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Archive for December, 2018

  • December 31, 2018
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    I’m Not Afraid Of Being Alone. I’m Scared Of Ending Up In A Lousy Relationship.

    Let’s face it, this generation’s dating scene is absolutely ridiculous. For some people, the thought of being alone is too much to bear. They will go to any length to avoid it, even if that means being with someone that isn’t right for them. To people who feel like this, being with the wrong person is better than being alone.
    But I’m different to people that feel that way. I’m okay with being in my own company, and I don’t need anyone there to distract me at any cost.

    Here are reasons why I’m not afraid of being alone:

     

    I don’t mind doing things without company
    I’m fine being by myself at any given time, no matter what I’m doing. I don’t mind eating alone at restaurants. I don’t mind getting coffee alone, or going to the movies, or going shopping. I’m happy being by myself, and that’s okay. This independence means I don’t need anyone to be there to make something worth doing. I fully enjoy things when I do them alone.
    I know the right person will come along eventually
    I’m in no rush to be with someone. I know that when the time is right, the person meant for me will come into my life. I’m not in any hurry – I know everything happens in its own time. Until then, I’m happy to wait patiently and get on with doing my own thing.
    I don’t need anyone – I’m enough for myself
    This is the big one – although being in a serious, committed relationship with the right person would be incredible, I don’t need anyone in my life. I am enough for myself. I am complete by myself. I am happy, I am fulfilled, and I have purpose all by myself. Another person wouldn’t bring those things into my life; they’d just be someone to share those things with.

     

    Being alone gives me more time for myself
    I really value my alone time. I like to spend time and energy on the things that interest me, or help me to progress and develop both as a person and in my career. Being alone allows me to focus on these things, without having to make sure I leave enough time to spend on another person.

     

    I don’t want to be with the wrong person
    Although a relationship with the right person is a very attractive prospect to me, a relationship with the wrong person is something I desperately want to avoid. Sometimes, it can be all too difficult to know the difference until you’re knee deep in the relationship. After all, some people don’t reveal their true colours to you until you’ve been together for a while. As nice as being with the right person sounds, jumping into a relationship with someone I’ve just met, even if they seem great, just isn’t worth the risk. I like to take my time, and I like to take things slowly. That way, I can for the most part avoid a lot of the risk of ending up with the wrong person.

     

    I have my friends and family
    My friends and family mean everything to me. They’re the people I love, the people that care about me the most. Having these people close to me makes life far easier. They keep me sane, and they’re great company. With brilliant people like them in my life, I don’t need anyone else to spend time with in order to feel less alone.
    I only have to worry about myself
    Being alone means that you’re your only priority. You don’t have to consider someone else when making decisions. I don’t have to worry about another person’s safety, or take into account someone else when thinking about food or money or time. It’s nice being responsible for myself and myself alone, rather than having to consider another person.
    There’s always loads of space in the bed
    One great thing about not being in a relationship is the crazy amount of space in my bed when I go to sleep. I can stretch out as much as I like, and I don’t have to worry about taking too much of the covers or laying on their side of the bed. Although having another person nearby is nice and cuddling is awesome, being single can be bliss when it comes to sleeping.
    I’ll admit, I’ve been foolish. But, I’ve learned my lessons. I’ve been through a lot of shitty relationships to finally accept the fact that ending up alone is not what scares me the most. In fact, when I think about it, staying alone until I meet the right person is not a bad idea at all.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 29, 2018
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    When You Meet The Right Person, They Won’t Let You Go Because They’ll See Your Beautiful Heart And Soul.

     

    Everyone has found themselves waiting to meet the right person at some point in their life. If you’re in this position, take comfort in knowing that you’re not alone, and that when you finally meet the right person the two of you will be together forever.

    The right person in your life will know you’re right for them, too. Once they’ve got you in their life, they will hold on tightly. They won’t want to let you go for the exact same reasons that you won’t want to lose them. The right person will be with you through thick and thin. If the person you thought was right for you didn’t stick by your side through anything, they weren’t the right person in the first place.

    The right person will stand by you through anything because they see underneath the surface of you, right to your core. They will understand you. They will have a real, deep, fundamental connection with you. They will know what to say to you when you’re upset or frustrated in order to comfort you and calm you down. You’ll feel at home whenever you’re with them, regardless of where you are.

