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Archive for November, 2019

  • November 29, 2019

    Read This When You Feel Lonely And Forgotten About.


    Being human is such an incredibly strange experience. We often find ourselves feeling lonely, isolated, and cut off from others, even though at the exact same time we withdraw more and more from social situations. We crave our solitude and time alone, while simultaneously wishing that people cared about us more or showed us how much we mean to them. We wish that they would check up on us and show that they want to hang out and spend time with us, but push them away and close ourselves off when they do. Sometimes it feels like to be human is to be caught in a constant double bind.
    We all need social interaction; it’s a fundamental part of our basic physiological needs, along with food, water, sleep, and shelter. It doesn’t matter how introverted or antisocial we might feel at times – loneliness affects us all much more than we might think it does. It causes us physical and psychological damage. It stresses us out, and when we feel it for a prolonged period of time it can even shorten our lives.
    We need social contact just like we need to breathe. But because our need to socialize and interact with others isn’t as obvious, it appears to us be something elusive – it lacks substance, and therefore we overlook it and take it for granted. Many people feel weak and pathetic for craving the company of others. They think that they should be able to weather the storm alone, like a strong person can. The truth is that you’re not weak for desiring contact with other people. You’re human.
    When we go for long periods of time without speaking to anyone, we begin to feel odd, almost as if we don’t really exist. We feel as though we’re easily overlooked and forgotten about, like we’ve been left by the wayside and everyone has moved on without us.
    The truth is, we want to feel cared about. We want to feel like our lives have meaning, that we matter to the people around us. When we feel alone, these things disappear. We get the sense that we could vanish into thin air and no one would notice or care. 
    You matter. Your life, your presence on this earth is important. It’s more important than you could ever conceive. In the same way that you depend on this whole universe in order to exist, the whole universe depends on you. Without your specific consciousness, the universe wouldn’t be manifested in the way that it is. 
    Often, although we feel isolated and completely cut off from everyone else, there are people who love and care about us far more than we might realize. We tend to overlook and push these people aside mentally, because the people we want to care about us are the ones who don’t seem to even notice that we’re there. We get tunnel vision, and lose sight of the forest because we’re focused on the trees.
    Even when it feels like there truly is no one on this earth who cares about you or would notice if you disappeared, look at it this way; you’re free. You’re completely free to be whoever you want, right now, in this moment. You’re free to live whatever kind of life that you please, free to forge yourself a future full of love, laughter, and happiness. Just because it seems like no one cares about you right now doesn’t mean that no one ever will. Just because no one sees the beauty and depth inside of you right now doesn’t mean that it isn’t there. Someone will see it, and sooner than you think.
    All you need to do is live your life. That’s it. That’s all there is to it. It doesn’t matter what others think of you, as long as you’re living on your terms. Not everyone has to like or agree with you, as long as you’re happy in your own skin and doing your own thing. 
    Focusing on yourself is the most important thing, and when you feel like you have no one in your life is the perfect time to do this. You don’t have to worry about anyone else. You can focus entirely on yourself. You can work on your strengths and build yourself up to reach a more satisfied and content place in your life, and find out what it means to be happy on your own terms without worrying about how other people fit into things.
    When you’re happy to be you, a strange change occurs in the way that people interact with you. Your inner peace and calm radiates out and attracts people to you. You find that rather than feeling like you need to prove yourself to people, they already see all of the brilliant things that make you you.
    No matter how dark things get or how hopeless things seem, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and a whole new experience around the corner. The one constant in this universe is change; things won’t always be like this. 
    If you can see things that way, then you can endure, no matter how lonely you are.
    Remember, the opinion of yourself that matters the most is your own. Be kind to yourself; it’s not easy being human.
    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • November 26, 2019

    If you have the power to make someone happydo it. The world needs more of that.

  • November 23, 2019

    The Difference Between Dating A Boy And Dating A Man.

