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  • June 15, 2018
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    Narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths: Seven ways to spot them (and then avoid them like the plague!)

     

    Together, they make up approximately 11% of the world’s population. The majority of them can be incredibly toxic influences on your life due to their lack of empathy and remorse. They are people with narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic personality disorders.

    They’re certain to pop up in your life from time to time. If you can identify them quickly, you can do your best to steer clear and avoid being caught up in their manipulative webs. Unfortunately, however, dealing with malignant people is part of life. Here are eight ways you can go about spotting them to make sure your guard is up when dealing with them. Beware, they can be difficult to spot.

     

    They work hard to maintain their outward image

    Part of the reason that narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths are so dangerous is that many of them go to extreme lengths to make sure they’re perceived a certain way by the people they know. They work hard to perpetuate an image of themselves as being polite, well liked, and capable. A particular circumstance that causes this image to fall into doubt can cause an extreme reaction in people with these antisocial personalities, as it threatens the integrity of the image they’ve worked to build for themselves.

     

    They seem charming

    A charming demeanor is the bread and butter of people attempting to put up a false front. They will go out of their way to flatter and ingratiate themselves with others, especially new acquaintances. Buying gifts, sweet-talk, and doing people favors seemingly out of nowhere are all part of their repertoire. Contrary to what they say, gifts and favors from these people are not free, and they will attempt to cash them in like a voucher at the supermarket when they have need of you.

     

    They lie, often

    Lying comes as second nature to people with anti-social behavior disorders. They feel no empathy, no remorse for the consequences of their selfish actions. They will lie through their teeth, even with clear evidence against them. They will lie and cheat by day and sleep soundly every night.

     

    They will very rarely apologise

    Due to their lack of a conscience, narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths almost never apologise for their actions or words. If they do, it’s usually only a partial or insincere apology, often as part of a wider plan to deceive in full by apologising in part. They might intentionally lose a battle to win the war, but it’s something that they find very difficult to do otherwise. They feel no guilt. They see no reason to make another person feel better with an apology.

     

    They’re manipulative

    By far the most commonly shared trait of narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths is manipulation. To them, everything and everyone is simply a means to an end, a tool to be used to help themselves. Every person they meet is another opportunity to play the game, to further their own selfish ambitions to control and dominate others.

     

    They love to play the victim

    A large part of manipulating people is the ability to play the victim. People out to control others like puppets on strings will not hesitate to assume the role of the injured party, even when they’re the ones responsible for the situation they’re claiming to be a victim of, and all the while continuing to lie through their teeth.

     

    They have a superiority complex

     

    People with these personality disorders have no thought for others beyond how they can use them. They think only of their own selfish desires, and as such, feel themselves to be the center of their own little universes. They are utterly superior in their own minds.

    Although there’s no way to go through life totally avoiding toxic people like those with the personality disorders mentioned in this article, you can do your best to identify them and keep them at a distance once you have. If you have reason to suspect someone you know has one of these personalities, keep them at arm’s length and be wary of how much of yourself you expose to them. It doesn’t take much for them to dig their hooks in!

    Written by Maverick, Staff writter,

    Lessons Learned In Life Inc.

  • June 15, 2018
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    When I’m an old Lady.

     

    When I’m an old lady, I’ll live with each kid,
    And bring so much happiness just as they did.
    I want to pay back all the joy they’ve provided.
    Returning each deed! Oh, they’ll be so excited!
    When I’m an old lady and live with my kids.

    I’ll write on the walls with reds, whites and blues,
    And I’ll bounce on the furniture wearing my shoes.
    I’ll drink from the carton and then leave it out.
    I’ll stuff all the toilets and oh, how they’ll shout!
    When I’m an old lady and live with my kids.

    When they’re on the phone and just out of reach,
    I’ll get into things like sugar and bleach.
    Oh, they’ll snap their fingers and then shake their head,
    When I’m an old lady and live with my kids.

    When they cook dinner and call me to eat,
    I’ll not eat my green beans or salad or meat,
    I’ll gag on my okra, spill milk on the table,
    And when they get angry I’ll run if I’m able!
    When I’m an old lady and live with my kids.

    I’ll sit close to the TV, through channels I’ll click,
    I’ll cross both eyes just to see if they stick.
    I’ll take off my socks and throw one away,
    And play in the mud ’til the end of the day!
    When I’m an old lady and live with my kids.

    And later in bed, I’ll lay back and sigh,
    I’ll thank God in prayer and then close my eyes.
    My kids will look down with a smile slowly creeping,
    And say with a groan, “She’s so sweet when she’s sleeping!”

    – Joanne Bailey Baxter

  • June 15, 2018
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    These things I wish for you..
    We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse.
    For my grandchildren, I’d like better. I’d really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.
    I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. 
    I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.
    And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.
    It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.
    I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.
    I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother. And it’s all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he’s scared, I hope you let him. When you want to see a movie and your little brother wants to tag along, I hope you’ll let him.
    I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely. On rainy days, when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don’t ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won’t be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.
    If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.
    I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.
    When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.
    I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.
    May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.
    I don’t care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don’t like it.
    And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.
    I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.
    May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.
    I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor’s window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.
    These things I wish for you – tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness.
    To me, it’s the only way to appreciate life.

    Written with a pen. Sealed with a kiss. I’m here for you.
    And if I die before you do, I’ll go to heaven and wait for you..
    Written by Lee Pitts.
  • June 15, 2018
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    Dear God, thank you for another day. Please watch over my family and friends today. Thank you.

