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Archive for August, 2017

  • August 31, 2017
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    Yes, I am an introvert. No, I’m not shy. No, I’m not stuck up. No, I’m not antisocial. I’m just listening. I’m just observing. I can’t stand small talk… But I’ll talk about life for hours. I’d rather be home with a close friend or two than among a crowd of acquaintances. Don’t scold me in public. Don’t embarrass me in public. Respect that I am reserved. And if I open myself up to you, know that means you’re very special to me.— Unknown

  • August 31, 2017
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    Sometimes God holds you back temporarily until the road is safe and clear to continue. Be thankful for the stall.

  • August 31, 2017
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    I don’t understand why some people think that since someone hurt you, you need to hurt them back to show them how it feels. That just makes you exactly like them. You should never want to hurt someone even if they hurt you. Be the better person.

  • August 31, 2017
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    HOW OUR HEARTS ARE CHANGED BY BETRAYAL

     

    You haven’t always been this way.

    You haven’t always been a body lined with thorns, a heart wrapped in razor wire; hard lines and jaded eyes.

    Distant, aloof, guarded.

    There was a time you were shades of pastel; when your heart knew love, and trust rested freely upon your fingertips.

    There was a time your days were painted with innocence. Where eager eyes gazed at the world with hope and wonder, your heart still shiny and new.

    But all of this changed the moment you were betrayed by someone you loved. Someone you trusted. Someone who should have protected you. Someone who hurt you instead. Someone who allowed you to be hurt by others.

    There is little else that shatters a heart as much as the pain of betrayal. It tears you open, rips your heart out of your chest. You don’t want to put it back, you want to leave it on the floor to bleed until there is nothing left, until the blood runs dry and you no longer have to feel a damn thing anymore. But you can’t. You have to go on. So you pick your heart off the floor and place it back inside your hollow chest.

    Except, the heart that you put back is never the same heart. It is wounded, war-torn. It no longer seeks love, but only to protect itself from the pain of ever being betrayed again.

    A heart that is betrayed is changed forever.

    No longer will it trust anyone again, but greets every person with reservation and fear; wary of a world that has proven to only take advantage for its own benefit. It remains hyper-vigilant in its desperate need to prove itself right; forever searching for the cracks inside another person that prove they too are unworthy of trust. It needs to know its enemy. It needs to remain one step in front at all times. Kindness is met with suspicion, for your heart has learned nothing comes without a cost – there are always strings, always an agenda. Your heart rejects kindness, remains cynical of it, refuses to accept it. It would rather suffer on its own than accept kindness that allows it to become vulnerable to another.

    Your heart no longer knows how to trust itself either, and it makes vows to stay hard, to stay tough. Never will I want again. Never will I need again. Never will I trust again. Never will I love again. These vows are the cornerstones of the fortress it builds around itself, the strongholds that keep the walls in place. It gives up hope of ever being protected and instead learns to protect itself. It becomes a slave to its independence, its autonomy. Here, in its fortress, it is safe. Here, behind its walls, it can remain distant, removed.

    Here, your heart can trust itself not to feel. 

    For betrayal has taught your heart how dangerous it is to feel. To want, to need. To desire love, relationship, connection. No, your heart must deaden itself to its desires. It must wake each morning with one goal of attack – to kill your hungry soul. To destroy your desires before they destroy you. Your heart cannot afford to want, it is too dangerous, too much of a risk that will lead to being hurt again. This is how your heart stays safe – it refuses to be tempted by love ever again.

    Except, your heart was created for relationship. Your heart was created for intimacy. But intimacy is the enemy, the biggest threat. Intimacy requires your heart to be vulnerable, to let someone close. To betray its own desires in the hope it will not be betrayed because of them. Intimacy is the most dangerous of all, and your heart turns itself away and chooses to live without hope of relationship, of closeness, of oneness with another.

    Betrayal has changed your heart.

    It has damaged your heart.

    It has left it powerless, helpless, vulnerable, wounded, damaged, guarded, broken. Your heart can no longer trust, does not trust. It no longer believes in the goodness of anyone else’s heart. It no longer believes it is worthy of being loved, of being protected. It is tired from living in a constant state of anticipation and expectation that it will be hurt and betrayed once more. It no longer wants to love, no longer knows how to love. It has become numb, deadened to its desires, and you tell yourself you are content with this.

    That here, you are safe. You are in control. You are untouchable.

    Except, you are lonely. So goddamn lonely.

    And this is the paradox of betrayal.

    You are scared of relationship, yet relationship is the very thing that will heal your heart.

    Dear heart, there is a need for you to be safe.

    But there is a greater need for you to be loved.

    The only way to heal is through love. You must find the courage to pull down your fortress. It has kept you safe. But you have dwelled long enough in your solitude. In your loneliness. It is time to lay down your weapons. Surrender is not defeat, but the end of the fight.

    To love is to risk hurt. To trust is to risk betrayal. But you must risk so that you may heal.

    Your heart has learned how to stay safe, how to survive.

    Now, it must learn how to once again love.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • August 30, 2017
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    Finding your soulmate is a blessing, but finding your teammate is a whole different blessing. You can love someone a lot and they can love you the same way, but them being committed to never leaving you is priceless. Love and team go together hand in hand. And when you have finally found your teammate in love and in life, you will be blessed on both sides of the coin.

  • August 30, 2017
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    A mistake which makes you humble is much better than an achievement that makes you arrogant.

  • August 30, 2017
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    Stay true to yourself. Don’t worry about what people think of you or about the way they try to make you feel. If people want to see you as a good person, they will. If they want to see you as a bad person, absolutely nothing you do will stop them. Ironically, the more you try to show them your good intentions, the more reason you give them to knock you down if they are commited to misunderstanding you. Keep your head up high and be confident in what you do. Be confident in your intentions and keep your eyes ahead instead of wasting your time on those who want to drag you back. Because you can’t change people’s views, you have to believe that true change for yourself comes from within you, not from anyone else.  ~ Najwa Zebian

  • August 30, 2017
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    Detox your life in 4 easy steps: Eliminate anyone who: 1. Lies to you. 2. Disrespects you. 3. Uses you. 4. Puts you down.

  • August 30, 2017
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    I guess the real fact of the matter is, we don’t know what tomorrow is going to bring and the only thing we really have is right now. So, don’t stay mad for too long. Learn to forgive. Love with all your heart. Have fun. Live your life the way you want to live it. Don’t worry about people that don’t like you. Enjoy the ones who do

  • August 29, 2017
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    It’s nice to be told you’re beautiful or hot or whatever, but I’d love to hear some say that I make things easier, that they’re happy I exist, they don’t know what they’d do with out me, I’m strong, that they hope we never lose each other, that they’re proud of me, that I have something to offer. Compliments don’t always have to be about appearance. -kirbyshayII

  • August 29, 2017
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    Do not chase people. Work hard and be you. The right people who belong in your life will come and find you and stay. Do your thing.

  • August 29, 2017
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    “Maybe some things don’t get better, but we do. We get stronger. We learn to live with our situations as messy and ugly as they are. We fix what we can and we adapt to what we can’t. Maybe some of us will never be fully okay, but at least we’re here. We’re still trying. We’re doing the best we can. That’s worth celebrating too. If you’re reading this, congratulations, you made it to today. You made it.”

  • August 29, 2017
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    How beautiful it is to stay silent when someone expects you to be enraged.

  • August 29, 2017
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    There are people who can walk away from you…let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you… Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over.
    ~ T.D. Jakes

  • August 29, 2017
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    I spent so many years walking on eggshells… never doing or saying the right thing. One day I decided I’d had enough and stomped all over them. Those broken eggshells cut me deeply as I walked away… but this… was the most beautiful pain I had ever felt.
    -S.L. Heaton

  • August 28, 2017
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    .I hope you find someone who smiles at you every time you walk in the door. Who finds beauty in your scars. I hope you find someone who never leaves you guessing. Someone who lets you know for certain how they always feel about you. I hope you find someone who never hesitates to love you. Who doesn’t just give you pieces of their time but it’s entirety. I hope you find someone who knows just how special you really are. How your soul needs to be loved. I hope you find someone who is your biggest supporter. Who doesn’t just seek attention but gives it in return. But mostly, I hope you find all of these things in yourself first so that you can be ready for this type of love.  ~Natalie Peralta.

  • August 28, 2017
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    If they can leave you so easily, they were never really meant for you. Let them go.

  • August 28, 2017
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    Sometimes you are unsatisfied with your life, while many people in this world are dreaming of living your life. A child on a farm sees a plane fly overhead and dreams of flying. But, a pilot on the plane sees the farmhouse and dreams of returning home. That’s life!! Enjoy yours… If wealth is the secret to happiness, then the rich should be dancing on the streets. But only poor kids do that. If power ensures security, then officials should walk unguarded. But those who live simply, sleep soundly. If beauty and fame bring ideal relationships, then celebrities should have the best marriages. Live simply. Walk humbly and love genuinely..!  All good will come back to you.
    Dr. Ben Carson

  • August 28, 2017
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    Don’t worry about the haters… They are just angry because the truth you speak contradicts the lie they live. – Dr. Steve Maraboli

  • August 28, 2017
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    “Family” isn’t defined only by last names or by blood; it’s defined by commitment and by love. It means shwing up when they need it most. It means having each other’s backs. It means choosing to love each other even on those days when you struggle to like each other. It means never giving up on each other!” -Dave Willis

  • August 28, 2017
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    Seriously, if it’s sucking the life out of you, stop giving it attention. If it’s a job, you need to quit. If it’s a person, cut them out. If it’s an activity, by all means, stop. Stop letting anything but you take the wheel. You’re going to be okay. Time will pass. Get out of there and make your dreams a reality. You don’t deserve anxiety. You’re not operating at your best when someone or something else is in control. Take over. Get some good vibes cranking and just be happy in your own skin. Love your life. Delete the rest.”