    I’m not talking about age, here. I’ve met plenty of men who were mature in years but immature in their mindset. Maturity in this context refers to a state of mind, a standard of personal and emotional development that sets certain men apart from others.
    So many women make the mistake of dating men who have childish, insecure mentalities, and end up going through unnecessary drama as a result of it.
    If you’re the kind of woman who at all respects herself and takes her happiness and quality of life seriously, then you should make sure that you don’t waste your time on immature guys. 
    Here are ten reasons why it’s better to date men who are emotionally developed and mentally mature:


    They’re protective, but not possessive – there’s a common misconception that the more controlling a guy is of you, the more he cares about you. This couldn’t be further from the truth; if he truly cared about you, he’d know that he can’t control you, and he wouldn’t even want to try in the first place.
    True maturity in love is about understanding that loving someone means knowing that you have to let them be free. To try and possess the person you’re with is to strangle and restrict them; you need to let them fly. A mature guy knows this. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you – he’s still protective. He doesn’t have the desire to own you, however. He knows that to love means to give away, and that includes giving away any sense of control over the person that you’re with.
    When they tell you that they love you, they mean it – a guy who’s mature and knows himself won’t tell you that he loves you unless he really means it. He understands the intensity and depth of emotion that comes with love. He understands how much power is attached to the word, and how with this power comes responsibility. Mature men won’t use it as a weapon or tool to manipulate you; when they tell you they love you, it comes from a sincere and earnest place.
    They want to inspire you and build you up, not tear you down – with maturity comes the insight of what a relationship is all about; the bond that two people have with one another. With immature guys, this bond can very easily be toxic and full of resentment and envy. Your accomplishments and achievements only fuel their sense of failure and inferiority, and they take this out on you by putting you down in order to make themselves feel better. 
    With mature guys, however, this bond is a positive, wholesome, and mutually loving one. They see your accomplishments not as threatening or embarrassing to them, but inspiring and uplifting. They want the relationship that they have with you to be mutually uplifting and inspiring. They want to support you, and in turn be supported by you. They understand that together, you can push each other on to reach new heights of achievement, love, and happiness.
    They challenge you because they know that you can do better – a mature guy knows what you’re capable of. Rather than being strict or overbearing, though, they simply help you to look at your problems from different perspectives and encourage you to rise to the obstacle and try to overcome it. They push you to be the best version of yourself possible, because they know deep down just how much you’re truly capable of.
    They’re as feminist as you are – immature guys are likely to view feminism as a reactionary movement full of shrill offended women and ‘beta’ guys that want to signal how much of an ally to women they are in order to try and get laid. Mature men, however, understand that anyone with an ounce of common sense, compassion, and respect for other people considers themselves to be a feminist. This is because all feminism is really about is equality and treating people the same regardless of how they look or what sex they are. 
    They can talk about, manage, and process their own emotions – perhaps the most refreshing thing about dating mature guys is their ability to understand and process their own emotions. So many men seem to be totally unable to do this, which results in them bottling things up, dwelling on them, and become utterly corrupted and poisoned by their festering contempt and resentment of themselves and by extension others. 
    They own up when they make mistakes – mature guys aren’t afraid of making mistakes. They know that no one is perfect, and that if they always kept it straight they’d never learn. They embrace their mistakes, and see them as opportunities to develop and grow as people. They’re open when they do mess up, and they’re not too proud to hold their hands up and say that they got it wrong. Immature guys, however, are very likely to be virtually paralysed by the mistakes they make. In fact, they might be so ashamed to have messed up that they try to hide and bury their mistakes at all costs, which can only lead to lies, suspicion, defensiveness, and, ultimately, resentment. 
    A guy that’s mature, on the other hand, has a degree of insight into his own emotional state. He can regulate and control his emotions; he isn’t a slave to them. He understands that how he feels inside isn’t necessarily anyone’s fault, and that bottling his emotions up will only lead to them getting worse. He is therefore able to talk about how he feels, no matter how hard that might be. With a mature guy, you can sit and calmly discuss even the most difficult emotions without it spiralling into a huge fight where both sides resort to screaming out of sheer frustration and anger.
    They understand the importance of mutual trust – a truly mature man is someone who knows how fundamentally vital trust is to a relationship. Trust is the foundation and bedrock of any romantic relationship. Without it, you might as well be building on sand. Because mature men have this understanding, they know what they need to do to hold up their end of the mutual trust that the two of you need to build. They are open and honest, because they know that no matter how badly they mess up, without trust the two of you have nothing.
    They respect you, rather than taking you for granted – mature guys don’t see women as trophies or status symbols. They don’t just assume that you’ll always be there no matter how badly they treat you or overlook your needs and wants. Instead, they treat you like the human being that you are, with love and appreciation. They consider your feelings when they talk and when they act, and they know how lucky they are to have you in their life.
    If something’s important to you, it’s important to them – maturity means understanding that just because something may not particularly interest you doesn’t mean you should write it off completely. When you enjoy something and show interest and enthusiasm, a mature guy doesn’t just write it off. Rather, they show interest in it too. That’s because if it means something to you, then it means something to them. They want to get to know all of the things that you enjoy, regardless of how they might feel about them personally. Every aspect of your life and every interest that you have is another way for them to connect and bond with you, and that’s something that they’re always eager to do.


