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Archive for July, 2019

  • July 31, 2019

    Women Over 40.

    By Andy Rooney

    As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
    A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, ‘What are you thinking?’ She doesn’t care what you think.
    If a woman over 40 doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it’s usually more interesting.
    Women over 40 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.
    Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.
    Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 40.
    Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 40 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.
    Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
    Yes, we praise women over 40 for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize.
    For all those men who say, ‘Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Here’s an update for you…………….
    Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!


    Written by Andy Rooney.

    Andrew Aitken Rooney (January 14, 1919 – November 4, 2011) was an American radio and television writer who was best known for his weekly broadcast “A Few Minutes with Andy Rooney“, a part of the CBS News program 60 Minutes from 1978 to 2011.

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  • July 24, 2019

    A person who values you would never put themselves in a position to lose you.

  • July 23, 2019

    Everybody Is On Their Own Timeline: You’re Right Where You Need To Be.


    It’s incredibly easy in this day and age to look around and constantly compare ourselves to other people. We feel like we’re not where we want to be, like we’re missing out, like everyone else is more successful or happier or having more fun or that we’re being left behind. The truth is, everyone feels like this from time to time. 

    You only see other people’s lives from the outside, looking in. 

    You only know what people tell you about themselves – or what they post on Facebook or Instagram. They are the editors of their own self-image, and in the modern era you can be completely deceived by the highlight reels people post online. You only see the highs, not the lows. 

    You don’t see the sadness. You don’t see the insecurity, or the self-loathing, or any sign of the internal battles that each and every one of us fights day in and day out. 

    It’s hard not to look at other people’s lives and feel jealous and insecure about ourselves. But we don’t see the reality. We don’t see how much other people struggle, exactly like we do. We don’t see the tears, or loneliness, or the frustration. We feel these things only in ourselves, and so we feel isolated and as though the world has left us behind, when in reality we’re all exactly where we need to be.

    We’re all on our own timelines, living our lives the way we’re meant to. We will get to where we want to be when we’re meant to get there, no matter how long it takes. We can’t force things to turn out any particular way. What will be will be.

    Things never go the way we want or expect them to. No matter how hard we try to plan and structure our lives, things always seem to turn out differently. 

    There’s no making sure everything goes according to your ideal schedule. There’s no way to make sure that you’re where you thought you wanted to be at thirty, or at forty, or any age, for that matter. There are lessons we need to learn, people we need to meet, and the experiences we need to have. Our lives unfold as they should, at their own pace and on their own timeline.

    You simply are where you are meant to be in the present moment, and that’s okay. It’s all part of the journey and process of life.

    The things we go through make us who we are. We always have the option to learn and grow from everything we experience, no matter how insignificant they may seem to be at first.

    Life is an art, not a science. Perfection isn’t possible or desirable. You don’t have to be like anyone else or worry about if they’re doing better than you are. You’re you, you’re unique, and you’re on your own journey – not theirs. 

    God has a plan for you. You live according to God’s timing, something far greater than any of us could ever comprehend. 

    You don’t know enough to worry about where you are or where you’ll be or where you’ve been. When you know that you’re here for a higher purpose, it makes no sense to compare yourselves to others, because you know that you’re part of something far, far greater than yourself. 

    Rather than taking life too seriously and treating it like it’s a game we need to complete or a story we need to finish, we should try to relax and understand that no matter what happens, we’re all going to die eventually. When that happens, the circumstances of our lives will no longer matter. It will be irrelevant how much money we made, how many cars we owned, or how nice a house we lived in.

    All that will matter is the life we lived, the kind of people we were, the experiences we had and the relationships we forged with ourselves and others. 

    We should try to enjoy life as it is, without imposing deadlines and schedules and targets upon ourselves. Time is an illusion; what we’re born to do is simply to live, rather than to stress and worry and obsess over things that just don’t matter anymore than we let ourselves think they matter.