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    Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.

  • June 15, 2018
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    Dear Man Who Loves The Woman Who Has Been To Hell and Back,

    Last year I published the article, How To Love A Woman Who Has Been To Hell and Back. This article has since been republished on more websites than I could even tell you. It has been shared hundreds of thousands of times all around the world, and has received millions of views. I can’t tell you how many hundreds of messages I’ve received from women who have thanked me for giving them the words they could never say.

    But in the last while, my inbox has also been filled with messages from men such as you. Men who are trying to love the woman who has been to hell and back, but are struggling. Men who are doing the best they can, but are hurting. Men who are trying to understand more, do better, love harder, but aren’t sure if it’s worth the pain and exhaustion. Men who are confused, unsure, lost, and in need of answers.

    Dear man, the fact that you love your woman so much that you are willing to read an article to understand her more is a truly wonderful thing. That you would message me in the hope of knowing how to love her better is admirable. Men like you are rare, precious, and so appreciated. The world needs more men like you. Men who are strong, brave, resilient, determined, loyal, and willing to love at a high cost because you understand the worth of the woman you hold in your arms. You are a testament to the masculine heart that encompasses both strength and gentleness, fierceness and kindness. Hearts like yours are worthy of respect, and I give thanks that you have chosen to love the woman in your life with such determination, commitment and resolve.

    I understand how hard it is to love a woman who has been to hell and back.

    Because the thing is, this woman carries in her heart a lifetime of pain that you didn’t cause. You didn’t inflict this pain on her. You didn’t hurt her. You didn’t damage her heart. You aren’t the reason she cannot fully love or trust.

    But you are the one she pushes away. You are the one who tries to get close to her, to love her, but fails. You are the one she won’t turn to when she’s in pain, the one she won’t talk to when she feels alone, the one she won’t draw near to when she needs someone the most.

    You are the one she hurts, because she is hurting.

    And you don’t deserve that.

    I know what that does to your heart. I know of the times you are so damn frustrated at not knowing what to do. I know you feel like no matter how much you love her, it will never be enough. I know you are exhausted at times, and are not sure how much more you can take of this storm. I know you feel confused and sometimes none of it makes sense and you lay awake at night and wonder if it’s worth it.

    But the thing is, you’re still there.

    You’re still there because something tells you this is worth it.

    It’s difficult for me to tell you how to best love the woman who has been to hell and back. No situation is ever the same, and I have not the mind and heart of a man in your shoes.

    But this is what I can tell you.

    My original article was not written to condone abuse of any kind. Our society is vocal when it comes to domestic violence where women are the victims, but far less vocal to speak of men who are abused by women. It’s real, and it happens, and I understand how my article may have been interpreted in this respect and how that may have confused and upset you. But abuse is never okay, no matter from a man to a woman, or a woman to a man.

    There is a difference between a woman who is hurting and inadvertently hurts others as she works through her pain, and a woman who justifies hurting others because she has been hurt, so that makes it okay. There is a difference between a woman who is willing to acknowledge that she has hurt others, who seeks forgiveness and redemption, and who strives to do better, and a woman who plays the victim card, blames others, and does not seek to change her ways but expects others to be her punching bag. There is a difference between a woman who struggles to love but does her best to give all she can to the relationship, and one who merely expects, takes, and gives nothing in return.

    I know sometimes the lines can seem blurred, and because of this you struggle to know whether to stay or leave. But you are not obligated or responsible to stay there in the face of abuse. You must still, always, protect your heart. The woman who has been to hell and back needs to be responsible for her own healing. It’s not an easy journey, nor a fast one. There are many hard days, many times she will get stuck and not know the way forward. But the important thing to consider is that she is trying – for herself, for you, for your relationship.

    No-one can tell you whether to stay or leave, only you can determine what you see in her heart, whether you see growth and change and promise, or whether you merely feel like her doormat. To love a woman who has been to hell and back is not easy. But it should never mean abuse, lack of respect, lack of boundaries, or that you become a scapegoat for someone who is unwilling to heal. This is something you must be able to understand the difference between in order to answer the question of whether you should stay or leave.

    I can tell you that you are not responsible for fixing her, nor does she want you to. Men are fixers, and I understand it’s in your nature to want to make this better; make her better. But this is her journey. This is her pain. Her healing will not be pretty. At times she will be the hurricane and you will need to be the storm shelter – let her rage, let her anger and her fury and her pain unleash from her heart, let the weight of the trauma she has stored in her body for so many years come undone. Don’t fight it, don’t stop it, don’t fix it. Just be that safe place for her to come home to when the storm ends and the tears begin. You cannot fix her, you can only love her.

    I can tell you the woman who has been to hell and back has a story written on her heart. A story which says everyone who should have protected her, didn’t. Everyone she trusted, hurt her. Everyone she loved, left her. She waits for you to continue the story, to be the next person to reject her, abandon her, hurt her. She expects it. She thinks it’s only a matter of time. And this is why she pushes you away, hurts you, leaves you, when you have only ever loved her. She doesn’t believe she is worthy of a love like yours, and believes it’s only a matter of time until you realise this too.

    You asked me what it means to love harder.

    It means you will need to be better than anyone else at love. It means you will need to love with more strength, more patience, more grace, more determination, more understanding, more perseverance. It means you will need to love her more than anyone else has before or will again. It means you will need to love her until she understands what love is, and believes in a love she’s never known.

    It means you will need to love her hard enough to be the one to re-write the story on her heart.

