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Archive for May, 2018

  • May 31, 2018
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    Don’t beg: when to walk away from someone

    Many people will go to great lengths and put up with a lot of hardship to keep their significant other around, or to try and keep the interest of a potential partner. If they’re not good enough for you, if they don’t value you like they should, or if they’re not interested – move on.

    Too many people make the mistake of staying with a partner that isn’t good for them. Sometimes, this is because it’s too painful to let the relationship go after they’ve invested so much time and energy into it. Other times it’s because they genuinely think that their partner will be able to change for the better. It’s understandable – ending a relationship can be an extremely distressing experience, especially when you depend on your partner for emotional, financial or practical support, or you fear their reaction.

     

     

    Life is too short

    The hard-to-swallow truth is that life is far too short to waste spending time with the wrong person. Knowing if your partner is a good or bad presence in your life can be frustratingly hard to figure out, however – our brains can make it extremely hard to think clearly and rationally at times. We tend to focus more on the positives and less on the negatives, even if there’s more of them and even if they’re nothing short of awful to an outside observer. Love can be a powerful drug.

    The same holds true for people dating or chasing a potential partner. If they’re not being consistent with you, if they’re on and off, or hot and cold – just walk away. Best case scenario, they like you and are playing mind games (something which just isn’t done by emotionally mature people), and worst case – they’re just not that into you. Regardless, if someone isn’t willing to be open and honest about their feelings, to talk about things in an adult and mature manner, then you’re almost certainly better off without them.

     

    How to tell if your partner is right for you

    If you can’t be yourself – your true self, around them. If they ever intentionally make you feel nervous or scared, or if they think little about you and your feelings before they make decisions that affect you. If they’re ever callous or cruel towards you, or disrespectful. If they don’t put equal effort and commitment in to the relationship – if it’s unbalanced. If any of these things are true about your relationship, the truth is that they’re probably just not right for you.

     

     

    If they’re not? Walk away

    Life is too short to be with someone who doesn’t deserve you, or to chase someone who doesn’t see how special you are. Everyone makes mistakes, but not everyone learns from them. Don’t wait around for a change that may or may not ever come. Live your life for you. Don’t beg, don’t give in to the feeling that you can’t make it alone and that you need someone else in your life to be happy. Walk away.

     

    Written by Maverick, Staff writter.

  • May 31, 2018
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    “If someone treats you like crap, just remember that there’s  something wrong with them, not you. Normal people don’t go around destroying other human beings.”

  • May 31, 2018
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    Life is so ironic. It takes sadness to know happiness, noise to appreciate silence, and absence to value presence.

  • May 31, 2018
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    It’s nice when someone remembers small details about you. Not because you keep reminding them, but because they actually care.

  • May 31, 2018
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    I like to smile at people who do not like me.

  • May 31, 2018
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    Sometimes you have to let things go so there’s room for better things to come into your life.

  • May 30, 2018
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    Only trust someone who can see these three things in you: The sorrow behind your smile, the love behind your anger, and the reason behind your silence.

  • May 30, 2018
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    Either they like you or they don’t. Never try to convince somebody of your worth. If a person doesn’t appreciate you, they don’t deserve you. Respect yourself and be with people who truly value “you”.  -Brigitte Nicole

  • May 30, 2018
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    If God shuts a door, quit banging on it! Whatever was behind it, wasn’t meant for you. Consider the fact that maybe he closed that door because He knew you were worth so much more.

  • May 30, 2018
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    So you want to be happy?
    Let go of what’s gone, be grateful for what remains and look forward to what is coming.

  • May 30, 2018
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    Don’t worry about the haters… They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live. – Dr. Steve Maraboli

  • May 30, 2018
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    Imagine meeting someone who wanted to learn your past not to punish you, but to understand how you needed to be loved.

  • May 29, 2018
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    Finding the “one” 

    For many of us, the idea of finding ‘the one’ is something we spend a great deal of time fantasising about. Having that ideal, incredible person enter our lives one day to sweep us off our feet seems to some to be a certainty and to others to be little more than a pipe dream, like winning the lottery. What most people have in common though, is the pervading desire to find this person. It consumes us. We read novels and watch numerous films and TV shows (Jim and Pam from The Office, anyone?) where two people have such an intense and personal romantic connection that it seems to transcend everything else. We watch, and we desire, and we hope for the same thing to one day happen to us.

    Regardless of whether or not you believe in souls, you can safely assume that someone out there (in fact, multiple people, given the world’s population of almost eight billion) is the perfect match for you. It’s just a matter of meeting them. At the right time. And knowing what to look for when you meet them. Easy. Right?

     

    Being realistic

    Imagine ‘the one’ as you see them in your mind’s eye. What are they like? What is it about them that makes them so perfect? Perhaps they’re your best friend. They know you better than anyone. They listen to you. They’re thoughtful. They like the same things as you, you have a mutual bond cemented with trust and respect. You have each other’s backs. They laugh at all your jokes. You never disagree, you never argue. Everything is picture perfect. The two of you meet, fall deeply in love, and live happily ever after.

    Except that’s not the way life works. Often, the idea we have of ‘the one’ in our minds is far too idealistic. Perfection is not attainable. You cannot place someone on that pedestal of being totally and utterly perfect – because that person simply doesn’t exist. That said, you can still find someone that’s virtually perfect for you. Not a perfect human being, but a perfect match (or close to it).

    The problem is that finding this person is extremely difficult. Us humans are a strange, diverse bunch. Each of us is different from the other in thousands of small, subtle ways. The experiences we go through in life shape and mould us, and no two people can have anything close to identical sets of past experiences. There’s no guarantee that you’ll find ‘the one’ for you at any point throughout the course of your life, but there’s a few things you can do to make it more likely.

     

    Becoming the person you need to be

    This is what’s known as self-actualisation. It means becoming the best possible version of yourself, maximising your potential and pushing yourself to grow and develop to build a brilliant, fulfilling life. Too often, happiness is seen as a point in life that you’ll get to eventually, if only you could get that promotion, that new car, that house (or find your soulmate!). The truth is that happiness is a state of mind. It’s knowing that the present moment, the journey, is what is really important – the destination never really arrives. You arrive at the place that you expected to reach and finally be happy, only to find that the things you want have now changed. You want more. The boundaries of happiness have been pushed that bit further away. This process never stops – we always want more. If you keep deferring your happiness to some perfect vision of the future, you’ll never arrive. You have to learn to be happy in the moment.