    When you meet the right person, the two of you will develop an incredibly tight bond. A bond like that is unbreakable. No matter what obstacles the two of you come across, you can overcome them. They will care deeply about you, in the same way you care about them. They will make you a priority in their life, and they’ll move mountains in order to make things work out between the two of you.

    The right person will be able to make you laugh and smile at a moment’s notice. They’ll be able to cheer you up and lift your mood with only a quick smile or a few well chosen words. You’ll share great times with them, and make memories together that you’ll remember forever.

    Spending time with this person – with your person – will be effortless. It will feel like the easiest, most natural thing in the world to be near to them at all times. They’ll be your best friend, and you’ll be theirs. There will be nothing the two of you won’t be able to talk about. You’ll be able to completely confide in each other.

    You have all of this and more to look forward to when you finally meet the right person. They’ll take you to heights you could never have imagined existed. There will be hard times, but the two of you will be able work through anything and everything that comes your way. They won’t give up on you, and they won’t leave you.

    When you meet the right person, they won’t let you go.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 26, 2018
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    The strongest woman that you will ever meet are the

    ones that hurt the most.

     

    Think about the strongest woman you know. Think about how she always seems so capable, so calm and collected regardless of the circumstances. She always seems to know the right thing to do in any given situation, and she takes all the hardship in her life on the chin with a smile. She might seem like she’s invincible, like she’s able to handle absolutely anything without even breaking her stride. All too often, however, the strongest women are actually the ones suffering the most.
    They suffer because no matter how tough they might appear to be, no one is invincible. No one is able to deal with absolutely anything life throws at them without batting an eyelid. No matter how much she might seem to be unaffected by the things that happen to her, the strong woman that you know feels just the same as you would inside.
    In fact, she might even feel worse.
    Many women that others perceive to be strong and fiercely independent feel under pressure to maintain the image of composure and strength that they’ve built up. Many of these women feel like they have no one they can be vulnerable with, no one they can open up to.
    They’re left alone with their thoughts and feelings, bottling them up so that no one else has to deal with them. They have their backs to a dam, trying to hold back the water and stop it from bursting.
    The strong woman you know just might be broken inside. She might feel totally alone, unable to tell anyone about how she truly feels. She might want so badly to be the rock that other people lean on that she never allows herself to lean on others from time to time.
    She might appear to be unbreakable, but nobody knows what goes on in the deepest reaches of her heart. She’ll never allow anyone to get close enough for her to be exposed or vulnerable. Perhaps she’s been hurt too badly before. Perhaps the people she needed to lean on weren’t there for her when she needed them the most, so now she suffers in silence. Even when things seem bleak and she feels nothing but desperation inside, she swallows the pain and puts on a smile.
    Strong women are often expected to have their sh*t together by the people around them, which can lead to them trying to hide their true emotions from others. Even when they might want to scream at the top of their lungs, they’ll just nod their heads and listen instead They will do whatever it takes to be the good, strong friend that others expect them to be.
    The strong woman you know wants to be a good friend. She doesn’t want to express her own problems to other people, because she’s used to having others pile their problems on her instead.
    She might appear to be carved from stone, but inside she’s crumbling.
    But no matter how much she might struggle, she keeps on going. Even when she’s at rock bottom, she digs deep and scrapes up whatever energy she can to carry on pretending. She manages to keep on putting one foot in front of the other, and no one else knows just how hard it is for her. She’s hurting, but she keeps on going. She’s brave, and she should be respected.
    Maybe you should reach out to the strong woman you know, and let her know that you’re there if she ever needs someone to talk to. It could make all of the difference.
    Just remember, Yes, they are strong, but they are also human.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 23, 2018
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    Intelligent Girls Stay Single Until Someone Worthwhile Comes Along.