    But dear man, you wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t everything she needs, and didn’t have everything it takes, to love the woman who has been to hell and back.

    Author: Kathy Parker

    (With permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • June 14, 2018
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    The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.

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    The most expensive thing in the world is TRUST. It can take years to earn and just a matter of seconds to lose.

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    Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.

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    Losing someone who doesn’t respect or appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss.

  • June 14, 2018
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    Not everyone is meant to be in your future. Some people are just passing through to teach you lessons in life.

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    The woman who has been to hell and back is not easy to love.

    Many have tried. Most have failed.

    The weak need not attempt, for it will take more strength than you even know you possess; more patience, more resilience, more tenacity, more resolve. It requires a relentless love, one that is determined and not easily defeated.

    For the woman who has been to hell and back will push you away. She will test you in her desire to know what you are made of, whether you have what it takes to weather her storm. Because she is unpredictable—at times a hurricane, a force of nature that rides on the fury of her suffering; other times a gentle rain, calm, still and quiet.

    When she is the gentle rain that falls in time to her silent tears, love her.

    When she is the thunder and lightning and ferocious winds that wreak havoc, love her harder.

    She is a contradiction, a pendulum that will forever swing between fear of suffocation and fear of abandonment, and even she will not know how to find the balance between the two. Because today, although she will never tell you, she will feel insecure. She will want you to stay close, to tuck her hair behind her ear and kiss her on her forehead and hold her in the strength of your arms. But tomorrow she will crave her independence, her space, her solitude.

    For while you have slept, she has been awake, unable to slow her thoughts, watching clocks and chasing time, trying to make the broken pieces fit, to make sense of it all—of where and how she fits. She fights her demons and slays her dragons, afraid if she goes to sleep they will gain the upper hand, afraid if she goes to sleep she will no longer be in control. Tomorrow she will be tired, and your presence will smother her. She will need only herself.

    When she reaches out to you, love her.

    When she pushes you away, lover her harder.

    New situations and places and people and experiences will make her anxious. She will be fiercely independent and long to overcome her fears, all the while as terrified as a small child alone in the big world. Sometimes she will need to be courageous, to prove to herself she has what it takes. Other times she will need you to take her hand and hold it firmly in yours. Sometimes she may not know what she needs, and you will need to read her like a book with worn pages and a tattered spine and be what she needs when she does not know herself.

    When she is brave and steps into the world on her own, love her.

    When she is scared, but refuses to take your hand, love her harder.

    She will live in fear of not being enough and always being too much—an endless battle to find the middle ground. Ashamed if the scale falls one way or the other, ashamed to be herself for no one has ever loved her both when she is small and also when she is tremendous.

    When she feels too much, love her.

    When she feels not enough, love her harder.

    Sometimes she won’t hurt and the light will shine from her eyes and her laughter will be a rare and precious melody. But sometimes she will hurt so much from the trauma still in her body; she will ache, she will feel pain and anguish. The light will grow dim and the music will fade.

    When she is the light, love her.

    When she is the darkness, love her harder.

    She will always love you with caution, with one foot out the door. For she does not understand a love with no conditions, one that is powerful enough to withstand hard times. She cannot allow herself to fully trust in your love, and she will keep parts of her heart hidden—the parts that have been hurt the most, the parts she can’t risk being hurt again when she has worked so hard to stitch them together.

    She will always watch, wait and expect you to leave first. And when you don’t, she has a truth written upon her heart that says you will—it’s only a matter of time, for everyone who loves her leaves her. And so she will seek to sabotage the relationship; she will seek to destroy it, she will seek to leave first, she will seek to hurt you before you can hurt her. This is how she stays in control, this is how she survives, how she will ensure she will not get hurt again.

    When she wants to love you, love her.

    When she wants to hurt you, love her harder.

    The woman who has been to hell and back is not easy to love.

    Many have tried. Most have failed.

    The weak need not attempt, for it will take more strength than you even know you possess; more patience, more resilience, more tenacity, more resolve. It requires a relentless love, one that is determined and not easily defeated.

    For the woman who has been to hell and back will push you away. She will test you in her desire to know what you are made of, whether you have what it takes to weather her storm. Because she is unpredictable—at times a hurricane, a force of nature that rides on the fury of her suffering; other times a gentle rain, calm, still and quiet.

    When she is the gentle rain that falls in time to her silent tears, love her.
    When she is the thunder and lightning and ferocious winds that wreak havoc, love her harder.
    She is a contradiction, a pendulum that will forever swing between fear of suffocation and fear of abandonment, and even she will not know how to find the balance between the two. Because today, although she will never tell you, she will feel insecure. She will want you to stay close, to tuck her hair behind her ear and kiss her on her forehead and hold her in the strength of your arms. But tomorrow she will crave her independence, her space, her solitude.
    Being out of control terrifies her. Don’t ever make her feel powerless, trapped or without her

    freedom. She needs to dance barefoot under enormous blue skies, to feel sand between her toes, to run with wolves as the wind weaves magic through her hair, for here is where her healing is found. Never clip her wings, for if she has the freedom to fly, she will always come back to you.
    Love her when it’s easy, and love her harder when it’s not.

    Love her in a way that will defy all she has ever known love to be.

    Love her because you understand with every fiber of your soul the gift of her love, what it has cost her to offer you her fragile heart.

    She does not need you. She has chosen you.

    Because you have what it takes to survive the storm.