    Written by Maverick, staff writter,

    About the author:

    I’m a freelance writer from London, England. I specialise in webcopy, ghostwriting, and creative writing. I’m currently travelling the world as a digital nomad. I enjoy reading, writing, watching films and series, browsing Reddit, and listening to music. I think Frank Ocean is a living legend. I’ve written for a number of online clients, including the Lessons Learned In Life blog.

     

  • May 29, 2018
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    As you get older, you can energetically feel the difference between people who love you and those who care at their own convenience.

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    Marriage doesn’t guarantee that you will be together forever, it’s only paper. It takes trust, respect, commitment, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last.

  • May 29, 2018
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    You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions.

  • May 29, 2018
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    Some days I wish I could go back in life, not to change things, just to feel a few things twice.

  • May 29, 2018
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    Never apologize for how much love you have to give. Just feel sorry for those who didn’t want any of it.

  • May 28, 2018
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    You don’t have to have sex to be a cheater. Once you start hiding text messages, lying about where you’re going and who you’re with, you’re already on your way.

  • May 28, 2018
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    I am in competition with no one. I run my own race. I have no desire to play the game of being better than anyone, in any way, shape, or form. I just aim to improve, to be better than I was before. That’s me and I’m free.

  • May 28, 2018
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    If my absence doesn’t affect your life then my presence has no meaning in it.

  • May 28, 2018
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    A strong woman is one who is able to smile this morning like she wasn’t crying last night.

  • May 28, 2018
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    You can do 99 things for someone and all they’ll remember is the one thing you didn’t do.

  • May 28, 2018
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    HOW OUR HEARTS ARE CHANGED BY BETRAYAL

     

    You haven’t always been this way.

    You haven’t always been a body lined with thorns, a heart wrapped in razor wire; hard lines and jaded eyes.

    Distant, aloof, guarded.

    There was a time you were shades of pastel; when your heart knew love, and trust rested freely upon your fingertips.

    There was a time your days were painted with innocence. Where eager eyes gazed at the world with hope and wonder, your heart still shiny and new.

    But all of this changed the moment you were betrayed by someone you loved. Someone you trusted. Someone who should have protected you. Someone who hurt you instead. Someone who allowed you to be hurt by others.

    There is little else that shatters a heart as much as the pain of betrayal. It tears you open, rips your heart out of your chest. You don’t want to put it back, you want to leave it on the floor to bleed until there is nothing left, until the blood runs dry and you no longer have to feel a damn thing anymore. But you can’t. You have to go on. So you pick your heart off the floor and place it back inside your hollow chest.

    Except, the heart that you put back is never the same heart. It is wounded, war-torn. It no longer seeks love, but only to protect itself from the pain of ever being betrayed again.

    A heart that is betrayed is changed forever.

    No longer will it trust anyone again, but greets every person with reservation and fear; wary of a world that has proven to only take advantage for its own benefit. It remains hyper-vigilant in its desperate need to prove itself right; forever searching for the cracks inside another person that prove they too are unworthy of trust. It needs to know its enemy. It needs to remain one step in front at all times. Kindness is met with suspicion, for your heart has learned nothing comes without a cost – there are always strings, always an agenda. Your heart rejects kindness, remains cynical of it, refuses to accept it. It would rather suffer on its own than accept kindness that allows it to become vulnerable to another.

    Your heart no longer knows how to trust itself either, and it makes vows to stay hard, to stay tough. Never will I want again. Never will I need again. Never will I trust again. Never will I love again. These vows are the cornerstones of the fortress it builds around itself, the strongholds that keep the walls in place. It gives up hope of ever being protected and instead learns to protect itself. It becomes a slave to its independence, its autonomy. Here, in its fortress, it is safe. Here, behind its walls, it can remain distant, removed.

    Here, your heart can trust itself not to feel. 

    For betrayal has taught your heart how dangerous it is to feel. To want, to need. To desire love, relationship, connection. No, your heart must deaden itself to its desires. It must wake each morning with one goal of attack – to kill your hungry soul. To destroy your desires before they destroy you. Your heart cannot afford to want, it is too dangerous, too much of a risk that will lead to being hurt again. This is how your heart stays safe – it refuses to be tempted by love ever again.

    Except, your heart was created for relationship. Your heart was created for intimacy. But intimacy is the enemy, the biggest threat. Intimacy requires your heart to be vulnerable, to let someone close. To betray its own desires in the hope it will not be betrayed because of them. Intimacy is the most dangerous of all, and your heart turns itself away and chooses to live without hope of relationship, of closeness, of oneness with another.

    Betrayal has changed your heart.

    It has damaged your heart.

    It has left it powerless, helpless, vulnerable, wounded, damaged, guarded, broken. Your heart can no longer trust, does not trust. It no longer believes in the goodness of anyone else’s heart. It no longer believes it is worthy of being loved, of being protected. It is tired from living in a constant state of anticipation and expectation that it will be hurt and betrayed once more. It no longer wants to love, no longer knows how to love. It has become numb, deadened to its desires, and you tell yourself you are content with this.

    That here, you are safe. You are in control. You are untouchable.

    Except, you are lonely. So goddamn lonely.

    And this is the paradox of betrayal.

    You are scared of relationship, yet relationship is the very thing that will heal your heart.

    Dear heart, there is a need for you to be safe.

    But there is a greater need for you to be loved.

    The only way to heal is through love. You must find the courage to pull down your fortress. It has kept you safe. But you have dwelled long enough in your solitude. In your loneliness. It is time to lay down your weapons. Surrender is not defeat, but the end of the fight.

    To love is to risk hurt. To trust is to risk betrayal. But you must risk so that you may heal.

    Your heart has learned how to stay safe, how to survive.

    Now, it must learn how to once again love.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • May 27, 2018
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    As we grow older we don’t lose friends, we just learn who the real ones are.

  • May 27, 2018
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    “Love does not always have to be this mountain top experience, but it does need to be as constant as a mountain; never moving, always steady and willing to stay.” ~T.B. LaBerge

  • May 27, 2018
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    Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love.  It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in the hollow part of your chest.  Grief is just love with no place to go. ~Jamie Anderson

  • May 27, 2018
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    If you have a family that loves you, a few good friends, food on your table and a roof over your head. You are richer than you think.

  • May 27, 2018
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    “Someday, all the love you’ve given away, will find its way back to you, and it will finally stay.”
    ―Drewniverses.

  • May 27, 2018
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    Sometimes you just have to erase the messages, delete the numbers and move on. You dont have to forget who that person was to you but you just have to accept that they arent the same person anymore.

  • May 26, 2018
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    You ever notice people would rather stop speaking to you instead of apologizing when they’re wrong.

  • May 26, 2018
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    One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.

  • May 26, 2018
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    Dear God, thank you for another day. Please watch over my family and friends today. Thank you.