    – The quiet Rabbit

  • August 27, 2017
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    One day it just clicks. You realize what’s important and what is not. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you’ve come and you remember when things were such a mess that you would never recover. And you SMILE. You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you’ve fought to become.

  • August 27, 2017
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    Never say, “That won’t happen to me.” Life has a funny way of proving us wrong.

  • August 27, 2017
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    And this is life. People will screw you over. You’ll fight with your family. People will screw you over. You’ll fight with your family. You’ll witness things that will change you forever. You’ll blame new lovers for things old lovers did. You’ll lose best friends you thought would always be there. You’ll come to realize that everyone has a past. You’ll cry, you’ll laugh, you’ll embarrass yourself. But then, you’ll find your very own moment—when none of that will matter; where you will sit back and realize that crap happens to the people who can handle it; that this is who you are… and that no one should want to change you, including yourself.

  • August 27, 2017
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    Falling in love is easy. Having sex is easier. But bumping into someone that can spark your soul…now that is rare.

  • August 27, 2017
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    Love is more black and white than we like to tell ourselves. Don’t allow anyone to keep you trapped in the “promise” of the gray area. The bottom line is: If they love you, TRULY love you, they’ll do whatever it takes to be with you. There won’t be excuses or doubts or fears or hesitation. Love is ACTION. Everything else is just words.
    ~Mandy Hale – The Single Woman

  • August 27, 2017
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    One day, many years from now when you realize what you’ve lost – you will search for me. 
Perhaps you’ll email me but there’ll be no reply; or maybe you’ll call my number but it will have changed…. And when you give up trying to find me physically, you’ll search for me emotionally. 
You’ll try to find someone else who will love you like I did or make you laugh as much as I used to … but you’ll soon realize there’s nobody else quite like me… I was unique… I was the one for you – and you lost me. And you will try so desperately to find traces of me in every soul you meet for the rest of your days ….but you will never ever find me.

    Ranata Suzuki

  • August 26, 2017
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    Why she stayed.

    He is a storm, and storms devastate, but every time he hurts you you hold your breath and bear the hurricane; repeating to yourself One more chance One more breath just one more, and you’ll fix him Until one day you can’t hold your breath anymore, and you are half a stormy evening, one tear stained night, two minutes and five secondsaway from breaking down And you realize, you cannot fix anyone, not until you fix yourself.

    ~ Nikita Gill

  • August 26, 2017
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    You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions.

  • August 26, 2017
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    I am no longer in the business of giving people chance after chance after chance. We’re both adults and we both know the difference between right and wrong at this point. Mistakes happen, of course, but when those mistakes become repetitive, you can’t call them mistakes anymore- now they’re choices. Your choices. So no, I am no longer in the business of giving people chance after chance after chance.

    CiCi. B

  • August 26, 2017
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    No one has the right to judge you because no one really knows what you have been through. They might have heard the stories but they didn’t feel what you felt in your heart.

  • August 26, 2017
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    The saddest end to a relationship is one where you have to break up with somebody when you’re still in love with them. It sounds bizarre but it happens, because the truth is, as powerful and as thrilling and as wonderful as it may be, love isn’t always enough and to be in love doesn’t always mean you’re happy. You can continue to love someone even after they’ve hurt you, but you know deep inside yourself that it won’t ever be the same again.

  • August 26, 2017
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    Stop ignoring actions and trusting words. Stop giving your all to a person who gives you nothing. Stop hanging on to someone who has let go of you. Stop expecting change from a person who doesn’t want to be changed. Stop letting the fear of loneliness cause you to settle for less than what you deserve. Stop letting the wrong reasons keep you in a relationship that isn’t right for you. Stop breaking your own heart.
    ~Trent Shelton

  • August 25, 2017
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    “I won’t beg for your time and attention anymore. The more you ignore me, the more I will get used to being ignored. If you stop calling me, I will stop waiting for your calls. If you stop sending me text messages, I will get rid of my habit of checking my phone all day. The more you stay away from me, the more I will adapt to staying away from you. One day I will learn to live without you and move on.”

  • August 25, 2017
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    “I can say with great certainty and absolute honesty that I did not know what love was until I knew what love was not.” ~ P.T. Berkey

  • August 25, 2017
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    She’s the woman who believes that what comes around goes around. The one who hopes for a better day. The one who won’t give up on you. She’s the woman who’s unlike the rest. The one who spent her days smiling, and her nights crying. She’s the woman who would love to be loved. The one who looks so damn strong, but feels so weak. She’s the woman who picks herself up every time she falls.

  • August 25, 2017
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    It’s nice when someone remembers small details about you. Not because you keep reminding them, but because they actually care.

  • August 25, 2017
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    She was a forgiver. Her heart was so large she didn’t know how to give up on people, because she always believed the good in those she loved. It was until she was walked on so many times, she had no choice but to let go of those who burned holes in
    her heart.
    ~C.R.Bittar

  • August 24, 2017
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    Throughout life you will meet one person who is unlike any other. You could talk to this person for hours and never get bored. You could tell them anything and they would never judge you. This person is your soul mate, your best friend. Don’t ever let them go.

  • August 24, 2017
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    I can tell you a lot about her. She’s someone with a huge heart. She will bend over backwards and fold herself in half helping out someone if she can do anything. Her loyalty to the ones that mean something to her is unheard of nowadays. She smiles like she’s never been hurt, and if you didn’t know her, you wouldn’t ever imagine her to ever be hurt. But it happens, a lot more than anyone realizes. She’s really fragile, and it takes very little for her to be hurt, as she takes everything to heart. I’m not surprised though if you don’t know a lot though, because she’s really cautious and her letting someone close to her is a rare thing to happen. There are demons inside her that she’s constantly in a fight with. And she’s a lot worse to herself than anything that could be said to her. Her past is not one of her favorite subjects. She wouldn’t expect anyone to notice her or to listen to the things she has to say that aren’t necessary to be said. But I’m telling you, she’s so worth it all, she’s nothing you’d ever expect, and you’ll feel alive in a way that you’ve never have with her in your life.

  • August 24, 2017
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    Not everything is long lasting. Sometimes people come into your life to show you what is right and what is wrong, to show you who you can be, to teach you to love yourself, to make you feel better for a little while, or to just be someone to walk with at night and spill your life to. Not everyone is going to stay forever, and we still have to keep on going and thank them for what they’ve given us. — Emery Allen

  • August 24, 2017
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    If my absence doesn’t affect your life then my presence has no meaning in it.

  • August 24, 2017
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    Find someone that isn’t afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you’re not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn’t imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last but not least, find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair but still falls in love with you all over again.

  • August 24, 2017
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    Sometimes, you find the right person at the wrong time. Sometimes it’s the wrong person at the right time. But when you find the right person, at the right time, in the right situation, it’s because you’re meant to be together. Fate has grabbed both of your hands. Don’t let go.

  • August 23, 2017
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    And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.” ― Haruki Murakami

  • August 23, 2017
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    They say the people who exhibit the most kindness have experienced a lot of pain. The ones who act like they don’t need love, are the ones that need it more. The ones who take care of everyone else’s needs are the ones who need it most. And the people who smile a lot may be the one’s who cry when there is no one around.

  • August 23, 2017
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    But at some point you have to stop being so angry, you have to stop being so sad, you have to start being gentle with yourself. At some point you have to just let it all go and be happy, you have to spread love instead of being afraid of it. You have to love yourself and everyone around you before it’s too late. Don’t waste away being unhappy over trivial things. Don’t do it. Don’t do it to yourself and don’t let other people do it to you.

  • August 23, 2017
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    You should never give up, no matter how hard the situation is. Always believe that something wonderful is going to happen.

  • August 23, 2017
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    A letter from mother to a daughter.

    “My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”… Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep.
    When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl?
    When you see how slow I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way… remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day… the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through.
    If I occasionally lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you.
    And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked.
    When those days come, don’t feel sad… just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love.
    I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you… my darling daughter.”
    – Unknown,
  • August 23, 2017
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    I’ve gotten it wrong more times than I would have liked and I’ve been hurt more times than I can even count or remember. But what has come from all those experiences of getting it wrong and being hurt over and over again, is who I am today. I am a woman who is wiser, a woman is who more aware, one who knows exactly what she wants, but most importantly I have learned.

  • August 22, 2017
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    “Can I tell you a secret? You don’t have to be in a relationship.

    I mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Girls aren’t pretty unless they’re wanted. Boys aren’t men unless they’re having sex with someone. People aren’t lovable until they’re dating someone. But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever – and yet the friendship is the one people ignore. I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out of the mouths of people who are single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, yes, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing – not even a date – out of you? It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to stop for ice cream in your prom dress with six other girls. It’s also wonderful to go visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning. The problem is: we’ve made everything about “the one”. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun, and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. Maybe I am the one who makes myself better.”
    — Single serving size

  • August 22, 2017
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    She was not fragile like a flower; She was fragile like a bomb.
    Rahul Singh Rathour

  • August 22, 2017
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    When I give, it does not come with strings. I’m not keeping track of what you owe me. When I give, I choose to do so without ulterior motives. I give because I’m genuine. I give because I know what it’s like to be without, to long for and be ignored, to speak and not be heard, to care for and have nothing returned. When I give it’s because I get it. It’s because I know the value in what I have in my heart and I refuse to let the world stop me from sharing that. But when things start being taken for granted. When you no longer appreciate my sincerity. I won’t switch, I won’t get angry, and I won’t be spiteful. I’ll just get smart and I’ll change your role in my life. Because when I give, I’m all in. But when I’m done, there’s no looking back. — Robert Hill Sr.

  • August 22, 2017
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    I don’t let people in often and I mean what I say. If I tell you you’re my friend, that means a lot, if I tell you I love you, know that it isn’t a phrase or expression and know that I actually love you in the best and most honest way that I can.

  • August 22, 2017
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    Anything that annoys you is for teaching you patience. Anyone who abandons you is for teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet. Anything that angers you is for teaching you forgiveness and compassion. Anything that has power over you is for teaching you how to take your power back. Anything you hate is for teaching you unconditional love.Anything you fear is for teaching you courage to overcome your fear. Anything you can’t control is for teaching you how to let go.

