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  • December 10, 2018
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    Never again will I waste my time.

    Because although I have before, I will not settle.

    “Never again.”

    We all crave love and affection, and when these things are combined with and the emotional support and affirmation that can come from a relationship it can be all too easy to make finding a permanent partner your main priority and goal in life.

    This can cause many people to settle for a romantic partner that doesn’t quite complement their own personality and life, and isn’t quite up to scratch. The fear of being alone and the desire to find someone pushes lots of people towards being in relationships that aren’t really right for them.

     

    There’s plenty more fish in the sea

    This old saying contains a great deal of truth – there are plenty of people out there that would be great for you. Life is bigger than any one person, so don’t let it get you down if the person you’re into turns out to not be so good for you. Just move on, and keep looking for someone that’s right for you.

    Settling for someone that you don’t really totally click with just because you’re afraid you won’t find anyone who’s a better match for you is just selling yourself and your future happiness short. You can and you will find someone else, and if you wait long enough you can and will find someone who is much more suited to building a life with you.

     

    Someone out there will love you like you deserve to be loved

    You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. You deserve to have someone who loves you for who you are, someone who will listen carefully when you speak and give you their honest and thoughtful advice. You deserve to have someone by your side that you enjoy spending time with, someone who you feel calm and peaceful and happy around. Relationships need chemistry. They need a spark, a real romance where both people feel crazy about each other.

    Everybody deserves to be loved. You shouldn’t settle for a relationship where you feel undervalued and unappreciated. If you do that, you’re selling yourself short. If you sell yourself short in your relationship and accept being with someone who doesn’t love you properly, you’ll regret it forever. You’ll always want to know what could have been if you’d been with someone really special, someone who makes you feel incredible.

     

    Life is too short to be unhappy

    Live is short. It’s far too short to be anything other than happy. Not just content, but fulfilled and satisfied in all aspects of your life. One of the most important parts of your life is your relationship. If you’re unfulfilled within it because you decided to settle for someone that doesn’t satisfy you in the way you desire, you’ll find it extremely difficult to really be happy. You’ll be left wanting more, because you chose a comfortable position over really chasing the person of your dreams.

    You deserve to live an amazing life, one where you’re living your dreams and experiencing true happiness and enjoyment. No one is perfect, and everyone has their flaws, but you know deep down when you’re settling for someone and when someone is an extremely good match for you. If you settle in your relationship, you’re giving up your control over your happiness and your life fulfilment. Don’t let yourself live a life that isn’t your best because of the fear of being alone.

     

    Love comes naturally – you can’t force it to work

    A healthy relationship needs respect, honesty, trust, and effort. These things are fundamental values and principles that a person either does or doesn’t have – and if they don’t, you can’t force them to have them. Learning the lessons required to become a person who values these things takes a long time. If the love in your relationship is having a hard time blossoming because your partner doesn’t value these things, you’re not going to be able to change them into someone else or fix them.

    Making a relationship work is difficult for anyone, but when the love won’t come naturally between the two of you because you share similar values and principles, you need to take a step back and assess things. A long-term relationship should be with someone that is your best friend, lover, and life partner. If you’re not with that person, you’re settling, and you’ll regret it forever.

    Being with the wrong person can be far worse than being alone. If you refuse to settle for a poor-quality relationship, you’ll be far happier, fulfilled, and in control of your life. The right person will come along eventually – and if not, so be it. It’s better to be in control of your life and your happiness than it is to be with someone who takes it away from you.

    So be a person who loves with passion and with fullness. Don’t waste time loving someone who doesn’t love you wholly in return. And don’t settle for anything less than extraordinary love.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

     

  • December 9, 2018
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    The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With.