  • May 26, 2018
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    A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.

  • May 26, 2018
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    It’s okay to dislike someone, or even dislike someone for no reason. But it’s not okay to disrespect, degrade, and humiliate that person.

  • May 26, 2018
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    I’m a strong person and there is a limit to how much I will take. If you lie to me, disrespect me or treat me like I don’t matter….I’m done.

  • May 25, 2018
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    Dear mind, Please stop thinking so much at night. I need to sleep.

  • May 25, 2018
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    When I die, don’t come to my grave to tell me how much you love me and how much you miss me, because those are the words I want to hear while I’m still alive

  • May 25, 2018
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    “Do the right thing, even when no one is looking. It’s called integrity.”

  • May 25, 2018
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    I admire people who choose to shine even after all the storms they have been through.

  • May 25, 2018
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    In my life, I’ve lived, I’ve loved, I’ve lost, I’ve missed, I’ve hurt, I’ve trusted, I’ve made mistakes, but most of all, I’ve learned.

  • May 25, 2018
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    “If there’s even a slight chance of getting something that will make you happy, risk it. Life’s too short, and happiness is too rare.”

  • May 24, 2018
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    Thank You for Teaching Me I Was Worth More Than You: An Open Letter to the One Who Nearly Broke Me, But Not Quite

     

    “You didn’t love her. You just didn’t want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe she was good for your ego. Or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life. But you didn’t love her, because you don’t destroy the person that you love” (Grey’s Anatomy)

     

    When I look back now, it’s hard to believe I ever thought you loved me. How desperate I must have been to call that love when in your hands I became so small; crushed by the heaviness of your fingers as they pressed into my skin, the imprint faded but still visible after all this time. How eroded my worth became with each crash of furious words that washed against the already worn breakwaters of my heart. How afraid I became of not just you, but of everything I once was that I no longer trusted myself to be, for fear I would take a wrong step and set off another landmine beneath the surface of your skin.

     

    You left that day, stopping only to push the knife in a little deeper on your way out the door. The pain was so great I hoped to bleed out, right there on the floor where you left me. I wondered if I could survive what you had done to me; if I even wanted to. But resilience has always coursed through my veins faster than sorrow and though weak, I found the courage to pick myself up from the floor that day.

     

    It all seems so long ago now. How far I have come since these pale scars were once open wounds. How distant the taste of bitterness upon my tongue now seems. I’ve long since stopped wanting to call, to write, to tell you of all the ways you nearly broke me, but not quite. Instead, I have come to realise should I ever pass by you on the street, there is only two words I would need to say.

     

    Thank you.

     

    Thank you for teaching me I will never again settle for someone who can destroy a woman and call that love; who can not only justify their abuse through victim-blaming, but make a woman believe they actually deserved such abuse.

     

    Thank you for teaching me I will never again be controlled by another in a relationship; that I am the keeper of my own life, my own choices and my own relationships and I’m entitled to live my life with freedom, and not be imprisoned by another person’s power over me.

     

    Thank you for teaching me I need not compromise who I am and all I believe in order to be loved; that I do not need to scrape my knees on the ground of another’s approval, nor ever apologise for who I am to those who choose not to accept me regardless.

     

    Thank you for teaching me I do not need another to complete me; that I am better off being alone than ever being with someone who does not love me with respect, kindness, thoughtfulness, gentleness, acceptance.

     

    Thank you for teaching me never to look back; for all the apologies that didn’t reach your eyes, for all the promises spoken through lying teeth, for all the times I did come back only to end up more shattered by you each time.

     

    Thank you for helping me understand men like you never change.

     

    Thank you for teaching me I am worth more than you.

     

    Thank you for teaching me about love.

     

    The kind of love you could never give.

     

    The kind of love I am worth.

     

    The kind of love I will only ever accept from another so long as they can love me the way I have finally learned to love myself.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Kathy Parker is a Warrior. Dreamer. Creator. Writer. Fighter of all that is beautiful and good. Advocator for the underdog. Truth-teller. Empath. Passionate soul. Lover of land and ocean. Coffee drinker. Gentle spirit. Sensitive soul. Wild heart. Survivor. She is a freelance writer, blogger for HuffPost Australia, and columnist for elephant journal who is currently writing her first manuscript.

    Married to a farmer in the Limestone Coast of South Australia, she is also a mother to four astonishing children.

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

     

  • May 24, 2018
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    Depression is when you don’t really care about anything. Anxiety is when you care too much about everything. And having both is just like hell.

  • May 24, 2018
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    “Stress can destroy much more than just our physical health. Too often, it eats away at our hope, belief, and faith.” ― Charles F. Glassman

  • May 24, 2018
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    Be Grateful for every second of every day that you get to spend with the people you love. Life is so very precious.

  • May 24, 2018
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    Choose a partner who is good for you. Not good for your parents. Not good for your image. Not good for your bank account. Chose someone who’s going to make your life emotionally fulfilling.

  • May 24, 2018
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    I honestly love being around positive people. You’re not judged, there’s no drama, everyone just wants to relax and have a nice time.

  • May 23, 2018
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    12 Ways Men show their love – Through actions, not words.

    It’s relatively common knowledge that men tend to express their love and affection in different ways to women. Women are usually more verbally expressive than their male counterparts and are often left somewhat in the lurch and wondering how their male partners really feel due to the lack of expression of their love.

    Men tend to be more comfortable and at ease displaying their love through actions and gestures, rather than simply through words. If your boyfriend, fiancée, or husband isn’t telling you his feelings, here are 12 ways he might show you his love.

     

     

    • Being physically close to you

     

    Whether its keeping his arm around you, holding your hand, cuddling you or even laying his head in your lap or vice versa, a man who loves you will attempt to stay physically connected with you and in close proximity.

     

     

    • He gives you thoughtful gifts

     

    Buying good gifts requires a lot of thought and effort. If your man goes the extra mile to make or buy gifts that really mean something special to you, it’s clear that he has extremely strong feelings of love and wants to show you how much you mean to him.

     

     

    • He listens to what you have to say

     

    And I mean really listens. The kind that involves staying quiet and thinking intently about what you’re saying. A man that loves you will tend to give thoughtful, insightful comments and advice regarding what you’ve been saying to him. A sure sign that he’s listening to you is when he remembers little things about you that you’ve mentioned in passing – your favorite movie perhaps, or your favorite place.

     

     

    • He asks for your advice

     

    Following on from the last point, a man who loves you will value your advice and feedback. He’ll look to you for life advice and your thoughts on different things. If he loves you, then he’ll respect you, your opinions and your ideas.