    Because even when she doesn’t know how to love, you know how to love harder.
    Author: Kathy Parker

    (With permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • June 13, 2018
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    Dear Music, Thanks for always clearing my head, healing my heart, and lifting my spirits.

    – Lori Deschene.

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    Be careful who you open up to. Only a few people genuinely care. The rest are just curious or have hidden motives.

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    You’re killing yourself for a job that would replace you within a week if you dropped dead. Take good care of yourself.

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    Happiness begins with you. Not with your relationship, your friends, or your job. but with you.”

    ―Mandy Hale

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    Don’t wait for things to get better. Life will always be complicated. Learn to be happy right now, otherwise you’ll run out of time.

  • June 13, 2018
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    Cheating on someone is one of the worst (I repeat – WORST) things you can ever do to someone. To you, it might have been all a game, but to them, it might have meant everything.

    Whether or not you’re doing it to fill a void or just for the thrill of it, when you cheat on someone, you’re doing more than just hurting them. You might be unaware of the consequences of your actions, but let me tell you, for someone who has been cheated on, it will always be some sort of reminder to them – it will always haunt them. It is a concoction of heartbreak, anger, regret, anxiety, and shame all rolled into one.

    When you cheat on someone, you’re telling them they’re not good enough for you. That you never loved them.

    You may beg to differ, but how can you put someone you truly love in such a position? To make them doubt their self-worth? To make them question everything they thought they knew about you? To make them believe that their trust was completely misplaced?

    “Did I do something wrong?”
    “What could I have done to prevent it?”
    “Why did this happen?”
    “Am I not good enough?”
    “Why did you do it?”

    – are questions you’ll ask yourself over and over again when you’ve been cheated on.

    You don’t cheat on someone you love. Period.

    When you cheat on someone, they’ll always be emotionally scarred. They’ll have their walls up because they don’t want to ever be hurt that way again. To feel like your world is crumbling, to believe that things like that happened, but just not to you. You see it in movies all the time, but we all know what happens in the movies and what happens in real life are two completely different ball games altogether.

    They won’t let just anyone in; and even when they do let someone in eventually, they’ll always be guarded.

    They’ll be paranoid, and you can’t blame them for it. Even if they’re in a new happy relationship, they’ll carry the hurt and the emotional baggage from the previous relationship into their new relationship – whether it be conscious or not – and it can’t be helped. They’ll always be suspicious, but don’t blame them for it; they’re just afraid that the same thing will happen to them again, and they can’t go through something as painful as that ever again.

    They’ll want to trust again, but it’ll be difficult for them. They would take forever to learn how to trust, and how to be okay. Even if they’ve come to the rational conclusion that their cheating ex is a horrible person, you’ll somehow still fear that every future partner has or is cheating on you. Congratulations, you’re now an emotional wreck and a mess inside, and you’re going to spend every waking moment trying not to imagine the worst because you believe you’re completely broken.

    When you cheat on someone, what you really mean to tell them is this: “I don’t love you. I don’t respect you, and I don’t care for/about you. I didn’t think about us, and how this would affect us. I was only thinking about myself.”

    Is just one person not enough for us anymore? Aren’t we supposed to just find one person whom we think is worth it, and always stick by them through the good, the bad and the ugly?

    When you love your partner, it means you respect them. And when you cheat on them, you’re betraying all of that. Isn’t it absolutely apparent that loyalty is fundamental in any relationship? We don’t need a Guide Book for Dummies for that, do we?

    So please, leave if you must, but don’t cheat on someone you love, because that is the worst kind of damage you can do to someone who loves you.

    Written by: Vondra Tay (with permission)

    This article was published in thoughtcatalog.com

  • June 12, 2018
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    I am not like everyone else. I don’t pretend to be. I don’t want to be. I am me.

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    “Never lie to someone who trusts you and never trust someone who lies to you.”

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    There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won’t anymore, and who always will. And in the end you learn who is fake, who is true and who would risk it all for you.

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    Don’t ruin other people’s happiness just because you can’t find your own.

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    In difficult times, true friends tell you the truth. In happy times, true friends celebrate with you. In sad times, true friends are by your side.

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    People may not tell you how they feel about you, but they always show you. Pay attention.

     

  • June 11, 2018
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    Memories are always special. Sometimes we laugh by remembering the days we cried. And sometimes we cry by remembering the days we laughed. That’s life.

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    Train your mind to keep calm and stay positive in every negative situation.

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    A year agoeverything was different. And now that I look back I realize that a year can do a lot to a person

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    Do everything with a good heart and expect nothing in return, and you will never be disappointed.” ~ Barbara Lowe

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    When a door closes, knock on it a few times. But if it still doesn’t open, let it stay closed. In career, in love, in LIFE – when you see the period at the end of the sentence, don’t try and turn it into a comma. Know when something is over and move on. ~Mandy Hale.

  • June 11, 2018
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    A smile can mean a thousand words, but it can also hide a thousand problems.

  • June 10, 2018
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    The girl with a sarcastic mind and big heart. Is that you?

    Sarcastic mind, big heart. What it’s really like to be that girl?

     

    There’s one in every group of friends. Everyone knows someone just like her. She’s both a cliché and entirely her own person, everywhere you find her. The sarcastic girl. The one who’s outrageously funny, always bold, and, deep down, brimming with love for everyone.

    Here are nine ways in which the sarcastic, funny, loving girl is different to others.

    She’s not afraid of making a fool of herself

    Being a charismatic, sarcastic person requires being comfortable in your own skin. Comfortable enough to make a fool of yourself every now and then!