  • August 22, 2017
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    People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end .Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

    When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

    LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

  • August 21, 2017
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    It’s really painful to say goodbye to someone that you don’t want to let go of, but it’s even more painful to hold on to them if they never wanted to stay in the first place. If someone doesn’t show you the same love that you show them, and acts as if you are unimportant most of the time, this may be a big clue as to the fact that you don’t need them in your life either. The only people you truly need in your life are those who respect you and want you to be in theirs.

  • August 21, 2017
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    Maybe it’s time for the fighter to be fought for, for the holder to be held and for the lover to be loved.”

  • August 21, 2017
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    There is no use looking back at yesterday. I am no longer the person I was back then. Every morning when the sun rises, I am a changed person. Changed by the experiences I’ve had, the lessons I have learned, and the love I have received. It’s time to move forward and embrace the life that I’ve been given, be grateful for the many blessings that have been bestowed upon me, and start living a life of passion. There will always be ups and downs, good times and bad, losses and gains. Life is about learning lessons, showing love in the process, and growing into the beautiful souls we are meant to become. Don’t let yesterday rob you of your happiness today. Every time the sun rises, it’s a new opportunity to make your life the best of your life. Enjoy every moment.

    ~LadyBug

  • August 21, 2017
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    How to Begin: Rebuilding Life From Within.
    Love yourself, unconditionally. Release your bottled up emotions. Make time for long walks, alone. Avoid living beyond your means. Nurture your inner strength. Stop apologizing for being you. Surround yourself with positive people. Embrace your situation, whatever it may be.

  • August 21, 2017
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    “Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you, who understands you. Someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. Fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love”

    ~Unknown

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    She doesn’t need expensive gifts. She doesn’t need expensive dinners. I mean sure all of those things would be nice but, all she really needs is you. She needs your listening ear when she is ready to vent. She needs your shoulder to cry on when life gets hard on her. She needs your words of encouragement when she is getting ready to pursue her dreams. She needs to be able to feel safe around you, and know that you have her best interest when it comes to her heart. And if it’s taking her a while to let you in, she isn’t trying to punish you. She just doesn’t want to repeat making the same mistakes she has made in the past of giving a man her all, just to find out that he couldn’t match her effort. Love her genuinely. Love her patiently. Love her passionately. And last but not least, love her consistently and in return, she will love you like you have never been loved before.

  • August 20, 2017
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    It wasn’t your fault.

    It wasn’t your fault you weren’t protected from getting hurt when you were younger.

    It wasn’t your fault you weren’t told how much you mattered, how much you were worth.

    It wasn’t your fault you had no voice, that you were powerless and not taught to say no.

    It wasn’t your fault you didn’t know how to draw the line around your heart, mind and body to protect yourself from being hurt by others.

    It wasn’t your fault the people who should have shown you where to draw that line instead made you feel you weren’t important enough to keep safe.

    You grew up with no lines and no boundaries and you didn’t know the difference between love and abuse, and because of that, you allowed others to hurt you, when all you really wanted was for others to love you.

    And that isn’t your fault.

    Let yourself be angry. Let yourself be angry that you were never told how much you were worth. That you never protected yourself because nobody ever protected you. That you allowed people to violate the lines that should have been there but never were because you weren’t told how to put those lines in place.

    Because you weren’t told how important you were, and how much it mattered.

    How much you mattered.

    Let the anger rise within you. Allow yourself to cry tears of rage and grief for all you have lost. For all others have taken from you – not what you have given away – but what others have taken from you, that you can no longer get back.

    Use that anger to fight for yourself in the way you should have been fought for. Use it to reclaim all that has been taken, to reclaim your heart. Let the anger become a fire that rages in your soul and burns away the tarnish that others have left upon you. Let the flames consume you, let them purify you, let them cleanse you and refine you until all that is left is the beauty of who you really are.

    Your worth is great. You were created by the same hands that created the galaxies and the stars and the oceans and the storms and the wind that rages across the four corners of the earth. You were breathed into existence, not by accident, but with purpose, with promise. The entire universe listens just to hear the beating of your heart and the whisper of your breath. You were meant to be here. You were supposed to be here.

    You were wanted here.

    And you are worthy of the kind of love that nurtures your soul and heals your heart. A love that sees your value and worth and believes in you. A love that is strong and kind, loyal and true. A love that brushes the hair from your eyes and kisses your forehead and gives you its jacket when you are cold and holds your hand when you are scared and draws you into its arms and doesn’t let go until it stops hurting. You are worthy of someone whose feet are anchored; who loves you when you radiate with the light of the moon and stars, and loves you even harder when you are cast in the shadow of your own cold sorrow.

    You are worthy of a love that will never, ever hurt you.

    Draw your lines, dear woman, for within these lines lies the truth of all that you are worth.

    And the moment you come to know this truth, is the moment nobody can ever take that away from you again.

    ~ © Kathy Parker ~

    (With permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • August 20, 2017
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    You will begin to realize that you are not the same person you used to be..The things you use to tolerate have become intolerable…Where you once remained quiet, you are now speaking your truth…Where you once battled and argued, you are now choosing to remain silent..You are beginning to understand the value of your voice, and there are some situations that no longer deserve your time, energy and focus.~ David J. Conway.

  • August 20, 2017
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    I know sometimes you feel like giving up. Every new day there’s seems to be no change in your life. All the troubles of your heart and worries keep on worsening! You wonder why everything is happening to you. You keep on asking yourself why you’re not lucky like other people. You keep on praying to God but so far He hasn’t answered your prayers. Now you have started losing hope. You now think that maybe you were meant to be like that or maybe somebody cursed you. But I tell you what my friend? You weren’t meant to be like that and you weren’t cursed. God is silent but He watches you day and night. He listens to your prayers and He has something special for you. Just stay strong, focused, and hardworking and keep praying to God. Bear it in your minds that you’re not alone in that hard situation, we are all in the same boat. So don’t give up my dear friend. Your time is coming soon.

  • August 20, 2017
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    God when I lose hope, help me to remember that your love is greater than my disappointments & your plans for my life are better than my dreams. Amen. – Jasmeen Kaur Wadhera

  • August 20, 2017
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    She’s a good hearted woman. She’s been hurt over and over again. And you would expect her to be heartless by now but her heart is so full of love that she continues to love deeply. All she needs is a good person that will cherish her and give her heart the extra love that she deserves.

  • August 20, 2017
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    Foolish girl,

    You turn away from the world because you believe the mistakes you have made are tattooed all over your body and that is all the world can see; marks of shame you cannot wipe clean no matter how many years you scrub your skin until no more blood can seep from your pores still stained with filth and sin.

    You turn away from the world because you believe you are defined by your past, by the choices you made when there were no other choices; that you are bound to the girl you once were by the invisible ropes still tied around your hands and feet, held in place by words of shame that will never deliver you from their grasp.

    You turn away from the world because you believe you are not deserving to hold your head high and look it in the eye; that you carry a scarlet letter upon your forehead that will blind those who dare to look your way, and you cannot stand to see the way they turn their face from your tainted humanity.

    You forget, foolish girl.

    You forget what you have survived.

    You forget you fought alone against the world when your hands were too small to defeat the weight of it, and so you took it on as your own even though it almost crushed you.

    You forget you were betrayed by those who should have protected you and so you barricaded yourself behind hard edges and sharp corners and promised to never trust or need another again.

    You forget the way love was shown as abuse and abuse was shown as love and the shame you were forced to carry because of the way you longed to be loved even when that looked like abuse.

    You forget you sat alone in a room filled with despair as your hands shook and blood trailed down your wrist and in that moment when you could have chosen death, you chose life.

    You forget you have every reason to be hard, but you choose to remain soft. You have every reason to hate, but you choose to show mercy. You have every reason to cast judgment, but you choose to speak grace. You have every reason to f*ck this world the way it has f*cked you, but you choose to heal it instead.

    You forget you have survived what most people never could.

    Foolish girl, you are not foolish at all.

    You are a warrior.

    You are strength. You are bravery. You are courage. You are hope. You are light. You are truth. You are love. You are survival. You are kindness. You are wisdom. You are redemption. You are transformation. You are revolution.

    And most of all, you are worthy.

    To love, and to be loved.

    You just need to believe it.

    ~ © Kathy Parker ~

    (With permission)

     

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • August 19, 2017
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    The heart that’s meant to love you will fight for you when you want to give up, pick you up when you’re feeling down, and will give their smile when it’s hard for you to find yours. They will NEVER get strength from seeing you weak, power from seeing you hurt, or joy from seeing you cry. The heart that’s meant to love you wants to see the BEST YOU, not the hurt you! Never forget that.
    ~Trent Shelton.

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    The biggest lesson I’ve learned this year is that no one is really your friend, or truly loves you until they’ve seen every dark shadow inside you, and stayed.

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    Signs of maturity: 1. Small talks no longer excite you. 2. Sleep is better than a Friday night out. 3. You forgive more. 4. You become more open-minded. 5. You respect differences. 6. You don’t force love. 7. You accept heartaches. 8. You don’t judge easily. 9. You sometimes prefer to be silent than to engage in a nonsense fight. 10. Your happiness don’t depend from people but from your inner self.

  • August 19, 2017
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    The more chances you give someone the less respect they’ll start to have for you. They’ll begin to ignore the standards that you’ve set because they’ll know another chance will always be given. They’re not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what you won’t walk away. They get comfortable with depending on your forgiveness. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you.
    ~Trent Shelton

  • August 19, 2017
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    Those Top 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old.

    1. Not traveling when you had the chance.

    Traveling becomes infinitely harder the older you get, especially if you have a family and need to pay the way for three-plus people instead of just yourself.

    2. Not learning another language.

    You’ll kick yourself when you realize you took three years of language in high school and remember none of it.

    3. Staying in a bad relationship.

    No one who ever gets out of a bad relationship looks back without wishing they made the move sooner.

