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Archive for September, 2019

  • September 29, 2019

    Check up on your strong friend. They’re usually the one bleeding in silence.


    She sits alone by the window, with the weight of the world pressing down on her shoulders. She picks up her phone and reads her messages, but not one of them asks her if she’s okay. 

    She’s always checking up on people, but no one ever seems to realize that she might need help too. She appears strong because of how much she cares, because of how often she’s there for the people who need her. But deep inside, she’s crumbling, and no one even seems to notice. 

    She needs help, but there’s no one there to give it to her.

    She doesn’t respond as much to the messages she gets, anymore. She stays home more often. Her life shrinks in on her, until it’s all she can do to drag herself to work and back every day. People say that they miss her, that they haven’t seen her in ages and that she isn’t as active online as she used to be, but still no one asks if she’s okay.

    She wonders what she’s done wrong. She wonders why no one’s worried about her. Why is it that the people she’s been so quick to check up on when they’ve seemed quiet in the past are so reluctant to reach out and make sure she’s okay?

    She feels lonelier day by day. The walls close in around her. She thought her friends cared, so why have they abandoned her? In the back of her mind, she knows that they care about her. But it gets harder to convince herself of that when dusk falls every night and the inevitable, overwhelming feelings of isolation and loneliness set in. 

    Her thoughts become more and more negative, and she finds it harder to rationalize the more she drops out of her life. Slowly, she becomes a shell of a person. The flicker of light at the end of the tunnel begins to fade away as she loses hope.

    She knows why no one reaches out. She knows why no one seems to be worried. It’s not that they don’t care – it’s because they have her labelled as a strong person, and assume that she can handle any difficulty she faces. They completely overlook the fact that even ‘strong’ people need help too. 

    All of her checking up on people has convinced them that she has her shit together too much to ever need help. Everyone just assumes that she’s fine. Meanwhile, the days grow darker and she grows weaker.

    Everybody needs help. It’s hard enough trying to be there for people when they need a hand to hold onto to keep their head above water. It’s even harder when you’re drowning and there’s no one there to help you. 

    Suicide rates have grown substantially over the last couple of decades, for both men and women. 

    Check up on your friends, even those who seem strongest. You never know when they’ll need a helping hand unless you ask.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • September 18, 2019

    Sometimes you have to make a decision that will break your heart but will give peace to your soul.

  • September 18, 2019

    You see a person’s true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life.”

  • September 15, 2019

    God Gives You Hardships To Help You  Become Who You Need To Be.


    There’s no way around it. Life sucks sometimes. It doesn’t make a difference how you dress it up or how may pretty words you use to sugar-coat everything; the fact of the matter is that we all know that when life gets difficult, it becomes almost unbearable. The weight of our troubles and problems is heavy on all of our shoulders at different points throughout our lives. Sometimes we can manage, and at others it seems as though all hope is lost. 

    The thing is, when we step back and take a look at things, we see that good and bad come as a pair. We can’t have one without the other. It’s the same with light and dark, life and death, black and white. This ultimate polarity of being manifests itself in our lives as waves. 

    Good times, bad times. Within the good times, bad moments. Within the bad times, good moments. 

    This pattern of rough and smooth is just how life is. It’s how it has always been, for everyone. So how do we manage? How do we approach the very obvious fact that we experience such pain and hardships in our lives?

    The first thing to do is accept that there will always be good and bad in our lives. Once we’ve truly acknowledged and understood that there’s simply no getting away from it and that we can’t escape this dual nature of being, we can begin to face up to things. We will experience negativity, yes. That can’t be helped. In a way, it’s necessary for us to experience it. Without the lows, we wouldn’t appreciate the highs.

    But when we really look at the problems we face in life, we see that within each and every one there are lessons to be learned. Within each difficulty we face in life lies the potential for our own personal growth. Every hardship you’ve gone through has taught you valuable lessons. 

    Some lessons are harder than others to learn, some troubles heavier than others to carry. But everything we encounter in the years of our lives that we spend on this earth is manageable to some extent; God doesn’t give us any problems that we aren’t capable of handling.  There’s a reason for everything that happens.

    We can’t completely avoid suffering, but we can decide whether or not we suffer unnecessarily with the attitude we take to the problems we experience. Suffering is inevitable, but most of the suffering we experience is in our minds. 

