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Archive for August, 2018

  • August 29, 2018
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    Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone that can spark your soul…now that is rare.

  • August 29, 2018
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    Things take time. Healing is a process. Happiness doesn’t happen right away. One day, you might just wake up and realize that things are a bit better, but be patient please. It’s worth the wait.

  • August 29, 2018
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    People usually change for two reasons. It’s either they have learned a lot, or they have been hurt a lot.

  • August 29, 2018
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    Life has knocked me down a few times. It has shown me things I never wanted to see. I have experienced sadness and failures. But one thing for sure, I always get up.

  • August 29, 2018
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    Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”― Dalai Lama XIV

  • August 29, 2018
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    Be strong but not rude. Be kind but not weak. Be humble but not timid. Be proud but not arrogant.

  • August 29, 2018
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    Never say mean words out of anger. Your anger will pass. But your mean words can scar a person for life. So use kind words or be silent.

  • August 29, 2018
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    I am what I am. I may not be perfect and I make mistakes but when I care, I care with all my heart.

  • August 28, 2018
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    Sometimes in life we just need someone who will be there for us. Someone who will listen. Someone who will understand.

  • August 28, 2018
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    Some of the most generous people have no money. Some of the wisest people have no education. Some of the kindest people were hurt the most.  ― Steve Wentworth

  • August 28, 2018
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    What’s broken can be mended. What hurts can be healed. And no matter how dark it gets, the sun is going to rise again.

  • August 28, 2018
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    I am at a point in my life where I just want my family happy, my health good, my mind right, my finances flowing and no drama.

  • August 28, 2018
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    Nothing is permanent. Don’t stress yourself too much because no matter how bad the situation is… it will change.

  • August 28, 2018
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    Never forget who ignored you when you needed them and who helped you before you even had to ask.

  • August 28, 2018
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    The people that did you wrong are telling a different version of the story and they’re playing the victim.

  • August 27, 2018
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    It’s your life. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for living it your way.

  • August 27, 2018
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    Even if you hear a bad story about me, understand there was a time I was good to those people too, but they won’t tell you that.

  • August 27, 2018
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    My love is free but my trust is earned. Do not mistake my kindness for weakness because my integrity ismy greatest strength. — Anna Grace Taylor.

  • August 27, 2018
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    Five reasons why you deserve to be with someone who values you for who you really are.

    So many people suffer in relationships with partners who don’t recognize their true value. Partners who don’t know what they have in their significant other, or how lucky they really are. You deserve to be with someone who knows your true worth, someone who you’re more than enough for. Someone who puts you and your feelings first, rather than just having you as an afterthought.

    Here are five reasons why you deserve to be with someone who values you for who you really are.

     

    You are special and unique

    There is no one else quite like you. You share some traits with others, but you’re totally unique at the same time. Find someone who loves you for all the little quirks that define you. Don’t settle for someone who wants you to be anyone other than who you truly are.

    You are valuable

    No matter who you are or what you’ve been through in life, you are valuable. You have worth. You have the potential to be someone’s everything. It’s just a matter of finding the right person to recognise that value in you.

     

    You are enough for many, many people out there

    Why settle for not being enough for one person when you could be more than enough for someone else? You deserve to be truly loved and appreciated.

    You deserve someone that is enough for you

    Just as you should be with someone who you are enough for, the reverse is true. You deserve to be with someone that is enough for you – and that includes someone who values you for who you really are!

    You deserve to be fulfilled in your life and relationship

    Life is too short for anything less. Being totally fulfilled in your relationship means finding someone who’ll love you for exactly who you are. Someone who recognizes the value in you and who appreciates all the little things that make you the person you are, rather than worrying about and pining for the person you’re not. Changing as a person at your own pace is perfectly natural and healthy – but never feel like you have to become different to meet someone else’s expectations.

    You deserve someone that really loves you. Someone that wakes up in the morning glad to spend another day with you. Someone that shows you how much you mean to them, how much they care. Someone who values you for who you really are.

    Written by Maverick - Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life.
  • August 27, 2018
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    Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know until you lived it. Keep the lesson and make better choices going forward. Trust your journey.  ~Brigitte Nicole

  • August 27, 2018
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    People will never truly understand something until it happens to them.

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    Some people aren’t loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their needs change, so does their loyalty.

  • August 22, 2018
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    The seven most common traits of toxic people.

    Toxic people come in many forms. Whether they’re narcissists, sociopaths devoid of emotion, or simply childish, they’re everywhere and they’re hard to avoid crossing paths with at points throughout your life. The best way to deal with them is simply to avoid their presence (and therefore their negative influence) as much as you possibly can. Here are seven of the most common traits of toxic people so that you can see them coming a mile away and steer clear!

    • Manipulation

    This is the bread and butter of any toxic person – manipulating others to their advantage. Manipulation can be hard to detect as it’s very often subtle, but over a long enough period of time the red flags begin to pile up and you’ll notice that something is wrong. Watch out for playing on your emotions and trying to guilt you into doing things for them.

     

     

    • Judgemental

    Someone who is quick to judge others is someone who doesn’t put themselves in other people’s shoes. Jumping to conclusions and writing people off due to the things they do without looking at it from their perspective or considering that it may have been a reasonable course of action given their circumstances is a common example of toxic behaviour.

    • A lack of humility

    It’s important to be secure in yourself and your abilities, and comfortable in your own skin. Being arrogant, immodest, and quick to talk about how superior to others you are, however, is behaviour that always leads to upset. If a person thinks they’re the bee’s knees and is unapologetically vocal about it, it’s very likely that they’re a selfish, self-important, and toxic person. Anyone unable to take a humble view of themselves has an inflated sense of self-worth. We’re all only human. No one is perfect.