    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • November 20, 2019

    Respect your body when it’s asking for a break. Respect your mind when it’s seeking rest. Honor yourself when you need a moment to yourself.

  • November 19, 2019

    Learn to be ok with people not knowing your side of the story. You don’t have to prove ANYTHING to ANYONE.

  • November 18, 2019

    Sometimes you have to let things goso there’s room for better things to come into your life.

  • November 18, 2019

     Funny about getting olderyour eyesight may weaken yet you can see through people much better.

  • November 18, 2019

     Sometimes you need to stop seeing the good in people and start seeing what they show you.

  • November 17, 2019

    God, Please Give Me Strength On The Days I Feel I Can’t Go On.


    Sometimes, life feels like a perpetual struggle that I’m condemned to repeat. I push a boulder up a mountain all day, every day, only to have it roll back down every night. On and on I go, repeating the same monotonous routine, struggling just to live a life that I can enjoy and be proud of.
    To be honest, life feels like this more often than it ever feels like anything else.
    But what can I do? Is this all there is to it? Setback after setback? Failure after failure? Loss after loss? Every day presents me with a new list of reasons as to why I feel like I should just give up completely and throw in the towel. 
    Will the suffering ever end? Sometimes, it feels like it won’t. But what’s the point in going on living when it’s a drag? I climb every obstacle that is presented to me. I continue to follow my path, no matter how difficult it gets, because I know that one day it will all be worth it. But after each and every battle I fight, there seems to be another one waiting for me just around the corner. 
    So, I’m asking you. I’m begging you, God. I don’t want an easy life; I know that without pain and difficulty I wouldn’t know joy and happiness. I’m not asking for you to remove the obstacles from my path. All I want is for you to help me; give me the strength to keep going.
    I want to keep going. Truly, I do. I have a lot of love for life. It’s just hard when times get rough and I can’t see a way out to find the will to continue. To drag myself out of bed every morning, to go to work. Life feels like a cycle I’m caught in with no choice in the matter.
    So please, God. Please grant me the strength and determination to push through the difficult times and come out on the other side. I know that things won’t ever be all clear sailing for the rest of my life, but I just need some help to be able to weather the storms when they come. If I can do that, then I know I can hold on even in my darkest moments.
    Deep down, I know that it’s all worth it. I know that none of this would be happening if it wasn’t. Please, help me to remember that. Help me to see that there are always warmer and brighter days ahead, no matter how grey and cold things might seem now.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • November 16, 2019

    This Is The Only Way To Truly Find Out If Someone Is The

    ‘Love Of Your Life’

