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Archive for March, 2019

  • March 31, 2019
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    How Clutter causes Stress and Anxiety

    (and What You Can Do About It)

    We’ve all been there. You come home after a hard day’s work and you’re greeted by mess. Everywhere you look, something needs to be cleaned up, or tidied, or moved.

    All you wanted to do was relax, maybe jump in the bath or load up Netflix and get lost in your favorite series with a bowl of ice cream.
    Instead, you open the front door and want to cry.
    You look around, feeling dirty just standing there. If only you could wave a magic wand and clear the whole place up with a spell. Instead, you know that you’ll have to spend a good few hours doing it all manually.
    Besides being unhygienic and visually unappealing, the main problem with clutter and mess is that they stress us out. Psychologists have found that an untidy living or working environment leaves us feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed.
    When things are untidy, they take a toll on your mental health.
    This is why it’s so easy to slip into depression when you’re in a messy environment. You feel helpless, low on energy, and powerless to do anything about the horrible state your surroundings are in.
    The clutter and depression make each other worse, leading to a steadily worsening vicious cycle that you can’t get any relief from.
    Clutter takes our attention away from the things that really deserve it. It tells our brains that our work will never be finished and that there’s always going to be more to do.
    It makes it hard for us to relax, both mentally and physically. It makes us feel guilty, it hampers our productivity, and it frustrates us because we can never find the things we need.
    Yeah. Clutter sucks.
    The good news is that the solution is actually pretty simple, although it’s not always necessarily easy. You need to clear up the mess to allow your mind to have the space it needs to rest and recharge.
    Don’t rush in to tackle it all by yourself at once, though. There are a few things that you can do in advance to make the whole process way easier and far less stressful.
    First, put some upbeat music on. This will help to energize and motivate you.
    Also, unless you live alone, the likelihood is that there are other people in the house who are just as responsible for the clutter as you. Get the whole family or your housemates to help you tidy up.
    When you start clearing up, grab a couple of trash bags and put anything you don’t need or want straight in there. You can sort through it all later to make sure it all goes to the right place. Whether you recycle it, throw it away, or donate it, it doesn’t matter. For now, you just need to focus on getting it out of the way.
    Once you’ve started clearing up, don’t stop until you’ve finished. It’s far easier to concentrate on doing something and getting it completed if you don’t continuously stop and start. Stopping halfway through a task makes it way harder to resume and keep going.
    Make sure everything in your house has its own set place, and put things back there after you’re done using them. This will minimize the amount of clutter that can build up in the first place.
    Once you’re finished, reward yourself with some time to relax and chill. You’ve earned it!
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️
  • March 28, 2019
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    Distance yourself for a bit. You’ll realize a lot.

  • March 27, 2019
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    I am happy, hurting and healing at the same time. Don’t ask me how I’m doing it because I don’t know, but I’m doing it and I’m so proud of myself.

  • March 27, 2019
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    When You’re In Love, You Don’t Walk Away When Things Get Hard.