     

    She’s fiercely protective of her friends and loved ones

    And if you hurt them in any way, you’ll know all about it. She will go to great lengths to protect those she cares about.

    She speaks her mind

    And she’s not afraid to do so. If she sees something she doesn’t agree with or that she feels is wrong, she’ll speak up.

    She likes making people laugh

    In fact, she loves it. It’s something she does well, and it ties her and her friends closer together.

     

    She’s happy being herself

    She’s independent, and she’s her own person. She does things her own way, and she’s proud of it.

    She doesn’t do things by halves

    Anything she does, she does it properly. Whether it’s her job, looking after her dog, or making people laugh, she’s good at it and she knows it.

    She’s competitive

    And she hates to lose. She’ll do whatever it takes to win, and have a blast doing it.

    She puts her mind to things

    She sets herself goals, and then works towards them. She always has a new challenge, and she loves to prove to herself that she can do things.

    She wants to find someone to be vulnerable with

    Deep down, the sarcastic, quirky girl wants someone who understands her. Someone that she can really be open with, who she trusts and will listen to her with compassion. She puts up somewhat of a front with her humor and sarcasm, but all of that can be seen through by the right person.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writter,

    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,

     

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    If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow.

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    When I look back on my life, I see pain, mistakes and heartache. When I look in the mirror, I see strength, learned lessons, and pride in myself.

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    Sometimes God holds you back temporarily until the road is safe and clear to continue. Be thankful for the stall.

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    When you fully trust someone without any doubt, you finally get one of two results: A person for life or A lesson for life.

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    The same people who are candy to our eyes can be poison to our hearts. Study their ingredients before feeding them your soul.

  • June 9, 2018
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    How to tell if he really loves you: six things men do for the women they truly love

    Everyone knows that most men find it difficult to express their feelings in words. Actions are a different story, however. Here are some of the tell-tale signs of a man who is truly in love.
     He listens to you and remembers what you say
    It takes real effort to actually listen to someone, to take in what they’re saying and consciously process it. If he listens attentively, gives you a thoughtful response, and remembers things you’ve mentioned previously, it’s a sure sign he truly loves and cares about you.
     Thoughtful gifts 
    Like listening, good gift-giving requires effort and thought. Any man who goes to great lengths to get you thoughtful, unique gifts cares about you immensely.
    He’s your cheerleader
    A partner that truly loves you will be your biggest fan. Your successes are their successes, and when you fail they’ll be there to reassure you that it’s not the end of the world, to get back up and keep on going.
     He won’t hesitate to protect you
    When unfortunate situations arise in which you’re in danger, a man that loves you will do whatever it takes to keep you safe.
    He respects you
    Someone that loves you has to fundamentally respect you. They value your opinion, they value your views on things. If he truly loves you, you’ll be the first person he turns to for advice when he needs it.
     He’s honest with you
    Honesty, along with trust and respect, is the foundation of any good relationship. If he’s honest with you and is able to let his guard down and be vulnerable in front of you, you’re in luck. He loves you!
    Written by Maverick, Staff writter
    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,
  • June 9, 2018
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    People who defend your name when you’re not around are the most loyal friends you could ever get.

  • June 9, 2018
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    Never reply when you’re angry. Never make a promise when you’re happy. Never make a decision when you’re sad.

  • June 9, 2018
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    Some people want material things. Me, I just want peace, happy times, and people who love me.

  • June 9, 2018
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    Nothing loses my interest faster than someone lying to me.

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    Karma .What goes around comes around. Keep your circle positive. Speak good words. Think good thoughts. Do good deeds.

  • June 8, 2018
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    The sad truth is so many people are in love and not together & so many people are together and not in love.

  • June 8, 2018
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    Three things you should never break: Promises, Trust, and Someone’s heart.

  • June 8, 2018
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    I would rather be known in life as an honest sinner, than a lying hypocrite

  • June 8, 2018
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    Friends who say “I love you” before hanging up the phone are so important.

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    At the end of the day, the most important thing is that your family is safe, you have food to eat and you are grateful for what you have.

  • June 8, 2018
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    I’m so glad friends don’t come with price tags. I could never afford the wonderful friends I’ve got.

  • June 7, 2018
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    Life is like a piano. White keys are happy moments and the black ones are sad moments. Both keys are played together to give us the sweet music called Life.

    ― Suzy Kassem

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    “No relationship is ever a waste of time. If it didn’t bring you what you want, it taught you what you don’t want.”

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    Six things to remember when you’re at rock bottom and broken inside

     

    • It gets better

    As unlikely as it seems in the moment, life gets better. It takes time, but it gets better. Time heals all wounds. Even when everything is dark, there’s light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how small and far away. Just keep moving forward.

     

     

    • Pain doesn’t last forever

     

    Pain is a strange thing. Some types of pain heal completely, and in time you come to see the painful experience as nothing more than a valuable life lesson. Other types, such as the death of a loved one, never really fully heal. You’ll always feel a pang of sadness when thinking of someone you’ve lost. But this pain becomes less intense, less overwhelming. It comes less and less frequently, and every time the pain gets a little bit easier to deal with.

     

     

    • It’s okay to talk about it

     

    No matter how hard it is, it’s extremely helpful to talk about your feelings, especially when you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom. Some people in life are brilliant, compassionate listeners. These people tend to be open minded, non-judgemental, and patient. Talking to such people allows you to work out your thoughts and feelings, to make sense of the jumble of fears and emotions inside your head. Whether this takes the form of a therapist, close friend, or partner doesn’t matter so much – just that you have someone to talk to.