    Love is an extremely powerful emotion. It can be wildly euphoric, or deeply painful. Sometimes it’s a puzzling, unsettling mix of both.
    Love can be incredibly confusing. We don’t always feel it when it’s most convenient, but when we feel it in the right circumstances it’s empowering and uplifting beyond belief. The power love possesses to move us in brilliant and profound ways is coupled with its ability to make us feel the darkest, most ugly emotions possible. The problem with love lies where it meets the real world. People fall in love much more easily and frequently than they might like, meaning we often find ourselves in a position of wanting more than anything to be with someone every day for the rest of our lives but being totally unable to. There are thousands of reasons you might not be able to be with the person you love, and all of them are horribly painful.
    Despair, rather than happiness, is all too often the overwhelming feeling experienced when a person thinks about someone they love. For some people, loving someone involves never even getting the the chance to experience what life would be like if they were loved by them in return. They might sit and look at the person they love almost everyday, without ever having the chance to tell them how they really feel. They think about what it would be like to stare into the person’s eyes and tell them they love them. To hear the object of their dreams say it back. To feel the arms of the person they wish they could have wrapped around their back.
    They sit and they hope and they dream for a love that feels all too far away. Their fantasies are detached from reality, meaning they’re forever longing for a person that they’ve never experienced something concrete with. This means that their ideas can run away with themselves, stretching their illusion of the person they love and building them up to be something far more than they really are – just another person. When you love someone that doesn’t see you the same way, it’s easy to feel overwhelming sadness and grief for never having the person you wish you could be with.
    For other people, when they think about the person they love the overriding feeling they get is regret. They’ve experienced what it’s like to love someone and be loved by them in return, and for whatever reason, it’s gone now. When they think of the person they love, they think about how much they wish could have happened differently, how much they wish they could change. A relationship between two people in love is intense and passionate, the kind of relationship where two souls become one. You know everything about each other. You know what they like, and what they don’t. You know the things they find funny, or boring, or horribly depressing. You’re in sync with someone in a way that you never knew was possible.
    Some people say that it is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. It’s better to have experienced something beautiful, even if only for a moment, than to be left always wondering what it could have been like. But losing the person you love is an incredibly difficult experience. The feelings of support, understanding, and care that you experienced are ripped away for good. You’re left alone and unsure, afraid of taking on the world on your own. Only too recently, it felt like you could take on the world, like you could do anything, and now you’re only full of doubt and regret. The feelings of something left unfinished, of something being broken beyond repair inside of you may fade in time, but they never really go away completely. You’re always left wondering why things had to be so wrong with someone that felt so right.
    Love will always be a beautiful thing. Even when it’s painful, you can find peace in the knowledge that you had to have experienced something good to feel pain at being without it. The fact that anything in life can make you feel such strong, overwhelming emotion is an incredible thing. Being in love with someone you can’t have will always be hard, but all you can do is acknowledge that they’re never going to be able to be the person you want them to be in your life, and that that’s okay. You’ve loved once, and you’ll love again. There is always the opportunity to meet someone new, wherever you are in life. There will always be hope for you to love someone else with even more intensity, even more feeling. Lasting love with the right person is worth the wait, and eclipses any of the pain felt from having loved before and lost it.
    Loving someone you can’t have is one of the worst feelings you can experience in life, but everything will pass. In the long run, you’ll know you’re better off for having had the experience. You learn that you deserve more so don’t let it take over your life. When all is said and done, you’ll be glad you took care of your heart and sanity even because those are the things that only you can protect.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 8, 2018
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    You broke her heart. Now she’s gone for good.

     

    If she was the one and you let her go, you already know what you’ve lost.
    Perhaps you knew she was the right person when you left her, but you thought the timing was wrong. Maybe you didn’t realize just what you had while you had her, so you left her behind and started a new chapter, only to realize further down the line that you’d made a mistake. Maybe you took her for granted and didn’t make her a priority in your life, gradually pushing her away until she left you. Whichever way things panned out for you, she was your soulmate and you missed your chance with her because you were too blind to see it. You didn’t realize what she meant to you, or exactly what it would have taken to be with her.
    You had someone incredible. She was devoted to you. She loved you more than she ever thought it was possible to love, and you threw it all back in her face.
    You broke her heart.
    She went from thinking you were the one, her true love and the only person for her, to knowing that it wasn’t enough for you and that you didn’t see it the same way. You tore her heart in two, but you’ll be the one that suffers in the long run. When you broke her heart, she realized you weren’t the person she thought you were. Now she’s gone for good, no matter how much you might regret leaving her, no matter how much you might want her back.
    Now you know what you’ve lost.
    All of those walks in the park on summer days, when you’d hold hands and laugh together. The meals you cooked together, the movies you watched while you both ate from the same box of popcorn. All those things are gone. They’re memories now, fading like footprints in the sand. You know what you had, and you know what you’ve lost. You know it’s never coming back.
    She was your best friend. She laughed at your jokes, and watched with a smile on her face as you did the things that make you happy.
    She was your lover. She held you close at night, and kissed you in the morning as you were waking up.
    Now she’s a stranger, and there’s nothing left for you to do other than accept that she’s never going to be those things for you again.
    All you can do is learn from your mistakes.
    What’s done is done. The past is the past, and there’s nothing you can do to change what happened. You can apologize and try to make things right, but you won’t ever be able to make things go back to the way they were. You broke her heart, and even if she forgives you, she’s never going to forget that.
    You can’t dwell on the past, however. You have to move on, you have to try to learn from the things that you regret doing or not doing. You have to let the mistakes of the past help you build a brighter future.
    If you’re ever lucky enough to meet another incredible woman, make sure you get it right.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©️

  • December 2, 2018
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    When she finally decides to walk away, she’s done.

