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Archive for March, 2019

  • March 4, 2019
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    It’s Over, I’m Moving On: You’re No Longer A Part Of My Life.

     

    I’m done with putting up with everything you’ve put me through. I’m no longer going to wait by my phone, constantly checking to see if you’ve called or texted. I stopped getting butterflies every time your name popped up on my screen a long time ago. Nothing about you excites me anymore. I don’t feel the urge to hold your hand in public or to let everyone know that you’re mine. I no longer want to show you off in front of my friends.
    I’m done with you.
    I never thought that things would come to this. I pictured us being together forever. I saw kids, a house with a big garden, family vacations, and dogs that we’d go hiking with in our future one day. No more. I didn’t know back then that the person I loved so much would one day drop the act they’d been keeping up and show me that they were actually someone else entirely.
    You made me feel alone. You made me feel miserable. You broke my heart the day you showed your true colors.
    I’ve cried. I’ve felt regret, confusion, and hate. I hated you with every inch of my being. But I healed.  Gradually, that hate and regret and grief for what I’d lost turned into acceptance. I learnt important lessons from you. I can’t hold a grudge against you for that. You showed me just how horrible people can be while convincing you they’re incredible. You taught me that I can’t ever allow myself to give another person my power.
    So, I’m moving on. I’ve accepted that all of my experiences are part of me, good and bad alike.
    You’re in the past now. You’re a part of the reason I am who I am today, and for that I’m grateful. You showed me how to be a better person by doing the exact opposite of everything that you should do in a relationship.
    I remember how many times you told me you loved me. Sometimes I wonder if you ever meant it, or if it was all a part of the game. But it doesn’t matter now. The important thing is that you had your chance and you lost it, and thank God you did.
    I’m feeling better than I have in years. I feel free. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders, and now I’m going to live my life like I always should have done: independently.
    It took you to make me realize just how loved I am by the people that really matter in my life. It took you for me to see just how valuable I am, and how I should never settle for a malicious, narcissistic person when I deserve to be with the love of my life.
    It took you for me to learn who I am again.
    I don’t hate you. I don’t miss you. I don’t ever want to see you again.
    It’s over, and I’m moving on.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

     

  • March 3, 2019
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    When a strong woman feels unwanted, she won’t beg, she’ll just walk away.

     

    So many women don’t recognize or understand what they’re truly worth. They place so much value on being in a relationship with a guy that they’re willing to allow themselves to be messed around endlessly.
    It’s a heartbreakingly common scenario. A guy that treats his wife or girlfriend like sh*t, and the woman who puts up with it and allows herself to remain stuck in the same sorry place – no matter how much she might wish things were different.
    Even women that aren’t in relationships can fall victim to this trap. Almost every straight woman has been through the experience of talking to and dating a guy they really like that seems to keeping them at a distance. One minute everything is great. Sparks are flying, there’s tension in the air, and you start to dream that this guy might actually be the one for you. The next, he’s blanking your texts, leaving calls unanswered, and doesn’t seem to want to meet up.
    Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, if a guy is playing games with you, there’s only one thing that needs to happen. You need to realize just how valuable you are.
    You need to know your worth. You need to have the self-respect to stop allowing people to treat you with anything less than love, respect, patience, kindness, and honesty. If a guy isn’t over the moon at even having the chance to talk to you, then walk away. Don’t settle for someone that isn’t willing to put as much effort into things as you are. They clearly don’t value you as much as you value them.
    It’s normal to cry. It’s normal to beg. It’s normal to tell yourself that you’re done with him, only to find that you desperately want him back and your heart races every time you see a message from him.
    Be the woman who loves herself. Be the person who won’t settle for someone so immature that they don’t recognize a great catch when they see one.
    If he’s ignoring you, if he makes you his last priority, if you see him constantly disrespecting you, or taking you for granted, or using you, then don’t give him any more chances to change. Don’t let him fool you into thinking he really cares. If he cared, he’d have shown you from the start. Walk out the door and never look back.
    So many guys will push their luck as far as they can. They’ll see how much they can bend you before you break. It’s only once you’ve had enough and finally tell them that you’re done with their immaturity and selfishness that will acknowledge they’ve been horrible to you. They will sense they’re about to lose you (or, at least, the things you do for them and the way you make them feel good about themselves) and will cry and beg and promise you that they’re sorry and that they will change.
    If a man truly respects you, it’s obvious. It’s in every word he says. It’s in everything he does. He will consistently show you that he loves you, that he prioritizes you, and that you mean the world to him. He will be kind to you, he will be patient with you, and he will be honest and sincere and open.
    Don’t keep getting your heart broken by someone who’s not even willing to really give their heart to you. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by some scumbag who’s only using you for their own gratification.
    Know your worth. Find someone who truly loves you. Find someone who truly wants you. Someone who will treat you like the diamond you are and not a piece of trash.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️
  • March 2, 2019
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    People who are meant to be together will always find their way back to each other.

     

    Soulmates can be thought of like human magnets. There’s one special person out there for everyone, someone whose energy and being is attracted to your own in a way that it just isn’t to anyone else.
    Eventually, this attraction will bring the two of you together.
    Your soulmate is out there, somewhere. Maybe you know them, or perhaps the two of you haven’t met yet. You might have met them a long time ago. It’s possible that they’re currently in your life, and that you just don’t know that they’re your soulmate yet, or vice versa. You might even have had a relationship with your soulmate already, but found that things didn’t work out.
    True love is a connection that runs far deeper than any other. It’s an energy that carries across space and time, bringing people who are meant to be together into each other’s arms.
    Your soulmate is out there, no matter how much it might sometimes seem like they’re not. People often feel like they’ve looked everywhere and still haven’t found their special person, so they assume that there’s no one they’re meant to end up with.
    There’s no rush. You don’t have to keep looking. Things often happen to you when you give up trying to make them happen. There’s no need to force things to turn out in the way you want them to. We cannot control anything that happens to us in life. All we can do is react when things present themselves to us. There’s no need to go in search of your person. The two of you will come together when the time is right. You’re meant to be together, so you will end up together.
    When two people are destined for each other, love will bring them together at the right moment.
    True love is more than just a connection between two hearts, minds, and souls. It’s a connection of experience and time. Two soulmates might be meant for each other, but often they must travel separate roads until they develop into the people that they need to be for each other. Sometimes, things have to get worse before they can get better.
    You and your soulmate might even meet as teenagers and then drift apart to follow your own paths in life, only to reconnect as adults, with the wealth of life experience the two of you have built up separately forming the bedrock upon which your love is able to grow and flourish.
    Everything that happens, happens for a reason.
    Life is incredibly strange. Sometimes events happen that seem catastrophic and awful until with the benefit of hindsight you see that they were necessary to mold you into someone better. Someone wiser, kinder, and more compassionate. Someone more capable of loving another person with all of their heart.
    Everything that happens to us is simply an experience to learn from. If you think you’ve met your soulmate and the two of you break up, know that it is for the best. Perhaps that person really is your soulmate, and one day you’ll reconnect and it’ll feel like you’ve never been apart. Perhaps they’re not, but the lessons you learn from them help you to recognize your true soulmate when you finally meet them.
    Going your separate ways is sometimes for the best.
    If you were meant to be with a certain person right now, you’d be with them. If you’re not, then it’s simply time to be apart. You can know for sure that you’ll end up with your soulmate one day, whether it takes months or years for you to find each other.
    You can’t truly lose your soulmate, even if the two of you aren’t by each other’s sides right now. When the time is right, you’ll be with the person that you’re meant to be with.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️