     

     

    • Emotions are emotions (accept them)

     

    We wouldn’t be human without our emotions. They’re the reason we do most of the things we do. Try not to feel angry or frustrated at yourself for having them; you’re only human. Negative or positive, all you can do is accept your emotions for what they are. Don’t fight them – try to understand them. Try to learn from what you’re feeling, what is says about your state of mind and your perception of yourself.

     

     

    • You can’t change the past

     

    What’s done is done – you can’t change it, no matter how badly you wish you could. The only thing that you can do is learn from it. Learn from the things you regret happening, things you regret doing. Grow and change and adapt. Allow the past to shape you into a better person for the present, rather than dwelling on things you can’t change.

     

     

    • Life is a series of ups and downs

     

    This is one of the hardest aspects of the human condition to stomach, but it’s an important lesson to learn. Good times won’t last forever, but neither will bad times. Enjoy the ups while you’re living through them, and when living through the downs remember that it won’t last forever. Life is short. It’s all you can do to enjoy the time you have on Earth as well as you can. Make the most of it.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Witter,

    @ Lessons Learned In Life Inc.

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    Discussions are always better than arguments, because an argument is to find out who is right and a discussion is to find out what is right.

  • June 7, 2018
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    I am an old soul. I love genuine kindness. I love compassion. I love poetry. I love intimacy. I love soul connection. I love old books. I love deep conversations. I love depth. I love rawness.

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    I love music. For me, music is morning coffee. It’s mood medicine. It’s pure magic. A good song is like a good meal-I just want to inhale it and then share a bite with someone else. – Hoda Kotb

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    Never miss out on a good person that could make your life great just because they’re a little difficult. The good ones are never easy.

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    There are 4 very important words in life. LOVE, HONESTY, TRUTH and RESPECT. Without these in your life, you have nothing.

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    I even overthink my overthinking.

  • June 6, 2018
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    There’s a message in a way a person treats you.. Just listen- R.H. Sin.

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    have no problem with those who don’t like me, but I do have a problem with those who pretend to.

  • June 6, 2018
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    Never lie to someone who trusts you, and never trust someone who lies to you.

  • June 5, 2018
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    I notice everything. I mean everything. I notice when the way someone talks to me starts changing. I notice the little things that people do, and the little things they used to do. I notice every single little detail. I just don’t say anything.

  • June 5, 2018
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    Stop explaining yourself and telling people everything. You owe no one any explanation of what you do. Your life is yours, not theirs.

  • June 5, 2018
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    There is honestly no reason to lie to me. I will understand. I get it. I get life. I know that crap happens. Just be straight up with me.

  • June 5, 2018
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    Stay low key not everyone needs to know everything about you.

  • June 5, 2018
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    When my arms can’t reach people close to my heart, I always hug them with my prayers.

  • June 5, 2018
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    If you don’t like me. Please don’t pretend that you do. Ever.

  • June 4, 2018
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    Classy is when you have a lot to say but you choose to remain silent in front of fools.

  • June 4, 2018
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    If my mouth doesn’t say, it my face definitely will.

  • June 4, 2018
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    Those Top 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old.

    1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

    Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

    2. Not learning another language.

    You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

    3. Staying in a bad relationship.

    No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

    4. Forgoing sunscreen.

    Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

    5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

    “Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

    6. Being scared to do things.

    Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

    7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

    Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

    8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

    Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

    9. Not quitting a terrible job.

    Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

    10. Not trying harder in school.

    It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

    11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

    Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

    12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

    When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

    13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

    You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

    14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

    You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

    15. Caring too much about what other people think.

    In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

    16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

    Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

    17. Not moving on fast enough.

    Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

    18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

    What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

    19. Not standing up for yourself.

    Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.

    20. Not volunteering enough.

    OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

    21. Neglecting your teeth.

    Neglecting your teeth.

    Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

    22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

    Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

    23. Working too much.

    No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

    24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

    Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

    25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

    Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

    26. Failing to finish what you start.

    Failing to finish what you start.

    “I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

    27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

    You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

    28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

    Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

    Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

    29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

    People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

    30. Not playing with your kids enough.

    When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

    31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).

    Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

    32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

    Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

    33. Worrying too much.

    As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

    34. Getting caught up in needless drama.

    Who needs it?

    35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

    Not spending enough time with loved ones.

    Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

    36. Never performing in front of others.

    This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

    37. Not being grateful sooner.

     

    It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

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    On The Day I Die

    On the day I die a lot will happen.
    A lot will change.
    The world will be busy.On the day I die, all the important appointments I made will be left unattended.
    The many plans I had yet to complete will remain forever undone.
    The calendar that ruled so many of my days will now be irrelevant to me.
    All the material things I so chased and guarded and treasured will be left in the hands of others to care for or to discard.
    The words of my critics which so burdened me will cease to sting or capture anymore. They will be unable to touch me.
    The arguments I believed I’d won here will not serve me or bring me any satisfaction or solace.
    All my noisy incoming notifications and texts and calls will go unanswered. Their great urgency will be quieted.My many nagging regrets will all be resigned to the past, where they should have always been anyway.
    Every superficial worry about my body that I ever labored over; about my waistline or hairline or frown lines, will fade away.
    My carefully crafted image, the one I worked so hard to shape for others here, will be left to them to complete anyway.
    The sterling reputation I once struggled so greatly to maintain will be of little concern for me anymore.All the small and large anxieties that stole sleep from me each night will be rendered powerless.
    The deep and towering mysteries about life and death that so consumed my mind will finally be clarified in a way that they could never be before while I lived.
    These things will certainly all be true on the day that I die.Yet for as much as will happen on that day, one more thing that will happen.
    On the day I die, the few people who really know and truly love me will grieve deeply.
    They will feel a void.
    They will feel cheated.
    They will not feel ready.
    They will feel as though a part of them has died as well.
    And on that day, more than anything in the world they will want more time with me.
    I know this from those I love and grieve over.