    Perhaps you’ve noticed that intelligent, capable women tend to be single more often than others. This could quite easily be misinterpreted as being because they’re aloof, or think they’re superior to others. But they’re not alone because they think too highly of themselves. They’re alone because they struggle to find men they feel would be an equal match for them.
    Relationships are all about balance. Many men are intimidated by intelligent women, and the relationship becomes lopsided and uneven.
    Strong, intelligent women are incredibly independent. They’re not afraid that someone might break their heart or crush their dreams. Their high self-esteem and intellectual capability stops them from needing to be in a relationship with someone just for the sake of it.
    They have better things to do. They’re focused on achieving career goals and developing as people. They’re not interested in wasting time and energy on someone who simply doesn’t challenge them and can’t keep up. Having a relationship with someone that doesn’t push them on to develop and become a better person simply isn’t worth it.
    Below Are Five Reasons Intelligent Girls Stay Single Until Someone Worthwhile Comes Along:

     

     

    • They’re independent
    Intelligent, capable women are often fiercely independent. They value their alone time and their ability to do things by themselves. To people like this, independence is a way of life, and being with someone else involves giving it up to some extent. A relationship is about joining your life to someone else’s – along with all the baggage that comes with it. For many capable and independent women, that just isn’t a price worth paying at the present moment.

     

     

    • They won’t put up with immaturity
    It’s well known that many men struggle with maturity. It’s something that requires a great deal of reflection and a real focus and drive on the part of an individual to improve and develop personally. Smart, capable women won’t put up with any childish mind games. They’re straight to the point, with no time or patience for bullsh*t. If a guy isn’t willing to behave like an adult, they’re not interested, resulting in them being single for far longer than they might otherwise be.
    • They don’t have much time for a relationship

     

    Intelligent and driven women lead busy lives. They have things to do, places to be, and people to meet. Relationships take up a lot of time and energy, so often they’re something that particularly ambitious women put on hold. They simply don’t have the time they need in order to properly take on a serious relationship, so they decide it’s better to leave it for the time being rather than half-ass it.
    • They have high standards
    Women that are intelligent and capable have extremely high standards that someone has to meet in order for them to even be considered as a potential partner. They’re well aware of their self-worth, and they won’t accept someone who isn’t totally compatible with them. They need someone who’s just as intelligent, independent, and driven as themselves.

     

     

    • They don’t need anybody to complete them
    Strong, intelligent women are well aware that they are the only person they need in order to feel totally happy, fulfilled, and complete. They feel like their lives have purpose and direction regardless of their relationship status, so they don’t feel that drive that many people get to be in a relationship. That isn’t to say that they don’t crave love and affection like everyone does, however. It’s just that they’re in no rush to chase it – they know it will come along in due time.
    Intelligent girls stay single until someone worthwhile comes along. Someone who she believes is worth giving up the single life for because she knows that this relationship is going to lead somewhere extra special.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 22, 2018
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    Life is short. It’s far too short to be unhappy. For most of us, a long-term relationship is something incredibly special and sacred. It’s something that can bring you an immense amount of happiness, fulfilment, and love – provided it’s with the right person. For this reason, we all want to find that special someone, that person that once we’ve met we just can’t live without. The person who completes us, satisfies us, pushes us to be better, and loves us no matter what.
    Everyone deserves to be happy, and a big part of that is being with the right person. You deserve to be with someone who listens, someone who cares. You deserve to be with someone who loves you unconditionally.
    You deserve to be with someone who’s not afraid to love, and to be loved by you in return.
    You deserve to be with someone who doesn’t think that it’s not masculine to be vulnerable, or to express their feelings and emotions. Someone who’s mature and confident enough in themselves to be able to tell you how they feel, to handle things calmly, and to talk out any issues without resorting to anger. You deserve to be with someone who will always remind you that they’ll love you no matter what.
    You deserve someone who will be your best friend as well as your lover. Someone who is patient, kind, and caring. Someone who wants to see you all the time, and who’s cool to do absolutely anything as long as the two of you are hanging out – from going to the park for a picnic, to staying in together for the night with a home cooked meal and a bottle of wine.  
    The reason that you deserve all this is that you’re worth it. You’re worth being with someone who respects you, who loves you for who you really are. You’re worth someone who will show you what it really means to be in love, someone who will never hesitate to tell you how much they love you and how much you mean to them.
    Stop giving your love to men who won’t reciprocate it!
    There are so many men out there who will let you love them with all your heart, and in return do nothing but lie to you, mess you around, and take you for granted. Don’t settle for some jerk who doesn’t care about you in any kind of meaningful way!
    Unconditional love, by its very nature, is love without any terms or conditions – it’s bigger than anything that can happen between the two of you. When we love unconditionally, we often don’t have much control over it. It exists outside of our logical mind, and is based on something far deeper, and far more spiritual.
    Unconditional love is an unbreakable bond. It’s an unspoken understanding between two minds, a connection between two souls. If you love someone unconditionally, it should be someone who has nothing but unconditional love for you in return. When you’re capable of holding someone in such high regard, you deserve someone who’s biggest fear is losing you. Someone who would do anything for you, who would go to the ends of the earth if you asked them to.
    You deserve all of this, and more. You deserve to be with the right person.