     

     

    • He chooses to spend time with you

     

    And he doesn’t mind much exactly what it is you guys do – as long as it’s together. He’ll walk your dog with you, keep you company while shopping, chat to you while you wash your hair. It doesn’t matter what it is to him, all that matters is that he gets to do it with you.

     

     

    • He’s willing to compromise

     

    Any healthy relationship requires compromise. When a man loves you, he’ll be willing to compromise to make sure you’re both getting a fair deal out of the relationship. Remember that next time he agrees to go visit your parents rather than watch the game or hang out with his friends.

     

     

    • He loves to show you off

     

    When he starts to bring you around his friends and family, it shows that he’s serious about you, that he’s proud of you and the relationship you share together. He wants to make you an important part of his life and he wants everyone he loves to see how happy you make him.

     

     

    • He stays in touch with you

     

    Someone that loves you won’t have to constantly explain themselves as to why they’re not keeping in touch – if they’re genuinely in love with you, they will stay in touch naturally. They won’t want to be out of touch! If he calls just to see how you are and what you’re up to, it’s a sure indicator that you’re on his mind.

     

     

    • He does little things to help

     

    Helping you with everyday tasks and chores is something that a man will only do when he cares about you a great deal. If he’s constantly doing little things to help you out and make your life easier then he loves you. If he wasn’t serious, he wouldn’t be willing to stick around without immediate gain for himself.

     

     

    • You rub off on him

     

    We unconsciously mirror those we like. When we love someone, this effect is even more pronounced. Remember that the next time you see him fold his arms after you do, or hear him copy phrases and expressions of yours.  

     

     

    • Eye contact during intimate moments

     

    Eye contact is one of the most powerful body language indicators we have. You can communicate a great deal with just a look. When the man in your life holds eye contact during intimate moments you have together, it shows he’s experiencing strong emotions of love and caring. If he wasn’t, it’s highly likely he’d feel extremely uncomfortable sharing eye contact with you for that long.

     

     

    • He makes an effort to learn about the things you love

     

    Anyone who truly loves you will want to learn about whatever it is that you love, in order to share the experience with you and grow closer. Whether it’s makeup tutorials or lacrosse, a man that loves you will try and learn more about your interests.

    Written by Maverick, Staff writter,

    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,

     

  • May 23, 2018
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    Do not chase people. Work hard and be you. The right people who belong in your life will come and find you and stay. Do your thing.

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    The Brave Face of a Strong Woman. 

     

    What is she like? She’s many things. She’s someone that people look up to. Someone that seems indestructible. She seems to be ever-capable, always able to get up and carry on, no matter what life throws at her. She always has words of advice, she’s always calm and composed. It seems nothing can harm her. She takes all of life’s pain in her stride, never seen to falter or stumble.

    She’s also often broken inside. Although she’d never let anyone see the vulnerabilities beneath her armor, she’s struggling. No one is strong all the time. Some days she wakes up and wants to scream. Sometimes she lies awake at night, staring at the ceiling and wishing her life was half as perfect as it seems to everyone else. She’s withstood everything life has thrown at her. She’s someone that’s seen things at their worst. She’s seen misery. She’s been exposed to the cruellest side of humanity. To be strong is to have lived these things, to have learned these lessons. To have experienced some of the nuance of being human.

    So much seems to be expected of her – something she’s only too aware of. She feels the responsibility, the pressure that comes with the impossible task of being labelled as a strong person. She has to keep up appearances. She’s always putting out fires for other people, always making sure she’s there for the important people in her life. But often, she doesn’t let people close enough to be there for her. She’s not there for herself, either. She doesn’t show the same kindness, the same compassion towards her inner thoughts and feelings. She’s self-critical. She expects perfection, and when she can’t get there she’s harsh on herself.

    Perfection is unattainable. She shouldn’t aim for perfection. What’s important is that she keeps going. No matter how bad things get, no matter how hard it gets to wake up every day and keep trying, she does. It might take her some time. She might not make it out of bed some days, and that’s okay. What’s important is that in the end, she picks herself back up and carries on.

    Everyone is fighting their own battle. Even those of us who appear to be the strongest, the most invincible. Everyone struggles. To struggle is to be human.

    The strong woman is no different; she experiences the struggle. And she’s brave in the face of it.

    Written by Maverick, Staff Writter,

    @Lessons Learned In Life Inc.,

  • May 23, 2018
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    Happiness comes a lot easier when you stop complaining about your problems and you start being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.

  • May 23, 2018
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    I want to go on a road trip, listen to good music and discover beautiful places.

  • May 23, 2018
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    When love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, hurt you or make you feel unwanted.

  • May 22, 2018
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    People who stay in the car a little longer to listen to music are my kind of people.

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    A beautiful face will age and a perfect body will change, but a beautiful soul will always be a beautiful soul.

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    People will never truly understand something until it happens to them.

  • May 22, 2018
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    A strong person is not the one who doesn’t cry. A strong person is one who is quiet and sheds tears for a moment and then picks up the sword and fights again.

  • May 22, 2018
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    Missing someone isn’t about how long since you’ve seen them or the amount of time you’ve talked to them. It’s about that very moment when you’re doing something and wishing they were right there with you.

  • May 22, 2018
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    Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would have never given up on them.

  • May 21, 2018
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    One of the best feelings is finally losing feelings and your attachment to somebody that isn’t good for you.

  • May 21, 2018
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    Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.

  • May 21, 2018
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    You don’t always need a planSometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go, and see what happens. Mandy Hale

  • May 21, 2018
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    Never underestimate the pain of a person, because in all honesty, everyone is struggling. Some people are better at hiding it than others.

  • May 21, 2018
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    My point is, when you love someone, when you care for someone, you have to do it through the good and the bad. Not just when you’re happy and it’s easy.

  • May 20, 2018
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    Karma “Think good thoughts, say nice things, do good for others. Everything comes back.”

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    Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. – Mandy Hale

  • May 20, 2018
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    When you fully trust someone without any doubt, you finally get one of two results: A person for life or A lesson for life.

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    The only keeper of your happiness is you. Stop giving people power to control your smile, your worth and your attitude. – Mandy Hale.

  • May 20, 2018
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    You might be sad because you’ve been through a lot, but you should also be proud of yourself for being strong enough to make it through it.

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    “Someday, all the love you’ve given away, will find its way back to you, and it will finally stay.”
    ―Drewniverses.

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    If I love you, I won’t give up easily. Leaving is my last option, but if you push me away I will walk away knowing I gave it my all.

  • May 19, 2018
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    Some people change simply because they are sick and tired of being sick and tired.