    We can’t control anything in life – only our reaction to the things that happen. All we can do is let go of our need to control everything and have things be perfect, and accept what is. Trust that God’s plan is enough, and that you don’t need to have your own limited version of a ‘perfect’ life to be happy and content.

    We have to learn to let go, to take what comes and to make the most of everything. Only when we do this, when we let go of the idea that we should live up to anyone’s expectations or subjective ideas of success, can we really embrace our lived to the fullest and live the way we were supposed to; on our own timelines.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©


  • July 20, 2019

    It All Makes Sense Now; You Never Loved Me.


    For the longest time, I thought it was all in my head. I thought I was seeing things that weren’t really there, that I was constantly making something out of nothing. All that time, I blamed myself for everything. All of the problems we had, you successfully convinced me were all of my own making. 

    I was a shell of a person. You nearly drove me crazy.

    But now, everything is very clear to me. I see now how little our relationship mattered to you. How little you really cared about me. I realize now that no matter how much you claimed to listen, you never really heard me. 

    You never made me feel important. You never made me feel loved. You never made me feel special.

    I was never a priority for you. I was only ever an option, one of many ways you could be spending an evening. You only ever used me to pass the time and satisfy yourself.

    It hurts. I was nothing to you, but to me you were everything. 

    You never considered my feelings. You never thought about me beyond how you could use me to make yourself feel good. You never kept me in mind while you flirted with other women or ignored my texts and calls. I don’t know how I was so blind to it all for so long, but now the blindfold is off and I can see your true colors. 

    I see your selfishness. I see how little conscience you possess when you lie through your teeth without even batting an eyelid. It’s so easy for you that sometimes I wonder if perhaps you believe your own lies. I see your need for control and domination. I see how you felt powerful and successful from being able to make me do what you wanted. 

    I see you for what you really are. I see now that you never loved me – you were only ever using me. 

    When I realized that fact, I felt like a fool. At first, I blamed myself, like I did for our whole relationship. I cried and beat myself up and cursed myself for being such a naïve idiot. 

    But in time, I realized that I wasn’t to blame for any of this. I realized that you were.

    It wasn’t my fault that you manipulated me. It wasn’t my fault that I fell for your honeyed words and empty promises. It wasn’t my fault that I believed you when you said that you loved me. 

    But you didn’t. You were using me. It took me a long time to swallow that hard fact, but now I know that you were simply in my life as a learning experience. You taught me a lot about people. You taught me that you never really know someone, only the version of themselves that they want you to see. So, thanks for that, if for nothing else. At least I know I won’t make the same mistake again.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • July 20, 2019

     Six Things That Happen When You Get Used To Being On Your Own.


    For some people, being on their own is their worst nightmare. They can’t think of many things worse than the idea of being totally alone, with only their thoughts for company. The amazing thing about being alone, however, is that once you get used to it, it can be an incredibly liberating feeling. Here are six things that happen when you get used to being alone!


    1. You no longer need company to feel okay – after you get over the initial strangeness of being alone for an extended period of time, solitude begins to feel very different to how it did at first. Rather than being daunting and weird, it starts to feel comforting. The relief and freedom of being totally alone set in, and you realize that you don’t need to be around anyone else to feel whole or complete. 



    • You get in touch with who you really are – solitude allows you to really connect with your inner self. When you don’t have to worry about pleasing others or keeping up a conversation, you’re free to do what you want, when you want, and how you want. You learn a lot about who you are as a person – both from being totally free to be yourself and from being alone with your thoughts. It’s much easier to be introspective when there’s no one else around.



    1. You care less about the opinions of others – the amazing thing about being comfortable in your own company is how little you come to care about what other people think about you. The most important thing is how you feel about yourself. It’s liberating to not worry about whether people are judging how you dress or what you’re doing. The freedom you feel from being able to eat alone at a restaurant or go to the movies by yourself without letting potential judgment from complete strangers affect your behavior is incredible.