    4. Forgoing sunscreen.

    Wrinkles, moles, and skin cancer can largely be avoided if you protect yourself.

    5. Missing the chance to see your favorite musicians.

    “Nah, dude, I’ll catch Nirvana next time they come through town.” Facepalm.

    6. Being scared to do things.

    Looking back you’ll think, What was I so afraid of?

    7. Failing to make physical fitness a priority.

    Too many of us spend the physical peak of our lives on the couch. When you hit 40, 50, 60, and beyond, you’ll dream of what you could have done.

    8. Letting yourself be defined by gender roles.

    Few things are as sad as an old person saying, “Well, it just wasn’t done back then.”

    9. Not quitting a terrible job.

    Look, you gotta pay the bills. But if you don’t make a plan to improve your situation, you might wake up one day having spent 40 years in hell.

    10. Not trying harder in school.

    It’s not just that your grades play a role in determining where you end up in life. Eventually you’ll realize how neat it was to get to spend all day learning, and wish you’d paid more attention.

    11. Not realizing how beautiful you were.

    Too many of us spend our youth unhappy with the way we look, but the reality is, that’s when we’re our most beautiful.

    12. Being afraid to say “I love you.”

    When you’re old, you won’t care if your love wasn’t returned — only that you made it known how you felt.

    13. Not listening to your parents’ advice.

    You don’t want to hear it when you’re young, but the infuriating truth is that most of what your parents say about life is true.

    14. Spending your youth self-absorbed.

    You’ll be embarrassed about it, frankly.

    15. Caring too much about what other people think.

    In 20 years you won’t give a darn about any of those people you once worried so much about.

    16. Supporting others’ dreams over your own.

    Supporting others is a beautiful thing, but not when it means you never get to shine.

    17. Not moving on fast enough.

    Old people look back at the long periods spent picking themselves off the ground as nothing but wasted time.

    18. Holding grudges, especially with those you love.

    What’s the point of re-living the anger over and over?

    19. Not standing up for yourself.

    Old people don’t take sh*t from anyone. Neither should you.

    20. Not volunteering enough.

    OK, so you probably won’t regret not volunteering Hunger Games style, but nearing the end of one’s life without having helped to make the world a better place is a great source of sadness for many.

    21. Neglecting your teeth.

    Neglecting your teeth.

    Brush. Floss. Get regular checkups. It will all seem so maddeningly easy when you have dentures.

    22. Missing the chance to ask your grandparents questions before they die.

    Most of us realize too late what an awesome resource grandparents are. They can explain everything you’ll ever wonder about where you came from, but only if you ask them in time.

    23. Working too much.

    No one looks back from their deathbed and wishes they spent more time at the office, but they do wish they spent more time with family, friends, and hobbies.

    24. Not learning how to cook one awesome meal.

    Knowing one drool-worthy meal will make all those dinner parties and celebrations that much more special.

    25. Not stopping enough to appreciate the moment.

    Young people are constantly on the go, but stopping to take it all in now and again is a good thing.

    26. Failing to finish what you start.

    Failing to finish what you start.

    “I had big dreams of becoming a nurse. I even signed up for the classes, but then…”

    27. Never mastering one awesome party trick.

    You will go to hundreds, if not thousands, of parties in your life. Wouldn’t it be cool to be the life of them all?

    28. Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

    Letting yourself be defined by cultural expectations.

    Don’t let them tell you, “We don’t do that.”

    29. Refusing to let friendships run their course.

    People grow apart. Clinging to what was, instead of acknowledging that things have changed, can be a source of ongoing agitation and sadness.

    30. Not playing with your kids enough.

    When you’re old, you’ll realize your kid went from wanting to play with you to wanting you out of their room in the blink of an eye.

    31. Never taking a big risk (especially in love).

    Knowing that you took a leap of faith at least once — even if you fell flat on your face — will be a great comfort when you’re old.

    32. Not taking the time to develop contacts and network.

    Networking may seem like a bunch of crap when you’re young, but later on it becomes clear that it’s how so many jobs are won.

    33. Worrying too much.

    As Tom Petty sang, “Most things I worry about never happen anyway.”

    34. Getting caught up in needless drama.

    Who needs it?

    35. Not spending enough time with loved ones.

    Not spending enough time with loved ones.

    Our time with our loved ones is finite. Make it count.

    36. Never performing in front of others.

    This isn’t a regret for everyone, but many elderly people wish they knew — just once — what it was like to stand in front of a crowd and show off their talents.

    37. Not being grateful sooner.

     

    It can be hard to see in the beginning, but eventually it becomes clear that every moment on this earth — from the mundane to the amazing — is a gift that we’re all so incredibly lucky to share.

  • August 19, 2017
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    A strong woman knows how to keep her life in order, even with tears in her eyes, she still manages to say “I’m ok” with a smile.

  • August 18, 2017
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    Thanks to those who hurt me, you made me a stronger person. Thanks to those who loved me, you made my heart bigger. Thanks to those who cared, you made me feel important. Thanks to those who worried, you let me know that you care. Thanks to those who left, you showed me that not everything is forever. Thanks to those who stayed, you showed me the meaning of true friends. Thanks to those who entered my life, you helped me become the person I am today.

  • August 18, 2017
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    A best friend is someone who’s there for you, no matter what. Thick or thin. I can label anyone as a friend. But a best friend? That’s something that needs to be earned. A best friend knows me sometimes more than I know myself. Best friends share tears and laughs. You can trust them with anything and everything. I have a bunch of friends, but only a few that I can count on completely.

  • August 18, 2017
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    People who stay in the car a little longer to listen to music are my kind of people.

  • August 18, 2017
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    Nothing is nicer than having someone who appreciates you in the smallest things. Accepts you in times of hardships. Comforts you when you’re troubled, loves you no matter what and is simply happy for having you in their life. If you have that someone in your life, do whatever it takes to make the relationship last forever because such people are the rarest and greatest treasures to have in life.

  • August 17, 2017
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    She isn’t the easiest girl to love. She has this bad habit of overthinking. She tends to overreact and she gets a little insecure every once in a while. She’ll be needy for your attention. She wants to literally take up all of your time and she’ll require a lot of reassurance. She isn’t capable of fully trusting you. She doesn’t know when to stop fighting with you even if she’s wrong. She has no problem pushing you away if she feels like you’re close to hurting her. Loving her will stress you out, loving her will make you angry, loving her will break your heart at times, loving her will test you, loving her will challenge you, and loving her will change you. It may get so demanding that you’ll be tempted to walk away, it may get so hard that you’ll think about giving up, and it may get so complicated that you won’t want to deal with her anymore. Loving her means you get to see her at her worst and most vulnerable and that is something that you’ll have to be strong enough to handle because she needs someone who’s patient enough to understand why she is who she is today. It’s not gonna be an easy relationship with her. But if she is in love with you, then she can promise that you’ll be loved with such passion and intensity that you’ll forget what life felt like before she came along because she’ll always be there to put your heart back together after breaking it. Maybe she’s not the best at being loved, but she’s pretty amazing at loving.

    -Unknown Author

  • August 17, 2017
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    7 Rules of Life 1) Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present. 2) What others think of you is none of your business. 3) Time heals almost everything, give it time. 4) Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 5) Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it. 6) No one is in charge of your happiness, except you. 7) Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world.

  • August 17, 2017
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    I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back. And it’s not the end of the world.

  • August 17, 2017
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    They say love is blind. I disagree. Infatuation is blind. Love is all-seeing and accepting. Love is seeing the flaws and blemishes and accepting them. Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerisms, and working around them. Love is recognizing all the fears and insecurities, and knowing your role is to comfort. Love is working through all the challenges and painful times. Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect. Love is strong and it strengthens because it is real.”
    ~ Author Unknown

  • August 17, 2017
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    Someday someone will love every inch of you – the fading sunset behind your eyes, the moonlight that dances through your hair, the sadness nestled in the creases of your palms. They are going to kiss all the parts you have kept hidden away and tell you how beautiful it all is. Someday someone is going to say, ‘I love all of you, not just the parts that make sense, not just the parts you have shown me. I love the parts of you that I don’t yet understand, the parts that weigh on your shoulders, the parts I only notice when I steal glances at you in silence.’ You will need to believe them, to believe that fairytales were not written for princesses in glass slippers, that they were written for women who have collected all the pieces of a broken heart and can’t stand to put it together again. But most of all, you will need to believe that they were written for you.Someday someone will come to you with a happily ever after promise and slide it over your finger. Someday you’ll realize you are not the lucky one, you are the deserving one. Someday you are going to take someone’s breath away.
    Someday you will realize just how stunning you really are, and you will fall to you knees. Just like you’ve made me, so many times before.
    -Tyler Kent White

  • August 16, 2017
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    When a man realizes that his woman is a teammate not an opponent, that’s when his life changes. Don’t break her down. Build her up and let her help you win.

    — Tony Gaskins

  • August 16, 2017
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    I would rather be alone with dignity than in a relationship that requires me to sacrifice my self respect.
    ― Mandy Hale

  • August 16, 2017
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    “Sometimes walking away is the only option. Not because you want to make someone miss you, or realize they took you for granted. But because you finally respect yourself enough to know that you deserve better.”

  • August 16, 2017
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    Staying quiet doesn’t mean I have nothing to say, it means I don’t think you’re ready to hear my thoughts.

  • August 16, 2017
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    People make time for who they want to make time for. People text, call and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’re too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.

  • August 16, 2017
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    When two souls fall in love, there is nothing else but the yearning to be close to the other. The presence is felt through a held hand, a voice heard and the sight of a smile. Even through a simple touch. Souls do not have calendars or clocks, nor do they understand the notion of time or distance. They only know it feels right to be with one another. This is the reason why you miss someone so much when they are not around. Your soul feels their absence— it doesn’t realize the separation is temporary.
    ~ Lang Leav

  • August 15, 2017
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    Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would do absolutely anything to hear it. Fall in love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heart beat. Fall in love with someone who kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone they know. Fall in love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you. Fall in love with someone who falls in love with your flaws and thinks you are perfect just the way you are. Fall in love with someone who knows that you are the ONE they would love to wake up to each day.