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    I forgive, but I also learn a lesson. I won’t hate you, but I’ll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can’t let my forgiveness become foolishness. ~Tony Gaskins

  • May 19, 2018
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    Age is irrelevant. Ask me how many sunsets I’ve seen, hearts I’ve loved, trips I’ve taken, or concerts I’ve been to. That’s how old I am. – Joelle

  • May 19, 2018
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    People who defend your name when you’re not around are the most loyal friends you could ever get.

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    People have to pretend you’re a bad person so they don’t feel guilty about the things they did to you.

  • May 18, 2018
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    Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are free: love, laughter and good relationships.

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    Remember, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and all that extra stress is gone.

  • May 18, 2018
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    Dear God, I know that I’m not perfect, I know sometimes I forget to pray. I know I have questioned my faith, I know sometimes I lose my temper, but thank you for loving me unconditionally and giving me another day to start over again.

  • May 18, 2018
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    The most dangerous liars are those who think they’re telling the truth.

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    Sometimes it takes looking back, for you to realize that leaving someone and the pain they were causing you, was the best decision you ever made.

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    3 things to keep privateLove lifeincome and next move.

  • May 17, 2018
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    I am currently under construction. Thank you for your patience.

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    We don’t always have to agree with one another but it’s important that we learn to respect each other. -Rubyanne.

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    ‘Enough is enough’: when it’s okay to cut family members out of your life

    Being the tribal creatures that we are, we crave acceptance and belonging. For most people since the dawn of our species, this has come primarily in the form of a family. The family is the fundamental social group, the bedrock upon which we build and base all of the relationships that we develop throughout our lives. Losing these relationships, be it through bereavement, arguments and feuds or through cutting people off, is extremely difficult for any of us. This means that when a relationship with a family member is unhealthy and toxic, it is one of the hardest things for us to do to sever the tie and go our separate ways in life.

    Toxic relationships – it’s okay to let go

    You should never keep toxic people or people with whom your relationship is toxic in your life. Focusing on growth and surrounding yourself with positive, like-minded people is the best way forward – not holding onto remnants of your past with people that do not lift you up and root for you, but instead bring you down. This includes family members. Abusive parents, narcissistic siblings, it doesn’t matter. If the relationship is toxic and there’s no room for compromise or any way they could change for the better, let them go. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and the people who really care about you. It’s not pretty, but sometimes it has to be done.

    How to know if a relationship with a family member is toxic – five red flags to watch out for

    There are a few ways of identifying whether or not a particular relationship in your life is toxic.

     

    • They only speak to you when they need you

     

    A healthy relationship with any person in life requires give and take. When someone in your close family only ever contacts you when they need you, whether it be to use your truck to help them move, or emotional support in times of crisis, but isn’t there for you in turn when the chips are down, it’s pretty clear that they don’t actually value your relationship too much. They’re using you when they need you and then distancing themselves afterwards.

     

    • They feed off of drama

     

    People obsessed by, and thriving off of drama tend to nearly always be toxic influences in your life. They live for the rush of adrenalin, the gossip, the heated arguments. When these people are your family members, it means you’re always involved or dragged into it to some extent, even if just by association. Make no mistake, people that feed off of drama are hurtful to your life and your physical and mental wellbeing.

     

    • You can’t trust them

     

    A horrible symptom of a toxic family member is an inability to trust them. Your family should love and respect you, and that includes having the presence of mind and integrity to keep your secrets and always look out for you and have your back. If you have a family member who you can’t trust, they’re a toxic influence on your life.

     

    • They’re quick to judge

     

    Everyone makes mistakes, everyone needs (constructive) criticism. However, when the family member in question is quick to criticise with a constant stream of degrading comments and makes it all about how terrible you are and how bad you should feel, rather than how to learn from it and move on, they’re toxic.

     

    • They manipulate you

     

    Manipulation is one of the bigger (and often harder to identify) signs that someone in your life or family is toxic. Manipulators will use a variety of tactics to keep you under their control, from gaslighting (making you doubt your own memory or sanity) and denial of something you have conclusive proof of to changing their behaviour from sweet to angry and unpredictable when something doesn’t go their way.

    Cutting off toxic family members

    Following through and cutting off a family member once you’ve identified them as being a toxic person is extremely difficult, but often necessary. Toxicity stems from immaturity, from a lack of self-awareness and knowledge of what is really important in life. As a result, this behaviour is difficult to correct. A person will only change on their own, of their own volition and in their own time. Some people never will. It’s not up to you to try to change their behaviour or personality. If they do so of their own accord, either after you’ve cut them off as a wake-up call or in the course of their own path in life, brilliant. The vast majority of the time, however, a toxic person at adulthood will be toxic for most of their life.

    You owe it to yourself and the people that really care about you to surround yourself with positive people you can trust. Focus on doing this, and you’ll find it easier and easier to avoid toxic influences in your life and become a more fulfilled person.

    Written by Maverick
    Lessons Learned In Life Inc., Staff Writter

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    Don’t be so quick to believe what you hear because lies spread faster than the truth.

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    Never force anythingJust let it be. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

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    If overthinking situations burned calories, I’d be dead.

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    Some people create their own storms & then get mad when it rains.

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    What Defines us is how Well we Rise after we fall ~Zig ziglar.

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    “Just because some people are fueled by drama doesn’t mean you have to attend the performance.” -Cheryl Richardson

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    Be selective with your battles because peace is often better than being right.

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    “You can love them, forgive them, want good things for them…but still move on without them.”

    ― Mandy Hale

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    Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet still become something beautiful.

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    Hugging is the most beautiful form of communication that allows the other person to know beyond adoubt that they matter to you.

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    “Sometimes what you’re most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.”

    ― Robert Tew

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    As long as you feel pain, you’re still alive. As long as you make mistakes, you’re still human. And as long as you keep trying, there’s still hope. Susan Gale

  • May 15, 2018
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    You are one decision away from a totally different life.

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    Love all. Trust few. Everything’s real but not everyone’s true.

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    Why second love is the real love

    Second love teaches you how to love again after you’ve been broken. It teaches you that love still exists, that you’re capable of loving again and loving harder. That you can still have faith in love no matter how much pain your first love caused you. Second love is there to pick up the pieces.

    Second love gives you hope. That your fairy tale is still out there. That heartbreak is not the end of the world and that there are better things ahead. It shows you what happens when you move on, when you let go, when you try again and when you never lose hope. Second love shows you the light after the dark.

    Second love is braver. It means you know how to forgive, you know how to risk getting hurt again because it’s worth it. It means that you’re prepared for the worst but you’re hoping for the best. Second love makes you stronger.

