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Archive for September, 2018

  • September 23, 2018
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    KNOW YOUR WORTH -You must find the courage to leave the table if respect is no longer being served. -Tene Edwards

  • September 18, 2018
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    Sleeping next to someone you love makes you fall asleep faster, reduces depression, and helps you live longer.

  • September 18, 2018
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    What Happiness Feels Like When You Have Anxiety

    It feels like a trick more than anything.
    You want to enjoy the happiness. You want to just live in the present and let things be and to ‘not chase it.’ Because that’s what everybody tells you is the right thing to do: let happiness happen to you. Enjoy it. Just breathe.
    But sometimes it’s impossible to live in the present and enjoy your happiness, when all your brain keeps saying is This is wonderful, but it’s too wonderful. There is no way this is going to last. 
    And no matter how much progress you make, no matter how much mindfulness you practice or how much meditation you attempt or how hard you try to just be, it feels pretty damn difficult when your brain is going against you, and deciding that it’s a better idea to instead come up with every possible way that things could go wrong.
     
    Happiness, when you have anxiety, is almost painful. You can sense how close you are to feeling purely lighthearted, and relaxed, and content. You can sense how close you are to joy and bliss. But you also know that these kinds of feelings are (painfully) just out of reach. They are almost there in front of you, they are almost yours, but not quite.
    Happiness, when you have anxiety, feels like failure. Because rather than enjoying it, all you can think about is how you’re doing it wrong. Something that should be so intrinsic, so instinctual, can feel like such a challenge to you. A burden. A strain. And – because you think you’re doing it wrong – it can cause a strong a sense of shame.
    It’s a simile that’s been used time and time again, but happiness, when you have anxiety, feels like trying to hold water in the palms of your hands, and then feeling it slowly seep out, no matter how tightly you try to hold on. It feels impossible, and exhausting, and like an undertaking that is impossible to win.
    Happiness, when you have anxiety, is the epitome of bittersweet. It’s lovely and delightful and wonderful, but it’s also whispering in your ear that it can only stay for so long.
    Happiness, when you have anxiety, can feel like the most isolating thing in the world. But, when you look closely, when you search for it, it’s also one of the strongest threads in the history of mankind, because it connects so many of us to one another. We’re all worried about it. We’re all trying to hold that water in our hands. We’re all waiting for the moment that happiness whispers to us that it cannot stay much longer. We all fear this, we all feel this. At least, in that sense, we are never alone.

    Written by Kim Quindlen (with permission)

    This article was originally published in thoughtcatalog.com

  • September 18, 2018
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    Remember, anyone can love you when the sun is shining. In the storms is where you learn who truly cares for you.

  • September 18, 2018
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    If I ever tell you about my past, it’s never because I want you to feel sorry for me, but so you can understand why I am who I am.

  • September 18, 2018
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    “If you ever get the chance to treat them the way they treated you, I hope you choose to walk away and do better.” ― Najwa Zebian

  • September 18, 2018
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    7 steps to improve your attitude:  1. Stand up 2. Stretch 3. Take a walk 4. Keep walking 5. Board a plane 6. Fly to Hawaii 7. Never return

  • September 18, 2018
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    You might be sad because you’ve been through a lot, but you should also be proud of yourself for being strong enough to make it through it.
    – Sonya Parker

     

  • September 18, 2018
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    Nothing annoys me more than when someone expects you to be okay with something that they wouldn’t be okay with if it was done to them.

  • September 18, 2018
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    Hugging is the most beautiful form of communication that allows the other person to know beyond adoubt that they matter to you.

  • September 17, 2018
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     You gotta train your mind to be stronger than your emotions or else you’ll lose yourself everytime.

  • September 17, 2018
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    Sometimes the best thing you do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe, andhave faith that everything will work out for the best.

  • September 13, 2018
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    If he really wanted you, he’d be with you

     

    Sometimes the truth can be a tough pill to swallow, but it’s better to face the facts and accept reality than to drag yourself on with false hope and excuses, dreaming of a future that will never come true.