    Written by Maverick – Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 18, 2018
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    I’d Rather Be Single Than Be In A Relationship That Makes Me Feel Alone.

    While there are some who aren’t afraid of being single or alone, for many people, being single is a nightmare. They crave the company of other people, and feel vulnerable and directionless when alone. For people like this, a relationship is the ultimate goal. It means they never have to be alone. Every night, they can sleep next to someone. Whenever they’re bored, or lonely, they have someone to talk to and be with. This often means, however, that they get into relationships with the wrong people – they’re more likely to overlook their partners flaws in their desperation to avoid being alone.
    Below are five reasons why it’s better to be single than in a relationship with the wrong person.
    The wrong person won’t let you be yourself
    When you’re single, you’re the authentic you. When in a relationship with the wrong person, we feel the need to change our behaviour to conform to what is expected of us by out partner. Being with the wrong person often involves acting in a way that isn’t true to ourselves. It’s better to be single than to be with someone who doesn’t like it when you’re goofy, or when you sleep in on weekends, or when you want to watch a certain film or eat certain foods.
    The wrong person won’t understand you
    They won’t be able to have deep, meaningful conversations with you. You’ll feel frustrated by the lack of any attempt at trying to see things from your point of view. They might well belittle you and make you feel small for having your own opinions and way of doing things. None of this happens when you’re single – there’s no one there to judge you for what you think or say.
    The wrong person isn’t good company
    When you’re secure in yourself and happy with your own company, you don’t need someone there all the time. Your own company is good enough. Being alone isn’t a hard or unpleasant experience. When you’re in a relationship with the wrong person, however, their company is often not the nicest. They might be irritable and unkind, or perhaps they don’t get your sense of humor and don’t make you laugh. That’s not a problem when you’re single.
    The wrong person won’t love you for who you are
    Being yourself is one of the most important things in life. It’s the root of happiness and fulfilment. If you’re with someone who is fundamentally wrong for you, they won’t love you for who you are. They won’t appreciate all the little unique things that make you you. When you’re single, you can love yourself as much as you want. You can appreciate your quirks, be happy and fulfilled and enough for yourself.
    The wrong person will probably hurt you
    A relationship with the wrong person is a relationship with an expiry date. Whether it takes ten months or ten years, it won’t last. When it ends, you’ll most likely end up getting hurt. When you’re single, this isn’t something you have to deal with.
    Being single, with the right perspective and outlook, is brilliant. Being in a happy, fulfilling, and loving relationship with the right person is even better. Being with the wrong person, however, is far worse than being alone. Don’t make the common mistake of jumping into relationships with anyone just to avoid having to be by yourself for a while.
    The right relationship will come one day. But now, it’s time to focus on the most important relationship. The one with yourself.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc.

  • December 18, 2018
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    You gotta train your mind to be stronger than your emotions or else you’ll lose yourself everytime.

  • December 18, 2018
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    The only things you can take with you when you leave this world are the things you’ve packed inside your heart. -Susan Gale

  • December 18, 2018
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    The rain falls because the clouds can no longer handle the weight. The tears fall because the heart can no longer handle the pain.

  • December 18, 2018
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    I am in competition with no one. I run my own race. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone, in any way, shape, or form. I just aim to improve, to be better than I was before. That’s me and I’m free.

  • December 18, 2018
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    Karma “Think good thoughts, say nice things, do good for others. Everything comes back.”