  • August 15, 2017
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    Open-minded people don’t care to be right, they care to understand. There’s never a right or wrong answer. Everything is about understanding.

  • August 15, 2017
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    “I learned the hard way that I cannot always count on others to respect my feelings, even if I respect theirs. Being a good person doesn’t guarantee that others will be good people. You only have control over yourself and how you choose to be as a person. As for others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.”
    — Unknown Author

  • August 15, 2017
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    I’m not impressed by money, social status or job title. I’m impressed by the way someone treats other human beings.

  • August 15, 2017
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    Find someone that isn’t afraid to admit they miss you. Someone that knows you’re not perfect but treats you as if you are. Someone who couldn’t imagine losing you. Someone who gives their heart to you completely. Someone who says I love you and proves it. Last but not least, find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up to you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair but still falls in love with you all over again.
    ~Unknown

  • August 15, 2017
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    I Hope he Loves you like This. {Poem}

     

    I hope he cooks you breakfast
    Knowing how you like your eggs
    how you take your coffee
    how little or how much you wish to speak.
    I hope he cooks you dinner, too
    For no reason at all.

    I hope he holds your hand proudly
    as you walk through a room
    of people you don’t know.

    I hope he builds you up
    until you are standing on a pedestal
    of your own creation.

    I hope he encourages you to make art
    take risks
    travel the world
    be alone—
    always knowing that you’ll be back
    home in his warm embrace
    as long as his heart is open.

    I hope he wears his heart on his sleeve
    and is not shy
    to adorn yours
    as well.

    I hope he is the kind of person
    who, when presented with the ocean,
    will not shy away
    from diving in
    to ride the waves.

    I hope he is all of himself
    unafraid to own
    his stories
    no matter how dark they may seem.

    I hope he can see that all of you
    is in the stars
    poking through
    the dark sky
    of your past.

    I hope he is not scared
    by your ability to choose growth
    your ability to not be held hostage
    by the person you were yesterday
    last week
    last year.

    I hope his attention span
    is as long as every word
    that exits your mouth
    your heart.
    I hope that he hears your truth
    and meets it with gratitude
    for your vulnerability.

    I hope he loves you
    in a way you didn’t know love existed.
    For you have only seen love
    in other places
    with shaky ground that fell
    beneath your hopeful feet.

    This is who I hope
    for you—
    Because you are worthy
    of being loved
    by a heart so bright
    the sun blushes
    in admiration.

    ~

    Author: Annabelle Blythe


    Originally appeared on Elephant Journal

  • August 14, 2017
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    Cheating on someone is one of the worst (I repeat – WORST) things you can ever do to someone. To you, it might have been all a game, but to them, it might have meant everything.

    Whether or not you’re doing it to fill a void or just for the thrill of it, when you cheat on someone, you’re doing more than just hurting them. You might be unaware of the consequences of your actions, but let me tell you, for someone who has been cheated on, it will always be some sort of reminder to them – it will always haunt them. It is a concoction of heartbreak, anger, regret, anxiety, and shame all rolled into one.

    When you cheat on someone, you’re telling them they’re not good enough for you. That you never loved them.

    You may beg to differ, but how can you put someone you truly love in such a position? To make them doubt their self-worth? To make them question everything they thought they knew about you? To make them believe that their trust was completely misplaced?

    “Did I do something wrong?”
    “What could I have done to prevent it?”
    “Why did this happen?”
    “Am I not good enough?”
    “Why did you do it?”

    – are questions you’ll ask yourself over and over again when you’ve been cheated on.

    You don’t cheat on someone you love. Period.

    When you cheat on someone, they’ll always be emotionally scarred. They’ll have their walls up because they don’t want to ever be hurt that way again. To feel like your world is crumbling, to believe that things like that happened, but just not to you. You see it in movies all the time, but we all know what happens in the movies and what happens in real life are two completely different ball games altogether.

    They won’t let just anyone in; and even when they do let someone in eventually, they’ll always be guarded.

    They’ll be paranoid, and you can’t blame them for it. Even if they’re in a new happy relationship, they’ll carry the hurt and the emotional baggage from the previous relationship into their new relationship – whether it be conscious or not – and it can’t be helped. They’ll always be suspicious, but don’t blame them for it; they’re just afraid that the same thing will happen to them again, and they can’t go through something as painful as that ever again.

    They’ll want to trust again, but it’ll be difficult for them. They would take forever to learn how to trust, and how to be okay. Even if they’ve come to the rational conclusion that their cheating ex is a horrible person, you’ll somehow still fear that every future partner has or is cheating on you. Congratulations, you’re now an emotional wreck and a mess inside, and you’re going to spend every waking moment trying not to imagine the worst because you believe you’re completely broken.

    When you cheat on someone, what you really mean to tell them is this: “I don’t love you. I don’t respect you, and I don’t care for/about you. I didn’t think about us, and how this would affect us. I was only thinking about myself.”

    Is just one person not enough for us anymore? Aren’t we supposed to just find one person whom we think is worth it, and always stick by them through the good, the bad and the ugly?

    When you love your partner, it means you respect them. And when you cheat on them, you’re betraying all of that. Isn’t it absolutely apparent that loyalty is fundamental in any relationship? We don’t need a Guide Book for Dummies for that, do we?

    So please, leave if you must, but don’t cheat on someone you love, because that is the worst kind of damage you can do to someone who loves you.

    Written by: Vondra Tay (with permission)

    This article was published in thoughtcatalog.com

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    When a door closes, knock on it a few times. But if it still doesn’t open, let it stay closed. In career, in love, in LIFE – when you see the period at the end of the sentence, don’t try and turn it into a comma. Know when something is over and move on. ~Mandy Hale.

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    The older you get, the more you realize you have no desire for drama, conflict and any kind of intensity. You just want a cozy home, a nice book and a person who knows how you drink your coffee.

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    Make sure everybody in your boat is rowing and not drilling holes when you’re not looking. Know your circle.

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    Smart impresses me, strength of character impresses me. But most of all, I am impressed by kindness. Kindness, I think, comes from learning hard lessons well, from falling and picking yourself up. It comes from surviving failure and loss. It implies an understanding of the human condition, forgives its many flaws and quirks. When I see that in someone, that impresses me.”
    ― Lisa Unger

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    “Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. ~Daniell Keopke.

  • August 13, 2017
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    Do the things you used to talk about doing but never did. Know when to let go and when to hold on tight. Stop rushing and enjoy each moment. Don’t be intimidated to say it like it is but don’t be rude about it. Stop apologizing all the time if you didn’t do anything wrong. Learn to say no, so your “yes” has some meaning. Spend time with the friends who lift you up, and cut loose the ones who bring you down. Stop giving your power away. Its normal to outgrow some people. Sometimes you’ll find that you’d rather sit with your own thoughts than chill with friends.. And thats ok..

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    Someone said to me, “I don’t know how you do it.” I replied. “I wasn’t given a choice.”

  • August 13, 2017
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    How smart are you really?

    Are you a logical thinker? A numerical whiz? A verbal genius?

    This intelligence test is created with the help of psychologists, and you can freely test test your skills in many areas of human thought. This test is supposed to assess your intellectual potential, not your performance under stress. Therefore, there is no time limit. Carefully read every question and select your answer. You will need to select an answer for every question.

    {This test is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional diagnosis or for the treatment of any health condition.}

     

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    Anyone can give you attention and compliments, but someone who loves you will give you that plus respect, honesty, trust, and loyalty. ~Charles Orlando

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    Regarding relationships, I have just one rule: Give me truth, however cold or cruel, or hard it is to hear. I would prefer to have my heart bled and broken if it means I can then move on, than waste a single moment of my time being fooled by a lie intended to preserve my feelings.

    Beau Taplin

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    Listen to your heart; start recognizing when something isn’t good for you and be strong enough to let it go. A person can only waste the time you give them an opportunity to waste. Stop trying to open doors for people who constantly shut you out. Make sure the interest is shown in the effort, the talk is supported by the actions, and the trust is earned through the consistency. ~RobertHillSr.

  • August 12, 2017
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    WHEN I CHOSE TO LET YOU GO.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no great moment of triumph.
    There wasn’t an earth-shattering epiphany that changed my life, where music played and the universe conspired to bring everything together for good.

    There was no conflict, no turmoil and no struggle. No internal argument. No weighing of pros and cons. No decision to be analyzed to death—even by me, who cannot make a decision without weeks of obsessive thought over every possible outcome.

    There were only two words, when I chose to let you go:

    No more.

    No more will I measure my worth against your opinion. No more will I be pressed into the shapes you carved for me. No more will I tell my heart to quiet down, ashamed of its clatter. No more will there be blood on my feet from the eggshells I walked on as I tried not to give cause for your disapproval.

    No more will I anguish over the ways you misunderstood me. No more will I fight to justify the intention of my heart. No more will I beg for you to see me, the real me—to know me, to love me.

    No more will I live my life for you.

    When I chose to let you go, there was no holy encounter. The stars did not collapse from the sky and cascade into the oceans. There was no ferocious wind that rattled the walls or blazing fire that consumed all within its destructive path.

    There was only quiet resolution, the silent death of leaves that drift to the ground as frost begins to waste them away.
    And there I found myself, in the barren ground where you once stood; I came to understand there must be winter.

    Winter in all its loss, its grief, its letting go.
    There must be a time for old things to die, that new things may be born.

    When I chose to let you go, it was for me.

    I learned to love myself even when you made me feel I deserved no love. To honor my own needs, my own heart and my own potential. To walk my own path, not yours. To not be pulled back into your confines while my spirit yearned to be free.

    When I chose to let you go, I made coffee, ate toast, and folded clothes. I went to yoga and collected my mail and paid my bills. There was nothing out of place on the outside of my ordinary life—no visible change, nothing new or different.

    There was only surrender.

    One moment.

    One breath.