     

     

    • They take no responsibility for their actions and rarely apologise

    A person that is always placing the blame for things they’ve done onto other people is someone that doesn’t hold themselves responsible for the (negative) consequences of their actions. People make mistakes. It’s part of being human. The proper way to handle having caused harm to others, unintentionally or otherwise, is to be mature, to apologise to anyone you’ve wronged, and to accept that you made a mistake. Trying to hide from the truth and shifting the blame onto someone else is cowardly and toxic behaviour.

    • They have no problem lying

    Lying comes easily to toxic people. For some, it’s as natural as breathing. They have no problem lying to you through their teeth, often with a smile. When you know someone lies often and without trouble, stay as far away from them as you can. It’s important to surround yourself with positive, honest people.

     

     

    • It’s all about them

    When every conversation you have with someone is all one way, with them never showing any interest in what you have to say, or never asking you anything other than superficial questions before quickly turning the spotlight back upon themselves, run for the hills. It’s a big red flag of a toxic person. Life is too short to keep people who are only interested in themselves in your life.

     

    They live for drama

    Any person who seeks out, instigates, or needs drama to give their lives some kind of meaning is toxic, make no mistake. This type of behaviour breeds more drama – those who go looking for something often find it in abundance. If they’re always starting fights, egging on others to start fights or be confrontational, or taking obvious delight in a situation where people are riled up and in conflict, they’re toxic. Strongly consider dropping them out of your life. You’ll be far happier and able to enjoy a more peaceful existence once you do.

    Written by Maverick - Staff Writer. 
  • August 22, 2018
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    I would rather surround myself with people who make a lot of mistakes and have no problem admitting them, than to surround myself with people who think they make none.

  • August 22, 2018
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    Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people genuinely care. The rest are just curious or have hidden motives.

  • August 22, 2018
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    It’s sad how the people you were once so close can become just another stranger you don’t know.

  • August 22, 2018
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    Train your mind to keep calm and stay positive in every negative situation.

  • August 22, 2018
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    Lucky are those who find a true loyal friend in this fake world.

  • August 22, 2018
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    Sarcastic mind, big heart. What it’s really like to be that woman?

    The woman with a sarcastic mind and big heart.

    Is that you?

     

    There’s one in every group of friends. Everyone knows someone just like her. She’s both a cliché and entirely her own person, everywhere you find her. The sarcastic woman. The one who’s outrageously funny, always bold, and, deep down, brimming with love for everyone.

    Here are nine ways in which the sarcastic, funny, loving woman is different to others.

    She’s not afraid of making a fool of herself

    Being a charismatic, sarcastic person requires being comfortable in your own skin. Comfortable enough to make a fool of yourself every now and then!

     

    She’s fiercely protective of her friends and loved ones

    And if you hurt them in any way, you’ll know all about it. She will go to great lengths to protect those she cares about.

    She speaks her mind

    And she’s not afraid to do so. If she sees something she doesn’t agree with or that she feels is wrong, she’ll speak up.

    She likes making people laugh

    In fact, she loves it. It’s something she does well, and it ties her and her friends closer together.

     

    She’s happy being herself

    She’s independent, and she’s her own person. She does things her own way, and she’s proud of it.

    She doesn’t do things by halves

    Anything she does, she does it properly. Whether it’s her job, looking after her dog, or making people laugh, she’s good at it and she knows it.

    She’s competitive

    And she hates to lose. She’ll do whatever it takes to win, and have a blast doing it.

    She puts her mind to things

     

    She sets herself goals, and then works towards them. She always has a new challenge, and she loves to prove to herself that she can do things.

    She wants to find someone to be vulnerable with

    Deep down, the sarcastic woman wants someone who understands her. Someone that she can really be open with, who she trusts and will listen to her with compassion. She puts up somewhat of a front with her humor and sarcasm, but all of that can be seen through by the right person.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writter,

    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,

  • August 21, 2018
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    If you keep choosing the wrong people in your relationships, read this:

    The majority of people have experienced choosing the wrong person to be in a relationship with at least once in their life. That’s nothing unusual. However, if you consistently go after people who are just not right for you and seem to keep finding yourself in unhealthy relationships, then perhaps it’s time to take a step back and look at the root cause of the problem.

     

    Are you afraid of being single?

    No one wants to die alone, but if the idea of being single for any amount of time fills you with dread, then you don’t have a healthy attitude to dating or relationships. It’s okay to be single. The time you spend as single person is when you have the best opportunity to really get to know yourself. Constantly needing someone to give you attention, to distract you from feeling alone, or to give you a purpose isn’t a healthy foundation for any relationship. If you can learn to be comfortable by yourself without being in a relationship, you’ll find your love life will see serious improvement because you’re not jumping at the first opportunity for a relationship that you come across.

     

    Do you need a person to complete you?

    If you feel like you need a person to make you whole, to fill a void, or to complete you, the harsh truth is that you are not in the least bit ready for a healthy relationship. You don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself. It is vitally important for any lasting, loving, healthy relationship between people to be built on a solid foundation of trust, respect, effort and honesty. It’s also important that the two people involved are happy and secure with themselves individually. If you don’t value yourself, if you don’t respect, or love, or even trust yourself, then how can you ever expect to have all of that with someone else? Until you learn to be happy alone and become comfortable with the idea that you are all you need and that you alone are enough, you will find it exceptionally difficult to find and maintain a healthy and loving relationship with someone else. No one wants to die alone, but if you let that fear stop you from being enough for yourself, then it’s far more likely that you eventually will.

    Do you crave someone you can fix?