     

    She could be your wife or girlfriend. You might think she’d never leave you, that she’s stayed too long to just give up now.
    She might not be a person known for giving up easily. She might be someone that sticks with things, someone who knuckles down and keeps on going, even when the going gets tough. She might be a strong lover, a fighter, someone who won’t just shrug her shoulders and give up when the chips are down.
    But everyone has a limit. Everybody has their breaking point.
    No one will put up with being second best forever. If you’re constantly making her an afterthought, if you treat her like an inconvenience that you have to deal with if you want to keep everything smooth and maintain the status quo, know that your days with her are numbered.
    She won’t put up with it forever.
    The day will come when she’s tired of not being a priority in your life. When she’s done with the last minutes changes of plans, with the excuses, and the laziness and the total lack of effort. Deep down, she knows she deserves better. She wants someone who will treat her the way she deserves to be treated. The day will come when you do something that will be a step too far. It will be one too many times. The straw that breaks the camel’s back. And when it happens, you’ll be blindsided. You won’t see it coming. You’ll ask her what changed, why she’s decided she wants to walk away.
    Know that you had it coming the whole time.
    When you’re lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling, thinking about what an amazing woman you had and how badly you wish you could get her back, know that it wasn’t just one thing. Know that you never treated her properly. Know that it was never enough. She put up with you not being enough for a very long time, because she’s a fighter. She holds on to those she loves, and she does everything in her power to make it work.
    But she couldn’t bring herself to hold onto you anymore. She realized that she finally had to take control of her life, that she is the only person who can really make herself happy. So, she walked away.
    When the day comes that she finally says ‘enough is enough’ and leaves you, know that she’s finally done, and that she won’t be coming back. She’s given you enough chances to change. She’s tired of telling you over and over that you don’t value her the way she values you, that you don’t listen to her, that you don’t really care. She’s done with it all, and she’s putting herself first for once.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©

  • December 1, 2018
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    Make up your mind – you either want me or you don’t.

     

    I’m beyond sick and tired of all the mind games. I’m done with the hot and cold, on and off tactics used by so many people these days. I don’t want to be played like I’m some kind of instrument. I want a mature relationship – one where everything’s out there in the open, where all our intentions are transparent.
    I don’t want any more lies, any more half-truths. I need honesty, I need maturity and I need openness.
    I’m someone who loves deeply, with all of my heart. I treat the people I’m dating with nothing but my total respect. I need to get that same respect back.
    In the end, it’s all very simple. Either you want me in your life or you don’t. There’s no middle ground. No gray area. If you don’t want to give me the same honesty, respect, and trust I give you, then you don’t want me at all, and I don’t want you in my life.
    If you wanted me, you’d be able to give me everything I ask for and more. You’d be open. You’d be honest. You’d respect me enough to tell me the full truth, rather than trying to hide things away from the light.
    Love is sacred. It’s something extremely special, something that should be experienced as purely and as totally as possible. Love isn’t something you whisper in someone’s ear in the heat of the moment. It’s the choice you make to be open and honest every single day.
    I’m tired of being in childish relationships. Everyone makes mistakes, but when it’s the same old things cropping up time and time again it’s a sign that you need to step back and take a look at how you approach relationships.
    Life is too short to settle for anything less than wholesome, honest, trusting love. I don’t care how long it takes me to find it – I won’t accept anything less. I’ll spend my entire life alone if I have to. It’s a price worth paying if it means I won’t be constantly wishing the person I’m with was someone else, or wishing our relationship and our love was different.
    When it’s finally right, when it’s finally real, I’ll know it. I’ll feel it deep down. It will be natural, and easy, and right. I won’t have to force them to do things, I won’t have to tell them to be honest, because they’ll value it as much as I do and make that clear from the start.
    If you’re in a relationship with someone that treats you as second best, someone who takes you granted, then you need to ask them a question.
    You need to ask them: ‘If you want to be with me, I need you to make up your mind. Do you want to be with me, or don’t you? Either way, you better hurry up, or I’ll make it up for you.’

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc. ©