    I chose to let you go.

    And in doing so, I chose me.

    By Kathy Parker
    (with permission)

    Please check out Kathy’s blog at : https://kathyparker.com.au/

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    5 Thoughts of wisdom
    1. If you are right, then there is no need to get angry. And if you are wrong then you don’t have any right to get angry.
    2. Patience with family is love. Patience with others is respect. Patience with self is confidence.
    3. Never think hard about the past, It brings tears. Don’t think more about future, It brings fears. Live this moment with a smile, It brings cheers…
    4. Every test in our life makes us bitter or better. Every problem comes to make us or break us. Choice is ours, whether we become a victim or be victorious.
    5. Search a beautiful heart, not a beautiful face. Beautiful things are not always good, but good things are always beautiful.

  • August 12, 2017
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    5 things to do before you get out of bed: 1. Express gratitude. 2. Set your intentions
    for the day. 3. Take five long deep breaths in & out. 4. Smile for no reason, just flex the muscle. 5. Forgive yourself for yesterday’s mistakes.

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    “Forgive anyone who has caused you pain or harm. Keep in mind that forgiving is not for others. It is for you. Forgiving is not forgetting. It is remembering without anger. It frees up your power, heals your body, mind and spirit. Forgiveness opens up a pathway to a new place of peace where you can persist despite what has happened to you.” 
    — Les Brown

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    Don’t let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future.  Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you.  If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole.  Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on.  Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.

  • August 12, 2017
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    You can be mature and respectful and still have a dirty sense of humor. You can curse a lot and still be highly intelligent with a massive vocabulary. You can be quiet and reserved and still be witty and even outgoing in certain circles.You can be intelligent and sharp-minded and still forget what month it is.

  • August 11, 2017
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    No matter what happens, no matter how far you seem to be away from where you want to be, never stop believing that you will somehow make it. Have a unrelenting belief that things will work out, that the long road has a purpose, that the things that you desire may not happen today, but they will happen. Persist and persevere, your desired path remains possible.

    — Brad Gast

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    Start over, my darling. Be brave enough to find the life you want and courageous enough to chase it. Then start over and love yourself the way you were always meant to.
    -Madalyn Beck

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    “If you want to succeed in your life, remember this phrase: That past does not equal the future. Because you failed yesterday; or all day today; or a moment ago; or for the last six months; the last sixteen years; or the last fifty years of life, doesn’t mean anything…All that matters is: What are you going to do, right now?” —Anthony Robbins

  • August 11, 2017
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    Everyone is so focused on acting savage, busy and heartless these days. Meanwhile, I’m searching for the humans that believe in compassion, love, and human connection.
    ~ “I AM A HUMAN” @sylvestermcnutt

  • August 11, 2017
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    People will tell you to stop looking for the spark. To settle for stability and companionship. But I don’t think I can sit next to someone on the dinner table for the rest of my life talking only about my day. There needs to be unsaid communication. The sarcasm that doesn’t go unnoticed. The teasing that doesn’t stop. That chemistry that you can’t find from just a good résumé.

  • August 10, 2017
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    HOW OUR HEARTS ARE CHANGED BY BETRAYAL

     

    You haven’t always been this way.

    You haven’t always been a body lined with thorns, a heart wrapped in razor wire; hard lines and jaded eyes.

    Distant, aloof, guarded.

    There was a time you were shades of pastel; when your heart knew love, and trust rested freely upon your fingertips.

    There was a time your days were painted with innocence. Where eager eyes gazed at the world with hope and wonder, your heart still shiny and new.

    But all of this changed the moment you were betrayed by someone you loved. Someone you trusted. Someone who should have protected you. Someone who hurt you instead. Someone who allowed you to be hurt by others.

    There is little else that shatters a heart as much as the pain of betrayal. It tears you open, rips your heart out of your chest. You don’t want to put it back, you want to leave it on the floor to bleed until there is nothing left, until the blood runs dry and you no longer have to feel a damn thing anymore. But you can’t. You have to go on. So you pick your heart off the floor and place it back inside your hollow chest.

    Except, the heart that you put back is never the same heart. It is wounded, war-torn. It no longer seeks love, but only to protect itself from the pain of ever being betrayed again.

    A heart that is betrayed is changed forever.

    No longer will it trust anyone again, but greets every person with reservation and fear; wary of a world that has proven to only take advantage for its own benefit. It remains hyper-vigilant in its desperate need to prove itself right; forever searching for the cracks inside another person that prove they too are unworthy of trust. It needs to know its enemy. It needs to remain one step in front at all times. Kindness is met with suspicion, for your heart has learned nothing comes without a cost – there are always strings, always an agenda. Your heart rejects kindness, remains cynical of it, refuses to accept it. It would rather suffer on its own than accept kindness that allows it to become vulnerable to another.

    Your heart no longer knows how to trust itself either, and it makes vows to stay hard, to stay tough. Never will I want again. Never will I need again. Never will I trust again. Never will I love again. These vows are the cornerstones of the fortress it builds around itself, the strongholds that keep the walls in place. It gives up hope of ever being protected and instead learns to protect itself. It becomes a slave to its independence, its autonomy. Here, in its fortress, it is safe. Here, behind its walls, it can remain distant, removed.

    Here, your heart can trust itself not to feel. 

    For betrayal has taught your heart how dangerous it is to feel. To want, to need. To desire love, relationship, connection. No, your heart must deaden itself to its desires. It must wake each morning with one goal of attack – to kill your hungry soul. To destroy your desires before they destroy you. Your heart cannot afford to want, it is too dangerous, too much of a risk that will lead to being hurt again. This is how your heart stays safe – it refuses to be tempted by love ever again.

    Except, your heart was created for relationship. Your heart was created for intimacy. But intimacy is the enemy, the biggest threat. Intimacy requires your heart to be vulnerable, to let someone close. To betray its own desires in the hope it will not be betrayed because of them. Intimacy is the most dangerous of all, and your heart turns itself away and chooses to live without hope of relationship, of closeness, of oneness with another.

    Betrayal has changed your heart.

    It has damaged your heart.

    It has left it powerless, helpless, vulnerable, wounded, damaged, guarded, broken. Your heart can no longer trust, does not trust. It no longer believes in the goodness of anyone else’s heart. It no longer believes it is worthy of being loved, of being protected. It is tired from living in a constant state of anticipation and expectation that it will be hurt and betrayed once more. It no longer wants to love, no longer knows how to love. It has become numb, deadened to its desires, and you tell yourself you are content with this.

    That here, you are safe. You are in control. You are untouchable.

    Except, you are lonely. So goddamn lonely.

    And this is the paradox of betrayal.

    You are scared of relationship, yet relationship is the very thing that will heal your heart.

    Dear heart, there is a need for you to be safe.

    But there is a greater need for you to be loved.

    The only way to heal is through love. You must find the courage to pull down your fortress. It has kept you safe. But you have dwelled long enough in your solitude. In your loneliness. It is time to lay down your weapons. Surrender is not defeat, but the end of the fight.

    To love is to risk hurt. To trust is to risk betrayal. But you must risk so that you may heal.

    Your heart has learned how to stay safe, how to survive.

    Now, it must learn how to once again love.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

     

  • August 10, 2017
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    Our life will never be perfect. It does not mean we will never find happiness but most of us ARE missing an element or two we would love to have in our life. Whether it is closer relationships, more self-confidence, the need for spirituality or other things – there’s always an element we’re all striving to find. Do you have one? Even if you think you don’t, this test may tell you differently…

  • August 10, 2017
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    Self-care isn’t always manicures, bubble baths & eating healthy food. Sometimes it’s making yourself get out of bed, taking a shower and participating in life again.

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    Marriage doesn’t guarantee that you will be together forever, it’s only paper. It takes trust, respect, commitment, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last.

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    A Good Relationship is when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and love each other enough to encourage each other’s future. So don’t rush love. Find a partner who encourages you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who will let you go out into the world and trust that you will come back. This is what true love is all about.

  • August 10, 2017
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    POWERFUL ADVICE FROM A DYING MAN

    via Reddit

    “I am only 34 years old, yet I have actually already chosen my last tie. It’s the one that I will wear on my funeral a few months from now. It may not match my suit, but I think it’s perfect for the occasion.

    The cancer diagnosis came too late to give me at least a tenuous hope for a long life, but I realized that the most important thing about death is to ensure that you leave this world a little better than it was before you existed with your contributions . The way I’ve lived my life so far, my existence or more precisely the loss of it, will not matter because I have lived without doing anything impactful.

    Before, there were so many things that occupied my mind. When I learned how much time I had left, however, it became clear which things are really important. So, I am writing to you for a selfish reason. I want to give meaning to my life by sharing with you what I have realized:

    • Don’t waste your time on work that you don’t enjoy. It is obvious that you cannot succeed in something that you don’t like. Patience, passion, and dedication come easily only when you love what you do.
    • It’s stupid to be afraid of others’ opinions. Fear weakens and paralyzes you. If you let it, it can grow worse and worse every day until there is nothing left of you, but a shell of yourself. Listen to your inner voice and go with it. Some people may call you crazy, but some may even think you‘re a legend.
    • Take control of your life Take full responsibility for the things that happen to you. Limit bad habits and try to lead a healthier life. Find a sport that makes you happy. Most of all, don’t procrastinate. Let your life be shaped by decisions you made, not by the ones you didn’t.
    • Appreciate the people around you Your friends and relatives will always be an infinite source of strength and love. That is why you shouldn’t take them for granted.

    It is difficult for me to fully express my feelings about the importance of these simple realizations, but I hope that you will listen to someone who has experienced how valuable time is.

    I’m not upset because I understand that the last days of my life have become meaningful. I only regret that I will not be able to see a lot of cool stuff that should happen soon like the creation of AI, or Elon Musk’s next awesome project. I also hope that the war in Syria and Ukraine will end soon.