    This is something that is all too common, perhaps fuelled by the idealistic romances we see play out in movies and TV series and books. Many of us have a natural instinct to nurture and heal, to look after someone. It makes us feel needed. If you seek out people with problems so that you can make them whole, you’re in for a bad time. A person who has issues can ultimately only be fixed or helped by one person: themselves. You will not fix them. All that will happen is that they will drag you down with them. We all have issues, and relationships can be a brilliant source of emotional support – but in the end its up to us as individuals to work out our problems ourselves. Focus on finding someone who has a healthy relationship with themselves and watch your relationship blossom.

     

    Are your standards too low?

    This can be a tough question to ask yourself, but it’s an important one. If you set your standards for a partner too low, you’re going to have a stream of partners that are wrong for you. In order to find a person that’s right for you, you have to think about exactly what you want in them. Someone kind, thoughtful, genuine – whatever it is you want from a relationship. If the only criteria they have to meet is the ability to make you laugh or be earning a certain amount of money, don’t be surprised when you have shallow relationships with shallow people.

     

    Do you get caught up in the rush of a new relationship?

    The ‘shallow end’ of a relationship – the first few months to a year – are often the most exciting. Everything is new; everything is a rush. The passion and chemistry flow freely and the fire burns hot. The feeling this produces is addictive. It’s a rush of serotonin in your brain. Some people find that they can’t bear it when their relationship begins to ramp down over time and the love becomes a smouldering glow. The thing is that this is perfectly natural. It isn’t possible for a relationship to burn with the intensity that it does at first forever – it would be exhausting. A flame that bright and hot isn’t sustainable. If you let yourself get addicted to the rush, you’ll never be happy with anyone. The key isn’t to find someone who you’ll have that red-hot flame with forever, but to find the right person to let yourself settle into a loving, mutually appreciative long-term relationship with. Someone with whom from time to time you can stoke the fire and watch the love and passion and intensity flare up all over again. If you’re lucky, you’ll find yourself falling in love with the same person all over again throughout your relationship. Falling in love is easy. Loving someone for the long term is a choice.

     

    Are you really ready to commit to someone?

    Committing to a relationship, especially one that you want to last for life, is extremely difficult work. It takes an incredible level of trust, honesty and respect from both partners. There will bedisagreements and you won’t always see eye-to-eye. Making the decision to commit to someone in this way isn’t one that should be taken lightly. If there’s anything you want to do that would be hindered by a committed relationship, make sure you do it before you press the button.
    Traveling, sexual adventure, career, moving countries – whatever it is, do it first.
    Better to live with no regrets than to wake up one day distraught at the life you could have lived.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writer

  • August 21, 2018
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    We have three types of friends in life: Friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime.

  • August 21, 2018
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    Strong people don’t put others down… They lift them up.” ― Michael P. Watson

  • August 21, 2018
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    Just breathe. You are strong enough to handle your challenges, wise enough to find solutions to your problems, and capable enough to do whatever needs to be done.

    ~ Lori Deschene
  • August 21, 2018
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    Do everything with a good heart and expect nothing in return, and you will never be disappointed.

  • August 21, 2018
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    Worrying is a waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. It messes with your mind and steals your happiness.

  • August 20, 2018
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    Shattered dreams replaced by a living nightmare.

    What it’s like to be in a toxic relationship.

     

    Relationships can be unpredictable things. For some people, they are endlessly fulfilling and totally captivating. For others, they’re hell on earth.

    There are few things worse than being trapped in a toxic relationship. There’s nothing quite like the total breakdown in your sense of identity and self-worth that comes with endless gaslighting and betrayal. You’re ground down slowly until you’re a shadow of your former self. You’re made to doubt yourself, constantly. You find you’re second guessing everything you do. You’re caught in a vicious cycle of spiralling guilt and fear. You end up blaming yourself for the situation you’re in. You feel guilty for allowing it to happen to you, for you to be controlled in such a way. You also feel guilty for thinking like that in the first place. What if it all really is your fault? What if it’s all in your head, just like your partner says?

    You’re afraid to be with them. You’re afraid to be without them. Nowhere and nothing feels safe. A toxic relationship will cripple your sense of self-worth and happiness. When you’re with someone who doesn’t really want you to be happy, who doesn’t want you to follow your dreams, or to be successful or fulfilled, or to be anything other than a plaything under their total control, life begins to seem totally pointless.

    Often, toxic people will lure you into a relationship with a charming act. This façade will soon disappear once they feel like you’re under their thumb. They’ll bring it out at times, of course, when they want something from you – and then return to being vicious and nasty at the drop of the hat. Toxic people are master manipulators, skilled at cutting you off from your friends and family, slowly narrowing your support network until the noose tightens and you’re totally dependent on them. They’ll play with your emotions. They’ll ignore your calls and texts one moment, then make you feel guilty and ashamed for taking too long to reply to them. Hoping for a healthy, fulfilling relationship with someone like that is an exercise in futility. They don’t want a relationship. They want a personal slave, someone at their constant beck and call, relegated to a shell of a person and existing only to please them when they feel like it.

    Many people in toxic relationships are so hung up on the charming, perfect veneer that their partners portray when they first meet that they become blind to the reality of the situation they’re experiencing when the relationship begins to deteriorate. They desperately hope that their partner will one day become the person they first fell in love with – the one who would shower them with affection and love. They feel alone all the time, even when they’re with the person who they’re supposed to be closest with. The person who makes them feel unworthy of love. Someone who treads on them for little more than an ego boost.

    However, like any hardship in life, the horrible process of experiencing a toxic relationship can help make you stronger, as long as you can learn to process all that happened to you in a healthy and constructive way. It can teach you many hard lessons about yourself, life, and relationships. You can use a horrible experience like that as a life lesson and go on to be a better person for having been taught it. Adversity is often the best teacher.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer,
  • August 20, 2018
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    When something bad happens you have three choices. You can let it define you, let it destroy you, oryou can let it strengthen you.