    Second love makes you believe in timing. Why things didn’t work out the first time around, why you fell in love with the wrong person, why you had to get your heartbroken and why someone left you when they promised to love you. It’s here to tell you that there is always a valid reason behind your pain and that loving someone doesn’t always mean they’re right for you. Second love answers all these questions.

    Second love makes sense. It’s not based on childhood fantasies or lust or infatuation. It’s not blind or reckless or toxic. It’s not based on unrealistic expectations or sheer obsession. Second love comes after you’ve learned to listen to your gut, to watch for the red flags, to pick someone because they will add value to your life and when you’ve learned to make decisions out of maturity not out of loneliness.

    Second love shows you that you can be someone’s first choice and shows you what it really means to be loved.

    Written by Rania Naim

    This story was brought to you by Thought Catalog and Quote Catalog

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    If you made a promise, keep it. If you have love, cherish it. If someone confided in you, respect it. If you did wrong, apologize for it. If you want trust, earn it. ~Brigitte Nicole

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    WHEN I CHOSE TO LET YOU GO.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no great moment of triumph.
    There wasn’t an earth-shattering epiphany that changed my life, where music played and the universe conspired to bring everything together for good.

    There was no conflict, no turmoil and no struggle. No internal argument. No weighing of pros and cons. No decision to be analyzed to death—even by me, who cannot make a decision without weeks of obsessive thought over every possible outcome.

    There were only two words, when I chose to let you go:

    No more.

    No more will I measure my worth against your opinion. No more will I be pressed into the shapes you carved for me. No more will I tell my heart to quiet down, ashamed of its clatter. No more will there be blood on my feet from the eggshells I walked on as I tried not to give cause for your disapproval.

    No more will I anguish over the ways you misunderstood me. No more will I fight to justify the intention of my heart. No more will I beg for you to see me, the real me—to know me, to love me.

    No more will I live my life for you.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no holy encounter. The stars did not collapse from the sky and cascade into the oceans. There was no ferocious wind that rattled the walls or blazing fire that consumed all within its destructive path.

    There was only quiet resolution, the silent death of leaves that drift to the ground as frost begins to waste them away.
    And there I found myself, in the barren ground where you once stood; I came to understand there must be winter.

    Winter in all its loss, its grief, its letting go.
    There must be a time for old things to die, that new things may be born.

    When I chose to let you go, it was for me.

    I learned to love myself even when you made me feel I deserved no love. To honor my own needs, my own heart and my own potential. To walk my own path, not yours. To not be pulled back into your confines while my spirit yearned to be free.

    When I chose to let you go, I made coffee, ate toast, and folded clothes. I went to yoga and collected my mail and paid my bills. There was nothing out of place on the outside of my ordinary life—no visible change, nothing new or different.

    There was only surrender.

    One moment.

    One breath.

    I chose to let you go.

    And in doing so, I chose me.

    By Kathy Parker
    (with permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

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    In a time where so many beautiful souls are being tormented by depression and anxiety,it’s more important now than ever, to be kinder to each other. Meggan Roxanne

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    Never forget the people who take time out of their day to check up on you.

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    Growing up means realizing a lot of your friends aren’t really your friends.

  • May 13, 2018
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    Some people mess up something good looking for something better and end up with something worse.

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    Always believe something wonderful is going to happen. Even with all the ups and downs, never take a day for granted. Smile, cherish the little things and remember to hug the ones you really love. ~Brigitte Nicole

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    Motherhood takes you to heaven and hell every day. It erases your past and amplifies it at the same time. It destroys and rebuilds you, slowly and carefully: replacing the cracked, broken bricks with stronger ones with no anesthesia.

    Motherhood kills the old you; it doesn’t care who you think you are, only who you must be in this moment to meet the needs of the ones you invited into this world.

    And somehow, by feeding that child, loving that child, wiping that child’s tears from their damp cheeks, pouring water over that child’s head as you sit beside them, uncomfortable and damp next to the bathtub, you become the gentlest of warriors.

    Motherhood is a bridge that you walk alone, but as you look to your left and to your right, you see others on their own bridges, navigating the rickety planks of swaying wood. And as you see them struggling just like you are not to fall, it gives you the courage to take one more step.

    Motherhood is painfully lonely, but at 3 o’clock in the afternoon whether you’re sitting on the living room floor with a child who doesn’t know your real name or at 3 o’clock in the morning with a child who needs your steady tapping on their pajama-ed back, you’re not alone because all over the world, mothers are doing the same thing. Their minds wander through the garden of their imaginations and memories, dreaming of sleep and rest, but powered by the fiercest of love.

    The love that one pours into their child doesn’t come from the heart. Anyone can be in love. Anyone can be infatuated. The type of love one has for their child comes from the center of their bones. It’s the type of love that doesn’t need reciprocation to burn hot. It’s the type of love that never keeps score. It’s the type of love that powers nature in her infinite beauty and ruthlessness.

    When a mother says, “I love you,” she doesn’t mean “I love how you make me feel” she means “You are my world, my sun and my moon and not life or death can change that, wherever you are I will find you whether it be across seas or lost within yourself. You are my breath and the light inside my eyes.”

    Motherhood, while almost never glamorous, is always beautiful.

    Written by:  Bunmi Laditan

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    LETTER FROM A MOTHER TO A DAUGHTER:

    “My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.
    When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?

    When you see how slow I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.

    If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.

    And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.

    When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.

    I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”

    – Unknown,

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    “The most valuable gift you can receive is an honest friend.” ― Stephen Richards

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    Momthank you for always being there for me. Not just when I needed you, but for when I needed you most.

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    Dear Mother Who is Struggling,  

     

    I know you haven’t been yourself lately.

     

    I see it in the way your eyes no longer carry the light the way they used to, their colour faded; like an old photograph that once held a cherished memory, now lost.

     

    Your frown lines have deepened, they outnumber the lines of laughter that once etched the sides of your face, back when your joyful smile would reach that far, back when your shoulders were straight and the weight of your tiredness didn’t pull you down.

     

    You love your babies, I know you do.

     

    But this is hard.

     

    And you are tired. So damn tired.

     

    And maybe this is what adds to the tiredness; the guilt that you shouldn’t feel this way. You wonder if you’re the only mother out there who feels so isolated, so alone, so exhausted. Or do they all have these villages you hear of; support networks of family and friends who share the burden of raising a family, while you wake up each morning and wonder how you will get through another day on your own?

     

    There was a world you used to belong to, and you grieve it. It’s there in front of you, every day, on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter – there, in the radiant faces of other women as they go about their social lives, their holidays, gym classes, dates, promotions. You wonder how, in a world so connected by social media, you are left feeling so goddamn disconnected from it all.