    And so knowing this, while I am still alive I’ll try to remember that my time with them is finite and fleeting and so very precious—and I’ll do my best not to waste a second of it.

    I’ll try not to squander a priceless moment worrying about all the other things that will happen on the day I die, because many of those things are either not my concern or beyond my control.

    Friends, those other things have an insidious way of keeping you from living even as you live; vying for your attention, competing for your affections.
    They rob you of the joy of this unrepeatable, uncontainable, ever-evaporating Now with those who love you and want only to share it with you.

    Don’t miss the chance to dance with them while you can.
    It’s easy to waste so much daylight in the days before you die.
    Don’t let your life be stolen every day by all that you believe matters, because on the day you die, much of it simply won’t.

    Yes, you and I will die one day.
    But before that day comes: let us live..

    ~ John Pavlovitz

    Please check out John’s Pavlovitz website at:

    http://johnpavlovitz.com/

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    If someone really loves you, no matter how many other people they meet, their feelings for you wouldn’t change. A true lover can’t be stolen.

  • June 3, 2018
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    I thought it would be painful, letting you go.

    I thought I would suffer, that my heart would be anguished with the loss of you. Or worse, maybe it would stop beating altogether.

    Maybe without you, I would simply cease to exist.

    I thought I would become adrift, for you had been the anchor I had formed my identity upon, the compass I had relied on for my direction. I thought without you I would become lost, disoriented.

    I had expected to taste salty tears as they fell upon lips that once spoke so fondly of you; that my head would lay on my pillow damp with tears for as many nights as the moon continued to kiss the stars.

    But one day, I just knew.

    I hadn’t expected such a feeling of relief as I cut the ropes that once shackled me to you. One instant of tremendous clarity. One instant, where I finally knew.

    I no longer needed you.

    I no longer needed your opinion of me, your affirmation, your approval.

    I no longer needed your judgments, your criticisms, your condemnations.

    I no longer needed your expectations I could never meet; your hoops too high to jump through, your goal posts that shifted with every changing breeze.

    I no longer needed your blame, your excuses, your justifications.

    I no longer needed your pseudo love, fraught with conditions and attached with strings.

    I thought I needed you. I didn’t.

    I thought it would be hard to let you go. It wasn’t.

    I thought I would miss you. I don’t.

    For in one instant my heart was awakened to the truth of who I am.

    I am more than the lies you made believe about myself. I am more than the look of failure in your eyes when I fell short of your demands. I am more than how worthless you made me feel. I am more than the ways you tried to break me.

    I am a warrior, sculpted by the hands of creation, fashioned into being by the very hands that created the oceans and the stars and the mountains and air.

    I am strong, I am brave, I am wise. I am gentle of spirit with the heart of a lioness.

    I am creative, passionate, sensitive, and kind. I am of open heart and open mind. I am powerful, generous, thoughtful, daring, empathetic, raw, complex, courageous, understanding, forgiving.

    I am everything you are not.

    I will no longer carry the shame you made me suffer under the weight of.

    That shame belongs to you.

    And I will no longer carry my hate for you.

    For that will only ever bind me to your darkness and give you permission to destroy my light. It will allow you to stay within me, to destroy my peace, to blacken my heart with the malice that lives within you.

    It will tie me to your soul-destroying bitterness, your ugliness.

    It will anchor me once more to you, who tried to drown me.

    Instead, I will choose to go into the world and love more fiercely, show more compassion, be more generous, offer more kindness.

    I will choose to forgive. For me, not for you.

    I will choose to sow what I wish to see reaped for my children’s future.

    I will choose to dis-empower hate.

    I will choose freedom.

    I will choose love.

    I will stand firm upon the unshakeable truth of who I am.

    And I will soar to heights you will only ever dream of.

    For I have let you go.

    No longer am I held down by all I allowed you to be in my life.

    I no longer need you.

    I am free.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

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    I don’t mind getting older but my body is taking it badly.

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    Foolish girl,

    You turn away from the world because you believe the mistakes you have made are tattooed all over your body and that is all the world can see; marks of shame you cannot wipe clean no matter how many years you scrub your skin until no more blood can seep from your pores still stained with filth and sin.

    You turn away from the world because you believe you are defined by your past, by the choices you made when there were no other choices; that you are bound to the girl you once were by the invisible ropes still tied around your hands and feet, held in place by words of shame that will never deliver you from their grasp.

    You turn away from the world because you believe you are not deserving to hold your head high and look it in the eye; that you carry a scarlet letter upon your forehead that will blind those who dare to look your way, and you cannot stand to see the way they turn their face from your tainted humanity.

    You forget, foolish girl.

    You forget what you have survived.

    You forget you fought alone against the world when your hands were too small to defeat the weight of it, and so you took it on as your own even though it almost crushed you.

    You forget you were betrayed by those who should have protected you and so you barricaded yourself behind hard edges and sharp corners and promised to never trust or need another again.

    You forget the way love was shown as abuse and abuse was shown as love and the shame you were forced to carry because of the way you longed to be loved even when that looked like abuse.