  • August 20, 2018
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    SAY GOODBYE TO THE PAST Because it’s time to move on. It’s time to be happy. Amazing things are on their way.

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    A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.

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    To be happy you must: Let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains, and look forward to what’s coming next.

  • August 20, 2018
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    ‘I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.’

  • August 20, 2018
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    No matter how badly someone treats you, never drop down to their level. Remain calm, stay strong, and walk away.”

  • August 20, 2018
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     I am me. don’t pretend to be like everyone else I don’t want to be like everyone else. And I will not change who l am just to “fit in”

  • August 16, 2018
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    The saddest thing is when you’re feeling down, you look around and realize that there is no shoulder for you to lean on.

  • August 15, 2018
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    Don’t make them wait too long – why you’ll end up losing someone who waited for you.

    It’s a story as old as time – two people meet and fall in love, but one person decides they need time to figure out exactly what they want. Whether it’s focusing on their career, working through personal issues, or figuring out whether or not they want to start a family, the outcome is often the same. They decide to make their partner wait while they try to sort through their issues.

    The problem with this is that everyone has a breaking point. Some people will wait longer than others, but eventually even the most loyal, patient people will get tired of being an afterthought. Being put second in someone’s life and being made into less of a priority always stings. It’s only a matter of time before the person being made to wait realises they deserve someone who will put them first. Not even love is strong enough to bridge the distance that comes with being made second choice.

    Being kept in the twilight zone that exists somewhere between committing to the relationship and breaking up is an exhausting experience. It means spending time and energy on a person who you’re not even sure wants you in their life anymore.

    You can’t keep someone waiting indefinitely while you figure things out. It’s unfair to expect them to wait when you have no idea how long it will take you to work through your problems.

    Either commit to the relationship or turn them loose – whatever you decide to do, it’s important to follow through with your decision. Keeping someone in the gray area almost always leads to prolonged hurt and heartbreak. Keep them waiting, and there’s a very good chance that they’ll end up making the decision for you.

    Written by Maverick - Staff Writer.
  • August 15, 2018
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    No response is a response. And it’s a powerful oneRemember that.

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    Always know when to let go. When a thought is bringing you more misery than peace, let go of the thought; when a person is bringing more pain than joy to your life, let go… You cannot be your best if you lack joy and peace. — Brigitte Nicole

  • August 15, 2018
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    You should tell people how important they are to youAlways.

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    Who else wants to shut off their phonedrive to the beach, forget everything, and just listen to the sound of the waves crashing.

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    To that one soul reading this. I know you’re tired, you’re fed up, you’re so close to breaking but there’s strength within you even when you feel weak. Keep fighting.

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    Staying positive does not mean that things will turn out okay. Rather it is knowing that YOU will be okay no matter how things turn out.

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    Be with someone who is proud of you, someone you can laugh with, someone who listens to you, understands you, who treats you well and makes you a priority. ~Brigitte Nicole

  • August 14, 2018
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    Emotional abuse: what it is and how to spot it

    Abuse comes in many different forms, but perhaps the most insidious, subtle, and psychologically scarring form it can take is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is distinctly different from physical abuse in that abusers will often dominate and control their victims without ever laying a hand on them in violence. Abuse of this kind is common, and manifests itself in the same places any kind of abuse can be found. It’s most commonly found between romantic couples, but also frequently occurs between parents and children and other close relationships.

    Emotional abuse is a pattern of different behaviours, including verbal abuse, that individually may not seem to be too awful, but examined collectively and over an extended period of time amount to an extremely controlling, frightening, unfair, and dysfunctional relationship dynamic. It’s easy enough for victims of physical abuse to rationalize and excuse the behaviour of their abusers – it’s even easier when the abuse takes the form of subtle, controlling behaviour that chips away at a person’s identity and sense of self-respect.

    Many victims of emotional abuse aren’t even aware of the fact that they’re being abused

    The fact that emotional abuse can be so difficult to detect means that it’s vitally important that you learn the warning signs of it. That way, you’ll be more prepared if you ever find yourself or someone close to you is the victim of an emotionally abusive relationship.

    15 common signs of emotional abuse

     

    You’re accused of things you didn’t do. Your partner tries to convince you you’re remembering wrong, or that something didn’t happen the way you know it did. – This is called ‘gaslighting’ and being a victim of it is particularly horrendous. You begin to doubt your own sanity and trusty yourself less as a result of this abusive and intentional behaviour.

    They play the victim, often. They rarely admit to things being their fault or apologise. They shift the blame onto you or others instead of acknowledging their mistakes. – This often goes hand in hand with them blaming you for their actions and for them being upset.

     

     

    You do not feel safe or comfortable disagreeing with your partner or having your own opinion. – And are often subject to verbal abuse if you dare to speak up. This is frequently accompanied by your partner pressuring you to adopt their opinion and always agree with them.

    Your partner decides what is best for you. This applies to your career, your clothing, and how you spend your time. – Being able to tell you how to dress, making your decisions for you, and telling you what you should be doing at any given moment are all ways to control you and restrict your individual liberty.

     

    You do not feel safe poking fun at your partner in the same way they poke fun at you. – They are quick to dish out insults and make fun of you but can’t take it when you do the same to them. This stems from insecurity and wanting to feel more important than you. Belittling you makes them feel better about themselves and superior.

    Your partner checks up on you often. They demand to know where you are and who you are with at all times. – They’ll often attempt to guilt trip you if you haven’t told them every little detail about the things you’ve been doing.

