for love and affection. When we met, I was happy, optimistic, and full of excitement at what the future could hold. I felt like I could do anything, like the world was my oyster. When I left you, I was broken, confused, and depressed; being with you wore me down into a shadow of my former self. 
    But even after all of that, after all I’ve suffered, I still don’t completely regret our relationship. In fact, in a way I’m grateful for it. It might have been one of the worst experiences of my life, but it made me who I am today. The strongest metals have to be forged in the hottest fires, and god knows how much stronger I am now. 
    Now, I’m on the right path. I know myself, and I’ll never let anyone treat me anything like the way you did ever again. I might have been nearly swallowed up by darkness, but now I’ve been reborn. I pushed my way through all of the conflict, the manipulation, the gaslighting and the putdowns and I’ve come out on the other side a better person; not just happier, but more compassionate, more empathetic, and more loving. 
    Because you didn’t break me – although you tried your best. You wore me down and bent me out of shape, but you never quite managed to snap me. Now, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, and it’s all because of the lessons I learned from being with you. 
    So, thank you for the memories. They might not be pretty ones, but they’ve taught me a lot. That’s why I don’t regret being with you – because you showed me how much more I deserve.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • January 24, 2020
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    Being Alone Is Better Than Settling For The Wrong Person.

     

    Nobody wants to end up on their own. The creeping feeling of fear and dread that comes with the thought of getting old and dying alone is familiar to everyone. This anxiety about the future can be bad enough on its own, but it’s made even worse by the feeling we get in the present when we’re all alone and it feels like nobody knows or even cares that we exist. 
    It’s at times like this, such as when we’re lying awake at night alone in our beds, when we’re at our most emotionally vulnerable; it’s at times like this when we begin to think that perhaps it wouldn’t be so bad to message that ex, or to take another swing at online dating, or to settle for that person that we know deep down isn’t right for us.
    We all crave love – not just any love, but real, true, deep love. Vibrant, intense, unconditional love – the kind of love that most of us only see in the movies, the kind of love that we can only dream of. We all want to experience the kind of love we know would allow us to cope with even the most difficult of circumstances, the kind that helps us to keep going even when we’re exhausted and a hair’s width away from giving up completely. We all want to find someone who will love us with all of their being, someone who will accept us in our entirety and cherish us exactly the way we are. 
    We want all of that. We want it more than we’ve ever wanted anything. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. 
    The thing is, our craving for this feeling can cloud our judgement. It can make us reckless and hasty, causing us to rush into situations that we might not have found ourselves in if we’d only taken the time to think things through a bit more.
    All too often, our desire to find love and avoid being alone leads us into the trap of getting into a relationship with someone who isn’t right for us. The thing is, being in a relationship for the sake of it can never make us happy; it will only make us miserable. True happiness comes from within, not from outside. We cannot expect other people to make us feel any different to how we feel deep inside. No one can ever fill the void inside of us; we have to learn to do that ourselves. 
    Being with someone who isn’t quite right for us to avoid being alone might seem like a somewhat sensible decision at first, but this isn’t the case. In the long term, we only end up feeling more lonely, more lost, and more desperate to find the love that we so badly want. It’s far better to be alone than it is to settle for second-best. 
    Deep down in our hearts, each of us knows that. We know it when we look at the person we’re with and feel a sharp pang of pain and regret. We know it when they seem distant and disinterested, more focused on themselves than they ever could be on the relationship. We know it when they don’t meet our energy or make us laugh, and when they tell us our quirks and eccentricities are annoying or weird rather than accepting us for who we are and seeing our true beauty. We know it when we lie awake at night, with a warm body right there in bed next to us but feeling as though we’re completely alone.
    It’s far better to be alone than to endure all of this. And it’s only then, when we finally become comfortable with our own company, when we finally learn to embrace ourselves completely, that it all comes together and we find that person who we’ve been looking for all along. And then we laugh, because we realize that the happiness and contentment that we’d been searching for in the form of another person was like looking for the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. We see that we had it inside of us all along, and that we didn’t need anyone else to get it.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • January 23, 2020
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    Life is not about being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It’s about being real, humble, and kind.

  • January 21, 2020
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    Until you have buried someone you love, you won’t understand how hard a Holiday, Death Day, Birthday, or any other day is without them.

  • January 20, 2020
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    Never stop praying. Don’t quit. Miracles happen every day, so never stop believing. God can change things very quickly in your life.