  • December 18, 2018
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    Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone who can spark your soul…now that is rare.

  • December 17, 2018
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    I am getting too old to try to impress people. Either they like me the way I am, or they don’t. And that’s okay with me.

  • December 14, 2018
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    I thought it would be painful, letting you go.

    I thought I would suffer, that my heart would be anguished with the loss of you. Or worse, maybe it would stop beating altogether.

    Maybe without you, I would simply cease to exist.

    I thought I would become adrift, for you had been the anchor I had formed my identity upon, the compass I had relied on for my direction. I thought without you I would become lost, disoriented.

    I had expected to taste salty tears as they fell upon lips that once spoke so fondly of you; that my head would lay on my pillow damp with tears for as many nights as the moon continued to kiss the stars.

    But one day, I just knew.

    I hadn’t expected such a feeling of relief as I cut the ropes that once shackled me to you. One instant of tremendous clarity. One instant, where I finally knew.

    I no longer needed you.

    I no longer needed your opinion of me, your affirmation, your approval.

    I no longer needed your judgments, your criticisms, your condemnations.

    I no longer needed your expectations I could never meet; your hoops too high to jump through, your goal posts that shifted with every changing breeze.

    I no longer needed your blame, your excuses, your justifications.

    I no longer needed your pseudo love, fraught with conditions and attached with strings.

    I thought I needed you. I didn’t.

    I thought it would be hard to let you go. It wasn’t.

    I thought I would miss you. I don’t.

    For in one instant my heart was awakened to the truth of who I am.

    I am more than the lies you made believe about myself. I am more than the look of failure in your eyes when I fell short of your demands. I am more than how worthless you made me feel. I am more than the ways you tried to break me.

    I am a warrior, sculpted by the hands of creation, fashioned into being by the very hands that created the oceans and the stars and the mountains and air.

    I am strong, I am brave, I am wise. I am gentle of spirit with the heart of a lioness.

    I am creative, passionate, sensitive, and kind. I am of open heart and open mind. I am powerful, generous, thoughtful, daring, empathetic, raw, complex, courageous, understanding, forgiving.

    I am everything you are not.

    I will no longer carry the shame you made me suffer under the weight of.

    That shame belongs to you.

    And I will no longer carry my hate for you.

    For that will only ever bind me to your darkness and give you permission to destroy my light. It will allow you to stay within me, to destroy my peace, to blacken my heart with the malice that lives within you.

    It will tie me to your soul-destroying bitterness, your ugliness.

    It will anchor me once more to you, who tried to drown me.

    Instead, I will choose to go into the world and love more fiercely, show more compassion, be more generous, offer more kindness.

    I will choose to forgive. For me, not for you.

    I will choose to sow what I wish to see reaped for my children’s future.

    I will choose to dis-empower hate.

    I will choose freedom.

    I will choose love.

    I will stand firm upon the unshakeable truth of who I am.

    And I will soar to heights you will only ever dream of.

    For I have let you go.

    No longer am I held down by all I allowed you to be in my life.

    I no longer need you.

    I am free.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

     

  • December 12, 2018
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    Take care of yourself first or you will have nothing left to give others. Self-care is not selfishness.
    You cannot serve it from an empty vessel.

  • December 10, 2018
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    Never again will I waste my time.

    Because although I have before, I will not settle.

    “Never again.”

    We all crave love and affection, and when these things are combined with and the emotional support and affirmation that can come from a relationship it can be all too easy to make finding a permanent partner your main priority and goal in life.

    This can cause many people to settle for a romantic partner that doesn’t quite complement their own personality and life, and isn’t quite up to scratch. The fear of being alone and the desire to find someone pushes lots of people towards being in relationships that aren’t really right for them.

     

    There’s plenty more fish in the sea

    This old saying contains a great deal of truth – there are plenty of people out there that would be great for you. Life is bigger than any one person, so don’t let it get you down if the person you’re into turns out to not be so good for you. Just move on, and keep looking for someone that’s right for you.

    Settling for someone that you don’t really totally click with just because you’re afraid you won’t find anyone who’s a better match for you is just selling yourself and your future happiness short. You can and you will find someone else, and if you wait long enough you can and will find someone who is much more suited to building a life with you.