     

     

    They often ‘joke’ about things they know really upset and hurt you. – Putting you down and upsetting you are power tactics to keep you feeling worthless and inferior. It’s especially common for emotional abusers to bring up things they know embarrass you or that you’re ashamed of.

    Your partner often implies that you are the lucky one in the relationship. You feel as though you are beneath them. – Another way to keep themselves in the dominant position in the relationship.

     

    Your ambitions and accomplishments are not taken seriously. They are secondary to your partner’s. They don’t acknowledge your strengths and belittle your achievements. – This is intended to make you feel inferior to them, to be relegated to a cheerleader in their lives and restricted from creating your own destiny without them.

     When you are upset, your partner tells you that it is your own fault for being too sensitive. – It’s also common for them to overreact to you being upset, either getting angry or apologising relentlessly. The goal is the same in the end – to make confrontation as uncomfortable for you as possible. 

    You fear you partner’s disapproval and walk on eggshells to avoid disappointing them. If you can’t disagree with your partner or do something they don’t approve of because you’re deeply afraid of the way they will react, your relationship is unhealthy.

     

     

    You are not allowed to see certain friends or family members as often as you would like to. – This prevents other people from having too much influence over you. Your partner wants your main influence to be themselves in order to have more control over your actions and your life.

    Your partner is hot and cold – their mood shifts frequently – This is intended to destabilise you and keep you unsure of where you stand. Showering you with attention and affection one day and then being totally distant and unresponsive the next is a form of abuse used because it’s frustrating, exhausting, and emotionally overwhelming.

     Your partner will not allow you to control your own finances. – This is a form of controlling you and your freedom. Being in control of your finances means that you partner can effectively restrict the way you live your life, where you can go, and how independent you can be. The goal is for you to be as reliant on them as possible.

    They threaten to commit suicide to manipulate you – This is the biggest of all red flags. Someone who uses this tactic IS emotionally abusing you – in every case. There is no excuse for ever using the threat of killing yourself to control another person’s behaviour.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer.

     

  • August 14, 2018
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    Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken upchanged and rearranged to relocate us to the place we’re meant to be.

  • August 14, 2018
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    “Never stop doing little things for others. Sometimes, those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.”

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    To the people in my life who make me smile, support me, and bring me joy, a big thank you.

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    You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” — C. S. Lewis

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    One of the most important things I’ve learned in life is to ignore most of what people say. I watch what they do instead. -Amanda Patterson

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    Love is not what you say. Love is what you do.

     

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    There’s not one person walking this earth that is worth you laying awake at night feeling like you’re not good enough.

  • August 13, 2018
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    Five reasons why you deserve to be with someone who values you for who you really are.

    So many people suffer in relationships with partners who don’t recognize their true value. Partners who don’t know what they have in their significant other, or how lucky they really are. You deserve to be with someone who knows your true worth, someone who you’re more than enough for. Someone who puts you and your feelings first, rather than just having you as an afterthought.

    Here are five reasons why you deserve to be with someone who values you for who you really are.

     

    You are special and unique

    There is no one else quite like you. You share some traits with others, but you’re totally unique at the same time. Find someone who loves you for all the little quirks that define you. Don’t settle for someone who wants you to be anyone other than who you truly are.

    You are valuable

    No matter who you are or what you’ve been through in life, you are valuable. You have worth. You have the potential to be someone’s everything. It’s just a matter of finding the right person to recognise that value in you.

     

    You are enough for many, many people out there

    Why settle for not being enough for one person when you could be more than enough for someone else? You deserve to be truly loved and appreciated.

    You deserve someone that is enough for you

    Just as you should be with someone who you are enough for, the reverse is true. You deserve to be with someone that is enough for you – and that includes someone who values you for who you really are!

    You deserve to be fulfilled in your life and relationship

    Life is too short for anything less. Being totally fulfilled in your relationship means finding someone who’ll love you for exactly who you are. Someone who recognizes the value in you and who appreciates all the little things that make you the person you are, rather than worrying about and pining for the person you’re not. Changing as a person at your own pace is perfectly natural and healthy – but never feel like you have to become different to meet someone else’s expectations.

    You deserve someone that really loves you. Someone that wakes up in the morning glad to spend another day with you. Someone that shows you how much you mean to them, how much they care. Someone who values you for who you really are.

    Written by Maverick - Staff writer at Lessons Learned In Life.
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    I’m sorry if you don’t like my honesty, but to be fair, I don’t like your lies.

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    It only takes a few seconds to hurt someone. But sometimes it takes years to repair the damage. Cherish the hearts that love you.

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    Watch out for people who are always bragging about who they are. A lion will never have to tell you it’s a lion.

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    I pray that happiness be at your door. May it knock early, stay late and leave the gift of God’s peace, love, joy and good health behind. Amen.

  • August 10, 2018
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    Piglet: How do you spell ‘love’?” Pooh: “You don’t spell it…you feel it.” — A.A. Milne

  • August 10, 2018
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    A special friend is hard to find, hard to lose and impossible to forget. True friends are never apart maybe in distance but not in the heart.

  • August 10, 2018
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    Love is nothing without action. Trust is nothing without proof. Sorry is nothing without change.

  • August 9, 2018
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    Jobs fill your pocket. Adventures fill your soul.

  • August 9, 2018
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    Friendly reminder that ‘doing your best‘ does not mean working yourself to the point of a mental breakdown.

  • August 9, 2018
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    Sending love to everyone who’s trying their best to heal from things that they don’t discuss.

  • August 9, 2018
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    I sat with my anger long enough, until she told me her real name was grief.

  • August 9, 2018
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     You don’t realize how much you have neglected yourself until you make yourself a priority again.

  • August 9, 2018
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    Be careful with how much you tolerate. You are teaching them how to treat you.