    You forget you sat alone in a room filled with despair as your hands shook and blood trailed down your wrist and in that moment when you could have chosen death, you chose life.

    You forget you have every reason to be hard, but you choose to remain soft. You have every reason to hate, but you choose to show mercy. You have every reason to cast judgment, but you choose to speak grace. You have every reason to f*ck this world the way it has f*cked you, but you choose to heal it instead.

    You forget you have survived what most people never could.

    Foolish girl, you are not foolish at all.

    You are a warrior.

    You are strength. You are bravery. You are courage. You are hope. You are light. You are truth. You are love. You are survival. You are kindness. You are wisdom. You are redemption. You are transformation. You are revolution.

    And most of all, you are worthy.

    To love, and to be loved.

    You just need to believe it.

    ~ © Kathy Parker ~

    (With permission)

     

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • June 3, 2018
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    Forgive people in your lifeeven those who are not sorry for their actions. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.

  • June 3, 2018
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    You’re in a relationship to be happy, to smile, to laugh and to make good memories. Not to constantly be upset, to feel hurt and to cry.

  • June 3, 2018
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    I keep my personal life private so don’t think you know me. You only know what I allow you to know.

  • June 2, 2018
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    ‘I stopped explaining myself when I realized other people only understand from their level of perception.’

  • June 2, 2018
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    The wrong one will find you in peace and leave you in pieces, but the right one will find you in pieces and lead you to peace.

  • June 2, 2018
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    They say good things take time, that’s why I’m always late.

  • June 2, 2018
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    I don’t know If you’re beautiful until we have a conversation.

  • June 2, 2018
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    How do people just send “K” when they are angry? If I’m angry, I will send you a 5 page essay in PDF format with perfect punctuation.

  • June 1, 2018
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    You will be “too much” for some people. Too loud, too soft. Too this, too that. But you will always be perfect for the people who love you.

  • June 1, 2018
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    Never Forget Who Ignored You When You Needed Them And Who Helped You Before You Even Had To Ask.

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    The importance of self-respect – 10 steps to improve your life.

    When all is said and done, the only thing that really matters in life is being happy. Not just content, not just satisfied, but fulfilled and full of meaning. This is a hard goal to reach, and one that’s impossible to live up to all the time. Life is a series of waves, of peaks and troughs, of ups and downs. No one is happy all the time. We tend to experience more lows than highs, and those lows can be much more intense than the highs are. It’s rare to be in a low point in your life and not know it, but it’s all too easy to be living well and to not fully appreciate it.

    The best way to improve your life is to have self-respect. To demand that others treat you the way you’d treat them – with compassion and respect.

    Here are twelve ways to increase your self-respect and improve your life.

     1. Don’t allow yourself to be used

    People will attempt to take advantage of you throughout your life. Realising when this is happening can be difficult. People are often sly and manipulative.

        2. Know when to say no

    Part of having self-respect is being able to turn people down when you don’t want to do something. Be in control of your life. Tell people ‘no’, and stick to your word.

       3.Don’t feel pressured to make everyone like you

    Not everyone you meet will like you, and that’s okay. It would be weird if they did. People are different, people like different things. Some people aren’t nice people. Life goes on. However, don’t use this as an excuse to be rude and nasty to people because “who cares what they think?”. Treating others the way you’d like to be treated is an important part of having self-respect.

          4. Have integrity

    Integrity is perhaps the most important and elusive of those traits vital to a sense of self-respect. It means holding yourself accountable to your own moral code and principles, and sticking up for what is right – even when (especially when) it’s not beneficial to you personally to do so. The high road is a tough one to tread, but it’s infinitely rewarding.

         5. Stand up for yourself

    Don’t allow yourself to be a pushover. In an ideal world, everyone would be nice to each other and we’d all get along. Unfortunately, the real world isn’t like that. When it really comes down to it, you need to have your own back and be willing to get your hands dirty to defend yourself.

       6. Know yourself, know your worth

    Have confidence in your abilities. Everyone is good at something, even if you haven’t figured out what that something is yet.  Keep trying new things until you do. You have value and you matter. Remember that.

        7. Do what makes you happy

    If being happy is the most important thing in life, then doing whatever makes you happy is the best way to ensure you enjoy your life. As long as it’s not hurting anyone else, do whatever it is you enjoy doing.

       8. Spend your time wisely

    Don’t make the mistake of thinking money is the most important commodity in life. Time is. Spend it wisely, doing the things you love and with the people who matter most to you. Once the time is gone, you can’t get it back. Don’t be a person full of regret on their deathbed, thinking of all the things they should have done with the time they had. Your life is ending one second at a time.

         9. Prioritise the important things in your life and balance them

    We often try (and more often fail) to juggle a large number of different things. Prioritise which ones really matter to you and to your self-growth and focus on these, learning to balance them so that you can healthily and realistically manage all the areas of your life.

        10. Meditate, don’t medicate

    One of the most important lessons to learn when it comes to having self-respect is how to deal with life’s problems in a healthy and constructive manner. It can be all too tempting at times to drown your sorrows at the bottom of a bottle. The best thing you can do to keep yourself focused and healthy mentally is to meditate often. It’s a skill – practice it. No one is perfect at it straight away, but stick with it and it will help you to become a better, happier person in the long run. Keep in mind that the idea isn’t to silence your thoughts, but to let them come before calmly and gently reminding yourself to try and focus on breathing and keeping a clear mind.

    Written by Maverick,
    Staff writter for Lessons Learned In Life, Inc.

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