    We care so much about the health and integrity of our body that until death, we don’t notice that the body is nothing more than a box – a parcel for delivering our personality, thoughts, beliefs and intentions to this world. If there is nothing in this box that can change the world, then it doesn’t matter if it disappears. I believe that we all have potential, but it also takes a lot of courage to realize it.

    You can float through a life created by circumstances, missing day after day, hour after hour. Or, you can fight for what you believe in and write the great story of your life. I hope you will make the right choice.

    Leave a mark in this world. Have a meaningful life, whatever definition it has for you. Go towards it. The place we are leaving is a beautiful playground, where everything is possible. Yet, we are not here forever. Our life is a short spark in this beautiful little planet that flies with incredible speed to the endless darkness of the unknown universe. So, enjoy your time here with passion.

    Make it interesting. Make it count!

    Thank you!”

  • August 9, 2017
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    Fall in love with your best friend. Someone you can talk to about anything and know they’ll hold no judgement. Someone who knows the darkest parts of you and loves you anyway, that knows all your flaws and loves you not in spite of them but because of them. Not someone that you can’t live without, but someone that you don’t want to live without. Someone that you want to experience all of life’s ups and downs with. Someone who will hold your hand through the worst times of your life. When they see you at your worst, when you’re broken, and they don’t run away but help you put the pieces back together. Now that’s real love.

    ~unknown

  • August 9, 2017
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    Missing someone isn’t about how long since you’ve seen them or the amount of time you’ve talked to them. It’s about that very moment when you’re doing something and wishing they were right there with you.

  • August 9, 2017
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    What do you do after you’ve given all that you have and you have nothing left to give. After you’ve tried and you’ve tried, after you’ve cried and you cried and that day finally comes when you realize that this is not how you want to live your life…what do you do? You see, sometimes it’s not about having the strength to hold on, it’s about having the courage to let go.
    IG@Mr.AmariSoul # Reflections of Man

  • August 9, 2017
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    The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours- it is an amazing journey- and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
    ~Bob Moawad

  • August 9, 2017
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    True friends are always there for you. Fake friends only appear when they need something from you. Time passes and you begin to see people for who they really are and not who they pretend to be. Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule. But love people who never look at their schedule when you need them. Life is much too short to waste time on people who don’t really care for us deep down. When someone shows you who they really are believe them the first time.

  • August 9, 2017
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    Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.

  • August 8, 2017
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    When someone treats you like you’re just one of many options, help them narrow their choice by removing yourself from the equation. Sometimes you have to try not to care, no matter how much you do. Because sometimes you can mean almost nothing to someone who means so much to you. It’s not pride – it’s self-respect. Don’t expect to see positive changes in your life if you surround yourself with negative people. Don’t give part-time people a full-time position in your life. Know your value and what you have to offer, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
    — Unknown

  • August 8, 2017
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    Douglas K. Symons, in the Encyclopaedia of Child Behaviour and Development, defined the Psychological age as “the subjective age-equivalent of a person or how old one feels.” He further explained that physical and psychological ages can be very different. A person can have a psychological age which is greater or less than his/her chronological age.

    So, what is your best guess about your psychological age? This quiz, will give you the answer in a fun and interesting way. It analyzes various factors like what colors fascinate you and catch your attention in various photographs of nature. The visual effects that pop out and catches your imagination are linked to different phases, and thus ages, of life.

    We are sure that you would be interested to know your psychological age. Just try it out and see if the obtained result measures up to reality.

    If you enjoyed the quiz, please share with friends and family. Thank you 🙂

     

  • August 8, 2017
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    Be with someone who will take care of you. Not materialistically, but takes care of your soul, your well being, your heart and everything that’s you.

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    There is a big difference between giving up and letting go. Letting go means freeing yourself from something that is no longer serving you. It means removing toxic people and belief systems from your life so that you can make room for relationships and ideas that are conducive to your wellbeing and happiness. Giving up reduces your life. Letting go expands it. Giving up is imprisoning. Letting go is liberation. Giving up is self-defeat. Letting go is self-care.So the next time you make the decision to release something or someone that is stifling your happiness and growth, and a person has the audacity to accuse you of giving up or being weak, remind yourself of the difference. Remind yourself that you don’t need anyone’s permission or approval to live your life in the way that feels right. No one has the authority to tell you who to be or how to live.
    ~Daniell Koepke

  • August 8, 2017
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    The best people possess a feeling for beauty, the courage to take risks, the discipline to tell the truth, the capacity for sacrifice. Ironically, their virtues make them vulnerable; they are often wounded, sometimes destroyed. — Ernest Hemingway

     

    Ernest Miller Hemingway (July 21, 1899 – July 2, 1961) was an American author and journalist.  Hemingway produced most of his work between the mid-1920s and the mid-1950s, winning the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1954.

  • August 8, 2017
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    Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would do absolutely anything to hear it. Fall in love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heart beat. Fall in love with someone who kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone they know. Fall in love with someone who would never ever want to hurt you. Fall in love with someone who falls in love with your flaws and thinks you are perfect just the way you are. Fall in love with someone who thinks that you are the ONE they would love to wake up to each day.

  • August 8, 2017
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    No one has the right to tell you that their life is harder than yours. No one has the right to invalidate your struggles because they “got through it just fine.” No one has the right to tell you to suck it up because other people have it “worse.” Hardships are not comparable. Your struggles are real, legitimate, and just as difficult as anyone else’s.
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  • August 7, 2017
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    I am slowly learning that some people are not good for me, no matter how much I love them. I deserve someone who is gentle and kind, because my soul is getting tired. Realizing that I deserve something good is one of the first steps.

    Michelle K., Why I Need To Say Goodbye To You.

  • August 7, 2017
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    You realize how much you truly miss someone when something happens, good or bad, and the only person you want to tell is the one person who isn’t there.

  • August 7, 2017
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    “You don’t ever have to tolerate people who treat you poorly. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, a family member, or a partner. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known them for or how nice they may have been to you in the past — you’re allowed to call people out on their abusive behavior. You’re allowed to set boundaries about what you are and are not willing to tolerate. You’re allowed to vocalize how their abuse makes you feel. You’re allowed to share those feelings and experiences with other people. And if necessary, you’re allowed to leave and distance yourself. You have every right to stand up and say: “I love you and I really want you to be a part of my life, but I can’t continue to allow you to treat me this way. So if things don’t change, I’m going to have to cut you out of my life. Not because I don’t care about you or respect you, but because I care about and respect myself.””
    — Daniell Koepke

  • August 7, 2017
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    5 Things to quit right now: 1- Trying to please everyone. 2- Putting yourself down. 3- Living in the past. 4- Fearing change. 5- Overthinking.

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    Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean that they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn’t mean that they’ll value you the same. Sometimes the people you love the most, turn out to be the people you can trust the least.

    ~Trent Shelton

  • August 7, 2017
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    Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal. Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned. Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep travelling honestly along life’s path. – Shauna Niequist

  • August 6, 2017
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    “We sit silently and watch the world around us. This has taken a lifetime to learn. It seems only the old are able to sit next to one another and not say anything and still feel content. The young, brash and impatient, must always break the silence. It is a waste, for silence is pure. Silence is holy. It draws people together because only those who are comfortable with each other can sit without speaking. This is the great paradox.”― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

  • August 6, 2017
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    You realize how much you truly miss someone when something happens, good or bad, and the only person you want to tell is the one person who isn’t there.

  • August 6, 2017
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    Life is like a journey on a train
    with its stations, with changes of routes and with accidents!
    At birth we boarded the train and met our parents, and we believe they will always travel on our side. However, at some station our parents will step down from the train, leaving us on this journey alone. As time goes by, other people will board the train; and they will be significant i.e. our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of our life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we don’t realize that they vacated their seats! This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. Success consists of having a good relationship with all the passengers…requiring that we give the best of ourselves.

    The mystery to everyone is: We do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. So, we must live in the best way – Love, forgive, and offer the best of who we are. It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty, we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life without us.
    I wish you a joyful journey for the coming years on your train
    of life. Reap success, give lots of love and be happy.
    More importantly, be thankful for the journey!
    Lastly, I thank you for being one of the
    passengers on my train!

    ~Unknown

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    If my absence doesn’t affect your life then my presence has no meaning in it.

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    She was a forgiver. Her heart was so large she didn’t know how to give up on people, because she always believed the good in those she loved. It was until she was walked on so many times, she had no choice but to let go of those who burned holes in
    her heart.
    ~C.R.Bittar

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    I don’t just want to marry you to wake up to you every day or be with you forever. I want to marry you because marriage is hard, raising kids is hard, debt and bills and relatives and jobs and blending two families and lives is hard and you’re the person l want to go through good and bad times with. Life is never going to magically be all butterflies and rainbows just because you marry your soul mate. Life is hard and I want to marry you and love you every day through every bump in the road. I want to marry you to be your rock through every curve ball and to look at you when everything else is falling apart. I don’t want to marry you because it’s cute and exciting. I want to marry you because it’s real and hard work and a lifetime of ups and downs and with you it’s worth every second of it.

  • August 5, 2017
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    “Finding someone you love and who loves you back is a wonderful, wonderful feeling. But finding a true soul mate is an even better feeling. A soul mate is someone who understands you like no other, loves you like no other, will be there for you forever, no matter what. They say that nothing lasts forever, but I am a firm believer in the fact that for some, love lives on even after we’re gone.”
    ― Cecelia Ahern, P.S. I Love You

  • August 5, 2017
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    Never lie to someone who trusts you, and never trust someone who lies to you.

  • August 5, 2017
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    One morning she woke up different. Done with trying to figure out who was with her, against her, or walking down the middle because they didn’t have the guts to pick a side. She was done with anything that didn’t bring her peace. She realized that opinions were a dime a dozen, validation was for parking, and loyalty wasn’t a word but a lifestyle. It was this day that her life changed. And not because of a man or a job but because she realized that life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.

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    I’m a very strong believer that whoever is meant to be in your life will always gravitate back towards you, regardless how far they wander.