  • August 9, 2018
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    I owe myself the biggest apology for putting up with what I didn’t deserve.

  • August 9, 2018
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    A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action becomes reality.

  • August 8, 2018
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    Sometimesit’s not the song that makes you emotional, it’s the people and things that come to your mind when you hear it.

  • August 8, 2018
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    Worrying is a waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. It messes with your mind and steals your happiness.

  • August 8, 2018
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    I am who I am. Not who you think I am. Not who you want me to be. I am me. – Brigitte Nicole

  • August 8, 2018
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    Sometimes the strongest among us are the ones who smile through silent pain, cry behind closed doors, and fight battles that nobody knows about.

  • August 8, 2018
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     – The smell of an orange relieves stress. Smelling an orange or eating one can reducestress by over 70%.

  • August 8, 2018
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    Sometimes you just need an adventure to cleanse the bitter taste of life from your soul.

  • August 8, 2018
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    The Brave Face of a Strong Woman. 

     

    What is she like? She’s many things. She’s someone that people look up to. Someone that seems indestructible. She seems to be ever-capable, always able to get up and carry on, no matter what life throws at her. She always has words of advice, she’s always calm and composed. It seems nothing can harm her. She takes all of life’s pain in her stride, never seen to falter or stumble.

    She’s also often broken inside. Although she’d never let anyone see the vulnerabilities beneath her armor, she’s struggling. No one is strong all the time. Some days she wakes up and wants to scream. Sometimes she lies awake at night, staring at the ceiling and wishing her life was half as perfect as it seems to everyone else. She’s withstood everything life has thrown at her. She’s someone that’s seen things at their worst. She’s seen misery. She’s been exposed to the cruellest side of humanity. To be strong is to have lived these things, to have learned these lessons. To have experienced some of the nuance of being human.

    So much seems to be expected of her – something she’s only too aware of. She feels the responsibility, the pressure that comes with the impossible task of being labelled as a strong person. She has to keep up appearances. She’s always putting out fires for other people, always making sure she’s there for the important people in her life. But often, she doesn’t let people close enough to be there for her. She’s not there for herself, either. She doesn’t show the same kindness, the same compassion towards her inner thoughts and feelings. She’s self-critical. She expects perfection, and when she can’t get there she’s harsh on herself.

    Perfection is unattainable. She shouldn’t aim for perfection. What’s important is that she keeps going. No matter how bad things get, no matter how hard it gets to wake up every day and keep trying, she does. It might take her some time. She might not make it out of bed some days, and that’s okay. What’s important is that in the end, she picks herself back up and carries on.

    Everyone is fighting their own battle. Even those of us who appear to be the strongest, the most invincible. Everyone struggles. To struggle is to be human.

    The strong woman is no different; she experiences the struggle. And she’s brave in the face of it.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writter,

    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,

  • August 8, 2018
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    Don’t beg: when to walk away from someone

    Many people will go to great lengths and put up with a lot of hardship to keep their significant other around, or to try and keep the interest of a potential partner. If they’re not good enough for you, if they don’t value you like they should, or if they’re not interested – move on.

    Too many people make the mistake of staying with a partner that isn’t good for them. Sometimes, this is because it’s too painful to let the relationship go after they’ve invested so much time and energy into it. Other times it’s because they genuinely think that their partner will be able to change for the better. It’s understandable – ending a relationship can be an extremely distressing experience, especially when you depend on your partner for emotional, financial or practical support, or you fear their reaction.

     

     

    Life is too short

    The hard-to-swallow truth is that life is far too short to waste spending time with the wrong person.Knowing if your partner is a good or bad presence in your life can be frustratingly hard to figure out, however – our brains can make it extremely hard to think clearly and rationally at times. We tend to focus more on the positives and less on the negatives, even if there’s more of them and even if they’re nothing short of awful to an outside observer. Love can be a powerful drug.

    The same holds true for people dating or chasing a potential partner. If they’re not being consistent with you, if they’re on and off, or hot and cold – just walk away. Best case scenario, they like you and are playing mind games (something which just isn’t done by emotionally mature people), and worst case – they’re just not that into you. Regardless, if someone isn’t willing to be open and honest about their feelings, to talk about things in an adult and mature manner, then you’re almost certainly better off without them.

     

    How to tell if your partner is right for you

    If you can’t be yourself – your true self, around them. If they ever intentionally make you feel nervous or scared, or if they think little about you and your feelings before they make decisions that affect you. If they’re ever callous or cruel towards you, or disrespectful. If they don’t put equal effort and commitment in to the relationship – if it’s unbalanced. If any of these things are true about your relationship, the truth is that they’re probably just not right for you.

     

     

    If they’re not? Walk away

    Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t deserve you, or to chase someone who doesn’t see how special you are. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone learns from them. Don’t wait around for a change that may or may not ever come. Live your life for you. Don’t beg, don’t give in to the feeling that you can’t make it alone and that you need someone else in your life to be happy. Walk away.

     

    Written by Maverick, Staff writter.

  • August 7, 2018
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    Don’t underestimate meI know more than I say, think more than I speak, & notice more than you realize. ~Brigitte Nicole

  • August 7, 2018
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    Some people ask you what you do for a living so that they can calculate the level of respect to give you.

  • August 7, 2018
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    Some women want diamonds. Others just want a hammock, a campfire, and some peace of quiet.

  • August 7, 2018
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    Never give up on something you really want. It’s difficult to wait but it’s more difficult to regret.

  • August 7, 2018
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    Never discredit your gut instinct. You are not paranoid. Your body can pick up on bad vibrations. If something deep inside of you says something is not right about a person or situation. Trust it.

  • August 7, 2018
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    Life is like a book, some chapters sad, some happy and some exciting. But if you never turn the page, you will never know what the next chapter holds.