    The mindset we take to life is therefore what determines whether or not we suffer any more than we have to. If we remember that we’re here to live, to experience, and to learn, and to trust His plan, then we realize that we are fully capable of handling anything that comes our way, even when it seems like we have no hope. 

    If we can see that every cloud has a silver lining, all of life begins to make sense. It’s all a learning opportunity. It’s not always possible to be optimistic and see the good in things, but it’s always there somewhere, even if it takes us years to see exactly what it is. 

    When we see life in this way, we can begin at last to understand our place in things. We can’t stop bad things from happening, but we can deal with and learn from them when they do. When we take this attitude, life begins to seem brighter. We suffer less than we would if we simply wallowed in our misery.

    I know it’s almost impossible to think positive when you’re stuck in a mess with no end in sight. But trust the fact that someday you will look back and you’ll be very grateful why things played out the way they did. Your hardships helped you become who you are today.


    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • September 14, 2019


    • 11 Things Only People Who Love Spending Time 

    Alone Will Understand


    We’re the people who love nothing more than spending time alone. It’s just like they say: “Solitude is bliss.” While other people might be excited by the idea of going out for drinks and dancing the night away, we’d much prefer to be in the comfort, quiet, and safety of our own home, huddled up under a blanket watching Netflix or reading a book. 



    • A rainy day at home is perfection itself – You sit by the window as rain hammers on the glass and the wind twists and turns through the streets outside. You’re warm, dry, and cozy, with a cup of something hot to drink, a cushion to relax on, and a blanket to snuggle up under. Can you think of anything better? No responsibilities, no one to bother you, and nothing to do other than watch the world go by and relax. For those of us who love to spend time alone, this is heaven on earth. 




    • Needing time alone, alone Relationships are all well and good, but the only way you’re going to make it work is if you both enjoy your alone time. Being alone together with just the two of you is great, but we still need time spent truly on our own to feel recharged and content. Interacting with other people is always draining in some way, regardless of who they are. We just can’t hack life if we don’t have a way to get away from it all and be completely alone from time to time. 




    • It’s nothing personal… but I’m going to have to take a rain check – We all know that feeling of having to skip plans because we just can’t hack it; we’re drained, we need time to recover, and our own needs come first. Sorry! Of course, it’s rare that the person we had plans with is someone whom we can just say that to, so we have to come up with an excuse. One of my favorite ones is to just pretend to have a stomach bug. No one ever questions it!




    • A full day on your own recharges your batteries – What do you really need to do to feel recharged and well rested? For some people, it’s talking to people and enjoying extensive social interaction. If you’re like me, however, then what you need is a whole day to yourself with nothing to do, no obligations whatsoever; a completely blank schedule. Whatever happens, happens! You’re in your own company, what more could you ask for?




    • You tend to listen more than you talk – We tend to be on the quieter side, especially when we’re around people that we don’t know too well. We listen far more than we talk, which means people are always telling us what great listeners we are. Something I notice a lot is that when many people are listening, they’re not paying attention to what the other person is saying at all. They’re just waiting for their turn to speak!




    • Observing people’s behaviour – Being more socially withdrawn than a lot of people means that we tend to notice things more than others. We’re insightful, because we spend a lot of time watching, listening, and making mental notes on the things we witness. You can learn a lot about other people because you’re far more able to absorb information about others when you’re not as focused on flooding a conversation with loads of information about yourself.




    • Thinking about the important questions in life – All that time to ourselves means that a lot of the time is spent in quiet contemplation of the world and introspection of ourselves. I’m always wondering about the meaning of life, the reasons why things are the way they are, and how I fit into it all. Even though it’s essentially chasing your own tail, there’s something infinitely rewarding about pondering the universe when you’re sitting quietly alone. 




    • That feeling when someone cancels plans that you were dreading anyway – There’s nothing quite like getting ready to go somewhere and do something with other people, when you want nothing more than to skip it entirely and just be by yourself, then hearing that the plans have been cancelled anyway and you’re off the hook. It feels like you’ve been set free, like when you were a kid and you found out that school was closed. You’re able to breathe the air of freedom and enjoy life on your own once more, at least for now.