    Virtually every person you talk to has a different opinion about how to tell if the person you’re with is truly the love of your life. For some people, it’s how well you get on; how the chemistry feels between you. Others will say that it’s all about the sex, or what kind of a friendship you have underneath all of the romance.
    Perhaps the most common thing that people say to you when you’re young and confused by love is that you’ll ‘just know’ when you’re with the person who you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with. They say that you will have an overwhelming feeling that cues you in as to how special that person is, and you’ll know deep in your heart that you’ll be together forever. This is perhaps the most confusing of all, because as every person who felt deeply in love with someone and lost them understands, that feeling of ‘just knowing’ isn’t always reliable. 
    So, how can you tell if someone is really the love of your life, or just another passing face who you’ll love for a time and then part ways with? Well, I’ll tell you. 
    It’s not the person who you think ticks every box on your list. It’s not the person who makes you laugh all the time, or who tells you that you’re soulmates. While these are all great signs, they’re not enough for you to be sure.
    The love of your life is the one who enables you to become the best version of yourself possible. It’s the person who builds you up, who trusts you to be you, who supports you unconditionally. It’s the person who’s always honest with you, even when it hurts. It’s the person who recognizes the flaws in both of you, and is committed to the relationship anyway. 
    The love of your life is the person whose support for you never falters, no matter how choppy the seas get. They always believe in you, even when you don’t believe in yourself. They have your back through thick and thin, and inspire you to better yourself not for their sake, but for yours. 
    The love of your life is the person who doesn’t cling too tightly to you; not because they don’t love you, but because they know that in order to truly love someone, you have to be prepared to let them go. They know how important it is to be able to grow and flourish as a person, and they never want to hold you back from fulfilling your true potential. They want you to be happy, above anything else. And it’s precisely this mindset that allows you to stay together no matter what – because they’re real with you. Their love isn’t selfish. It isn’t for their own sake. It is pure, it is genuine, and it is true.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • November 15, 2019

    How To Tell If A Man Really Wants You


    Have you ever sat and stared out of the window while daydreaming about a guy that you like? Imagining the two of you finally embracing each other at last, imagining how it would feel to kiss him and know that he was yours? Do you wonder if he feels the same way about you? Do you wonder if he ever thinks about you, and whether or not he sees you as just a friend or someone he’d like to get to know even better?
    Well, you’re not alone. There are millions of women out there who are in exactly that position. They all have the same question at the forefront of their minds: Does he really want me?
    The difficulty in working out whether a man really wants you or not lies in how different men can be from one another. For some men, ‘getting the girl’ is all about the thrill of the chase and the adventure of the hunt. Their instincts and drives tell them to pursue women relentlessly. When it comes to these types of guys, it’s abundantly clear that they’re after you. They don’t hide it. They’ll stop at nothing to get you; no distance is too far, no obstacle is too high for them to climb. 
    Sometimes, this can be extremely flattering – particularly if you want them to want you. When it comes to guys that are too full on, though, too relentless, and unwilling to take ‘no’ for an answer, things can turn kind of stalker-y. An attitude to women that resembles a prey drive is all fun and games until it starts to become scary.
    A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that all guys are like this, but it’s just not the case. They assume that a ‘real’ man is someone who knows what he wants and will do whatever it takes to get it. That’s as narrow minded as saying that a ‘real’ woman is submissive and always lets guys initiate things; it’s just not how the real world works. There’s plenty of confident women out there who wouldn’t hesitate to let guys know that they like them. They’re no less ‘real’ than a woman who likes to let guys take the lead.
    The truth of the matter is that many guys are much more low-key, especially if they really like you. Yeah, they could run in with guns blazing and blatantly pursue you, but what if that scared you off? Not all guys will just go at it like a Neanderthal, grunting at you, badly flirting, and telling you what they want from you. In fact, guys that come on at you like this are much more likely to be after one thing, and one thing only (but not necessarily, of course). 
    A lot of guys are much more likely to play it cool, to think things through and take their time. If they really like you, they won’t want to mess things up. They won’t want you to think that they’re only after sex.
    So, how can you tell if a guy really likes you, then? Well, the truth is that it varies from individual to individual, but there are a number of things that tend to happen when a guy is interested that can give away how he feels. 
    Keep an eye out for the way he interacts with other people, especially other women. If he talks to you significantly more or significantly less than he does other women, or in a different way, there’s probably a reason for it. 
    Does he look at you a lot? Do you ever catch him staring at you? If you find he’s often looking at you, it’s unlikely to be because of something totally unrelated – he’s looking at you because he wants you. 
    Does he ever look nervous when he’s talking to you? Or on the other hand, does he ever look extremely relaxed? This cuts both ways; if he’s nervous around you and he isn’t around other women, there’s a reason for it. You make him nervous because he’s self-conscious and he wants you to like him. Likewise, if he’s relatively cool around other women but especially relaxed and playful around you, then it’s probably because he feels comfortable in your presence. He gets on well with you and enjoys your company more than he does others, which is a good sign that he likes you.
    Ultimately, telling if a guy really wants you comes down to your intuition. You have to go with your gut instinct. There’s no way to tell for sure what’s going on in someone’s head, so you have to just trust what your heart says.
    This can be frustrating, but it’s simply part of the game of love and life. It’s exciting to be unsure, to be playing the game of ‘does he, or doesn’t he?’. If you can learn to look at things this way, you’ll open yourself up to a whole new world of romantic possibilities. Trust your gut; it’s the only way you’ll have a chance of working out how a guy really feels about you.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • November 15, 2019

    “When the right person hugs you, it’s like medicine. I’m so grateful for those few people in my life who are good for my soul.” ― Steve Maraboli.