     

    Surrounded by little people, noise, clutter, you find yourself lonelier than ever. But it’s not a loneliness from being alone. It’s a loneliness that comes from being so far from yourself, so far from who you once were. You don’t even know who that is anymore. You feel as though you’ve traded your whole identity to be a mother. Sacrificed your entire life to care for those around you. This is all you know now. This is all your life has become.

     

    And you miss the woman you once were, and the life you once had.

     

    You long for your independence, your spontaneity, your carefree. For road trips and dinner dates and live music and nights out in the city. For beach days and lazy Sundays in bed and to read a book, uninterrupted. Drained, you yearn for the things that bring nurture to your tired body and soul as you force yourself through another day on the scarce remnants of what you have left to give.

     

    Around you, other mothers appear cool, unflustered; they’ve got this. You wonder if they catch a glimpse of the defeat in your eyes before you look the other way, if they can sense the effort it takes to simply place one foot in front of the other.

     

    I know this is hard. But take heart, dear one.

     

    It won’t always be this way. It won’t always be so hard. Days will get easier. There will be more moments to be still, to breathe, more moments to laugh again. There will be more moments where you can reach inside and find the misplaced pieces of the woman you used to be, and the days will begin to feel less lonely as you journey back to your own heart.

     

    I know you think the way you struggle makes you a failure. That because of this, you fall short and aren’t enough. Don’t believe these lies. Be gentle on your heart, for every day you face the hardest job, alone, and you make it through. No matter how hard, you don’t give up. You show up, and continue to do the best with what you have. And some days that may not seem like enough.

     

    But every day, you continue to love.

     

    And that will always be more than enough.

     

    I know this is hard. But for now, this is all you need to know.

     

    This too shall pass.  

     

    And when you close your eyes tonight, write those words on the back of your eyelids, and watch as they fall away beneath your skin and seep into your bloodstream where they will reach your heart and kiss it with the hope that will get you through your tomorrows.

     

    You may not feel it today, but I promise you, my love – you’ve got this.

     

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Kathy Parker is a Warrior. Dreamer. Creator. Writer. Fighter of all that is beautiful and good. Advocator for the underdog. Truth-teller. Empath. Passionate soul. Lover of land and ocean. Coffee drinker. Gentle spirit. Sensitive soul. Wild heart. Survivor. She is a freelance writer, blogger for HuffPost Australia, and columnist for elephant journal who is currently writing her first manuscript.

    Married to a farmer in the Limestone Coast of South Australia, she is also a mother to four astonishing children.

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

     

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    One day, you will understand. That happiness was always about learning how to live with yourself, that happiness was never in the hands of other people. – Bianca Sparacino

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    Why Mothers Cry

    “Why are you crying?” he asked his mom.
    “Because I’m a Mother,” she told him.
    “I don’t understand,” he said.
    His mom just hugged him and said, “You never will..”
    Later the little boy asked his Father why Mother seemed to cry for no reason.
    “All Mothers cry for no reason,” was all his dad could say.
    The little boy grew up and became a man, still wondering why Mothers cry. So he finally put in a call to God and when God got on the phone the man said, “God, why do Mothers cry so easily.”
    God said, “You see son, when I made Mothers, they had to be special. I made their shoulders strong enough to carry the weight of the world, yet gentle enough to give comfort. I gave them an inner strength to endure childbirth and the rejection that many times come from their children.
    “I gave them a hardiness that allows them to keep going when everyone else gives up, and to take care of their families through sickness and fatigue without complaining.
    I gave them the sensitivity to love their children under all circumstances, even when their child has hurt them very badly.
    This same sensitivity helps them to make a child’s boo-boo feel better and helps them share a teenager’s anxieties and fears.
    “I gave them a tear to shed. It’s theirs exclusively to use whenever it’s needed.
    It’s their only weakness.
    It’s a tear for mankind.”

    -Unknown

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    A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because her trust is not on the branch but on its wings. “Always believe in yourself.”

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    Do not call me perfect, a lie is never a complimentCall me an erratic damaged and insecure mess. Then tell me that you love me for it. Beau Taplin

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    Sometimes it’s better to just remain silent and smile.

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    Not everyone is meant to be in your future. Some people are just passing through to teach you lessons in life.

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    Don’t ever second-guess a strong feeling that you have. Trust your gut.

    — Allison DuBois

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    I no longer look for the good in people, I search for the real… because while good is often dressed in fake clothing, real is naked and proud no matter the scars. -Chishala Lishomwa

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    “There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words, and still not understand you. And there are others who will understand — without you even speaking a word.” ― Yasmin Mogahed

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    Love is when you look into someone’s eyes and you see their heart.

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    I do not want someone who stands next to me because they are lonely. I want someone who stands next to me because they cannot imagine standing next to anyone else.

  • May 10, 2018
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    The hardest battle is between what you know in your head and what you feel in your heart.

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    See how far you’ve come? Be proud of yourself. If nothing else, one day, you can look at someone straight in the eye and say: “But I lived through it and it made me who I am today.”

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    Some of the most generous people have no money. Some of the wisest people have no education. Some of the kindest people were hurt the most.  ― Steve Wentworth

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     It’s not that we find more patience as we grow older, it’s that we get too tired to care aboutall the pointless drama.

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    A pretty face gets old, a nice body will change. But a good woman will always be a good woman.

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    If you walked away from someone who wouldn’t stop playing games with your heart, your mind and your emotions…YOU WON. ― Brigitte Nicole

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    Sometimes the right path is not the easiest one.

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    Remember that no amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future.

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    These life lessons are widely known from the highly popular column by Regina Brett. “45 lessons, written by a 90 year old” was originally featured in the Plain Dealer Newspaper in Cleveland, Ohio.

    Since then, the story spread that Regina is actually 90 years old. She is really only in her ’50s, but nonetheless, this Pulitzer Prize finalist has a wealth of knowledge and life lessons that you would think she truly was in her 90’s.

    45 LIFE LESSONS FROM A 90 YEAR OLD

    1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
    2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
    3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.
    4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
    5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.
    6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
    7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
    8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
    9. Save for things that matter.
    10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
    11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
    12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
    13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
    14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
    15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.
    16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
    17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.  Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
    18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
    19. It’s never too late to be happy.  But it’s all up to you and no one else.
    20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
    21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

     

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    30 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Older

    Before you read this page, make sure you save it and always look at it, just to remind yourself not to regret these things. Here are the 37 things you’ll regret when you’re old.

    1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

    Think we all have had this once in our life, thinking ‘I should have gone there or there’. Well as long as you live and able to travel, please do travel. Trust me it becomes a lot harder the older you get. If you think of excuses now, later you will have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead just for yourself.