    • A vacation alone sounds like heaven – Just imagine it. Eating out alone every night at the places where you want to go. Doing exactly what you want every day, with no responsibility to consider anyone else’s wants or needs. It might sound like hell to some people, but for us, it’s perfect. 




    • Reading a book, watching a movie or show, or listening to music are much more fun than going out – Drinks, bars, clubs, and social gatherings all have their place, don’t get me wrong. But when it comes to holding their attention and captivating their interest, then getting lost in something artistic is the real deal.




    • Spending time with your pets – If you’re anything like myself, then you’ve probably found yourself reflecting more than once on how animals can often be far better company than humans. They don’t judge, or talk about themselves, or ask for anything other than your love, company, something to eat, and to cuddle up next to you and sleep. They’re the perfect companions.


    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • September 13, 2019

    Here’s To The Friends We Don’t See As Much As

    We Wish We Could.


    When we’re young and in school or college, the close friendships we make feel as permanent as anything can be in life. It feels as though we’ll always know these people; we can’t see ourselves ever parting ways and following our own roads in life. After all, we see them virtually every day. It’s very difficult from that perspective to imagine that those relationships might one day be held in a very different context. 

    But the slow and steady march of time takes its toll on all of us.

    We grow up, and fully embrace all of the responsibilities, complications, and commitments that that entails. Over time, we find that we no longer live as close to our friends as we once did. We find that we no longer seem to have as much free time as we once did. We’re always busy with work, or with family, or with some other facet of our extremely complex and intricate lives. 

    It seems as though for most of us, a sad fact of life is that the older we get, the less often we get to see our friends. 

    So, this is for the friends that we no longer see almost every day. This is for those friends who we can go months without seeing, but still feel as though we pick up from where we left off last time every time we meet. This is for the friends who know us better than anyone, who have seen us grow and change and learn and become the people we are today. This is for the friends who’ve seen us at our best and worst moments; the people who we trust above anyone else.

    Here’s to the friends from back before life exploded, from before we pressed the gas pedal to the floor and sped off on our own journeys into the world. Here’s to the ones who we spent crazy nights and hungover mornings with, the ones who made us laugh until we cried at 4am on someone’s living room floor. 

    This is for the people who we don’t text all the time, but who we know will pick up their phone when it rings in the middle of the night if we need them. This is for the ones who understand how hectic life is, and don’t take it personally when our calendar is too full to be able to commit to plans; the ones who know that just because you don’t see each other as much as you used to doesn’t mean that any love has been lost. 

    These are the friendships that last; the ones that we treasure and cherish until the very end of our days. They are the ones that remind us of who we are, and who in some ways we know better than we know ourselves. 

    This is for the friends who we’ve come a long way beside, and who we know we’ll go on together with, even if we don’t get to see each other as often as we’d like to.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • September 8, 2019

    Somewhere in Heaven my mother is smiling down on me.

  • September 3, 2019

    Grief is the last act of love we can give to those we loved. Where there is deep grief, there was great love.

  • September 3, 2019

    12 Things That Only Sisters Understand


    Having a sibling is one of the most rewarding and infuriating experiences you can have as a human being. There’s nothing quite like it, nothing with the power to be so awesome and so annoying at the exact same time. If you have a sibling, then the following things will resonate with you, whether they’re memories from far in the past or things that still happen to you today!