    1. You find peace – No need to worry about anyone other than yourself. Nothing to do, no commitments or responsibilities to attend to. Just you, yourself, and taking it easy. That’s the true beauty in being alone – the peace and quiet you can experience, without anyone else coming along and forcing you to do anything other than what you want to do at any one moment. 


    1. You grow to love it – Even the most extroverted and company-craving person can grow to love spending time alone. There’s something so unique and personal about it that means that when you do it, you can’t help but fall in love with it. You become the master of your own little world, where everything feels right and movement seems to flow more smoothly. At times, isolation can feel horrible; especially when it’s not out of choice. But in the end, you come to see the true hidden beauty in being alone.

    You learn to let go – Eventually, getting used to being alone helps you learn how to let go of things. You realize that nothing lasts, that all things must come to an end, and that the ebb and flow of life carries people and experiences towards and away from you like leaves floating in a river. Time moves on, and your circumstances change – and you won’t feel the need to cling on to things.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • July 14, 2019

    The Strongest Women Have A Loved One In Heaven.


    We all know what heartbreak feels like. The pain of loss is something that is intimately connected with the human condition. Everyone has their own stories of lost love, of painful memories and tearful nights alone. 

    But no knife cuts deeper than that of death. When we lose the ones we love to the currents of time and they slip past the veil into the great beyond, we feel a pain unlike any other on this earth. We’ve lost them – at least until we join them again. But they’re no longer here to share life with us. We can no longer look into their eyes, no longer see them looking back at us with love and warmth and recognition. It’s a soul-crushing, heart-wrenching pain beyond belief. 

    So, this is for the women who’ve lost someone. This is for the women who have seen their time with their loved ones run out, who have endured loss and pain like no other. This is for all of the incredible, inspiring people who have had their worlds shattered and flipped upside down and are still picking up the pieces today. You’re stronger than you know.

    You’ve seen the worst of life, and you’re still managing to carry on. Even when it doesn’t feel like you are, you’re here. You’re surviving. You’re enduring. And that’s inspiring. 

    You know how it feels to have spoken to someone for the last time and have them slip away. You know how it feels to remember the last words they ever spoke to you.

    You’re strong. Even if it doesn’t feel like you are, even if it feels like you’re not coping, I promise you that you are. You’re brave, and you’re strong, and you’re inspirational. 

    This is for those of us who live on. This is for the survivors. The bent, the broken, the suffering. The ones who were left behind. The ones who cry and sometimes wish that we were up there with them.

    Nothing lasts. All things have to change eventually. In time, all things come to pass. We might be left behind for now, but it won’t be that way forever. 

    So, we go on. We keep struggling. We keep surviving. We fight to live our lives, and live them well. Nothing and no one can ever replace those we’ve lost. When the sun sets, no candle can ever compare. When we lose the ones we love, it feels like there’s nothing but absence and emptiness left for us in their place.

    But still, we go on. We do it not because living is easy, but because we know that living our lives well is what our lost loved ones would have wanted. We know they’re looking down on us and smiling, so we live our lives as best we can in the knowledge that we’ll get to see them again someday. 

    Life can and will be satisfying and fulfilling, even without the ones we’ve lost. It will never be the same, but it is always worth seeing through to the end.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • July 13, 2019

    It’s Not That I Don’t Care, You’re Just Not Worth The Fight.

    I’ve tried so hard for so long to make sense of everything. It’s been a long, difficult road to even get my head halfway clear enough to make a mature and responsible decision about what I want from us. But now that I’m finally seeing things properly, I want to lay everything out for you in order to explain. I know that you don’t understand, that you think that somewhere along the line I just stopped caring about you, but that just isn’t the truth.

    You need to realize that there was a big part of me that wanted to keep on going like we have been. I could have gone in circles forever. 

    But that isn’t what’s right. It isn’t what’s right for me, and it’s not what is right for you, either. I’ve spent so long trying to make things work that it’s hard to finally accept that it wasn’t meant to be, but I know now that I have to. 