  • November 14, 2019

    Nobody’s perfect. We make mistakes. We say wrong things. We do wrong things. We fall. We get up. We learn.  We grow. We move on.

  • November 14, 2019

    A person who trusts no one now, once trusted someone too much.

  • November 13, 2019

    Only people who are not happy with themselves are mean to others.

  • November 12, 2019

    I smile because I have survived everything the world has thrown at me. I smile because when I was knocked down, I got back up.

  • November 12, 2019

    Anti-Inflammatory Coconut and Sweet Potato Muffins with Ginger, Turmeric, Cinnamon, and Maple Syrup

    The idea that delicious baked goods can also be a healthy snack is extremely satisfying.

    Try to avoid the traditional inflammatory ingredients like processed grains, refined sugars, vegetable oils, and trans fat.

    If you’re able to replace them with anti-inflammatory ingredients that are rich in nutrients, you will end up with a healthy and tasty snack.

    The recipe below contains a large amount of sweet potatoes or yams, which are very nutritious and a great source of antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals.

    According to the San Diego-based nutritionist Laura Flores:

    “Sweet potatoes are high in vitamin A, vitamin B5, B6, thiamin, niacin, riboflavin, and, due to their orange color, are high in carotenoids.

    Plus, they’re fat-free, relatively low in sodium and have fewer calories than white potatoes — although they do have more sugar.”

    Also, “due to the color-pigmented vitamins, sweet potatoes are high in anti-inflammatory benefits.

    Flores explains:

    “Sweet potatoes — unlike other starchy foods that elevate blood sugar rapidly after [they’re consumed] due to their metabolism into sugar — will help steady the levels of blood sugar.”

    On the other hand, coconut flour is a healthy substitute for regular flour that regulates cholesterol, while turmeric and ginger fight inflammation, lower cancer risk, fight bacteria, and prevent viruses.

    Coconut milk contains healthy medium-chain fatty acids that can increase metabolism and support weight loss.

    It is also abundant in vitamins and minerals, like vitamins C, E, and B-complex, iron, selenium, calcium, magnesium, and phosphorus.


    • 1 small organic sweet potato, roasted
    • ¾ cup organic coconut milk
    • 2 tbsp. organic olive oil
    • 3 tbsp. ground flaxseed in ½ cup of water
    • 1 cup organic brown rice flour
    • ¼ cup organic coconut flour
    • ½ cup pure maple syrup or unpasteurized honey
    • 1 tbsp. aluminum-free baking powder
    • ½ tsp. Himalayan salt
    • ⅛ tsp ground nutmeg
    • 1 tsp ground turmeric
    • ⅛ tsp ground cloves
    • 1 tbsp. Ground cinnamon
    • 1 tsp ground ginger


    Preheat the oven to 400F. Make several holes in the skin of the sweet potato using a skewer, and place it on a baking tray.

    Cook for an hour. When cool, cut the sweet potato in half, scoop out the insides, and put them in a large bowl.

    Add flaxseed, coconut milk, olive oil, and maple syrup. Mix the dry ingredients in another bowl, and add them to the previous mixture.

    Grease a muffin tray with coconut oil, pour the batter evenly, and cook for about half an hour.

    Next step, enjoy!

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  • November 10, 2019

    I never wanted a perfect relationship. I just want someone to try as hard as I do.