    1. Having someone in your life who you can hate intensely one day and then love like no one else the next: there’s nothing quite like the relationship you have with a sibling. You can feel real, genuine anger and dislike for them one day, and then overwhelming love the next, because no matter what, they’ll always be your sibling.
    2. Ganging up on your parents to pressure them into doing something: when you combined your powers of persuasion as kids in order to get your parents to do something, it was always more successful than when you did it on your own. United you stand, divided you fall. If you both whined long and hard enough, you’d have a good shot at getting that pizza delivery you wanted for dinner or that trip to the movies.
    3. Getting into fights over the most trivial things: with a sibling, you can fight over the most senseless stuff. An argument about whose turn it is to ride shotgun or who gets to watch what they want on TV could easily turn into a wrestling match. Before you know it, you’re fighting at the grocery store for no reason other than you’re bored. 
    4. Asking each other what you should get your parents for their birthdays or Christmas: one of the most overlooked aspects of having a sibling is being able to pool your brainpower. Don’t know what your mom for her birthday? No problem. Just ask your sister. She’ll have the answers.
    5. Covering for each other with alibis when one of you is up to no good: any good sibling is their brother or sister’s partner in crime. They might annoy you to no end, but when the stuff hits the fan, you can rely on them to cover for you and get you out of a tight spot.
    6. Embarrassing each other as much as possible: siblings are born just to be annoying to each other, and part of that is embarrassing one another as much as you possibly can. This often extends far into adulthood, too, meaning you’ll always be the same old frenemies that you know and love.
    7. Borrowing each other’s things (with or without their permission): when you have a sibling, what’s theirs is yours, whether or not you get their permission first. They’ll get it back in the end, so no harm no foul, right?
    8. Joining forces to make fun of your parents: teasing your parents is always way more fun when you have a teammate to back you up and bounce things off of.
    9. Going to school together and trying to avoid each other as much as possible: once you’re on the school bus, you have to sit as far from each other as you can, because you know that you’ll end up annoying or embarrassing each other before long.
    10. Going on vacation and either making or breaking it for the whole family: if you and your siblings got  along while you were on vacation, it could be heaven. If you began to annoy each other, however, it could very quickly turn into hell, especially for your parents.
    11. One of you getting early access to a car when the other learns to drive: when you have an older sibling, it means you got to tag along when they started to drive.
    12. Talking to each other about how strange and dysfunctional your family is: no one knows quite how odd your family is like the person who shared the inside view of it with you. You both went through the same things, so you both know how messed up things really are.
            You always have a best friend… one whose been your partner in crime for your whole life. If that’s not the most wonderful, awesome thing, I don’t know what is.


    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • September 1, 2019

    Seven Things Every Aunt Wants Their Niece To Know

    The relationship between an aunt and their niece is a special one. An aunt isn’t their niece’s mom – she sees herself more as a friend, or an older sibling, perhaps. She’s not there to get you into trouble or make sure that you’re following the rules. She’s there to talk with you, laugh with you, give you advice, and steer you in the right direction. Here are seven things every aunt wants their niece to know.


    • You can talk to me about anything
    • I mean it. No matter what happened, you can come to me and share anything. I’m not here to judge, or to lecture you on your mistakes and how you should behave. I was your age too, once, and I know how you feel. I want to be there for you to come and talk to whenever, about anything. No questions asked. Your parents don’t need to know. I’ll tell you what I think, but I’ll never condemn you. 


    •  Your aunt NEVER lets you forget how much she loves you.

    If there’s one thing you never have to doubt, it’s your aunt’s unconditional love. She’ll call you to catch up, or just sometimes to tell you she loves you. Your aunt is your blessing in disguise, your mentor, and a best friend. The bond between you and your aunt is pretty special and undeniable. Never forget to remind your aunt how thankful you are for her, because that woman would do anything for you.

    • I know more about life than you might think
    • when you’re a kid, it feels like adults just can’t relate to you. I know, because I felt the same way when I was young. But the truth is, I understand more about your situation than you know. I get it. I feel your pain, and I understand your frustration. You are always justified to feel the way you feel. There’s nothing wrong with that.


    • Life is short. Enjoy it
    • the only thing that truly matters is whether or not you’re having fun. You have to live your life in a way that’s right for you. Your life will be over before you know it, so be careful but kick back, relax, and have some fun.

    • Do whatever makes you happy
    • as long as you’re not hurting anyone, you can do whatever you want in life. I’ll support you no matter what. If you want to do charity work in Africa, go for it. If you want to be a hair stylist for a living, I’ll back you all the way. All that matters to me is that you’re doing what’s right for you.



    • No matter what, I’m here for you
    • it doesn’t matter what you do in life. Right or wrong, no matter how bad things get, I’m here. When you need a place to crash, a lift with no questions asked, or a shoulder to cry on, you can count on me. Anything that you want to remain between us stays between us. You can trust me to keep your confidence.


    Never be afraid to be yourself –

    You should never feel like you have to be anyone else. You’re you, and that’s enough. It doesn’t matter what people think or how strange you might seem to others; what’s important is how you feel about yourself. Be the person you are, and don’t feel the need to apologise for that.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©