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    Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people who are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing. You can’t grow as a person, if you don’t have people in your life who want to grow with you.” ~Preston Waters

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    Wait for the person who pursues you, the one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical, the kind of person who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be a better person; the only person who will drop everything to be with you at any time no matter what the circumstances, for the person who makes you smile like no one else ever has. Wait for the person who wants to show you off to the world because they are so proud of you. And most of all, wait for the person who will make you a priority, because that’s where you belong.

    ~Unknown

     

  • August 4, 2017
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    In your lifetime you will find and meet one person who will love you more than anybody you have ever known and will know. They will love you with every bit of energy and soul. They will sacrifice, surrender and give so much that it scares you. Someday you’ll know who that is. Sometimes people realize who it was.

  • August 4, 2017
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    Not everyone is meant to be in your future. Some people are just passing through to teach you lessons in life.

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    There are people who can walk away from you…let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you… Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person, it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over.
    ~ T.D. Jakes

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    The best revenge is always to just happily move on and let karma do the rest.

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    Someone will come along. Someone who understands that you get jealous and anxious. Someone who knows the fears you have rooted deep in your past and holds you when you’re feeling scared. Someone who can’t dance but dances with you anyway. They can’t sing but they’ll sing to you anyway. They’ll love any gift you give even when it’s the wrong size and they’ll love anything you cook for them even when it’s burnt. They’ll make you laugh until you cry and know exactly what to say to make you smile. They’ll leave you feeling helplessly unapologetically happy as you fall asleep at night. You’ll wonder how you ever got so lucky. Just be patient. Someone will come along.

  • August 4, 2017
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    This goes out to all of the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up.For the people that learn from their mistakes and never stop moving forward, even when they take two steps back. For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people who come home with no missed calls, but smile anyway. For the people that periodically miss the past, but are so much more excited for the future. For the people who have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity intact instead. For the people that never wanted to let go, but found the strength because they had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go.

  • August 3, 2017
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    I do not help my wife.

    A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”

    He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”

    I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.

    I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.

    I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.

    I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.

    I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.

    I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.

    I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you

    But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!

    Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?

    Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.

    Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.

    The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! ”

    -unknown

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    People who love you for who you are and not for what you can do for them are the best kind of people.

    ~ Brigitte Nicole.

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    Life is not about riding in a BMW or Porsches. It’s about walking on a cold pleasant night, holding hands with your loved one, chatting, murmuring and whispering. Life is not about enjoying Five Star dining. It’s about, enjoying, laughing to your heart’s content, a simple coffee shop with all your friends, talking about everything and nothing. Yes, the joy you get here, you will not get in any of the world’s restaurants. Life is not about purchasing a luxurious huge gift on your wife’s birthday. It’s about the way you hold her in your arms, that one passionate hug and a gentle kiss. The loving words you whisper into her heart and making her feel loved. Life is not about having a night’s stay in an expensive luxury hotel. It’s about falling asleep in the arms of the one you love. Life is not about wearing an expensive couture bridal dress. It’s about saying those special vows and living by them through the good times and hard times. Life is not about wealth, property, money or richness. It’s about friendship, love, family, trust, faith and the little things that bring the biggest miracles into our lives.

  • August 3, 2017
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    Sometimes you just need to talk about something—not to get sympathy or help, but just to kill its power by allowing the truth of things to hit the air. -Karen Salmansohn

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    I hope you find someone who smiles at you every time you walk in the door. Who finds beauty in your scars. I hope you find someone who never leaves you guessing. Someone who lets you know for certain how they always feel about you. I hope you find someone who never hesitates to love you. Who doesn’t just give you pieces of their time but it’s entirety. I hope you find someone who knows just how special you really are. How your soul needs to be loved. I hope you find someone who is your biggest supporter. Who doesn’t just seek attention but gives it in return. But mostly, I hope you find all of these things in yourself first so that you can be ready for this type of love.  ~Natalie Peralta.

  • August 3, 2017
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    I thought it would be painful, letting you go.

    I thought I would suffer, that my heart would be anguished with the loss of you. Or worse, maybe it would stop beating altogether.

    Maybe without you, I would simply cease to exist.

    I thought I would become adrift, for you had been the anchor I had formed my identity upon, the compass I had relied on for my direction. I thought without you I would become lost, disoriented.

    I had expected to taste salty tears as they fell upon lips that once spoke so fondly of you; that my head would lay on my pillow damp with tears for as many nights as the moon continued to kiss the stars.

    But one day, I just knew.

    I hadn’t expected such a feeling of relief as I cut the ropes that once shackled me to you. One instant of tremendous clarity. One instant, where I finally knew.

    I no longer needed you.

    I no longer needed your opinion of me, your affirmation, your approval.

    I no longer needed your judgments, your criticisms, your condemnations.

    I no longer needed your expectations I could never meet; your hoops too high to jump through, your goal posts that shifted with every changing breeze.

    I no longer needed your blame, your excuses, your justifications.

    I no longer needed your pseudo love, fraught with conditions and attached with strings.

    I thought I needed you. I didn’t.

    I thought it would be hard to let you go. It wasn’t.

    I thought I would miss you. I don’t.

    For in one instant my heart was awakened to the truth of who I am.

    I am more than the lies you made believe about myself. I am more than the look of failure in your eyes when I fell short of your demands. I am more than how worthless you made me feel. I am more than the ways you tried to break me.

    I am a warrior, sculpted by the hands of creation, fashioned into being by the very hands that created the oceans and the stars and the mountains and air.

    I am strong, I am brave, I am wise. I am gentle of spirit with the heart of a lioness.

    I am creative, passionate, sensitive, and kind. I am of open heart and open mind. I am powerful, generous, thoughtful, daring, empathetic, raw, complex, courageous, understanding, forgiving.

    I am everything you are not.

    I will no longer carry the shame you made me suffer under the weight of.

    That shame belongs to you.

    And I will no longer carry my hate for you.

    For that will only ever bind me to your darkness and give you permission to destroy my light. It will allow you to stay within me, to destroy my peace, to blacken my heart with the malice that lives within you.

    It will tie me to your soul-destroying bitterness, your ugliness.

    It will anchor me once more to you, who tried to drown me.

    Instead, I will choose to go into the world and love more fiercely, show more compassion, be more generous, offer more kindness.

    I will choose to forgive. For me, not for you.

    I will choose to sow what I wish to see reaped for my children’s future.

    I will choose to dis-empower hate.

    I will choose freedom.

    I will choose love.

    I will stand firm upon the unshakeable truth of who I am.

    And I will soar to heights you will only ever dream of.

    For I have let you go.

    No longer am I held down by all I allowed you to be in my life.

    I no longer need you.

    I am free.

    Written by Kathy Parker

    ( with permission)

    Find out more about Kathy at her blog: https://kathyparker.com.au/

  • August 2, 2017
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    No one is going to love you exactly like you imagine. No one is ever going to read your mind and take every star from the sky at the perfect time and hand it to you. No one is going to show up at your door on a horse, with a shoe you lost. Do you understand? That’s why you have to love yourself enough, so that any other love just adds more candles to the cake you’ve already iced. ~ Stephanie Bennett-Henry

  • August 2, 2017
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    If you want to know what it’s like to survive hell and still come out shining brighter than the sun, just look into the eyes of a woman who has survived intense damage and refused to allow it to destroy her softness. ~ Nikita Gill

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    You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” ― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

  • August 2, 2017
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    I never knew how strong I was until I had to forgive someone who wasn’t sorry and accept an apology I never received.

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    I asked her if she was ok and she said “I’m fine I swear.” But when I looked into her eyes, I clearly saw her struggles there. She quickly looked away, and tried her best to smile. She said softly “I’ll make it through this, it’s just taking me a while.” I knew she was hurting, and I knew her pain was deep. But she felt the burden was hers, and hers alone to keep. I reached out to her, and our hands entwined. I said “I love you my friend, so your burdens are also mine. – The Shy Poet.

  • August 2, 2017
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    “I have outgrown many things. I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support. I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me. I have outgrown women who wear masks and secretly rejoice at misfortunes. I have outgrown shrinking myself for men who are intimidated by my intelligence and outspoken nature. I have outgrown friends and family who cannot celebrate my accomplishments. I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark. I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity. I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced. I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice. I have outgrown trying to please everyone. I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart, or worthy enough. I have outgrown trying to fix every little flaw. I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self-doubt and insecurity. I have outgrown trying to find reasons not to love myself. I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul. I have outgrown many things, and I’ve never felt freer.” — Chanda Kaushik

  • August 1, 2017
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    She’s a good hearted woman. She’s been hurt over and over again. And you would expect her to be heartless by now but her heart is so full of love that she continues to love deeply. All she needs is a good person that will cherish her and give her heart the extra love that she deserves.

  • August 1, 2017
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    If you want to know where your heart is, look where your mind goes when it wanders.

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    Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you. Even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but does not treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you are capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who can call you out for being a brat, but doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect – do not hold them to this standard. Find someone who is patient, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important.

  • August 1, 2017
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    Don’t take people for granted. No matter how much they love you, people get tired eventually. We are all given chances, but you never know when the last chance may be.

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    I’m really trying to say so much more than those three little words. I’m trying to say you mean more to me than anyone else in the world. I’m trying to let you know that I adore you and that I cherish the time we spend together. I’m trying to explain that I want you and that I need you and that I get lost in wonderful thoughts every time I think about you. And each time I whisper “I love you”, I’m trying to remind you that you’re the best thing that has ever happened to me.
    ~Carey Martin

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    I no longer need to maintain abusive relationships. As I continue to grow and heal, I attract those people who love me for who I am. I have no need to deny my feelings, or to disguise my thoughts and beliefs. I will no longer tolerate people who put me down, manipulate me or humiliate me. I am surrounding myself with people who are consistently loving and respectful. I will pursue people with whom I can share myself in totality, with the complete confidence that they are accepting me for myself alone. I have the courage to terminate relationships with people who are overly critical or not accepting of me. My world is populated with self-respecting people who radiate caring respect and consideration back to me. ~ Rokelle Lerner

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