    There’s a common misconception in our society that love, true love, should be something close to perfection. People have expectations of a lifetime spent with a partner filled with nothing but bliss, loving embraces, and total understanding.
    In reality however, things are never that simple. Sure, true love involves all of those things. It also involves a whole lot of difficult decisions, touch compromises, forgiveness, and hurt.
    Nothing and no one in this world is perfect. Love can never be all sunshine and rainbows. When two people come together, two hearts, two minds, two souls, it’s the most difficult undertaking that either of them will ever experience.
    There is nothing more puzzling in this life than relationships. You’re forced to accept the person you love as they are – completely and totally. But how do you do that when the person you love isn’t perfect? How do you accept their flaws and shortcomings when they can be so difficult to swallow?
    Human beings are complicated creatures. We’re incredibly complex. We have huge, intricate networks of thoughts, emotions and behaviors that make up everything we are or ever will be.
    The process of two people coming together and bonding in such an intimate and personal way is never easy. There will always be disagreements. There will always be dark days and lonely nights, when the person you love so much feels so distant from you.
    People think that true love should mean you never argue, never disagree, and never fall out with each other. But avoiding conflict and disagreement isn’t the important thing. What is important is how you approach the problems you have as a couple and address any issues.
    There’s a reason that half of all marriages end in divorce. How many of those couples stood there on their wedding day and thought that they wouldn’t make their love last forever?
    It takes maturity, strength, compassion and a deep capacity for understanding to make love work. You need to be able to put yourself in each other’s shoes and come to see the problems you face as a couple as obstacles to be overcome together, not reasons to be at each other’s throats.
    True love is about making a shared commitment to fight for each other. It’s about sticking around through thick and thin, not giving up when things get tough.
    It’s about enjoying the highs and struggling through the lows. It’s about being there for each other in the darkest moments, when things feel like they can’t get any worse and there’s no way out.
    Because true love isn’t about perfection. It isn’t about two people so right for each other that they never have any problems.
    True love is about wanting to throw in the towel but refusing to give up. It’s about forgiveness, about understanding that both you and your partner are only human, only doing the best they can with what they have at any given moment in their life.
    True love is about surviving anything that life throws at you as a couple because you know that you’re in it together. It’s about never leaving your love to suffer alone.
    Their misery is your misery, and your sadness is their sadness.
    But their joy is also your joy, and those beautiful, happy moments together make all of the hard times worth it.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️
  • March 26, 2019
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    Behavior speaks… Pay attention to those who don’t clap when you win.

  • March 23, 2019
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    This Is How You Lost Her When All She Wanted Was To Be Yours.

    She loves you with her entire heart. She looks up at you and says that she wants to be with you forever. You smile and tell her that you love her back, but every time you say it there’s a part of you that knows, deep down, right in the very back of your mind, that she loves you way more than you could ever love her.
    She makes you her priority, but you call her when your other plans fall through.
    She tells you everything, but you hold back things that you think she wouldn’t want to hear.
    She’s always honest with you, but you look her in the eyes and lie through your teeth.
    She treasures you, and you take her for granted.
    You try to keep your distance, to keep her at arm’s length. She’s not even met your friends, but she’s introduced you to her family.
    You take her for granted, because no matter how poorly you treat her she always seems to just stick around.
    What you don’t understand is that she won’t put up with it forever. Every time you push her away, every time you don’t listen to how she feels, every time you put your own needs first, her patience wears thinner. She knows that she deserves better, but she loves you so much she’s almost willing to put up with it.
    You use her for emotional support and sex, and you leave her feeling empty. You expect her to be there when you want her, but you leave her waiting for a text for hours. When she tries to talk to you about the way you treat her, you raise your voice and disregard how she feels because you think that you know better.
    She breaks a little bit more inside every day. Every time you take her for granted, she gets that bit closer to leaving. She doesn’t understand why someone she loves so much, someone she wants to be happy more than anyone else in the world, could be so cold and dismissive of her own happiness, her own self-worth, her own feelings.
    She cries when she’s alone. She cries for all the times you’ve broken her heart.
    Eventually, she’s going to say that enough is enough. She’ll be ready to walk away. She will fall out of love with you, with the man you once were, with the person that you could have become for her. She’ll find someone else, someone who appreciates what he’s got and won’t let her lie awake at night crying because she feels so alone with someone that she should feel so close with.
    You’ll lose her for good. And then you’ll realize exactly what an amazing woman you had, and you’ll understand what you’ve lost.
    You’ll try to win her back, to show her that you can change, but it will be far too late. She will be sick and tired of your empty words and useless promises.
    Eventually, she’ll come to forget you. Time will wash away your careless words and thoughtless actions. But she’ll never forget the way you made her feel. She’ll always be scarred by the fact that the man she would have died for saw her as disposable.
    She’ll go on to be stronger because of you. She’ll live a better life than she ever could have dreamt of, and she’ll do it because she knows what she’s worth.
    And you’ll be left alone, wondering how you could have messed up so badly and missed the best opportunity of your life when it was right in front of your nose the whole time.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️
  • March 4, 2019
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    It’s Over, I’m Moving On: You’re No Longer A Part Of My Life.