    2. Not learning another language.

    How many languages do you speak? There’s no excuse not to learn a new language, and you are never too old for this. You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

    3. Staying in yes those bad relationship(s).

    How many of us seen this happen? No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

    4. Not using any sunscreen or enough sunscreen.

    Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself. Actually, best anti-aging treatment is to use everyday sunscreen, even if it’s winter.

    5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

    “Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm. No, stop let artists, or musicians pass you, when you want to see them.

    6. Being scared to do things.

    Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

    7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

    Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

    8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

    Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

    9. Not quitting a terrible job.

    Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell. Yep we have written a lot articles about this one.

    10. Not trying harder in school.

    It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

    11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

    This part is the biggest part if you spend your time thinking you’re not beautiful, you will just regret it.Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

    12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

    What can we lose? By telling someone we love them? Try to learn saying it more often.
    When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

    13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

    Our parents have the best experiences, so every advice should be thought of. You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

    14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

    You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

    15. Caring too much about what other people think.

    Why live life limited just because you are afraid of what other people will think?
    In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

    16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

    Don’t forget about yourself. Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

    17. Not moving on fast enough.

    Enjoy life, when going through hard life try to focus on little things that makes you happy. Try to move on fast enough! Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

    18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

    What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

    19. Not standing up for yourself.

    Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.

    20. Not volunteering enough.

    OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

    21. Neglecting your teeth.

    Neglecting your teeth. What more can we say about it?
    Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

    22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

    If you still see your grandparents, please appreciate it. Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

    23. Working too much.

    No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

    24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

    Hello, what’s life without good food? Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

    25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

    For instant, stop taking to many pictures or even selfies at a moment. Try to enjoy and appreciate the moment. Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

    26. Failing to finish what you start.

    Failing to finish what you start. “I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

    27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

    You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

    28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

    Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations. Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

    29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

    People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

    30. Not playing with your kids enough.

    When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

    Source:www.healthytipsworld.net

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    A person who feels appreciated will always do more than what is expected.

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    Moving on doesn’t mean forgetting, it means you choose happiness over hurt.

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    You want to find out who’s a TRUE FRIEND, screw up or go through a challenging time, THEN see who sticks around. ~ Karen Salmansohn

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    The older you get, the more quiet you become. Life humbles you so deeply as you age. You realize how much nonsense you’ve wasted time on.

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     Familylike branches in a tree, we all grow in different directions, yet our roots remain as one.”

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    Life is shortCut out the negativity, forget gossip, say goodbye to people who don’t care. Spend time with the people who are always there.

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    Don’t close the book when bad things happen in your life, just turn the page and begin a new chapter.

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    Stop expecting loyalty from people who can’t even give you honesty.

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    When a woman tells you her problems, it doesn’t mean she’s complaining, it means she trusts you.

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    You can meet somebody tomorrow who has better intentions for you than someone you’ve known forever. Time means nothing. Character does.

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    The lesson; not everyone you love will stay, not everyone you trust will be loyal.  Some people only exist as examples of what to avoid.

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    God when I lose hope, help me to remember that your love is greater than my disappointments & your plans for my life are better than my dreams. Amen. – Jasmeen Kaur Wadhera

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    Never lie to someone who trusts you, and never trust someone who lies to you.

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    You can’t be strong all the time. Sometimes you just need to be alone and let your tears out.

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    Don’t ignore the effort of a person who tries to keep in touch, it’s not all the time someone cares.

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    “When you meet someone who tries their hardest to stick by you regardless of how difficult you are, keep them. Keep them at all costs because finding someone who cares enough to look past your flaws isn’t something that happens every day. “

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    When a door closes, knock on it a few times. But if it still doesn’t open, let it stay closed. In career, in love, in LIFE – when you see the period at the end of the sentence, don’t try and turn it into a comma. Know when something is over and move on. ~Mandy Hale.

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    I’m blessed with everything I need. I am working hard towards everything I want. And most of all I appreciate & Thank God for what I have.

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    Sometimes we have to stop being scared and just go for it. Either it’ll work or it won’t. That is life.

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    When love is real, it doesn’t lie, cheat, pretend, hurt you or make you feel unwanted.

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    have no problem with those who don’t like me, but I do have a problem with those who pretend to.

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    I’m attracted to intelligence, not education. You could graduate from the best, most elite college, but if you’re clueless about the world and society, you don’t know anything.

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    There are 4 very important words in life. LOVE, HONESTY, TRUTH and RESPECT. Without these in your life, you have nothing.

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    Actions prove who someone is, words just prove who they want to be.

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    I would rather surround myself with people who make a lot of mistakes and have no problem admitting them, than to surround myself with people who think they make none.

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    Don’t feel sad over someone who gave up on you, feel sorry for them because they gave up on someone who would have never given up on them.

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    Sometimes you get to what you thought was the end and you find it’s a whole new beginning.”

    ~ Anne Tyler.

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    Before you assumelearn the facts. Before you judge, understand why. Before you hurt someone, feel. Before you speak, think.

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    Treat everyone with politenesseven those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are.”

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    Practice the pause. When in doubt, pause. When angry, pause. When tired, pause. When stressed, pause. And when you pause, pray.

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    Don’t force pieces that don’t fit.

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    Secret and lies kill relationships. No matter how careful you are, you will get caught.

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    A true friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.

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    Never blame anyone in your Life. Good people give you Happiness. Bad people give you Experience. Worst people give you a Lesson and Best people give you memories.

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    4 things you can’t get back: The stone after it is thrown. The word after it is said. The occasion after it is missed. The time after it’s gone.

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    Sometimes the person who has been there for everyone else, needs someone to be there for them.

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    Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.

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    It’s not about having the perfect relationship, it’s about finding someone who matches you and will go through everything with you, without giving up.

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    “There comes a time when you have to choose between turning the page and closing the book”

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    Helping one person might not change the whole world, but it could change the world for one person.

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    If you want to change the world, go home and love your family. -Mother Theresa.

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    Morning is God’s way of saying one more time, go make a difference, touch a heart, encourage a mind, inspire a soul and enjoy the day.

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    You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.” — C. S. Lewis

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    Whatever it is you want to do, do it. You only have so many tomorrows.

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    Sometimes you need to cancel your subscription to people’s issues.

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    Sometimes It’s Okay If The Only Thing You Did Today Was Breathe.

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    A strong woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at her.

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    “The mouth should have three gatekeepers. Is it true? Is it kind? And is it necessary?”

    ― Arab proverb

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    If you live your life as if everything is about you, you will be left with just that. Just you.

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    Saying sorry is important but not doing the very same thing again is more important.