  • August 7, 2018
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    One day, you will understand. That happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. – Bianca Sparacino

  • August 7, 2018
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    Some people mess up something good looking for something better and end up with something worse.

  • August 6, 2018
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    WHEN I CHOSE TO LET YOU GO.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no great moment of triumph.
    There wasn’t an earth-shattering epiphany that changed my life, where music played and the universe conspired to bring everything together for good.

    There was no conflict, no turmoil and no struggle. No internal argument. No weighing of pros and cons. No decision to be analyzed to death—even by me, who cannot make a decision without weeks of obsessive thought over every possible outcome.

    There were only two words, when I chose to let you go:

    No more.

    No more will I measure my worth against your opinion. No more will I be pressed into the shapes you carved for me. No more will I tell my heart to quiet down, ashamed of its clatter. No more will there be blood on my feet from the eggshells I walked on as I tried not to give cause for your disapproval.

    No more will I anguish over the ways you misunderstood me. No more will I fight to justify the intention of my heart. No more will I beg for you to see me, the real me—to know me, to love me.

    No more will I live my life for you.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no holy encounter. The stars did not collapse from the sky and cascade into the oceans. There was no ferocious wind that rattled the walls or blazing fire that consumed all within its destructive path.

    There was only quiet resolution, the silent death of leaves that drift to the ground as frost begins to waste them away.
    And there I found myself, in the barren ground where you once stood; I came to understand there must be winter.

    Winter in all its loss, its grief, its letting go.
    There must be a time for old things to die, that new things may be born.

    When I chose to let you go, it was for me.

    I learned to love myself even when you made me feel I deserved no love. To honor my own needs, my own heart and my own potential. To walk my own path, not yours. To not be pulled back into your confines while my spirit yearned to be free.

    When I chose to let you go, I made coffee, ate toast, and folded clothes. I went to yoga and collected my mail and paid my bills. There was nothing out of place on the outside of my ordinary life—no visible change, nothing new or different.

    There was only surrender.

    One moment.

    One breath.

    I chose to let you go.

    And in doing so, I chose me.

    By Kathy Parker
    (with permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

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    No matter how badly someone treats you, never drop down to their level. Remain calm, stay strong, and walk away.”

  • August 6, 2018
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    “There comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page and closing the book”

  • August 6, 2018
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    There is always a way.

  • August 6, 2018
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    My brother may not always be at my side, but he is always in my heart.

  • August 6, 2018
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    The best apology is changed behavior.

  • August 6, 2018
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    Life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble and being kind.

  • August 6, 2018
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    Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people actually care, the rest just want to have something to gossip about.

  • August 5, 2018
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    smile because I have survived everything the world has thrown at me. I smile because when I was knocked down, I got back up.

  • August 5, 2018
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    I need a rest. A long long long long long rest.

  • August 5, 2018
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    You can’t be strong all the time. Sometimes you just need to be alone and let your tears out.

  • August 5, 2018
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    You can’t change people, so don’t drive yourself crazy trying. Instead just change how you deal with them, or just stay away from them.

  • August 5, 2018
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    The most precious gift you can give someone is the gift of your time and attention.

  • August 5, 2018
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    The older I get, the more I realize I don’t want to be around drama, conflict or stress. I want acozy home, good food, and to be surrounded by happy people.

  • August 5, 2018
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    If you remember anything of me after I leave this world remember that I loved even when it was foolish. That I cared even when it was unwanted. When my body is gone remember my heart.

  • August 5, 2018
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    Hugging is the most beautiful form of communication that allows the other person to know beyond adoubt that they matter to you.

  • August 4, 2018
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    Stop expecting loyalty from people who can’t even give you honesty.

  • August 4, 2018
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    Be Grateful for every second of every day that you get to spend with the people you love. Life is so very precious.

  • August 4, 2018
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    I’m blessed with everything I need. I am working hard towards everything I want. And most of all I appreciate and thank God for what I have.

  • August 4, 2018
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    Your truest friends are the people who don’t walk out the door when life gets hard. They actually pour some coffee and pull up a chair.

  • August 4, 2018
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    Take life day by day, and be grateful for the little things. Don’t get stressed over what you can’t control.

  • August 4, 2018
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    Once I catch you in a lie it makes me question everything you say.

  • August 4, 2018
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    I have reached a point in my life where I feel it is no longer necessary to try to impress anyone. If they like me the way I am good, and if not then it’s their loss.

  • August 3, 2018
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    If they can leave you so easily, they were never really meant for you. Let them go.

  • August 3, 2018
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    Don’t wait for things to get easier, simpler, better. Life will always be complicated. Learn to be happy right now. Otherwise, you’ll run out of time.

  • August 3, 2018
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    “Don’t ever save anything for a special occasion. Being alive is the special occasion.”

    ― Mary Engelbreit

  • August 3, 2018
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     It is what it is. It was what it was. It will be what it will be. Don’t stress it.

  • August 3, 2018
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    In life it’s important to know when to stop arguing with people and simply let them be wrong

  • August 3, 2018
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    I’m in desperate need of a full body massage, 4 days of sleep, and a trip to the Bahamas.

  • August 3, 2018
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    I am what I am. I may not be perfect and I make mistakes but when I care, I care with all my heart.

  • August 3, 2018
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    The people that did you wrong are telling a different version of the story and they’re playing the victim.

  • August 2, 2018
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    7 signs you’re mentally and emotionally exhausted.