     

    I’m done with putting up with everything you’ve put me through. I’m no longer going to wait by my phone, constantly checking to see if you’ve called or texted. I stopped getting butterflies every time your name popped up on my screen a long time ago. Nothing about you excites me anymore. I don’t feel the urge to hold your hand in public or to let everyone know that you’re mine. I no longer want to show you off in front of my friends.
    I’m done with you.
    I never thought that things would come to this. I pictured us being together forever. I saw kids, a house with a big garden, family vacations, and dogs that we’d go hiking with in our future one day. No more. I didn’t know back then that the person I loved so much would one day drop the act they’d been keeping up and show me that they were actually someone else entirely.
    You made me feel alone. You made me feel miserable. You broke my heart the day you showed your true colors.
    I’ve cried. I’ve felt regret, confusion, and hate. I hated you with every inch of my being. But I healed.  Gradually, that hate and regret and grief for what I’d lost turned into acceptance. I learnt important lessons from you. I can’t hold a grudge against you for that. You showed me just how horrible people can be while convincing you they’re incredible. You taught me that I can’t ever allow myself to give another person my power.
    So, I’m moving on. I’ve accepted that all of my experiences are part of me, good and bad alike.
    You’re in the past now. You’re a part of the reason I am who I am today, and for that I’m grateful. You showed me how to be a better person by doing the exact opposite of everything that you should do in a relationship.
    I remember how many times you told me you loved me. Sometimes I wonder if you ever meant it, or if it was all a part of the game. But it doesn’t matter now. The important thing is that you had your chance and you lost it, and thank God you did.
    I’m feeling better than I have in years. I feel free. I feel like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders, and now I’m going to live my life like I always should have done: independently.
    It took you to make me realize just how loved I am by the people that really matter in my life. It took you for me to see just how valuable I am, and how I should never settle for a malicious, narcissistic person when I deserve to be with the love of my life.
    It took you for me to learn who I am again.
    I don’t hate you. I don’t miss you. I don’t ever want to see you again.
    It’s over, and I’m moving on.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

     

  • March 3, 2019
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    When a strong woman feels unwanted, she won’t beg, she’ll just walk away.

     

    So many women don’t recognize or understand what they’re truly worth. They place so much value on being in a relationship with a guy that they’re willing to allow themselves to be messed around endlessly.
    It’s a heartbreakingly common scenario. A guy that treats his wife or girlfriend like sh*t, and the woman who puts up with it and allows herself to remain stuck in the same sorry place – no matter how much she might wish things were different.
    Even women that aren’t in relationships can fall victim to this trap. Almost every straight woman has been through the experience of talking to and dating a guy they really like that seems to keeping them at a distance. One minute everything is great. Sparks are flying, there’s tension in the air, and you start to dream that this guy might actually be the one for you. The next, he’s blanking your texts, leaving calls unanswered, and doesn’t seem to want to meet up.
    Whether you’re dating or in a relationship, if a guy is playing games with you, there’s only one thing that needs to happen. You need to realize just how valuable you are.
    You need to know your worth. You need to have the self-respect to stop allowing people to treat you with anything less than love, respect, patience, kindness, and honesty. If a guy isn’t over the moon at even having the chance to talk to you, then walk away. Don’t settle for someone that isn’t willing to put as much effort into things as you are. They clearly don’t value you as much as you value them.
    It’s normal to cry. It’s normal to beg. It’s normal to tell yourself that you’re done with him, only to find that you desperately want him back and your heart races every time you see a message from him.
    Be the woman who loves herself. Be the person who won’t settle for someone so immature that they don’t recognize a great catch when they see one.
    If he’s ignoring you, if he makes you his last priority, if you see him constantly disrespecting you, or taking you for granted, or using you, then don’t give him any more chances to change. Don’t let him fool you into thinking he really cares. If he cared, he’d have shown you from the start. Walk out the door and never look back.
    So many guys will push their luck as far as they can. They’ll see how much they can bend you before you break. It’s only once you’ve had enough and finally tell them that you’re done with their immaturity and selfishness that will acknowledge they’ve been horrible to you. They will sense they’re about to lose you (or, at least, the things you do for them and the way you make them feel good about themselves) and will cry and beg and promise you that they’re sorry and that they will change.
    If a man truly respects you, it’s obvious. It’s in every word he says. It’s in everything he does. He will consistently show you that he loves you, that he prioritizes you, and that you mean the world to him. He will be kind to you, he will be patient with you, and he will be honest and sincere and open.
    Don’t keep getting your heart broken by someone who’s not even willing to really give their heart to you. Don’t let yourself be manipulated by some scumbag who’s only using you for their own gratification.
    Know your worth. Find someone who truly loves you. Find someone who truly wants you. Someone who will treat you like the diamond you are and not a piece of trash.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️
  • March 2, 2019
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    People who are meant to be together will always find their way back to each other.