    There was a time when I thought things would all work out eventually. I thought that we’d smooth out all of the kinks, that the lying and the mistakes and the heartache would one day come to an end. But over time, I’ve woken up and smelt the coffee. The weeks turned into months, the months turned to years, and nothing changed.

    I realized that the relationship we would have in the future would be the exact same as the one we had then. I looked deep into my heart and asked myself if I could do this forever, and the reply was both heart-breaking and strangely relieving. 

    I realized that if I wanted to be happy, if I wanted both of us to be happy, then I had to let you go. It’s nothing personal. I still care about you. In fact, it’s because I care about you that I’m telling you this at all. We just weren’t meant to be, no matter how much we wanted that to be the case. 

    I don’t regret the time we spent together. You taught me priceless lessons about love, about life, about the process of being human. You will always have a place in my heart. I just can’t do this anymore. 

    I can’t carry on like this. I know nothing will change if we keep doing everything exactly the same, going around in these circles where we hurt each other and cry because all we want is to be happy together. I’ve realized that perhaps that just isn’t possible for us. 

    So, it’s time for me to say goodbye. I know I wasn’t perfect, and I know you weren’t either. We both did our best, but our best wasn’t good enough, and that’s okay. It’s not something that we can control. All we can do is learn from our mistakes and go forward as better people.

    I’m sorry that we didn’t work out. I’m sorry that we just weren’t right for each other. We both gave it our best shot, but it was never going to work. Now we have to part ways. Our roads go on, but they go on in different directions. Thank you for everything, and please try your best to understand. I get it if you hate me, if you never want to speak to me again, but I’m only trying to do what’s best. I hope that one day you understand.

    Goodbye, and try to remember the good times we shared. I know I always will.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • July 12, 2019

    The Strongest Women Are The Women With Anxiety 


    They say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. If that’s true, then us women who suffer so badly from anxiety conditions are the strongest of all.

    As we all know too well, when you have anxiety you’re trapped in a constant battle with your own mind. Every second of every day, you’re fighting just to keep control. It makes you doubt yourself. It makes you afraid to speak up, or to crack jokes, or even to get out of bed and hop in the shower. It’s exhausting. 

    Sometimes you win. Sometimes the grey clouds that hover over your head clear for a moment. Everything seems brighter, colors look more vivid. But more often than not, you lose. You’re pulled back down into that pit and you’re forced to start over again from scratch. 

    Doing this over and over again day after day wears us down. But the important thing is that we get back up every time we’re knocked down. That’s what makes us so incredibly, uniquely strong. Perseverance. We hang in there, no matter how hard things get. We put ourselves in the firing line, knowing it’s going to hurt. We force ourselves to do the things we don’t want to do – even if we’re not successful every time. 

    We go on. We keep trying. We don’t give up, even though it hurts.

    It’s too easy to just throw in the towel. It’s easy to give up, to decide that we’re going to stay inside all day and binge watch Netflix. Sometimes, that’s exactly what we do – sometimes it’s exactly what we need. 

    But most of the time, we push through. We get ourselves up, we feed ourselves, we keep ourselves functioning. That is the truly incredible thing. That’s what makes us so special. That’s what makes you so strong. 

    It’s hard being human at the best of times, but when a single thought or trigger can send your mind spinning off into a horrible, panicky train of thought at a moment’s notice the process of being alive can seem like nothing but a sick joke.

    We all have good days and bad days. We have days when things seem to be a little easier, when everything seems to go that bit smoother. We also have days when it feels like we just can’t catch a break. Days when no matter how hard we try, nothing goes our way.

    You try so hard. You give it your all, but sometimes it’s like it’s just never enough for you to feel normal. It’s never enough for you to feel like other people seem to feel. You look at them, wondering how they can live so easily and carefree while you’re melting down in anxiety. But you don’t give up.