     

    Someone out there will love you like you deserve to be loved

    You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. You deserve to have someone who loves you for who you are, someone who will listen carefully when you speak and give you their honest and thoughtful advice. You deserve to have someone by your side that you enjoy spending time with, someone who you feel calm and peaceful and happy around. Relationships need chemistry. They need a spark, a real romance where both people feel crazy about each other.

    Everybody deserves to be loved. You shouldn’t settle for a relationship where you feel undervalued and unappreciated. If you do that, you’re selling yourself short. If you sell yourself short in your relationship and accept being with someone who doesn’t love you properly, you’ll regret it forever. You’ll always want to know what could have been if you’d been with someone really special, someone who makes you feel incredible.

     

    Life is too short to be unhappy

    Live is short. It’s far too short to be anything other than happy. Not just content, but fulfilled and satisfied in all aspects of your life. One of the most important parts of your life is your relationship. If you’re unfulfilled within it because you decided to settle for someone that doesn’t satisfy you in the way you desire, you’ll find it extremely difficult to really be happy. You’ll be left wanting more, because you chose a comfortable position over really chasing the person of your dreams.

    You deserve to live an amazing life, one where you’re living your dreams and experiencing true happiness and enjoyment. No one is perfect, and everyone has their flaws, but you know deep down when you’re settling for someone and when someone is an extremely good match for you. If you settle in your relationship, you’re giving up your control over your happiness and your life fulfilment. Don’t let yourself live a life that isn’t your best because of the fear of being alone.

     

    Love comes naturally – you can’t force it to work

    A healthy relationship needs respect, honesty, trust, and effort. These things are fundamental values and principles that a person either does or doesn’t have – and if they don’t, you can’t force them to have them. Learning the lessons required to become a person who values these things takes a long time. If the love in your relationship is having a hard time blossoming because your partner doesn’t value these things, you’re not going to be able to change them into someone else or fix them.

    Making a relationship work is difficult for anyone, but when the love won’t come naturally between the two of you because you share similar values and principles, you need to take a step back and assess things. A long-term relationship should be with someone that is your best friend, lover, and life partner. If you’re not with that person, you’re settling, and you’ll regret it forever.

    Being with the wrong person can be far worse than being alone. If you refuse to settle for a poor-quality relationship, you’ll be far happier, fulfilled, and in control of your life. The right person will come along eventually – and if not, so be it. It’s better to be in control of your life and your happiness than it is to be with someone who takes it away from you.

    So be a person who loves with passion and with fullness. Don’t waste time loving someone who doesn’t love you wholly in return. And don’t settle for anything less than extraordinary love.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

     

  • December 9, 2018
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    The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With.