    Time and time again, it’s the same old story. People say that I expect too much, that I can’t reasonably expect to find perfection, that I have to learn to settle for someone who is just ‘good enough’.
    But what those people don’t seem to understand is that it’s not about perfection. It never has been. I don’t need perfection. I don’t need someone to be perfect for them to be enough for me. 
    All I’m asking for – all I’ve ever asked for – is for someone who will love me as much as I love them. Someone who brings the same commitment, the same enthusiasm, the same energy to the relationship that I bring.
    I don’t care about presents, candlelit dinners, or big grand gestures. I don’t need any of that. I’ve never cared about finding someone who will ‘tick’ all of the right boxes, or someone who will make a big show of things, or put me up on a pedestal, or worship me. That doesn’t appeal to me at all.
    All I need is someone who I have a deep and genuine connection with. Someone who’s willing to put as much effort in to making things work as I am. Someone who will listen to me like I will listen to them, someone who cares as much about me as I do about them.
    I want to be able to trust the person I’m with completely. I want to know that they have my back, and that they always will. I want them to trust me. I want someone whose arms I can fall asleep at night, safe and sound, knowing that they’ll be there in the morning, that they’ll love me just as much, that they’ll laugh at my terrible jokes and at the goofy faces I pull.
    I want real love; I want a real, genuine bond. I want to be with someone for whom I’m their first choice, not second best. I want someone who loves me for me, who shows me they care.
    I know that perfection isn’t possible. I know that every relationship gets rocky from time to time. That’s why I want someone who is as willing to make things work, as ready to go the distance as I am. I want someone who I can depend on, who knuckles down when things get tough, rather than running away. I want someone with whom I can talk honestly and maturely about the problems we face. I want someone who knows what it takes to make it work.
    Because I don’t want a perfect relationship. I just want something real. I want someone who loves me as much as I love them.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • November 9, 2019

    We’re Living In An Age Where People Have Forgotten The Importance Of Physical Touch.

    In this day and age, when the people we love and care about most are only ever a FaceTime away, it can be easy to forget just how important it is to our happiness and wellbeing to be touched. Often, we overlook this; for many of us, physical touch is something that we take totally for granted, especially if we’re involved in intimate and romantic relationships. For a lot of people, however, physical touch is something that is received far less frequently than they need to feel happy and secure in the close interpersonal relationships that they have.
    Increasingly, physical touch is a less and less frequent occurrence in many people’s lives, despite it being vital for a person’s emotional wellbeing. Without regular physical contact with the people that we’re close to, our mental health can begin to suffer. A lack of physical touch can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, loneliness, and isolation.
    The human touch is vital, and yet millions of people all across the world don’t get enough of it. The saddest part is that it doesn’t need to be much, either – a simple gentle pat or touch on the shoulder or arm is enough for most people to feel socially included, and yet this is a less and less common occurrence today.
    The reasons for the decrease in physical touch in the modern era are numerous and complicated. For one thing, the changing attitude of society as to what is and isn’t acceptable to do with regards to intruding on a person’s personal space, particularly in the case of strangers or people that you don’t know well, has resulted in many people feeling hesitant to touch others unless they have their express permission. While this is far from unreasonable to expect from people that aren’t well acquainted, this can spill over into the closer relationships of people’s lives, therefore having a knock-on effect that can affect various aspects of our interpersonal relationships.
    The present dialogue around boundaries and consent is important, but for many people it’s doing far more harm than good. It’s gotten to the point where common sense and practicality is ignored because we’re afraid of overstepping the mark and being called out for it on social media. When we can’t show each other compassion, kindness, and caring in a physical way, we suffer because of it. 
    The internet is filled with stories of this nature. Teachers who are afraid to help children who have fallen because they don’t want to be accused of overstepping a line. Foster parents who are advised not to show their foster kids much physical affection. Strangers who feel awkward about going in for a handshake or a hug, basic human gestures of greeting, when they’re introduced to someone new. 
    We’re an extremely social species. We thrive off of interaction with each other, and even the most quiet and introverted among us can’t go long without it. The lack of physical touch that many of us experience is something of a crisis. In a world that seems to be getting crazier every day, we need more than ever to learn that it is okay to touch each other; we need to feel connected once more, to feel a genuine bond with our fellow humans.
    We need to remember the importance of physical touch.
    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • November 8, 2019

    Before You Cheat On Her Know This.