    And that’s the reason you’re so strong – that’s the reason all of us are so incredibly inspiring. As hard as it gets, we hang in there, for better or worse. We endure. We go on towards a brighter future – and we do it because we know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. We never give up hope. We know it will all work out in the end. All we have to do is persevere, to get back up regardless of how many times life knocks us down and for that, we’re the strongest women in the world.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©
  • July 12, 2019

    I know good men still exist because I’m lucky enough to have one.

  • July 11, 2019

    A Strong woman doesn’t seek revenge. She moves on and lets karma do her dirty work.

  • July 11, 2019

     No matter how old a girl getsshe never stops needing her mom.

  • July 8, 2019

    In lifeit’s important to know when to stop arguing with people and simply let them be wrong.

  • July 7, 2019

    People Will Provoke You

    5 Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist:


    They only talk about themselves.

    This is easily the first sign of a narcissist. They only talk about themselves. You meet their parents and it’s like you’re an afterthought.

    They only talk about how they’re doing. They take almost no interest in your life. They’re blinded by their own stuff.

    They tend to be really into what they do.

    It’s fine to be enthusiastic about your job or hobbies, but narcissists tend to be so into what they do that they put you and everyone else on the back burner for it.

    They create a fake image.

    Narcissists often have very deep rooted personal issues with feeling secure and with high self esteem, so they create a fake image of themselves.

    They control every last detail about their lives, or at least the life that you get the opportunity to see.

    They manipulate the facts.

    Narcissists will alter facts about just about anything in order to make it conform to their personal belief system or their narrative.

    They embellish how things actually happened and skimp on details, or sometimes even add details to a story.

    They’re entitled.

    At the end of the day, the narcissist thinks they’re entitled because they’ve never been told otherwise. Don’t be a tool for them to get what they want.

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  • July 3, 2019

    Psychologists Are Now Suggesting Mothers Should Take Breaks And Go On Mom-cations.

    In the mind-bogglingly busy world of the 21st century, there’s been a rapid growth in the number of mothers taking annual ‘mom-cations’ – a vacation to themselves, where they have an extended period of me-time. Moms are increasingly understanding the need for them to take time to themselves in order to rest and recharge their batteries, something that has been supported by numerous psychologists and healthcare professionals who have warned that mothers should take a legitimate break for themselves. Mom-cation”, a recent trend made popular by social media, is a brief vacation where moms travel together or solo without their family. ( can be beneficial for mental health by providing an opportunity for uninterrupted relaxation, giving mothers a chance to recharge their emotional batteries. 
    Having time to yourself is absolutely essential in order to take a break from the stress and pressure of modern life. Between running the kids to school, making sure they’re fed, and doing the laundry, being a mom is a full-time job. If you don’t get some space away from it, you’ll end up feeling burnt up and worn out.
    Many mothers shrink from the idea of being away from their kids from any amount of time. They selflessly put their families first and sacrifice their own physical and mental wellbeing in order to provide for them. The thing is, mom-cations are about more than just providing rest for exhausted mothers; they’re beneficial for the whole family. They help everyone to see the balance and moderation that needs to be maintained in the family situation, and allow everyone to get some time away from seeing each other that they need in order to maintain healthy relationships. Everyone needs space and time away from others to be by themselves, family included!
    It’s great to have a few days to yourself, not having to worry about whether your kids have eaten or if they’ve done their homework!
    However, obviously not all moms are lucky enough to have the free time or spare money to arrange a trip away for themselves. If you fall into this category, then here are three ways to help you take breaks throughout your everyday life!


    Give yourself one morning off every week;

    All mothers know that weekends are essentially non-existent for them. Between chores, taking the kids out to places, and doing parent-admin, moms don’t get a whole lot of time to themselves on Saturday and Sunday. That’s why it’s important to give yourself at least a morning off every week in order to take a breather and relax a bit. Perhaps you could even head back to bed after you’ve dropped the kids at school!