    Love is an extremely powerful emotion. It can be wildly euphoric, or deeply painful. Sometimes it’s a puzzling, unsettling mix of both.
    Love can be incredibly confusing. We don’t always feel it when it’s most convenient, but when we feel it in the right circumstances it’s empowering and uplifting beyond belief. The power love possesses to move us in brilliant and profound ways is coupled with its ability to make us feel the darkest, most ugly emotions possible. The problem with love lies where it meets the real world. People fall in love much more easily and frequently than they might like, meaning we often find ourselves in a position of wanting more than anything to be with someone every day for the rest of our lives but being totally unable to. There are thousands of reasons you might not be able to be with the person you love, and all of them are horribly painful.
    Despair, rather than happiness, is all too often the overwhelming feeling experienced when a person thinks about someone they love. For some people, loving someone involves never even getting the the chance to experience what life would be like if they were loved by them in return. They might sit and look at the person they love almost everyday, without ever having the chance to tell them how they really feel. They think about what it would be like to stare into the person’s eyes and tell them they love them. To hear the object of their dreams say it back. To feel the arms of the person they wish they could have wrapped around their back.
    They sit and they hope and they dream for a love that feels all too far away. Their fantasies are detached from reality, meaning they’re forever longing for a person that they’ve never experienced something concrete with. This means that their ideas can run away with themselves, stretching their illusion of the person they love and building them up to be something far more than they really are – just another person. When you love someone that doesn’t see you the same way, it’s easy to feel overwhelming sadness and grief for never having the person you wish you could be with.
    For other people, when they think about the person they love the overriding feeling they get is regret. They’ve experienced what it’s like to love someone and be loved by them in return, and for whatever reason, it’s gone now. When they think of the person they love, they think about how much they wish could have happened differently, how much they wish they could change. A relationship between two people in love is intense and passionate, the kind of relationship where two souls become one. You know everything about each other. You know what they like, and what they don’t. You know the things they find funny, or boring, or horribly depressing. You’re in sync with someone in a way that you never knew was possible.
    Some people say that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. It’s better to have experienced something beautiful, even if only for a moment, than to be left always wondering what it could have been like. But losing the person you love is an incredibly difficult experience. The feelings of support, understanding, and care that you experienced are ripped away for good. You’re left alone and unsure, afraid of taking on the world on your own. Only too recently, it felt like you could take on the world, like you could do anything, and now you’re only full of doubt and regret. The feelings of something left unfinished, of something being broken beyond repair inside of you may fade in time, but they never really go away completely. You’re always left wondering why things had to be so wrong with someone that felt so right.
    Love will always be a beautiful thing. Even when it’s painful, you can find peace in the knowledge that you had to have experienced something good to feel pain at being without it. The fact that anything in life can make you feel such strong, overwhelming emotion is an incredible thing. Being in love with someone you can’t have will always be hard, but all you can do is acknowledge that they’re never going to be able to be the person you want them to be in your life, and that that’s okay. You’ve loved once, and you’ll love again. There is always the opportunity to meet someone new, wherever you are in life. There will always be hope for you to love someone else with even more intensity, even more feeling. Lasting love with the right person is worth the wait, and eclipses any of the pain felt from having loved before and lost it.
    Loving someone you can’t have is one of the worst feelings you can experience in life, but everything will pass. In the long run, you’ll know you’re better off for having had the experience. You learn that you deserve more so don’t let it take over your life. When all is said and done, you’ll be glad you took care of your heart and sanity even because those are the things that only you can protect.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 8, 2018
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    You broke her heart. Now she’s gone for good.

     

    If she was the one and you let her go, you already know what you’ve lost.
    Perhaps you knew she was the right person when you left her, but you thought the timing was wrong. Maybe you didn’t realize just what you had while you had her, so you left her behind and started a new chapter, only to realize further down the line that you’d made a mistake. Maybe you took her for granted and didn’t make her a priority in your life, gradually pushing her away until she left you. Whichever way things panned out for you, she was your soulmate and you missed your chance with her because you were too blind to see it. You didn’t realize what she meant to you, or exactly what it would have taken to be with her.
    You had someone incredible. She was devoted to you. She loved you more than she ever thought it was possible to love, and you threw it all back in her face.
    You broke her heart.
    She went from thinking you were the one, her true love and the only person for her, to knowing that it wasn’t enough for you and that you didn’t see it the same way. You tore her heart in two, but you’ll be the one that suffers in the long run. When you broke her heart, she realized you weren’t the person she thought you were. Now she’s gone for good, no matter how much you might regret leaving her, no matter how much you might want her back.
    Now you know what you’ve lost.
    All of those walks in the park on summer days, when you’d hold hands and laugh together. The meals you cooked together, the movies you watched while you both ate from the same box of popcorn. All those things are gone. They’re memories now, fading like footprints in the sand. You know what you had, and you know what you’ve lost. You know it’s never coming back.
    She was your best friend. She laughed at your jokes, and watched with a smile on her face as you did the things that make you happy.
    She was your lover. She held you close at night, and kissed you in the morning as you were waking up.
    Now she’s a stranger, and there’s nothing left for you to do other than accept that she’s never going to be those things for you again.
    All you can do is learn from your mistakes.
    What’s done is done. The past is the past, and there’s nothing you can do to change what happened. You can apologize and try to make things right, but you won’t ever be able to make things go back to the way they were. You broke her heart, and even if she forgives you, she’s never going to forget that.
    You can’t dwell on the past, however. You have to move on, you have to try to learn from the things that you regret doing or not doing. You have to let the mistakes of the past help you build a brighter future.
    If you’re ever lucky enough to meet another incredible woman, make sure you get it right.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 2, 2018
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    When she finally decides to walk away, she’s done.