    If he really wanted you, he’d be with you.

    If he genuinely wanted you in his life, as his partner, as his future wife, then he’d make you a priority. He’d treat you with respect and devotion, not indifference. He’d go out of his way to show you how much you mean to him and how you’re always on his mind – not make you an afterthought. If he’s not showing you he wants you in his life, telling you he wants to be with you, then it’s time to give up on the dream and to start the process of moving on. It’s better to rip the band-aid off quickly than to peel it off slowly. You’ll only end up hurting more in the long run.

    So many women make the mistake of hanging on, of dreaming of a second chance or a change of heart or mind. They sit and pine for weeks or months, wishing he’d come back to them, wishing he’d see how good they could be together and what they could have. The harsh truth is that if he wanted to be with them, he would. If he’s ever going to come back, then it will happen regardless of how much time you spend chasing him or hoping for him to change his mind. If they don’t want to be with you, let them go.

    Sometimes it can be harder to let go than others. If he’s an asshole, or manipulative, or childish, it’s much easier to wrap your head around the thought of being without him. But when he’s a genuinely good guy, who only wants the best for both of you and is trying his best to do the right thing, it’s a whole other story. It often hurts that much more knowing what a great guy he is and how good you could be for each other. No matter how much you love him, or how much he tells you he loves you; No matter how much fun you had together, how well he treated you, or how many nights you spent lying awake and talking or laughing together until the sun came up, he doesn’t want to be with you. And that’s okay, because one day you’ll find someone who does – but it’s not him.

    We often try to tell ourselves during a breakup that it’s not the end. It’s normal to try and reassure yourself, to tell yourself that he needs space, and that given time he’ll change his mind, or that all you need to do is convince him or make him see things from a different perspective and he’ll come around. It’s usually not that simple, however. If he doesn’t know in his heart, just as strongly as you do, that he wants you in his life, then it’s not meant to be.

    Many women seem to make the mistake of believing that their partner should be the core component of their life, something that the rest of their existence is built around. Live your life for you. Learn to be enough for yourself, and to be comfortable with and happy in your own company. You’ll find that true love happens when you stop searching for it and become enough for yourself. Let him go, move on, and live life for yourself. You don’t need anyone. You will find someone, the right person, when the time is right.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writter
  • September 11, 2018
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    The only things you can take with you when you leave this world are the things you’ve packed inside your heart. ~ Susan Gale

  • September 11, 2018
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    I may not be the most important person in your life. I just hope when you hear my name, you smile and say “That’s my friend!”

     

  • September 11, 2018
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    Someday, I will travel the world with someone I love.

  • September 10, 2018
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    Enjoy every moment you have, because in life, there are no rewinds.

  • September 10, 2018
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    Sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because it’s fake.

  • September 10, 2018
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    At the end of the day, the most important thing is that your family is safe, you have food to eat and you are grateful for what you have.

  • September 4, 2018
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    Five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love;

    Those among us who have the greatest amount of love to give – the most potential to be everything their future partner has ever wanted – are often the ones who find it hardest to find the thing we all crave so much; real, genuine, lasting love.

    But why?

    The answer isn’t simple.

    Here are five reasons why the best women are often those who struggle most to find love:

    They need to find someone who is their equal

    Part of being a strong, independent woman is not settling for anything less than a partner who is your equal. This can be hard to find – there are plenty of people out there who would rather not treat their significant other as their equal, and see them as inferior in some way. It can be harder to find love when you have good standards!

     

    They won’t settle for less commitment than they’re prepared to give themselves

    The most amazing women have so much love and commitment to give that they won’t settle for anything less from their partner than they’d give out themselves. This can make it hard to find love when you’re looking for someone who is able to give as much as you can – there’s just not as many people capable of providing this as we might wish there were.

    They are honest and genuine and expect the same from others

    Expecting your partner to be as honest with you as you are with them seems like a basic expectation from a relationship, but many people are or have been in relationships where this just isn’t the case. Lots of people out there are neither genuine nor honest, and have no interest in trying to become either one of these things. This can make it hard to find real love when you want to find a person who’ll treat you with basic human decency.