    Take a day off every month;

    Following on from the above point, try to take at least one day off every month to focus entirely on whatever it is that you want to do. Life is too short not to enjoy yourself. Don’t let it pass you by in an endless sea of errands, chores, and a ‘what do I have to do next?’ mentality like so many others do. Instead, take the time to actually live your life.

    Spread out household chores;

    – Although it might seem like there’s an endless number of chores to do every day, for your own peace of mind you should try and give yourself days without them. If you’re doing nothing but chores day after day you’ll drive yourself insane. You could concentrate all of them to just a couple of days a week, or do little and often. Whatever works for you!


    If you’re feeling tired, worn out, and done with being a mom, then what you need is a mom-cation. But don’t just take my word for it – try it for yourself and see the kind of difference it can make in your life!

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©





  • July 2, 2019

    If someone really loves you, no matter how many other people they meet, their feelings for you wouldn’t change. A real lover can’t be stolen.

  • July 2, 2019

    6 Good Reasons Why You Should Travel With Your Mom At Least Once A Year.

    When was the last time you really spent time with your mom? I don’t mean a quick catch up, I mean really spent time with her. Long talks, going shopping together, eating out at a nice restaurant, that kind of thing? 
    If you’re like most adults these days, the answer is probably ‘a long time ago’. It can be hard to make time for the people we love and appreciate the most in life. Although taking a trip might seem like the kind of thing you’d sooner do with a partner or friend rather than your mother, it is a great way to spend quality time together as adults, just the two of you. 

    Here are six reasons why you should go on vacation with your mom!


    Life is too short not to spend time with the people we love;

    – Life might seem like a long journey at times, but it’s not. The older you get, the faster time seems to pass. Before you know it, it will be too late to spend time with the people you’re close to. The chance will pass you by, and you’ll be left wishing you’d handled things differently. You have to make time for your mom while you can, and while you’re both able to fully enjoy all the benefits of a vacation. Let’s be honest, it can be hard to find the time to talk to our parents. Taking a few days to dedicate to being with your mom can be a great way to get in some serious quality time.



    You’ll make memories you cherish for a lifetime;

    – The real value in life is the time we spend with the people who mean the most to us. Shared experiences are worth more than anything. It’s only when we’re doing things with others that we make strong memories with them, and there’s no better way to make beautiful memories with your mom than heading off on vacation with her. Just imagine hanging out on the beach in the sun drinking pina coladas and reconnecting as friends!



    You’ll see her in a whole new light;

    – It’s quite rare for people to go on vacation with their parents as adults, or even spend an extended amount of time with them. They therefore miss out on the perspective shift that comes with getting closer to their mom as a person and a friend. You’re a grown up now. You can see a whole different side of her than you knew growing up. She’ll be able to give you her wisdom and advice in a way you might not have had access to before. 


    You’ll get to know each other better;

     Lots of moms get used to playing the role of the mother for so long that they almost forget what it’s like to be an individual person – especially when it comes to their children. This could be an opportunity for you to view each other as people rather than just a parent and child, opening up new avenues to explore in each other’s personalities. Have fun together!

    She deserves it;

     Let’s be honest, all moms deserve some time away. They put in so much hard work in order to raise us, always giving pieces of themselves and receiving nothing in return. They show us how to survive and thrive in the world, and put us before themselves year after year. It’s nice to be able to repay the favor once in a while by surprising them with a trip somewhere nice and relaxing (and hot!).


    You will come to understand how deep her love for you really is; 

    Often, it’s only once we see things from a fresh perspective that we can truly begin to appreciate them. Travelling with your mom is a great way to have your eyes opened to the true depth of love that she has for you. She’ll make sure you’ve eaten, she’s stick by your side whether she’s tired or not, and she’ll take those perfect photos you need for Facebook.
    That’s why moms are so awesome – they never stop caring for you like they did when you were just a little baby. So, what are you waiting for? Give her a call and tell her that it’s time for you to repay all the favors she’s given to you over the years!

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©