     

    Soulmates can be thought of like human magnets. There’s one special person out there for everyone, someone whose energy and being is attracted to your own in a way that it just isn’t to anyone else.
    Eventually, this attraction will bring the two of you together.
    Your soulmate is out there, somewhere. Maybe you know them, or perhaps the two of you haven’t met yet. You might have met them a long time ago. It’s possible that they’re currently in your life, and that you just don’t know that they’re your soulmate yet, or vice versa. You might even have had a relationship with your soulmate already, but found that things didn’t work out.
    True love is a connection that runs far deeper than any other. It’s an energy that carries across space and time, bringing people who are meant to be together into each other’s arms.
    Your soulmate is out there, no matter how much it might sometimes seem like they’re not. People often feel like they’ve looked everywhere and still haven’t found their special person, so they assume that there’s no one they’re meant to end up with.
    There’s no rush. You don’t have to keep looking. Things often happen to you when you give up trying to make them happen. There’s no need to force things to turn out in the way you want them to. We cannot control anything that happens to us in life. All we can do is react when things present themselves to us. There’s no need to go in search of your person. The two of you will come together when the time is right. You’re meant to be together, so you will end up together.
    When two people are destined for each other, love will bring them together at the right moment.
    True love is more than just a connection between two hearts, minds, and souls. It’s a connection of experience and time. Two soulmates might be meant for each other, but often they must travel separate roads until they develop into the people that they need to be for each other. Sometimes, things have to get worse before they can get better.
    You and your soulmate might even meet as teenagers and then drift apart to follow your own paths in life, only to reconnect as adults, with the wealth of life experience the two of you have built up separately forming the bedrock upon which your love is able to grow and flourish.
    Everything that happens, happens for a reason.
    Life is incredibly strange. Sometimes events happen that seem catastrophic and awful until with the benefit of hindsight you see that they were necessary to mold you into someone better. Someone wiser, kinder, and more compassionate. Someone more capable of loving another person with all of their heart.
    Everything that happens to us is simply an experience to learn from. If you think you’ve met your soulmate and the two of you break up, know that it is for the best. Perhaps that person really is your soulmate, and one day you’ll reconnect and it’ll feel like you’ve never been apart. Perhaps they’re not, but the lessons you learn from them help you to recognize your true soulmate when you finally meet them.
    Going your separate ways is sometimes for the best.
    If you were meant to be with a certain person right now, you’d be with them. If you’re not, then it’s simply time to be apart. You can know for sure that you’ll end up with your soulmate one day, whether it takes months or years for you to find each other.
    You can’t truly lose your soulmate, even if the two of you aren’t by each other’s sides right now. When the time is right, you’ll be with the person that you’re meant to be with.
    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️