    They are often very romantic

    Plenty of us build things up in our heads sometimes, romanticising everything and fantasising about what could be. It’s part of being human. The best among us are often the biggest dreamers, the most romantic. This can make us prone to falling head over heels in love with the wrong people as we overlook their flaws and focus only on the aspects of them that we like.

    They spend more time and effort on themselves than on others

    Spending more time alone, working on yourself than out socialising or meeting others means that naturally you’re meeting less people. This could mean you’re potentially missing out on lots of great potential partners. However, there’s always a trade-off. If you spend more time trying to meet someone, you spend less time becoming the best possible version of yourself. It’s all about finding the right balance for you.

    Don’t let these reasons for struggling to find love stop you from being the strong, amazing woman you are. The right person will come along when the time is right for you and them. Focus on yourself and the rest will come – never chase love at your own expense. The right person will be worth the wait.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer for Lessons Learned In Life Inc.
  • September 4, 2018
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    Just because a person smiles all the time doesn’t mean their life is perfect. That smile is a symbol of hope and strength.

  • September 4, 2018
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    When someone is mean, don’t listen. When someone is rude, walk away. When someone tries to put you down, stay firm. Don’t let someone else’s bad behavior destroy your inner peace.

  • September 4, 2018
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    It’s all too easy when you’re deep into a relationship to take your partner for granted. The deterioration happens so gradually, over such a long period of time, that it’s hard to notice the relationship is in decline at any given point. Perhaps you’re short on money so you pause your Friday night dates and never get back into the habit. Maybe you start working longer hours and find that you no longer give your spouse a kiss goodbye before you leave for work in the morning.

    Too many people make the mistake of thinking that their love goes without saying, that they don’t need to display how much their partner means to them because they must ‘already know’. People need validation. Men, women – it doesn’t matter. We as humans need to feel wanted, appreciated, loved, and desired by our partners. Without this feeling of security, it seems as though something is missing. The relationship feels wrong. People who feel insecure in their relationship can only last so long before they break and decide that they want out.

    It’s often said that if you want your relationship to last a lifetime, then you have to treat every day like it’s the first you’ve ever spent with them. Do that, and there won’t be a last day. It’s easier said than done, however. Relationships are hard work. They’re never easy and they’re never perfect. They’re two different individuals coming together to work on a project bigger than themselves. It requires lots of hard work and sacrifice – and that includes each person spending time and energy showing the other that they still appreciate them; that they don’t take their love for granted.

    This doesn’t mean, however, that you need to make a big show of how much you love your partner. Most people don’t need expensive bouquets of flowers delivered or vacations to Paris (although those always help!). Handwritten notes saying you love them, making an effort to cook or clean for them, or meaningful hugs and passionate kissing all go a long way towards making your significant other feel wanted and appreciated.

    There’s a reason that half of all marriages end in divorce. Love is a commitment. It’s a journey and a process, rather than a state of being. If you take your partner’s love for granted and assume they’ll be there regardless of whether or not you expend any effort showing them how much you mean to them, it’s all too possible that one day you’ll wake up and find that they’ve checked out of the relationship mentally. They don’t have to physically leave you for it to be too late to for you to make amends. Once that switch in their head flips, once they fall out of love, it’s very hard to ever find a way back. Appreciate the love you have – and show the special person in your life that you do. Never take it for granted.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer at Lessons Learned In Life Inc.
  • September 4, 2018
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    She fell, she crashed, she broke, she cried, she crawled, she hurt, she surrendered and then…
    she rose again.-Nausicaa Twila

  • September 4, 2018
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    When my arms can’t reach people close to my heart, I always hug them with my prayers.

  • September 4, 2018
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    “One of the most courageous decisions you will ever make is to finally let go of whatever is hurting your heart and soul.”
    ― Brigitte Nicole

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    If you’re struggling and your people are just watching you struggle… They’re not your people.