    So, you’re thinking about cheating on her, or you’ve already made your decision and you’re just trying to put up an acceptable argument to yourself about it so that if everything goes wrong you can turn around and say it wasn’t what you really wanted.
    Why are you with her in the first place? If you want someone else that badly, then why not just break up with her first? Why do you have to betray her? 
    Let me tell you something about what will happen if you cheat on her.
    You will tear her heart in two. You will burn everything she thinks she knows about life and love to the ground, and leave her kneeling, heartbroken and distraught amongst the ashes. You won’t just hurt her; you will break her. You will leave her with a deep and horrible wound, one that will take years of self-exploration and positive personal growth to even begin to fully heal. Is that really what you want to do? Does sex with someone else really matter enough to you to do that to another human being, someone you supposedly love?
    You see, you won’t just break the trust she has in you. You will break her trust for everyone who will ever love her again. Because if someone she loves as much as you, someone who loves her as much as she thinks you do can hurt her like that, then who’s to say that another person won’t? How is she supposed to be able to trust anyone ever again?
    She won’t sleep. She won’t eat for days. She won’t be able to crack a genuine smile or laugh until it hurts for months. Every night she lies awake, your betrayal, your absence will be on her mind. Every bite she tries to eat will be tainted by the memories she has of eating with you, of what you meant to her, of what you still mean to her, of what you did, of how she wasn’t enough for you. 
    But she still won’t hate you for what you did to her. She will place that blame on herself instead. She will wonder endlessly and obsessively why she wasn’t enough for you. She will compare herself to every other woman she meets, wondering what she could have done different, what she could have done to save the relationship she had with you. 
    She’ll ask herself why she couldn’t make you love her like she loves you. She’ll wonder whether she could have done more, if she could have paid you more attention, if she could have loved you better. She’ll cry quietly in the moments she gets by herself to be alone with her thoughts, wishing that you were still the person she’d thought you were all along.
    Everything you’ve ever said to her will become null and void. All of the promises, all of the times you called her beautiful, incredible, and amazing – all of those memories will crumble to ash. She won’t believe them anymore, because obviously you didn’t mean it. If you’d meant it when you called her all of those things, when you flattered her with your words, then you wouldn’t have cheated on her. 
    It will take her years to believe that someone is telling the truth when they tell her that they think she’s beautiful, that she’s inspiring, that they love her. Because you won’t just destroy the relationship you have with her, you will destroy her self-worth. You’ll destroy her ability to love, her ability to trust, her ability to open herself up to another person. 
    When you love someone, you make yourself vulnerable to them. You let your guard down, you let them in close where they can hurt you. You give them the power to destroy you, to rip your heart out, and you simply have to trust that they love you and wouldn’t do anything to hurt you. When the person you let yourself be vulnerable with turns around and betrays you, it’s hard to imagine ever being that vulnerable again. What’s the point? You’ll only get hurt once more. And so you seal yourself off, you put up more walls and barriers, and remove yourself from being close to others. That’s the legacy you stand to leave from cheating. That’s what will happen to her.
    So, why are you planning to cheat on her, anyway? What do you stand to gain from betraying the person that you’re supposed to love?
    If you don’t love her anymore, or if you never did, then why cheat? Why cause her the heartbreak of having to find out that you weren’t who she thought you were? Do the right thing, and leave her. At least have the balls to confront the reality of breaking up with her if you don’t want her.
    If you think you’ll get away with it and you want a bit of fun on the side while staying with her, ask yourself how you’d feel if you knew that she’d cheated on you. Put yourself in her shoes, and ask yourself how much you really love her if you’re willing to throw everything your relationship stands for under the bus for the chance to sleep with someone else. 
    Putting all that aside, you won’t be able to keep it a secret forever. No matter how little you may feel it will bother you right now, just wait until the months roll by and she keeps telling you how much she loves you, how much you mean to her, how proud she is to call you hers. You’ll feel the guilt gnawing at your gut. You’ll dream about her finding out. You’ll wake up in cold sweats, wishing you could take it all back. Is that what you really want?
    If you’re lucky enough to have an amazing woman by your side who loves you with all her heart and would do anything for you, why would you throw it all away? Do you even understand how lucky you really are?
    If you don’t really love her, let her go. She deserves far more than you. And if you’re genuinely thinking of cheating on her, you don’t really love her.
    Not like she loves you.
    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • November 4, 2019

    With the right person, you don’t have to work so hard to be happy, it just happens.