     

    Life is a rollercoaster. You never know what’s around the corner. One minute everything’s looking up, the next it’s all crashing down around you. It can be hard to get your head around sometimes. It just doesn’t make any sense. There’s so much to cope with, so many things to have to juggle. It’s often too much to bear. What’s important in these moments is to keep a level head and a sense of perspective. You have to take time to rest and recharge to cope with the trials and tribulations of life.
    The seven signs listed below are indicators that you need time to rest emotionally and mentally. Slow down, think things through, and process the events in your life, good or bad.
    • You’re irritable
    Being easily irritated is a hallmark of being run down emotionally and mentally. If your fuse is short, and you’re quick to snap at people for little things that annoy you, if you have little patience and wish everything could simply go right for once, you’re not in a healthy mindset. You need time to rest and recover.
    • You lack motivation
    If you find it difficult to get anything done, to get out of bed perhaps, or to go to work, chances are you’re not in a healthy emotional or mental state. It’s important to take the proper action to care for yourself. Change the circumstances in your life that are under your control to try and get yourself on better footing. Don’t let your life just happen to you! Take the wheel and steer!’
    • You have trouble sleeping
    We’ve all been there: lying awake for hours at night, staring up at the ceiling. Perhaps there’s something on your mind stopping you from relaxing enough to drift off, or a feeling of emptiness that you just can’t get away from. Whatever it is, it’s reflective of your mental state and action should be taken to try and help yourself. Perhaps practice meditation to help you relax or see a therapist.
    • You’re anxious a lot
    Anxiety is a horrible, paralysing, desperate feeling. Everyone feels anxious from time to time, but if you’re constantly haunted by feelings of anxiety, you don’t have to suffer in silence. Take the time to get the help you need, to try and relax and to avoid stress as much as possible. Talking to people close to you that you trust or seeing a therapist can be extremely helpful.
    • It doesn’t take much to upset you
    Being overly sensitive and quick to feel upset and hurt by the slightest thing is a sure sign that you’re worn out and need time to cool off. Life isn’t out to get you, no matter how much it can sometimes feel like it. Life will hurt you, often, and it’s how you choose to react to this pain that most influences your happiness.
    • You feel numb
    It’s not uncommon for people to withdraw into themselves in the face of distress and sadness. After a while of feeling low, quite often a person will begin to feel numb and emotionless. This isn’t a permanent mind state, but a temporary defense mechanism to help cope with pain and trauma in life. It’s easier to block out the pain than it is to really feel it. If you feel numb or distant you need to take time to work things out. Dealing with the source of your pain and sadness is essential to returning to living a normal life.
    • You often want to cry for seemingly no reason
    Crying doesn’t just come out of nowhere. It’s a response to emotion, whether happy or sad. If you find yourself sobbing at the tiniest things, take time to reflect and really explore your feelings. Chances are, you’re fundamentally unhappy and worn out with the way things have been going. If this is the case, it’s time to reanalyse your life and what you want from it. It’s important to take steps towards positive growth and becoming a better, happier person.
    Whenever you feel worn out or run down emotionally and mentally, take time to spend on yourself. Talk things over with people you trust and rest. It’s important to look after your mental and emotional wellbeing as you would your physical health. Spend time on you, process stress and upheaval in your life in a healthy manner, and make sure you’re always looking out for number one.
    Written by Maverick, Staff writer.
  • August 2, 2018
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    Let’s go where the Wi-Fi is weak and the rum is strong.

  • August 2, 2018
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    Life is easier when you mind your own business.

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    Just because I didn’t say anything doesn’t mean I didn’t notice. I see everything.

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    Never underestimate a woman’s ability to find things out.

  • August 2, 2018
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    I still have a long way to go, but I’m already so far from where I used to be, and I’m proud of that.

  • August 2, 2018
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    Re-set, re-adjust, re-start, re-focus, as many times as you need to.

  • August 2, 2018
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    Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us.

  • August 1, 2018
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    Six things strong women don’t care about

    They aren’t afraid to be themselves
    A life lived being anything other than your true self is a life not truly lived. You have to be true to yourself. Be you and no one else, and the best possible version of yourself, at that.
    They don’t care about the past
    What’s done is done. There’s no changing history. It’s better to live in the moment and focus on where you can actually make a difference – the here and now. Let the past stay in the past!
    They don’t worry about what other people think
    Being yourself means doing it no matter what people think. Some people will always try and bring you down and tear you apart, and it’s up to you to have a skin thick enough to shrug it off. By the same token, though, it’s important to listen to constructive criticism and to work on improving yourself – sometimes others can see things about yourself that you can’t. Learning when to take on board advice from well-meaning people and when to ignore unhelpful, toxic people who only want to bring you down is something every person should take seriously.
    They don’t care about social networks – they live for the real world
    Knowing when and when not to care about how you represent your life online is one of the most important things to do in this day and age. Strong women usually don’t let themselves get caught up in the online highlight reel. Instead, they focus on what’s real.
    Strong women don’t need anybody
    They know that the key to happiness is to be happy on your own. Needing someone to fill that void means that you’re never truly happy with just your own company. It’s only once you’ve learned how to be happy alone that you’re able to have a healthy, lasting relationship with someone who’s learned likewise.
    They know they don’t need to be nice all the time
    Being nice is great until you come face to face with someone who couldn’t care less about being nice. Then you need to be mean. ‘Speak softly and carry a big stick’. Always be ready to stand up for and to protect yourself when necessary.
    Part of being a strong woman, or a strong person, is knowing when to put yourself first and when to look out for others. Learning to balance these things is key to living a fulfilling life where you’re no push over and no doormat, but still full of love and happiness for yourself, others, and life as a whole.

     

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writer.
  • August 1, 2018
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    Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold.

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    The saddest thing is when you’re feeling down, you look around and realize that there is no shoulder for you to lean on.

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    I’m not impressed by money, social status or job title. I’m impressed by the way someone treats other human beings.