     

    She could be your wife or girlfriend. You might think she’d never leave you, that she’s stayed too long to just give up now.
    She might not be a person known for giving up easily. She might be someone that sticks with things, someone who knuckles down and keeps on going, even when the going gets tough. She might be a strong lover, a fighter, someone who won’t just shrug her shoulders and give up when the chips are down.
    But everyone has a limit. Everybody has their breaking point.
    No one will put up with being second best forever. If you’re constantly making her an afterthought, if you treat her like an inconvenience that you have to deal with if you want to keep everything smooth and maintain the status quo, know that your days with her are numbered.
    She won’t put up with it forever.
    The day will come when she’s tired of not being a priority in your life. When she’s done with the last minutes changes of plans, with the excuses, and the laziness and the total lack of effort. Deep down, she knows she deserves better. She wants someone who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. The day will come when you do something that will be a step too far. It will be one too many times. The straw that breaks the camel’s back. And when it happens, you’ll be blindsided. You won’t see it coming. You’ll ask her what changed, why she’s decided she wants to walk away.
    Know that you had it coming the whole time.
    When you’re lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling, thinking about what an amazing woman you had and how badly you wish you could get her back, know that it wasn’t just one thing. Know that you never treated her properly. Know that it was never enough. She put up with you not being enough for a very long time, because she’s a fighter. She holds on to those she loves, and she does everything in her power to make it work.
    But she couldn’t bring herself to hold onto you anymore. She realized that she finally had to take control of her life, that she is the only person who can really make herself happy. So, she walked away.
    When the day comes that she finally says ‘enough is enough’ and leaves you, know that she’s finally done, and that she won’t be coming back. She’s given you enough chances to change. She’s tired of telling you over and over that you don’t value her the way she values you, that you don’t listen to her, that you don’t really care. She’s done with it all, and she’s putting herself first for once.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • December 1, 2018
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    Make up your mind – you either want me or you don’t.

     

    I’m beyond sick and tired of all the mind games. I’m done with the hot and cold, on and off tactics used by so many people these days. I don’t want to be played like I’m some kind of instrument. I want a mature relationship – one where everything’s out there in the open, where all our intentions are transparent.
    I don’t want any more lies, any more half-truths. I need honesty, I need maturity and I need openness.
    I’m someone who loves deeply, with all of my heart. I treat the people I’m dating with nothing but my total respect. I need to get that same respect back.
    In the end, it’s all very simple. Either you want me in your life or you don’t. There’s no middle ground. No gray area. If you don’t want to give me the same honesty, respect, and trust I give you, then you don’t want me at all, and I don’t want you in my life.
    If you wanted me, you’d be able to give me everything I ask for and more. You’d be open. You’d be honest. You’d respect me enough to tell me the full truth, rather than trying to hide things away from the light.
    Love is sacred. It’s something extremely special, something that should be experienced as purely and as totally as possible. Love isn’t something you whisper in someone’s ear in the heat of the moment. It’s the choice you make to be open and honest every single day.
    I’m tired of being in childish relationships. Everyone makes mistakes, but when it’s the same old things cropping up time and time again it’s a sign that you need to step back and take a look at how you approach relationships.
    Life is too short to settle for anything less than wholesome, honest, trusting love. I don’t care how long it takes me to find it – I won’t accept anything less. I’ll spend my entire life alone if I have to. It’s a price worth paying if it means I won’t be constantly wishing the person I’m with was someone else, or wishing our relationship and our love was different.
    When it’s finally right, when it’s finally real, I’ll know it. I’ll feel it deep down. It will be natural, and easy, and right. I won’t have to force them to do things, I won’t have to tell them to be honest, because they’ll value it as much as I do and make that clear from the start.
    If you’re in a relationship with someone that treats you as second best, someone who takes you granted, then you need to ask them a question.
    You need to ask them: ‘If you want to be with me, I need you to make up your mind. Do you want to be with me, or don’t you? Either way, you better hurry up, or I’ll make it up for you.’

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©